Every Sunday, pastors are sexually challenged when a smoking hot looking woman comes to church.
Let me qualify something.
Not every woman is lurking to bring down a pastor.
So if you are a holy woman of God, this is not about you. Just like there are unholy pastors in the pulpits, there are unholy women in the pews.
Just as there is lust in the heart of the pastor, there is lust in the heart of certain women.
But there is the holy man of God that read certain unholy women and they deliberately avoid them.
There is really no avoiding or prohibiting certain women from entering the sanctuary. But as a pastor, you can exercise judgment and deploy specific safe guards so that even the slightest hint of sexual attraction is avoided.
Additionally, women do look for “counseling“ from male pastors.
Each pastor is left up to use their judgment, however, I do not counsel women alone. My wife or my daughter is with me at all times should a woman need counseling. Better yet, I let my wife counsel the women and that ends it. Men should counsel men and women should counsel women. It’s as simple as that.
I do not put myself in compromising situations.
It’s that simple.
Situations will occur when the pastor moves from behind his desk, touch hands, lock lips, then lock hips.
When Joseph was placed in the pit by his brothers, if only they knew what was ahead for Joseph. Obviously, when it comes to the plans and purposes of God that is placed in righteous men, the inevitable test to be faithful will come.
Potiphar’s wife had lust in her heart.
Perhaps her husband deliberately withheld himself sexually from her. Maybe Potiphar had erectile dysfunction, commonly called ED. Perhaps he didn’t like or love his wife any more and sex was avoided. Or, he had too much work to do to pay attention to her needs. Or Potiphar was playing with someone else in adultery.
It very well could be that Potiphar’s wife just had an overdose of demanding male attention.
Men are not the only ones that have a lust problem.
In the Garden of Eden, Eve was the first to develop lust in the heart. The tree of the knowledge of good and evil was a two pronged temptation.
The lust for power and the lust to have what is prohibited.
It probably frustrated Eve that Adam said “No.” That’s when the devil came, started with a half truth, then an outright lie, and Eve had all of the counter information that she needed to proceed.
Adam was given the Word and he remained faithful, up to a point. There is no question in my mind that Adam had a question about the tree but he remained true until Eve ate of the tree first and observed that nothing happened.
After Adam ate, the deal was sealed.
Sadly, there are women that make elaborate plans to snare a powerful man.
As Dr. Betty Price stated in her book, “A Warning To Ministers, Their Wives, And Their Mistresses,” after a mistress had a man of God sexually, the power that they thought they had seen in the pulpit is gone. That sense of “filth” birthed out of sinning against God and the shame floods your soul.
But you suppress this because now you want to continue in a false relationship.
To be rejected after you offered up yourself to a man of God would be too much to bear.
All the things she observed in that pastor while watching him in the pulpit. The “anointing.” The great words and personality, the eye contact. His baby faced looks. The charming attention he gave you after church was too much to bypass.
A soul tie took place that is reserved for married couples according to Genesis 2:24.
However, there is a perverted soul tie that takes place.
In 1 Corinthians 6:16, Paul said “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.”
Even when a man and a harlot engage in sexual intercourse, the principle is still the same. They become one flesh.
Is it no wonder that a holy man of God avoids the church harlot?
A very spiritual man of God that prays, and seeks the face of God will see, in an instant, what kind of woman approaches him. A holy man of God will hear the Holy Spirit and be on the lookout for anyone that is not of God.
A married man of God that loves his wife but loves God more than he loves his wife will know what to look for. That’s because the moment he departs from his consecration, he knows that it is over.
The Scriptures reveal the kind of woman to avoid. The book of Proverbs is the Book of Wisdom. Predominantly, it’s a Men’s Meeting Book. Women could learn from the book of Proverbs. However, it was written to men. The first 7 to eight chapters reveal the kinds of women a holy man of God must avoid.
To refuse this wisdom is foolishness to him and he will never escape the shame.
Proverbs 1:7 says “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”
A man of God is afraid to sin against God. It is there that you begin to have knowledge. Men that deliberately sin against God is not afraid of God.
If you wonder why a man is avoiding you it’s because he is afraid of God. He has developed a healthy fear of God where he would not endanger his relationship with God. Any man could preach in sin. Any man could even pray and be in sin. But you can’t be in the light as He is in the light if you fellowship with sin.
1 John 1:5-7 says “This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.
But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.”
For a man of God to be attracted to you, cross lines to get to your hot flesh, is just a fast way to the hottest place created for the devil and his angels.
The door step to hell is the bedroom of a harlot.
If you are wondering why a man of God is avoiding you is because he could smell the smoke of hell ascend from the pit of hell. The sulfuric smell that you are trying to mask with all your perfumes isn’t working.
Hell in his heart and hell in your bedroom. Yes, that’s what he is avoiding.
Revelation 21:8 says “But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”
He is avoiding……
The immoral and seductive woman.
“And who are devious in their paths; To deliver you from the immoral woman, From the seductress who flatters with her words, Who forsakes the companion of her youth, And forgets the covenant of her God.
For her house leads down to death, And her paths to the dead; None who go to her return, Nor do they regain the paths of life —“
“For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two- edged sword. Her feet go down to death, Her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life —
Her ways are unstable; You do not know them.”
The only remedy is verse 8.
“Remove your way far from her, And do not go near the door of her house,”
That’s how you avoid the immoral seductress.
When she invites you to her house, remove your way far from her and do not go near the door of her house.
Proverbs 5:20-23 says
“For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, And He ponders all his paths.
His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, And he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, And in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.”
The pastor is avoiding you because he doesn’t want to go to hell with you.
If there is some other reason why he is avoiding you, if you are a woman, if the pastor is married, approach his wife. If the pastor is single, approach an elderly lady. In times like these, it is best to use wisdom so that the hint of sin is avoided.
However, if you are a church harlot or temple prostitute, wonder no more about why a pastor is deliberately avoiding you.