Men are constantly tempted. However, it’s not just the temptation that one has to be concerned about. Every man must be concerned about the lust that lurks within the mind and body. With the combination of lust in the hearts of males and the women wearing clothing (or tight fitting, low cleavage, high flirty skirt clothes) that leaves nothing to the imagination, it behooves the righteous males to be even more diligent with our personal conduct.
There are certain lines that men will cross. Every man is different. Some will just stay with porn and masturbation because the risks to engage a person sexually is high for that male.
What’s the risks?
Males fear relationships because it involves commitment and compromise.
For other males, they will cross the line to engage a woman for sex only. Even women do the same. Predominantly, they do not fear relationships, however, some are not ready YET, to get married, but some, not all, will engage a man sexually, and call it a day. Whether it is a one night stand or multiple partners.
It’s called fornication, or illegal sex.
Pathetically, males will go to great lengths to encounter underage girls.
Nonetheless, one of the stops for a male on the sexual hit parade is the peep shows. A male doesn’t have to actually go to a peep show facility because outside these peep shops are women that dress scantily and in most cases, they leave nothing for the imagination.
Blame must be imposed on both genders. Sadly, when normal attraction is perverted, we allow ourselves to be taken to the places of the extreme. When a person wants attention, some people will pull out all the stops to impress. It is also true that the exercise of femininity is a power women use over males. Not just to attract attention but to make them into “sugar daddy’s.”
In some ways, it is a form of unfettered slavery where a male cannot help himself. In order to have that kind of woman sexually, males will spend an enormous amount of money.
So males will engage in the mental peep show.
James, the first bishop of the assembly in Jerusalem wrote about the simple process of temptation.
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.”
James speaks of falling “into various trials.”
Please note that he said……”when.”
Notice this in the Greek.
“g3986. πειρασμός peirasmos; from 3985; a putting to proof (by experiment (of good), experience (of evil), solicitation, discipline or provocation); by implication, adversity:— temptation, x try.”
Now notice these notes that accompanied the definition.
- The trial of man’s fidelity, integrity, virtue, constancy an enticement to sin, temptation, whether arising from the desires or from the outward circumstances.
- an internal temptation to sin of the temptation by which the devil sought to divert Jesus the Messiah from his divine errand of the condition of things.
- or a mental state, by which we are enticed to sin, or to a lapse from the faith and holiness.
- adversity, affliction, trouble: sent by God and serving to test or prove one’s character, faith, holiness.
- temptation ( i. e. trial) of God by men rebellion against God, by which his power and justice are, as it were, put to the proof and challenged to show themselves.
Yet, the root of trials is “test.”
So when it comes to sexual temptations, it’s a test.
Jesus let’s us know where the “test” begins.
Jesus said in Matthew 5:27-30,
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery. ’But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.
And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”
Notice how the Lord started off about “You shall not commit adultery.”
All of a sudden you feel safe. You didn’t touch another man’s wife or have illegal sex with a single woman while you are married, however, the Lord took it further.
“whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
That pretty much knocks out a vast majority of us males.
If at one point or another, we’ve all intentionally look at a woman to lust after her in our hearts. It is considered by the Lord as adultery.
So the root cause of adultery resides in the heart of a man. The fallen nature of man is prone to lust. Lust is defined in most places of the NT as “longing for that which is prohibited or forbidden.”
Jeremiah 17:9-10 says,
“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; Who can know it? I, the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind, even to give every man according to his ways, according to the fruit of his doings.”
The true measure of a person’s salvation is never determined by just what a person says. You must also consider how a person “acts” or their “deeds” and “thoughts.”
So the person’s heart is the source of man.
Notice what Proverbs 4:23 said.
“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it (the heart) spring the issues of life.”
So when a man commits adultery in his heart, he has failed to “keep his heart with all diligence.”
Notice what the apostle John said in 1 John 5:19.
“We know that whoever is born of God does not sin; but he who has been born of God keeps himself, and the wicked one does not touch him.”
So the next question is “How does a male keep himself or keep his heart?
Psalm 119:9 gives an answer.
“How shall a young man cleanse his way, by taking heed there unto according to Your Word.”
“Taking heed” is equivalent to obeying the Word of God.
The NLT says this of that Psalm.
“How can a young person stay pure? By obeying Your Word.”
So as long as a man obeys the Word of God, he can stay pure before God.
How can this work?
1 Corinthians 10:13 gives the answer.
“No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”
There is a variety of ways that the Holy Spirit makes a way of escape, however, the primary way of escape is complete and total obedience to the prompting of the Holy Spirit in strict, immediate, and unconditional obedience to the Word of God in the moment of temptation.
This is where many males fail to become men.
Instead of falling into the presence of The Lord, males fall into Secret Sexual Sins.
Dr. Archibald Hart said that if you occupy the mind for 15 minutes, you would be able to alter the course of thinking about sex. Paul said that we are to “renew the mind” and be “renewed in the spirit of your mind.”
You must take charge of your mind and what is trafficked in the mind. Yes, with the help of the Holy Spirit, you can become the traffic cop in the mind to stop the peep show.
We are tested every day. How we mature and what we do about every temptation is the true tale of the tape. The male mind is “wired for intimacy or sex” according to Dr. William Struthers. That’s why we can think about sex on the subway, car, or bus, and get an erection.
Many of you will ask, “How did Jesus do it?”
Well, the Bible tells us that He was “tempted in all points as we are, yet without sin.”
I call this the “Sexual Discipline Of Jesus.”
If Jesus was tempted like we are in “ALL POINTS,” then there were multiple moments when thoughts about perversion and sexual immorality attempted to enter His mind, but He didn’t yield to these perverted thoughts. During the temptation of Jesus in the wilderness by the devil, The Lord understood that to fall into any temptation in thought, deed, and words, He would be disqualified.
Not only disqualified, being that He was the Lamb of God to take away the sin of the world, perhaps, there would have been no one to take away His sin should He sin. So the stakes to remain pure were high. Yet, He dealt a dispatching blow to every temptation.
How did Jesus do it?
He prayed when tempted or He immediately confronted the tempter. This is something that must be initiated. To be passive about attacking temptation only opens the door to love sin more than you love God.
Jesus got up early in the morning or after He finished ministering, He headed to the mountains to seek the face of God. The Holy Spirit made a way of escape in the place of prayer. Fellas, we need to do the same thing. We need to escape and pray to seek the face of God in the moment of temptation.
Men, we can do the same thing like Jesus. Fight temptation by acting quickly, and without hesitation.
Part two to follow.