Non Christians do it.
Christians do it.
Why do we do it?
There is no specific Scripture that declares that masturbation is a sin.
This is the smoking gun or search for WMD that will never happen. However, when you have a series of harmonious Scriptures that declare a consistent principle, to interject an act whether sinful or not, is an attempt to circumvent a consistent principle.
If there is no Scripture that says that it isn’t sin, I can engage in the practice.
As I’ve said before on many occasions. Just because the Scriptures is silent on a particular subject, it doesn’t mean that you have permission to engage in the act.
The one other side that must be shared is that again, too many people condemn themselves when they are trying to break free of addictive or compulsive habits. The Lord knows where you are in your struggles with the mind and flesh.
The goal that you desire to achieve is to regain sexual sobriety as Dr. Mark Laaser puts it and regain control or mastery over your flesh by the help and power of the Holy Spirit, with measurable team accountability. As Dr. Mark Laaser shared, you want to rid yourself of unhealthy sexuality and regain healthy sexuality.
To condemn yourself as lost forever in the sea of lust is not healthy for you. That’s what the devil wants you to do. Declare yourself lost and hopeless. The search and rescue team the Lord sent for you hasn’t given up the search for you. There is hope, peace, and love that awaits you if you give Jesus, the true lover of your soul, your heart, soul, mind, and body.
On the other hand, there are those that do struggle but when you struggle to justify an act that is a clear indication that you are having difficulty with having a clear conscience.
If this is you, you will do one of two things.
One. Suppress the condemnation and conviction through remorse or…
Two, Repent and ask the Lord for the blood of Jesus to wash you according to 1 John 1:9 and receive forgiveness.
Conclusion#1. Masturbation violates the “one flesh” principle.
Genesis 2:18 “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
Verse 24, Therefore the man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Matthews 19:4-6 “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and he said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh?’ So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Please note the that Lord Jesus added “and the two.” It takes nothing away from the original text in Genesis 2:24 because all Jesus did was qualify the word “they.” Jesus wanted to make sure that the word “they” is qualified to mean Adam and Eve.
Ephesians 5:29 “For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. For this reason a man shall leave father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
Paul re-qualified the word “they” in Genesis 2:24 as Jesus did to make sure that you got it. “the two shall become one flesh.”
Therefore, the conclusion is definite. Sex is designed to be shared with two persons of the opposite sex in holy matrimony by joining themselves through sexual intercourse.
Let me add that sex is for pleasure and procreation. It is also used for bonding two persons together, thus securing the relationship.
So you have three witnesses that testify according to Deuteronomy 19:15 and 2 Corinthians 13:1, which speaks of the Witness Principle of Biblical Hermeneutics. God becomes an Established Witness. Jesus and Paul becomes a Confirming or Confirmation Witness.
Therefore, masturbation clearly violates the “one flesh” principle. You can’t become one flesh by yourself because God designed sex to be shared with two persons of the opposite sex in holy matrimony. Make believe physical contact, fantasizing about your wife while masturbating, and heart and mind adultery while masturbating is a clear violation of the one flesh principle.
Conclusion #2 You are a Born Again Believer, A New Creature or Creation In Christ
2 Corinthians 5:17, you have a new nature within you, the Spirit of Christ according to Romans 8:5-11, is within you. To masturbate when you are to be joined with your husband or wife, is a violation of the new nature of Christ within you.
Titus 3:5 “Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to His mercy He saved us, through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit, whom He poured out on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior.”
Substitute Sex- Dr. William Struthers says, porn is hijacking the brain and you are masturbating to an image in your mind that isn’t physically there. Masturbation is a sex act but it is a self sex act. Meaning that you are having sex with yourself that clearly violates the original intention and design of sex by God.
Remember, God said that it is not good that man be alone. Generally, men and women masturbate in secrecy. We will not cover lewdness as far as voyeurism is concerned. In case you are not aware of what voyeurism is, it’s self satisfaction in watching other couples having sex.
Now, let me say that there are some couples that masturbate in front of each other. Is that a violation of the one flesh principle?
