James 1:14-15 from the Amplified Bible says, But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions). Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death.”
There were many times I felt that I would never break free.
Day after day, and night after night, the urges and impulses kept resurfacing as if my body and mind required it without thought. Breaking free was as hopeless as a sinner forever gives up on becoming righteous.
Hopeless is defined as “a feeling or causing despair or the complete loss or absence of hope.” In other words, a persons has self determined that there is absolutely no chance. He or she has abandoned all hope.
These tendencies usually lead to suicidal thoughts because the person wants to end it all. The pressure to quit by suicide increases and is then carried out. That’s because a person tearfully desires to be free of the feeling of hopelessness. That person is seeking relief from feeling bad about the things they do, or may have done.
Remorse and guilt, if not dealt with from the Word of God will lead a person to the cliff or the end of the rope……..around their neck.
This is the way the devil pushes people into eternity without Christ.
This is the way the mind of the individual works because they believe that they are not worthy of the love of God.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
As long as you are alive, there is a chance to break free of porn and masturbation.
Your case is not the only case out there. You and I are in a group that isn’t exclusive. Secret Sexual Sins is not exclusive.
Billions of men and women around the world struggle with porn and masturbation every moment of every day. The media pushes these bondages everyday because of the money.
Paul said, “The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil.” 1 Timothy 6:10a
It doesn’t take money to watch porn and masturbate because we have figured out a way to do it for free. The magazine stand, when men and women are walking outside going to work, lunch time. We look at television shows or movie theaters.
But when we want visual stimulation, then it is taken to another level with PPV, strip clubs, sports arenas, and other means of viewing. And do not think that church services are exempt. Certain women and men come with the deliberate intent to be seen. Or they quickly text for a romp.
Paul said in the book of Galatians 5:22, “But the fruit of the Spirit is……..self discipline.”
Discipline is about the heart attitude towards God.
Jesus said in John 14:15 “If you love Me, keep My commandments.”
All sin begins with the heart attitude towards God.
Proverbs 1:7 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, But fools despise wisdom and instruction.”
Before you can make a decision to stop using your hands and eyes, the heart and mind must come into alignment with God and His Word. The love of and for God must be paramount, principle, and tops above everything.
Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-38 “Jesus said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment.”
The heart of man has made up it’s mind to have no other lovers, including loving yourself in porn and masturbation. You have sold yourself out to love God above anything and everything else.
The moment you sell everything that you have to have God is the moment that you set the course to be faithful to God. Then the mind follows. Your spirit instructs your mind to not think about illicit sex and your spirit man refuses to “…make provision for the flesh to fulfill its lusts.” (See Romans 13:14).
If you do not sell out completely to love God above your urges and impulses, above your hands and sexual organs to satisfy your sexual needs apart from marriage, to completely abandon yourself to the grace of God, you will watch flesh to masturbate. You must reach a place in this life where you love God more than porn and masturbation. When you do, you will find complete love in the Lord. Everything that you’ve ever wanted was in Him and not in solo sex or in a warm body of the opposite, or same sex in illegal sex.
The chain to sin sexually was broken on the cross. The death nature of the devil has no power over you because of the life, burial, and resurrection of Jesus. All you need to do is make a decision to stop, then enter into that place of loving the Lord, your God above porn and masturbation. When you fall back in love with Jesus and fall out of love with sin, the Lord will replace the loss with abundant grace, love, and power to overcome.
It takes courage and fortitude to walk out of the open prison door to freedom.
Courage to turn your back on a very close friend is treason. Up till now, porn and masturbation was your friend.
I’ve heard of a few stories of betrayal between homosexuals. They’ve had enough of the sinful lifestyle and returned to normal lives. Some even got saved by the Lord. They’ve betrayed their lover because they found out that what they were in was a lie. The satisfaction they were seeking was no where to be found. Each day, they fooled or deceived themselves into thinking that this is what they were missing in life.
Only to find out that the misery increased.
It’s a very difficult thing to turn your back on something that you forced yourself to believe in.
But you needed to be true and you made a break from Secret and Overt Sexual Sins.
For those of you that depend upon porn and masturbation, you thought that they were your best friends. Only to conclude that after it was over, you are feeling so bad about yourself that you needed a way out.
That’s the way sin is. It never leaves a person free. It always leads to bondage. And it always look to increase the madness. It doesn’t get better but it gets worse every day.
Romans 14:17 says “…for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.”
There’s never a bad feeling after spending time in the presence of the Lord. There’s never a hangover or residual negative affects after feeding on the Word of His grace. The love for and of the Lord, when experienced, can keep the hands off of the sex organs, and the eyes from straying into the objectification of flesh.
The price Jesus paid to free us was a price no one is able to pay. But He paid the price and we can walk away free forever. This is a promise fulfilled when Jesus was raised from the dead. He lives forever as our Heavenly Intercessor. For He ever lives to make intercession for us. Jesus can step in and work within you to keep your hands and your eyes.
But you have to “present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God which is your reasonable service.”
You have to “cleanse yourself from the filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.”
You have to “Lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word that is able to your souls.”
When your heart and mind makes the quality decision to love the Lord with ALL YOUR HEART, SOUL, MIND AND STRENGTH, your hands and eyes will be completely devoted to serve God according to Romans chapter 6. You will yield your members to righteousness.
This include your sexual organs.
Relapse will be a thing of the past when your love for God increases on a moment by moment basis. Living the crucified life demands that you “Deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Jesus.”
You do not take up the cross just carry it around. You take up the cross to die on it.
As Paul said in Colossians 3:5, “Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience, in which you yourselves once walked when you lived in them.”
Are you willing to die to be free? And I do not mean that you go out and commit suicide. I am spiritually speaking here. But wait a minute. You said, “Crucify yourself.” Now I’m confused!!!!!”
To be in Christ means that you do not pay attention to temptation and sin anymore like a dead man can’t pay attention to the living. Dead to sin means that you do not respond to the call to sin. This is what Jesus and Paul meant. We ignore the urges and impulses while we respond to the Lord in obedience to His Word.
“Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not. How shall we that are dead to sin live any longer in it?” Romans 6:1-2.