Seducing A Pastor; Pastor Seducing A Woman – Sound The Alarm

imagesThe reason why seduction takes place on both sides is because of lust according to Ephesians 5:8-14 and 1 John 2:15-17.

However, we see that the people of God see it coming and they are afraid to sound the alarm.

If you want the Head of the Church to remove the candlestick (put your light out) and the presence of the Lord is lifted, just say nothing.

If you want the church to be a shell, then go ahead, look the other way, and fail to sound the alarm.

Most churches have already died.

The “body” is attached to a respirator and the machine is pumping the blood, but the life or spirit in the body is already gone.

It’s just a shell.

You see people going into a building, singing the same songs, praying, preaching. But the Holy Spirit that inspires what we do has already departed.

If you see something, say and do something.

There are too many people that are in church that just sit by and say, “I’ll just pray about it.”


I didn’t say not to pray. Yes, pray about it, but tell somebody what you are seeing. More is at stake than you think.

Proverbs 23:26-28 says “My son, give me your heart, and let your eyes observe my ways. For a harlot is a deep pit, and a seductress is a narrow well. She also lies in wait as for a victim, and increases the unfaithful among men.”

One of many definitions of a seductress is that she is an outlandish, strange woman.

When it comes to sex, an immoral woman will take on the spirit of a seductress. It’s just not normal. They become something that they believe in the heart that a man desires. What they wear is a signal that it is strange but sometimes you do not have to wear certain things to signal your intention.

It all begins with attraction.

Attraction is defined as the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something:”

On the other side of the table is the attractiveness of a man evoking great power, charisma, and personality.

Women are attracted to that and so they become like honey and smooth as oil to capture such a man.

Depending on the purpose of attracting this kind of man, the seductive woman will pull no punches until she scores.

The pastor must always be on guard for these traps.

Notice the verse above and you will see that “a harlot is a deep pit.”

She intends to trap you so that you cannot get out. That’s what the “deep pit” signifies.

Notice the New Living Translation.

“A prostitute is a dangerous trap; a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well. She hides and waits like a robber, eager to make more men unfaithful.”

Even the narrow well is designed in the same way. You are wedged and you cannot escape her. Notice the other description. That she is a robber. What is it that she robs? Your fidelity to God, your wife if you are married, and your sanctification, integrity, sanctity to the call of God to be holy, and she robs the fear of God from you.

She is also “eager to make more men unfaithful.”

She is not satisfied that she captured one man. She loves to run up the score so that she proves to herself that she is valuable.

For the pastor, the seductress will operate without any thought. She doesn’t care if you are married or holy. She sets out to accomplish one goal. To pull you away from the Lord. We must remember that seductresses are in league with satan.

“Smite the shepherd and the sheep will scatter” is still in play. The seductress will even gain the confidence of the pastor’s wife so that it is easier to “make contact.” As long as the pastor’s wife doesn’t suspect anything, she will eventually make her move. It takes planning and a lot of cunning. If the wife has children, the seductress will make sure that the children like her too.

Invaluable. Indispensable. Faithful.

She has many ideas to set the trap because it’s all trial and error. The bait that works is the one that kills.

Seduction rarely happens in the instant. It is over time that the seductress will initiate the plan. She is patient and will persevere until she accomplish her goal.

She is a worshipper. She knows her Bible well enough to quote Scripture. She knows how to agree with you. She sometimes says the most and loudest “amens.” 

Some honestly believe that this doesn’t happen. But it does.

Some seductresses are “sleeper cells.”

They awaken at the right moment. Before the pastor could see it coming, it is too late.

The seductress observes the interaction between the pastor and his wife and when they see a riff, they take advantage of a pastor’s weakness and vulnerability. She consoles and becomes the ear of support. The pastor confides in her and she gives him the nurturing that he needs, that she sees that the wife doesn’t give.

For the seductress, sex is a mind game first and then the end game. Intercourse.

Notice what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:16 from the NLT. “And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”

The immoral pastor is a smooth talker. In the same way that a woman uses words, like a snake, he uses the same methods.

In Psalm 55:20-21, the psalmist gives us insight into a man’s words being as smooth as butter. This is when a man makes peace or a covenant with another man but his intentions all along was to make war. You drop your guard and then he pulls out the dagger.

“He has put forth his hands against those who were at peace with him;
He has broken his covenant.
The words of his mouth were smoother than butter,
But war was in his heart;
His words were softer than oil,
Yet they were drawn swords.”

The same thing happens when a man want to have a woman in the church.

He wins her over with great swelling words to deceive her and then he has illegal sex with her. It is just like a dagger. The sad thing is that after the romp, what makes you think that he is going to remain faithful to you?

The pastor was first unfaithful to God.

Then he was unfaithful to his wife.

He uses his charm, charisma, and personality to have you sexually.

If you were really thinking, you would have blown his cover and exposed him. Because it is just a matter of time before he will walk out on you, if he hasn’t done so already.

When it comes to pastoral indiscretion, according to a book called “Betrayal Of Trust,” a pastor is either a predator or a wanderer.

A wanderer is more of a “one night stand” sexually immoral pastor.

Rarely do they divorce their wives and leave their families.

A predator is after many women.

The predator pastor is always looking for an opportunity to prey on more emotionally vulnerable women. Sadly, these emotionally unstable women are easy targets and they fall for the affection, attention, and smoother than butter words.

The only defense against a predator is that the alarm must be sounded. He must be exposed. Just like the seductress, she too, must be exposed. The alarm must be sounded. If you see these things on either side, the alarm must be sounded. Whether they hear it or not, when you see certain things that is not right, an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure.

It may cost you, and they may very well ignore the alarm, but to avoid the appearance of evil, and to spare a wife and family the grief of the most destructive act of betrayal, do not be sorry to sound the alarm.

Author: prevailing word ministries

My wife, Valeria and I are the pastors of Prevailing Word Ministries in Brooklyn, NY. We have one daughter, Sherylynne. We are all authors. The Holy Spirit and You, by pastor Valeria, Altered Destiny, A Hustler's Choice, by Sheryl, and The Minister's Crucible and Secret Sexual Sins, by pastor Fred. Please visit to listen to our groundbreaking series "Secret Sexual Sins. You may download it free of charge from iTunes.

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