The Lust Of The Eyes


No matter how young or old you are, the warfare of the eyes intensifies.

Brothers, satan hasn’t brought out his best to lure you into chasing after flesh. He just gives you enough to go searching.

The Internet is the place to do this. Pornography offers ANONYMITY, ACCESSIBILITY, AFFORDABILITY, AND IT’S ADDICTIVE.

On your social networks and when you read articles that interest you, to the bottom and to the right of most articles, there will be blatant sexual eye candy to attract your interest into sex.

Even with Christian articles and on some well known Christian sites, some of them have sponsors that insist on showing flesh.

One thing always leads to another.

These are incremental traps” that set you up to venture deeper into sites that you have no business going to.

I’ve been there before. I know what it’s like to investigate” further.

It’s fatal attraction” at work.

You are attracted to that hot looking woman and it is fatal.

James 1:14 “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin when it is finished, brings forth death.”

Many brothers in the Lord live by the motto “It’s ok to look but do not touch.”

Notice what the Lord Jesus said……

Matthew 5:27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

We who profess faith in the Lord Jesus rarely hear this preached in service because sometimes, the pastor is involved with the lusts of the eyes himself. Then again, he could very well quote this Scripture, yet never abide by the Word himself.

In the book “Every Man’s Battle” by Fred Stoeker, Steven Arterburn, and Mike Yorkey, they give the solution to training your eyes to avoid looking at a woman lustfully.

You could bounce” your eyes to avoid that stare that leads to lust. If women were not beautiful, there would be no reason to look. But looking lustfully is a sin. Women will bring their best to be attracted whether married or single. Some women do it with intent because they are using their femininity as power to influence.

Do not be offended ladies. We all know that beauty is the world of women and it’s not just about the beauty, but when some women deliberately use it as a weapon to bring down the mightiest men, it is demonic.

Notice Proverbs 6:25 “Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.”

And Proverbs 7:24-27 “Now therefore, listen to me, my children; pay attention to the words of my mouth: do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, do not stray into her paths; for she has cast down many wounded, and all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death.”

Take note that the combination of lust in a man’s heart and the sexually immoral woman has cast down the ALREADY WOUNDED MAN. 

The right woman will attract the right man. The wrong women with demonic intent will attract the wrong man with demonic intent.

Let me get back to the eyes for a moment.

If you could train yourself to divert your eyes, you can keep your heart. This is part of making a covenant with your eyes” (see Job 31:1).

In other words, you get your eyes to agree with your heart not to look upon a woman to lust after her.

Notice what Jesus said in Luke 11:34-36 “The lamp of the body is the eye. Therefore, when your eye is good, your whole body also is full of light. But when your eye is bad, your body also is full of darkness. Therefore take heed that the light which is in you is not darkness. If then your whole body is full of light, having no part dark, the whole body will be full of light, as when the bright shining of a lamp gives you light.”

It’s the intent of the look that must be disciplined. But notice that the lamp of the body is the eye.”

What we observe with intent determines whether we have light in us or darkness in us.

For instance, when a smoking hot woman is in your periphery, do you use your eyes to lustfully think about having her sexually? If that’s your intent when you look, Matthew 5:27 is in play.

So what do you do to avoid looking at her lustfully?

Either “bounce” your eyes or distract yourself by deliberately looking away.

It’s learning how to guard your heart against evil. The woman is not evil unless she deliberately wears the attire of a harlot to attract a man “devoid of understanding.”

Notice Proverbs 7-5-10. “For at the window of my house I looked through my lattice, and saw among the simple, I perceived among the youths, a young man devoid of understanding, passing along the street near her corner; and he took the path to her house In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night. And there a woman met him, with the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.”

This man went looking for trouble. Trouble was available.

If you are having trouble with your eyes. That is, you can’t seem to stop looking to deliberately lust after another woman, to lust for her sexually, it’s time to reconsider what you are doing on the Internet. There is plenty of eye candy every where.

It’s time for an “Internet fast.”

The Lord Jesus said to “If your right eye offends you, pluck it out.”

What radical thing are you willing to do to stop looking lustfully, is what Jesus meant. Otherwise, there will be a lot of eye balls rolling in the street.

Are you willing to do something radical or extreme to stop your eyes from sinning?

