Despondent? Depressed? In Despair? Hopeless? Many of us caught in Secret Sexual Sins have endured the same emotions. Even to the point of contemplating suicide. We’ve been there. It’s not a good feeling. Scores of people have gone down this same path to be free. That’s what suicide is about. Looking to be free. But there is a better Way out to true and lasting freedom.
Jesus said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life….
Jesus is the Way to hope. There are many that are caught in the world of sexual immorality that are in over their heads in despair, passed by despondency, and is really struggling in depression. Many have committed suicide and may never find peace. The body may be laid to rest, but the soul that sins, it shall die. Death, not in the sense of closure, but death as far as separation from this life of shame and unbeknownst to many, it also is a separation from God forever.
You do not have to go out like that. In fact, you do not have to go out in suicide.
There is hope in Jesus!
The suicide wasn’t the sin that sends people into a Christ-less eternity. It’s the rejection of the salvation from sin provided on the cross of Jesus that was rejected. That’s the sin that will send people to hell. The sins committed is the unfruitful works of a sinful life.
The sins committed by anyone outside of Christ only underscores our need to be born again. To be born again in Jesus is our only sure hope of lasting freedom, healing, and emancipation from the power of darkness.
In Romans 6:23, Paul said, “The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”
When a person works, they get paid wages.
But God offers a gift.
A free gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.
When you are working to sin, doesn’t it feel like hard labor?
Jesus did all the labor in carrying the sin nature of all humanity on the cross. If you could count every human that existed, He took upon Him every man and every sin man has ever committed.
His work on the cross was a labor of love that will never be matched.
All you have to do is receive the gift. You do not have to work for this because Jesus did all the work for you.
“…in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”
Many will say, that you are stressing me out even further.
Not a chance. We just want to let you know your options.
Sin brings death but God offers eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. There is nothing to be stressed out about when you have the option in this life to receive eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. He is the only Way out.
For so long you have believed a lie that in homosexuality, or sexual immorality, it’s going to be better. By holding onto that lie, you are only wasting precious time because Paul said this in Romans 5:4,
Now hope does not disappoint…
Listen to the lead in Scripture out of the Amplified Bible…
“And character [of this sort] produces [the habit of] joyful and confident hope of eternal salvation. Such hope never disappoints or deludes, or shames us…”
In the lifestyle of homosexuality or any sexually sinful relationships, there is no hope. The search for hope in illicit relationships always disappoints, deludes, and brings tremendous shame.
But in Jesus, there is hope. The hope that He offers never disappoints, deludes, or brings upon you any shame. He gives you hope, peace, love, freedom, and joy.
When I was caught in the sin of porn and self gratification, commonly called masturbation, there was a place in these sinful sexual acts that I felt hopeless. Yes, I though that I was in Christ but it was all hypocrisy. I thought that by getting off, I would feel good. That’s all that matter to me.
And there is a point that after I obtained that sense of sexual satisfaction (orgasm) that this is the way it’s going to be for the rest of my life. The orgasmic satisfaction was short lived when the conviction of the conscience came. However, I was able to get past the conviction of the conscience because it was remorse. Remorse only means that you were sorry about getting caught.
At the end of remorse, distance would be placed from the point of conviction to just a few moments away from it, and the cycle of urges and impulses would rise in my mind and flesh. This was evident when I would purchase porn and gratify myself several times in one night.
I would say to myself, after I repented like a revolving door, ‘Here we go again.’
Hypocrites, like I was, have found a way to suppress the conviction to fulfill and satisfy the desires of the flesh and the mind. We would find a way to hold down the Word of God and the Holy Spirit from showing us a way out of the cycle of sin and death.
In the world of sexual immorality, and in particular homosexuality, many are told to not change what you are doing. That this is who you are and that you have to accept it and let it be. Many mock and ridicule God and the Bible by saying that it’s a sham.
It’s conversion therapy.
That Christ and the Bible that you preach about really doesn’t exist. That you are controlled by religious voodoo.
And in the same breath, some of these same people want to have a gay church, be married in a church (at least some of them), and be accepted by God.
The book of James, chapter 1 and verse 8, the Lord’s half brother, James, said, “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”
Hopelessness is an awareness that you feel that you can never escape because the mind is fooled into thinking that this is the way you are. You were created this way, so accept it.
Nothing could be further from the truth because God never created you to sin against Him. That’s because sin is incompatible with His holy and righteous character.
