Black On Black Sex And Black On Black……………

black-woman-kissing-man-on-neck-199x300In many of our African American communities, we see a lot of “hooking” up. Things are on fire when a man and a woman set out to light up the night with hot sex. It doesn’t take much to set things in motion. One look. One picture. One text. One instant messaging and the heat is turned up.

Black on Black Sex and……a little something.

In the heat of passion, the condom slips. Or you go for it. No condom at all. Fornication knows no rules. Adultery either.

By the way, the use of condoms is just another means of circumventing pregnancies to get away with the sin of fornication and adultery. Yes, condoms reduce the risks of pregnancies and STDs, but it is still sin when condoms are worn outside of marriage.

Just because you didn’t get pregnant or contracted an STD, it doesn’t mean you are excused at all of the sin of fornication and adultery.

There was a cartoon made of a black man running after a hot looking black woman. Then at the bottom of the cartoon, the pregnant black woman was chasing after the black man that impregnated her.

He had the hots for her, and she ran. But she didn’t keep running.

And now, she was chasing after him. Not because she was mad that she is pregnant. She was chasing him for child support.

Child support if they elected not to abort the child.

In 2012, according to, “…there were more black babies killed by abortion (31,328) in New York City than were born there (24,758), and the black children killed comprised 42.4% of the total number of abortions in the Big Apple, according to a report by the New York City Department of Health and Mental Hygiene.”

The most dangerous place in the world for an African American child is the womb.

For years, we’ve been confronting the Black on Black killings that take place among our African American kids with guns.

When one Black kid is killed, families are outraged but where is the same outrage when our daughters get pregnant outside of wedlock? Where is the same outrage of a single parent or parents when a male seduces a young female. Yes, males do seduce a female for the sexual use of their bodies. And yes, the female do seduce a male fool to trap him.

It’s a two way street.

No, it is not just the Black or White doctors that sit in the abortion clinics, killing our children. And yes, they are making a killing, literally making a killing, off of our deliberate ignorance to the truth.

But it’s the ones that had illegal sex that is doing the actual murdering.

Kermit Gossnel, the Philadelphia abortionist that killed thousands of children by abortion is one of many physicians that take the life of innocent children, but the real blame is the Black man and the Black woman that decided to have illegal sex, conceive a child, and end that child’s life.

Black on Black Sex, Black on Black Abortion is no different than Black on Black crime.

It’s part of “The Seamless Fabric” of Sexual immorality.

There is no difference……….except time.

We are guilty of Black on Black abortion.

Get the child in the womb. Or if the child escapes the womb, get them when they are teenagers.

Black on Black crime is connected to the Margaret Sanger theory of exterminating African America people.

As long as we are stupid enough to use a butter knife to cut down an oak tree, we will be stupid enough to hop in bed, have sex and kill our own.

How are we supposed to make a difference in our communities?

It’s tough to make a difference when the pastors are involved in porn and masturbation among themselves. We can’t teach people to discipline themselves if we are not disciplined.

Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.”

Porn and masturbation is a sin against our bodies when we fail to discipline ourselves. And if anyone commits sin, and we fail to judge ourselves, ask the Father for forgiveness, turn and forsake sin, we will never obtain mercy. We must be judged by God. Consequential judgment must fall so we would not be condemned with the world.

Whether we are doing solo sex or masturbation” by memory of files stored in our minds of pornography, or whether we are downloading Internet porn, or just use the free sites, or teasers, when we engage in the very thing that is wreaking havoc in our communities and churches, we are hypocrites.

We are also complicit for the sexual tension in the atmosphere.

When the very house of worship harbors Secret Sexual Sins, we are complicit. We are an accessory to the crime of fornication and adultery. We are also facilitators of the sin of homosexuality and bisexuality. 

There are many fugitives in the house of worship. The Lord has been trying too capture us for a long time but when we refuse to be caught and continues to run from the will of the Lord, we deliberately turn the house of prayer into a den of thieves. We rob God of His praise by harboring sin in the heart.

In our own houses of worship, we facilitate Black on Black crime by killing our own children because we’ve failed to “Flee fornication…”

The word “flee” means to “escape from danger.”

It is dangerous to hop in bed outside of marriage. The risks of contracting STDs, including the AIDS virus are increasing. However, we see that people do not care. The reward drug excreted into the blood stream called dopamine is addictive. The climax of sex outweighs any wisdom to abstain. As a result, an innocent life or lives are taken without much thought.

Most men already have it in their minds that when a woman gets pregnant, it is her job to “get rid” of the “problem.”

Twice a woman is violated.

In search for love, she give the male what he wants, but she gets what she wants too.


But it always come with a price.

And when a woman gives a male what he wants before marriage, she is the loser every time. But do not think that the brother is getting off free. HIs guilt will remain with him until he repents. His reputation will stay with him until he repents. He doesn’t escape because if the child is killed in the womb, he is a murderer.

What if the woman makes a unilateral decision to kill the child? Then he is not a murderer but a fornicator or an adulterer, but this could have been avoided if he would have abstained from sex with a single woman.

Is it any wonder why homosexuality is appealing to a Black man? He doesn’t have to worry about a pregnancy. I strongly doubt that this is the mindset of many Black men, but you never know. What he does have to worry about is the variety of STDs that await him. Even worse, the judgment of God should he not repent and break free.

In her mind, she may be thinking that he would stay with you, but when it he ejaculates, he already had his mind made up that should you get pregnant, he will tell you to do the dirty work. And he is already in bed with another woman. She thought that she, too, would capture his heart.


His mind is already made up the same way.

He picks up his hat, just to temporarily put it down in another woman’s house.

Yet, the outcome is the same.

Black on Black Sex is Black on Black crime.

There is no way around it, unless we stop cutting the tree with our butter knife.

Let’s do a better job of living according to the Word of God. Our testimony is only as good as our obedience to the Word of God.

We must do a better job in learning how to apply the Word of God during moments of intense temptation.

We must do a better job communicating about the blessings of legal sexuality in marriage and the consequences of illegal sexuality in and outside of marriage.

We must teach our children about sex at a very early age. The average age that a child is exposed to porn or intentionally go after porn is age 11. I believe that this age may be a bit younger. Like around 8 or 9.

We must be more active in our communities to share the gospel of Jesus Christ and share about abstinence” to be in compliance from a Biblical perspective. We must never capitulate or compromise our Biblical conviction because the Lord knows what is best for man.

A married couple could have all the sex they want without any worries of STDs and pregnancies. Since pregnancies are supposed to happen in a marriage, there is no need to kill our own people from the womb.

Let’s start thinking in line with the Word of God to make a difference in our communities.

Author: prevailing word ministries

My wife, Valeria and I are the pastors of Prevailing Word Ministries in Brooklyn, NY. We have one daughter, Sherylynne. We are all authors. The Holy Spirit and You, by pastor Valeria, Altered Destiny, A Hustler's Choice, by Sheryl, and The Minister's Crucible and Secret Sexual Sins, by pastor Fred. Please visit to listen to our groundbreaking series "Secret Sexual Sins. You may download it free of charge from iTunes.

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