What Jesus is also sharing is that you have to bring your eyes under control.

To do this, you have to deliberately ignore women’s deliberate intent to get your attention sexually.

This requires constant vigilance.

Notice what Peter said in his 1 general epistle……“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith…”

Ignoring women is not about lowering them or speaking ill will towards women.

It’s about not treating them disrespectfully. Treating them like sex objects is very disrespectful.

Sexual objectivism is the lusts of the flesh and the eyes at work.

To be sober requires a diligent effort to look to Jesus.

Your eyes must be disciplined because in the warm days ahead, the traps are set. Whether it’s the magazine rack at the checkout counter, the beach, the amusement theme parks, even in church services. If we are to win the daily battle of the eyes, make a diligent effort to look away.

All it takes is one lustful look, and it’s over.

But when you look to Jesus, all the time, every time, you can win this battle.

The Tombs: From Sexual Hopelessness, Help, Healing, To Wholeness In Christ


When it comes to porn and masturbation, many of you have abandoned yourselves to a life of hopelessness. As soon as one or more episodes of the twin giants has a hold of you, remorse sets in. After doing this for a while, it gives you this seemingly inescapable-ness mentality.

You can’t seem to stop and overcome this.

Tears are shed. The deep cry to be free is released. The pain becomes too much to bear.

Physically sore from countless acts of masturbation, and mentally drained, it’s time to make your move towards the Savior.

Pastor Roger Jamison, of Sword of the Spirit Tabernacle in Brooklyn NY taught me about the man in the tombs.

Mark 5:1-5 says, “Then they came to the other side of the sea, to the country of the Gadarenes.

And when He had come out of the boat, immediately there met Him out of the tombs a man with an unclean spirit, who had his dwelling among the tombs; and no one could bind him, not even with chains, because he had often been bound with shackles and chains.

And the chains had been pulled apart by him, and the shackles broken in pieces; neither could anyone tame him. And always, night and day, he was in the mountains and in the tombs, crying out and cutting himself with stones.”

No not all of us are demon possessed, this is not the point. The point is that we all are dwelling in the tombs. The tombs is defined from Strong’s Concordance as….

g3419. μνημεῖον mnēmeion;

from 3420; a remembrance, i. e. cenotaph (place of interment):— grave, sepulchre, tomb.

“…any visible object for preserving or recalling the memory of any person or thing.”

It would be there that this man was under bondage to this demon.

One of the things about hopelessness is that it is giving up on life. Giving up on getting help.

In a sense, it is a death. But even in hopelessness, there is always a chance for help, healing, and wholeness in Christ.

The fight is in the mind where demons try to hold on to you. That’s because if you make a break for it, they cannot lord it over you any longer. They cannot keep you longer that you want to stay.

Not only is the tombs a place where we remember the departed, for the man in the tombs, it was a reminder of his death to freedom. The tombs reminded him that in death, you are freed from this life. That there is no chance of escape.

As long as the man was in the tombs, he would be reminded of his death to freedom.

If you know anything about burials, the death of a person signifies the end of life. What brings it to a reality is when the dead person is placed in a casket. It is lowered into the pit and then dirt is shoveled on top to cover it up. That’s when reality sets in that they are never coming back.

The last thing that takes place is a grave marker that will remind people on this side of the living who the dead are.

Such is the epitaph of the man in the tombs.

Hopelessness works the same way, except that you are still alive.

The demons give the illusion that you are gone and you will never be remembered for who you once were.

That’s how hopelessness works. Abandoned, all alone, and with no one to help you.

The demons worked in this man to the point that people tried to tie him up instead of help him.

When people do not want to deal with a situation, especially a situation that is beyond their power, they attempt to chain and shackle a person that need help.

His demonic holders plucked the chains because it was disrespectful to the demons. To the demons, they wanted to show people that demons cannot be tamed with chains and shackles.

It came to the people that he couldn’t be tamed the way they want him to be tamed.

Feeling this rejection for his condition, he resorted to the mountains and the tombs.

Isolation is a dangerous place. He didn’t know who to go to or where to go for help.

So night and day, he cried. Demons had no power over his emotions. He cried for freedom. He wanted to be free so badly that he took stones and began cutting himself. Mutilating himself.