I must say yes, because you are touching yourself and not touching your spouse. We could go through a list of sex acts but that would not be necessary and it would distract from the original intent of this series. To apply a list of do’s and don’t to sex acts would be bedroom legalism and it would generate more questions and add strife.
However, when it comes to porn and sexually generated fantasies, it is a false image or fantasy that you are masturbating to. Which would you rather have? A body or an image? If it is an image you want and desire, then it is idolatry.
Listen to Colossians 3:5 (NKJ and AMP)
“Put to death your members which are upon the earth: fornication (pornea) uncleanness, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.”
Pay attention. The only time something has to be put to death is that it was found guilty of a violation and upon conviction, the penalty of death is imposed.
“So kill, deaden, and deprive of power the evil desire lurking in your members [those animal impulses and all that is employed in you] sexual vice, impurity, sensual appetites, unholy desires, and all greed and covetousness, for that is idolatry (the deifying of self and other created things instead of God).”
The Lord said, “You shall have no other gods before me.”
Now this is where we get into an outstanding Scripture. Remember when Jesus confronted the woman at Jacob’s well? She had how many husbands? 5. And the Lord told her that the one she was with wasn’t her husband. The conversation started with water, covered worship, and ended with an exposure of her sins.
What the Lord was doing was showing her that true intimacy can only be acquired through worship of God in spirit and in truth. The water that you are drinking (sexual immorality) is water that you will thirst after again. Hence, the repetition of multiple men to meet a need.
The water that Jesus offered is eternal and she would never thirst for another man ever again. It is the same with masturbation. If you look to masturbate over and over again, you will thirst again and never be satisfied. But if you look to the Lord Jesus, you will never thirst again.
There was no question that she was successful in seducing these men to heal deep wounds or to meet connection needs through physical intimacy, but she kept coming up short of true satisfaction. This is the case with many single, divorced, and married men that look to masturbation as a way to release sexual tension, heal emotional wounds, feel self love, or gain affirmation.
So when you are having self sex, notice that Paul lists these things as sensual appetites of the flesh. Noticed that he ended by saying “and all greed and covetousness, for that is idolatry (the deifying of self and other created things instead of God).”
Sex and the person having sex apart from the way God created sex can be deified.
As a side note, when you see people with strange pictures and clothing that reveals skin or the sexy form of a body that leaves nothing to the imagination, it is sexual deification. When you are masturbating, it is a form of self deification. Especially when it is compulsive. Later in this series, we will deal with addictions and compulsive sexual behaviors.
Conclusion #3. If you desire to be like Jesus and be conformed to His image, if Jesus masturbated then you have every right to gratify yourself so you would conform to His image.
Conclusion #4. Your conscience and body is violated and the Holy Spirit is grieved.
How do you know that you’ve violated any principle?
The voice of the human spirit is the conscience. The born again believer has the Holy Spirit living within him or her. When you commit sins of omission and commission, the Holy Spirit will object in the strongest terms because the Holy Spirit is holy.
Anything that violates the Word of God and the Holy Spirit, which agrees with each other, the Holy Spirit will be grieved and He will let you know it so that it’s unmistakeable.
While this Biblical example has nothing to do with sexuality, it has everything to do with how the conscience is affected when there is a specific violation.
1 Samuel 24:1-7
Listen to the NLT version,
“Now’s your opportunity!” David’s men whispered to him. “Today is the day the Lord was talking about when he said, “I will certainly put Saul into your power, to do with as you wish.’ “Then David crept forward and cut off a piece of Saul’s robe. But then David’s conscience began bothering him because he had cut Saul’s robe. “The Lord knows I shouldn’t have done it,” he said to his men. “It is a serious thing to attack the Lord’s anointed one, for the Lord Himself has chosen him.” And David sharply rebuked his men and did not let them kill Saul.”
Conclusion#5. If you masturbate, you are loving yourself according to 2 Timothy 3:1, namely, “Lovers of themselves,” “without self control, and lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.”
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