For God to create you to commit homosexuality, adultery, fornication (porn), bisexuality, STDs, including HIV/AIDS, these diseases ought to be a blessing and not a consequential disease resulting from committing such acts.
This is a depraved and absurd statement but it’s equally absurd to even assume that homosexuality or sexual immorality gets better.
If it gets better, what are the “blessings” or “benefits?”
With all sexual sins, there is no blessings and benefits.
Such is the cycle of anyone in Secret Sexual Sins, but there is Someone named Jesus, that knows what you are going through. He was tempted in all points like us, yet He didn’t sin. That means that when Jesus was resurrected from the dead, He lives forever to show every man trapped in sin how to overcome temptation. Jesus knows how to discipline urges and impulses from rising up to rule you.
Jesus knows how to deliver you from obeying the desires of the flesh and the mind.
Hopelessness is the emotional and mental feeling that you are forever trapped.
If you are trapped like I was, “hope never disappoints.”
What does the sin of homosexuality and proponents of LGBT have to offer?
“It get’s better?”
How can sin get better?
What tends to happen is that there is a suppression of conviction and a forced happiness. The peace that they seek in homosexuality is non existent. Anytime you are angry, despondent, frustrated, upset, and constantly in search for something to ease the pain, it is clear that there is no peace.
True peace is found when you look to Jesus.
“And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace…”
Many homosexuals resort to name calling, cursing, and condemning those that preach freedom in Jesus, and those that come out of the lifestyle of sin. Those that found true love in Jesus and have escaped the grips of homosexual sin have all attested to the fact that they realize that what they’ve done was sin. That the lusts in their hearts was the driving force of sexual sins. That the delusional thinking was a position that they were willing to enforce in the pursuit of peace, happiness, and love.
Each day, this pursuit brings a false notion and they arrive at a dead end.
It’s the same with all sin.
It comes to an end when we realize that in none of these things is lasting freedom. All we know is that it takes us deeper into despair, despondency, depression, and hopelessness.
In sin, it’s not going to get better. It is going to get worse. No line is uncrossable. The staircase of finding satisfaction apart from Jesus only lead down to the pit, and it keeps going down until you arrive at the basement of death.
In the ill fated search, multiple relationships as well as bisexuality are sought. More drugs and alcohol. More sex with men, more porn (male and female), and more self gratification, commonly called masturbation. Because the mind has found a way to expand it’s pleasure capacity to assume that more would either drown the depression or take our minds off of the depression.
But it doesn’t.
The pursuit of more takes us to places where depression becomes a weight too heavy to bear. The constant conviction only reminds us that we have done wrong but pride and arrogance fights against anything that has to do with Jesus. The only One Who could free us. We rebel because we desire to look only at the pleasures of sin for the moment.
Then, when all is over, we are faced with a decision. To continue to accept who we are or get help. If that isn’t enough, the depression deepens and darkens our thinking. We arrive at the point that to end life would be a relief. Because hiding who you are or if you are out of the closet, you still feel rejected, a cast away, thrown aside as someone not worthy to be human.
Death becomes a welcomed sight.
But all of this is a lie. All along, the devil was trying to kill you.
In John 10:10, Jesus said,
“The thief (satan) comes not but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I (Jesus) have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”
In hopelessness, you felt as if someone was trying to steal, kill, and destroy you. That’s what satan, through sexual immorality, is accomplishing every time you think about it.
It’s time for you to come to Jesus. The hope that He offers never disappoints, dilutes, or shames us. The life that Jesus offers brings love, peach, comfort, joy, rest, and life everlasting.
This hope is available when you are ready to walk away from hopelessness.
Many believe that a person cannot be delivered by saying a prayer. I believe the contrary. The sinner’s prayer is a starting point where the Holy Spirit comes in and changes your life. What makes this prayer powerful is when you give up the life of sin for a life of righteousness. In sincerity, the Holy Spirit acknowledges your desire to change and comes into your heart and changes your life in an instant.
To keep the change, so to speak, means you now must commit to living for Jesus every day. This is accomplished by finding an effective Christ centered, contextual Bible teaching church.
A place where you can be taught how to practically apply the Word of God to every day living.
A place where people are living what is taught and preached.
Find a place that has a powerful ex sexual immoral support group that deals with walking in the Word in righteousness and true holiness.
The Lord is your Shepherd and He has pastors, local churches, and caring people that can help you live a holy life, one moment at a time.
Just go to the Sexual Addiction Recovery page on my blog and there is a number of sites available that will assist you in getting the help you need.
Do not give up.
Do not despair.
There is hope in Jesus.