The Greek word for “cutting” is from Strong’s Concordance…

g2629. κατακόπτω katakoptō; from 2596 and 2875;

to chop down, i. e. mangle: — cut.

to cut up in pieces, to slay to beat, bruise to cut, gash, mangle.”

We don’t know if he was trying to kill himself but we cannot rule it out entirely.

In a possible quest to be free from his body, he began to gash himself. Mangle himself. Chop down on himself. Cut himself into pieces.

He was not successful in killing himself.

I’ve never attempted to commit suicide but I know the pain of wanting to be free of masturbation.

Then, the man seen Jesus.

“When he saw Jesus from afar, he ran and worshiped Him.”

The man went from hopelessness to HELP.

Demons do not worship Jesus. The man wrestled free from the demons long enough to get to Jesus and worshipped Him. The act of worship is an acknowledgment of the true Lordship of Jesus. This man didn’t ask for help. He didn’t cry any more. He worshipped long enough to show Jesus his true desire and acknowledged the Lord as the Only One that could help him.

He made a break for it and it worked.

The demons were probably taken aback by this act of the human will. This act of defiance is a revelation of the fact that demons has limits. When a person wants to be free, there is nothing that they could do about it.

When a homosexual wants to be free, they will make a break for it.

When a masturbator wants to be free, they will run to make a break for it.

When an adulterer wants to be free, they will make a break for it.

When a fornicator or bisexual wants to be free, they will make a break for it.

And no prevention of conversion therapy law will stop them.

There are many men that cry tears night and day.

I never cried tears to be free but I ached within me to finally put to rest chronic masturbation. Yes, I cosigned myself to hopelessness until I watched a CNN show of Pastor Erik Jones, author of “My Struggle, Your Struggle,” revealing on international TV about his porn addiction. Masturbation was not discussed, but as I have said before, no one does porn and never acts out sexually in masturbation, prostitution, fornication, bisexuality, or homosexuality.

That one courageous interview gave me hope to make a break for Jesus.

The man in the tombs no longer needed to be remembered as a man in bondage. In fact, he wanted to stay with Jesus to remain free. But the Lord had a better idea in mind.

You could still be in Jesus but it would be by faith and by the power of testifying to others about your deliverance.

“…And when He got into the boat, he who had been demon- possessed begged Him that he might be with Him.  However, Jesus did not permit him, but said to him, “Go home to your friends, and tell them what great things the Lord has done for you, and how He has had compassion on you.” And he departed and began to proclaim in Decapolis all that Jesus had done for him; and all marveled.”

For many of us, we could stay in the house of the Lord and feel safe but you are safer when you tell someone about what the Lord has done for you. It’s when you tell others that the help you sought for, turned into healing, manifesting in wholeness in Christ.

Some of you have made a break for Jesus to get help, only to retreat to the tombs.


Because if you were to look at the man at the tombs, when he made a break for Jesus, he worshipped Him.

Have you entered that place of worship where you’ve acknowledge the complete Lordship of Jesus over your life? In worship, have you submitted your members to the Lordship of Jesus? In worship, have you surrendered your flesh and mind to the Lordship of Jesus?

For it is in your worship of the Lord Jesus that freedom begins.

Worship demands renunciation of the former lords. It demands a clean break from their evil ways. Worship of Jesus demands a cutting off of these vile lords. Worship of Jesus demands that you give up ownership of your will to do your own thing. If upon seeing Jesus that you do not worship, you will be back in the tombs, cutting and crying out night and day.

Help, healing, and wholeness can only be found in Christ.

You do not have to stay in the tombs one more night.

Make your way out, but this time, when you see Jesus, worship Him.

Pastor Commits Suicide After Adultery With Staff Member


As if the Lord issued the warning. And then you read stuff like this.

A Facebook post made this story available to me.

This truly is upsetting.

To the family that first had to endure the adultery, we ask the Lord’s grace and mercy to abound abundantly in their time of tragedy. Now this family has to deal with his death by suicide, resulting possibly from this pastor experiencing emotional trauma, shame, remorse, and hopelessness.

And they are looking for answers. 

These may not be answers but they offer a glimpse into what might have been going on. 

Needful to say that this underscores the dangers of secrecy in a pastor’s life.

Preponderance indicates that porn and masturbation were probably an issue in his life.

