Breaking Bad Sexual Patterns, Habits, And Cycles

Paul gave these words in Romans 13:12-14.

“The night is far spent, the day is at hand. Therefore let us cast off the works of darkness, and let us put on the armor of light. Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

Notice what Paul said by the Spirit of God in verse 14 “….and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

Notice the Greek word recorded in Strong’s Concordance for “provision.”

“g4307. πρόνοια pronoia; from 4306; forethought, i. e. provident care or supply:— providence, provision.”

This is important because all habits, patterns, and cycles takes “forethought.”

All sexual sins is premeditated, thought out, planned, deliberately planned and executed.

James gives us a little insight regarding how we premeditate sexual sins.

James 1:14-15 “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”

So when it comes to sexual immorality, we deliberately involve forethought to fulfill the desires of the flesh.

The desires of the flesh are aroused or enlivened by our own desires”…….then we are enticed.” The word “enticed” means to be baited.

The devil watched you to see or observed your desires, your tendencies, and your preferences.

Then the devils assigned to trip you up send the bait. The conception occurs when we, like fish, bite on the bait. But we do not see the hook because we desired the bait, we pay no attention to the hook. This conception gives birth to sin and sin when it is finished, brings death.

When the desires, tendencies, and or preferences of the flesh and mind is pursued, the devil then places the bait before us every time.

As time progressed, we’ve developed these desires, tendencies, and preferences into habits, patterns, and cycles.

It becomes a ritual that leads to “acting out.

Hence, Dr. Patrick Carnes’ definition of sexual addiction.

1. Thoughts or Fantasy. 2. Rituals. 3. Acting Out. 4. Remorse.

Habits, patterns, and cycles is the Second thing on the circle of sexual addiction.

To stop the ritual or the deliberate, intentional planning, you have to capture and put to death your sexually immoral thoughts and fantasy.

The only way to break a habit, pattern, or cycle, you must stop the thoughts and fantasy. But it is not enough to stop the thoughts and fantasy to stop the habit, pattern, and cycle. You have to replace these things with good thoughts and no fantasy.

Proverbs 23:7 “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”

If you think lust, so is he. If you think perversion, so is he, etc.

Notice Philippians 4:8 from the English Standard Version says “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”

As long as you are unwilling to change, destroy, annul, put to death the sinfully explicit thoughts and fantasies, the rituals will continue, the acting out will continue, and the remorse lacking repentance will continue.

God’s power delivers instantaneously. It’s when we are serious to maintain the deliverance that God’s power is working. From the moment we initially walk away until we walk into heaven, that’s when the instantaneous power of God is at work perpetually.

To break the power of sexual addiction, you need the power of the Holy Spirit. You need to get intimate in prayer with God. You need to become obedient to the Word of God that the Holy Spirit gives you.

Just as you instantly obeyed the lust of the flesh and mind, like Paul said in Romans chapter 6, we yield members to the Lord in righteousness and holiness.

If we fail to listen to the Holy Spirit according to 1 Corinthians 10:13, we will fall into sin. If we fail to listen to the Holy Spirit according to James 1:2-4, we will fall into sin. If we fail to pursue holiness, we will not see the Lord according to Hebrews 12:14.