Bull Elephants: The Missing Link- Male Leadership In The Home

Brother Lonnie Poindexter, host American Family Radio with Star Parker, had asked Pastor DL Foster and I to share on the EX GAYS AFFIRMING CHURCH. If you are ever in the Washington D.C. area, you can listen to American Family Radio, http://urbanfamilytalk.com/ WDFX 98.3, Urban Family Communications.

I greatly appreciate the opportunity to share on American Family Radio.

Pastor DL Foster was on the show 06/10/2013 as well and there is no doubt that it was a good segment as we shared about EX GAY AFFIRMING CHURCHES.

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I appreciate Brother Lonnie who passionately shares his concerns about the African American family and it’s plight. Not only does he share these issues, but he is also a part of the solution to the issues that face us.

As Brother Lonnie shared we are coming together, with other pastors throughout the country, and that the Lord is bringing together a coalition of Bull Elephants” to bring order into the communities. I might add, not as despots, but as true male shepherds and leaders to help people become who they need to become in God. We must return to the origin or the beginning. The book of Genesis means “beginnings” but it also means “origin” or “original.” 

God has a specific original pattern for family and when we return to the origin of things, you will find that God was right all along.

Hence, in Prevailing Word, we started a series called Bringing Order Back To The Family.”

This series was birthed out of hearing Brother Lonnie share the need for “Bull Elephants” to return to the “herd” and to bring order.

It is not enough to talk about problems unless you are involved in providing solutions. CURE is part of providing solutions and I urge all pastors to consider doing something to face the issues and crisis of our times.

As I have stated before, there is a two pronged attack against the African American community. Abortion and Homosexuality.

The LGBT agenda is a clear and present danger to families all across the US.

Since the political process has made it their business to systemically deplete our numbers, we have accepted the overt strategy without a fight. From our African American leadership, their silence, and their instruction to us to be silent is the poison of the devil that has crippled and paralyzed us. However, there are those that are breaking away from the pack and we are deliberately ignoring their orders. It is sad to watch in our neighborhoods, the mother and her child. You look on their ring finger, and there is no ring.

It doesn’t mean that they may not be married, but for all intents and purposes, the ring was a sense of pride for women. The wedding band represents that a husband is in her life. That she is secure and the child has a legitimate family in a father and mother that is married. Today the bedroom is cheapened. Males expect sex for free. The outcome is the same and every young woman is expected to be added to the statistics of families without male leadership.

The cause of all abortions is the sin of fornication and adultery, hence the root cause of fornication and adultery is the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of lifeThe unregenerate heart that deliberately sin against God and His Word is the core of the plight of our people, and all people as well.

We are faced with a crisis where many of our families are suffering from male leadership in the home.

A few days ago, Brother Lonnie shared about Bull Elephants on his FB pageHe shared this out of watching his dad lead in tough times. It was a touching write up on Facebook and it underscores the fact that our youth is without strong male leadership. We are watching single parents raise males and that is not according to God’s order.

We have this all backwards. First come love. Then comes the carriage. Here comes momma with no marriage.

This is because there is a lack of spiritual leadership that address the real issues confronting the people that attend the church. Until there is a admission of a crisis, things will continue to decline for people. We have become so comfortable in our homes and churches that all we really care about is feeling good. Never mind the pain that disorder brings. As long as a preacher preaches good things to me and do not remind me about sin and it’s consequences, all is well.

The devil doesn’t care if we have church. He is only concerned when we become what Jesus intended all along.

In our people that attend church in the past, there was a quality of caring and morals that helped most families through certain crisis. It wasn’t perfect and families were perfect. Families were never perfect after the fall, but the thing that is lacking today is the fact that people forget God. In the families of old, when there was trouble in the home, some were smart enough to find the Bible, pray, and seek the face of God for solutions.

Today, when there is a problem in the home, we resort to time wasters and distractions to get through life’s issues.

If we are struggling, we resort to the bottle, sex, homosexuality, drugs or use all of the above. Instead of being sober and find the right kind of help, we stray into the wrong kind of help and compound our issues.

Proverbs 4:23 says to “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”

Male leadership in the home is the missing link, but I want to rephrase this a little bit. Godly male leadership in the home.

The Lord dropped this in my spirit when we were attending our nephew’s graduation.

With God you will succeed. Without God you must fail.

One of the things that is required in male leadership is that he must know God. A male could be a great provider, love his family, takes care of his wife, and do everything that is required in leading the home. Commendable, but when he doesn’t know the Lord, it is for nothing.

“What will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and lose his own soul?”

Jesus said this to the people after the young man wanted Jesus to order his brother to give his share of the inheritance to him. You can do great things in the home for your family but if you are doing it without the Lord, it is all for nothing. The man must lead by having the Lord lead his life. Things will happen in the family that a man by himself can never fix. A man with God and His Word will be able to get through tough times because he is looking to The Man, Christ Jesus.

Strong male leadership is not about being a despot or a dictator. It is about providing wisdom on a moment’s notice. It is about being decisive with the wisdom of God. It is about being there for the children. It is about making sure that God is at the foundation of everything we do. It is about a man submitting to the rule of God in His Word when the temptations and snares of life is about to overwhelm him to make bad decisions.

When a man is out of place. The woman is out of place, the children are misplaced, and God is replaced.

If we fail to get back in place, we are in disorder and the devil is the author of confusion, disruption, and destruction. IF we fail to get back in place, we can never expect family to function the way that God intended.

The Bull Elephant must return to lead the family. Godly male leadership is what will turn things around. Politicians have no business telling us how to rear our family. They are out of bounds. As the late president Ronald Reagan said, “Government is not the solution to the problem. Government is the problem.”

Today, these words ring true. The deliberate intentional intrusion into the privacy of the home has led to create an atmosphere of distrust. Sadly, the LGBT community has effectively used government to impose legislation that challenges our right to free speech, imposed acceptance of the sin of homosexuality, and legislated the systematic killing of the child from the womb. These things are detrimental to family. In certain states, they have gone as far as legislating curriculum to teach homosexuality to all age groups.

They are teaching our your children without parental consent.

Our silence is permission and when we fail to speak up, or when we are told to be quiet, we are permitting our own destruction.

What are we to do?

Find ways to get involved.

Community workshops, political involvement. Above all, the preaching of the gospel of Jesus Christ that becomes relevant to the issues confronting us today. The leaders of the Civil Rights movement were young but they were bold and daring. They had strength and courage to confront the woes that plagued all people. We are faced with the same crisis but with a different agenda. We must get something done or we will watch, with eyes wide open, the death of all people through demonic agendas.

We are lacking male leadership and until we make a change, we will sit at home and just complain about it, and this is exactly what the world doesn’t mind. When we make a decision to step out of the safety of our homes and churches to make a difference, it takes courage and strength. Preaching used to be easy but now, we are faced with a crisis that demands preaching, and living the Word on a different dimension. A different level. A different culture and environment is before us and God always had a Word for the generation that strayed from the faith.

God always had a plan for each generation.

As always, the Lord never failed. The government may think it can do what it wants, but when the will of God is declared, there is nothing that no man could do. He said through the prophet Isaiah, “I will do all My pleasure.”

Make no mistake about it. To stop the hand of God is a death sentence unless there is repentance.

As one song states, “Your arms are too short to box with God.”

With pastors that are living on the side lines, the problem is, you know you heard from God, what are you and I going to do about it?

As long as this is not a crisis to you, you and I are status quo minded people, and we are deserving of death.