I don’t know everything but the Lord does. I mention this because very few people understand the issues as the Lord does. In my own life, I’ve had enough episodes to give some information. Porn and masturbation may have contributed to his adultery. If porn and masturbation wasn’t an issue, then we all know that unbridled lust In the heart of any pastor is always at the root of all sexual immorality, private or public.

I could be wrong about it because, again, I do not know everything.

Only the Lord does.

Then, you might ask, “why bring it up?”

Because this is an ongoing situation that continues to plague the Body of Christ.

This is MOAB, the Mother Of All Battles. Sexual immorality is the Goliath of our times.

What we need to do is understand some things.

We will not come to any conclusions about the matter but there are some things that we can learn from this tragic event.

Secret Sexual Sins is a major problem for 43% of pastors in the United States.

Porn and masturbation is a major stronghold for many pastors and ministers.

Sexual integrity must be maintained in the life of all Christians.

We must guard our hearts behind the pulpits and in the pews.

The devil is unrelenting when it comes to sexual immorality. If we are not watchful, every moment of our lives, we will cross lines that we say we weren’t going to cross. Pastors must not become wanderers or pimp/predators and women must not become harlots in the house of the Lord.

Many of us concentrate so much on the pastor that we seldom mention his wife. No one but her and the many other wives of pastors truly understand the pain of betrayal, rejection, and adultery. The staff member that committed adultery with this pastor is in much turmoil as well.

One thing always lead to another. Perhaps this pastor had safeguards in place to protect him from crossing the line. Perhaps she did too. But one thing always leads to another.



Then why bring it up, you might ask?

Because it happens more often than what we are willing to admit.

In my last blog, “The Dangers Of Sex With A Pastor,” it once again, underscores the many things known and perhaps unknown to us that exist in the church.

In an interview, one former prostitute shared that the reason why these things is happening in the church is that holiness is not preached. I will add that holiness could be preached in the house of the Lord but if they are not living by holiness, it’s a form of godliness lacking God’s power. A preacher could preach about holiness till they are blue in the face. The same preacher will sin with his eyes after the sermon.

We do not know if this pastor preached or prayed for personal holiness in his life. The answer is an answer of preponderance. Probably not. But let’s say that he did preach holiness, would it have been enough for him to act on to keep himself pure before God?

Well, we won’t know the answer to this question.

But what about you pastor or female staff member?

Are you willing to go down this path and disrespect the house of the Lord?

How deep are you in sexual immorality?

Have you cried out to God for help?

Are you willing to expose yourself to get God’s power to save you from a preventable situation?

The hand of the Lord is there every moment to help you get free of porn and masturbation.

The hand of the Lord is there every moment to save you, young lady, from committing adultery with your pastor.

If you are in a situation where you are contemplating having sex with your pastor, reconsider quickly. That one moment of sin is a pandora’s box of eternal destruction. Nothing but destruction and death follows. Before you dishonor your body, fall on your knees and ask God to satisfy your longings, quench your lust, and give you eternal satisfaction like the woman meeting Jesus at Jacob’s well.

If you are a pastor and you are married, look well to your relationship, return to the wife of your youth and resolve your differences, if any. Deal with the lust in your flesh and mind. 

Get help. 

On the blog are many sites that will steer you to find the help you need to establish sexual integrity and sobriety.

Committing adultery is the last thing that you need to do right now.

This pastor committed suicide. We don’t know why but it points towards deep remorse. Just like when Judas was emotionally overwhelmed with betraying the Lord, this pastor was overwhelmed because he betrayed his Lord, and his wife.

Too much for him to overcome, he was lied to by that devil that was instrumental in getting him to commit adultery. That devil over his life probably just told him that he was nothing. He would never minister again. He will be a byword. He probably told him that he might as well end it all. That devil probably told him that his wife no longer loved him and that God would never forgive him.


No matter how deep and dark our sins are, the Father forgives, cleanses, and restores.

Sexual sin will take you further that you want to go. Sexual sin will keep you longer than you want to stay. Sexual sin will cost you more than what you are willing to pay.

Sadly, the Reverend Seth Oiler will not be the last pastor to commit adultery. He will not be the last to feel the bitterness of remorse and hopelessness, and in a quest to seek relief, never seek God but seek death for relief.

Regrettably, more stories have already happened. This tragedy just made the papers. Others are lost in the news.

But if you are reading this and you feel hopeless, just fall to your knees and ask the Lord for help.

God is gracious and kind. He is holy and never tolerates sin, but when we come to Him in true repentance, He will give grace and mercy to you liberally.

Hebrews 4:14-16 says, “Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”

The story of this tragedy could be read here.

The Dangers Of Sex With A Pastor

For the last few months, I’ve noticed some titles. I take note of these things because there is no question that when this topic is out there with increased frequency, it is possible that a woman or some women are about to engage in sex with a male pastor.

There is no question about the fact that there are more married pastors than there’s single pastors, but I find that just because the pastor is married, to a single or married wrong minded woman, to them, it doesn’t mean that he is “off limits.” The wrong woman mistakenly assumes that he is fair game.

Dissatisfaction within the marriage happens for a number of reasons, and it happens in every marriage. However, it is not a good reason to look over the other side of the pulpit or pew to engage in sexual immorality.

Another woman, whether a prostitute or a vulnerable church woman is not the solution to solve dissatisfaction in the marriage. To have the wrong pastor is not the answer.

All it takes is the right set of circumstances to set up sexual immorality, and the game is on.

Woman that attempt to engage in sex with a pastor may be filled with romance fantasies that lead to sin. Just as men engage in sexual fantasies, women engage in romance fantasies. 

Pastors are vulnerable due to being emotionally and physically drained after preaching. That’s why it’s always best for a pastor to retire to his study to escape these vulnerabilities. 

But he must escape other temptations on Sunday afternoon. Watching sports with cheerleaders. Watching movies with sex in it. Watching news with club dressy women. Watching shows with sex laced trailers and commercials. 
Checking the Internet and getting bombarded with provocative women and chatting with women in the chat rooms. 

When pastors go to the store or supermarket, the checkout counter is filled with salacious titles and sex pictures. 

More pastors open themselves to being exposed to material inadvertently and then they deliberately go after flesh. 

After the preaching of the Word of God, the anointing to preach lifts off of the man of God. The trek down the mountain top is full of booby traps, trip wires, ambushes, and IED’s (improvised explosive devices). I’ll get to IED’s for pastors in this blog.

Dr. Archibald D. Hart once said that sex is a great “pick me up.” In either case, whether the man of God feels like he’s conquered the world in his preaching, he wants a “reward.” When he feels that he didn’t nail his sermon, or he feels emotionally down, he wants a “pick me up.”

Women instinctively this pick up in understanding the emotional vulnerability of a man.

For instance in 1 Kings 21:1, Ahab wanted Naboth’s vineyard. Naboth told Ahab that it belonged to him, given to Naboth as an inheritance from his fathers.

Covetousness driven him to have Naboth’s vineyard and when Naboth said “no,” Ahab’s countenance changed. Ahab returned to his residence and Jezebel observed his countenance.

1 Kings 21:4-5 says, “So Ahab went into his house sullen and displeased because of the word which Naboth the Jezreelite had spoken to him; for he had said, “I will not give you the inheritance of my fathers.” And he lay down on his bed, and turned away his face, and would eat no food. But Jezebel his wife came to him, and said to him, “Why is your spirit so sullen that you eat no food?”

Jezebel, as with women in general, will pick up the mood of a man just by reading his body language and countenance.

When they ask “What’s wrong,” the wrong woman will steer a man.

The rest of the story ended in Naboth’s death.

The wrong woman is able to pick up dissatisfaction in a pastor’s marriage and will attempt to be a voice as well as become sexually available to connect with him.

Now ladies, it’s important for you to understand that you are not married to him and you have no business becoming an intermediary. What I have also come to realize is that there are many women that will not accept responsibility for their actions and place the blame on the pastor.

Both must be blamed.

The wrong pastor and the wrong women.

The pastor didn’t maintain his sexual integrity with his wife. Allowed personal issues to become blockades to reconciliation, and never sought help from other pastors to deal with his personal issues. There is also his personal life that must be dealt with.

Is he watching porn and masturbating?

Whether he is having marital issues or not, porn and masturbation is a clear sign of disconnection that the wife cannot ignore. Extracurricular sexual activity, without committing adultery with another body is always at the root of many issues in a marriage relationship.

The “wrong woman” will pick that disconnection up.

In Genesis chapter 3, the devil entered the serpent to deceive Eve. However, based on preponderance, the devil was watching the interaction between Adam and Eve and concluded that Eve was inquisitive. The disconnection between Adam and Eve was detected and that’s when the enemy made his move.

Because of the disconnection, the enemy was able to make his move and plunged all men into death.

Hence, when the wrong woman detects the disconnection between a pastor and his wife, and she makes her move.

On the other hand, the wrong pastor seek vulnerable, insecure, emotionally unstable women too. It is never one sided. Sometimes, “worlds” collide under the right/wrong set of circumstances. With the wrong pastor, he has now become a predator and seeks to take advantage. He has the ability to see who is wiling to engage in sexual immorality and deceive a woman.

This is where women have to learn to guard their emotions and be on guard. The wrong pastor will turn into a serpent right before your eyes. He will be subtle like the serpent in Genesis 3. At first, it appears innocent, harmless, and safe. Pastors will not make their move until he knows that he’s won your heart. You trust him. You feel safe around him.

You don’t see it coming.

He touches your hand. Strokes your shoulders. He kisses you on the cheek. He’s re-assuring you with words that you wanted to hear. Not realizing that the wrong pastor is playing with your affections. This goes on regularly and then he makes his move. He perverts the Word of God as you give token resistance. You believe him and the rest is history.

“…and sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.”

There are other women that know to stay away from them. They recognize the signs when he makes his move and they blow the whistle. They run from them quickly before trouble manifests.

Proverbs 14:15 says “The simple believes every word, but the prudent considers well his steps.”

Proverbs 22:3 says “A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”

This is the improvised explosive device.

It happens on both sides.

The wrong women lay the explosives just as good as the wrong pastor.

When it explodes, it leaves body parts all over the place.

Black Conservative Pastors And Sexual Immorality

Isaiah 52:11-12 says, “Depart! Depart! Go out from there,
Touch no unclean thing;
Go out from the midst of her,
Be clean,
You who bear the vessels of the Lord.
For you shall not go out with haste,
Nor go by flight;
For the Lord will go before you,
And the God of Israel will be your rear guard.”

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 says, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
“I will dwell in them
And walk among them.
I will be their God,
And they shall be My people.”
“Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.”
“I will be a Father to you,
And you shall be My sons and daughters,
Says the Lord Almighty.”

Job 22:27-30 “You will make your prayer to Him,
He will hear you,
And you will pay your vows.
You will also declare a thing,
And it will be established for you;
So light will shine on your ways.
When they cast you down, and you say, “Exaltation will come! ’
Then He will save the humble person.
He will even deliver one who is not innocent;
Yes, he will be delivered by the purity of your hands.”

In order for Black conservatives to have the moral standing it needs to address the issues of our times, we must be sold out the Lord. Our lives must be pure before God and that means that we must abstain from every form of evil.

If we want to see the hand of God move in our communities and political process. If we desire God’s success, we must be separate, clean, and pure.

In most polls, it is a known fact that there are over 300,000 churches in the United States. According to a Rick Warren poll taken several years ago and that needs to be updated, 43% or more pastors have struggled with pornography.

We all know that no man or woman that ever watch porn, never act out sexually in either masturbation, fornication, adultery, bisexuality, or homosexuality. If we are not pure before God and the people then we are basically no different than the liberals.

“Prayer produces intimacy with God,” the late Ed Cole states. Purity produces holiness before God. Only the “pure in heart shall see God” said Jesus. Just recently, Josh Duggar working for FRC resigned because of child molestation committed by him as a teen.

Many of you have heard of adultery committed by pastors and we are all shocked.

The root cause of adultery, child molestation is not porn. 

It’s the lust of the flesh and mind and the pride of life according to 1 John 2:15-17 and James 1:14-15.

Porn is the fuel as the executed Ted Bundy said in an interview with Dr. James Dobson.

Preponderance of the evidence may point to some level of pornographic activity in the lives of leaders that will eventually come out according to Luke 12:2.

As a Black Conservative pastor, my life was marred by this activity and is well documented in this blog and on Blogtalkradio.

I know full well the traps that some Black pastors are in.

Thankfully, there are other Black Conservative pastors that have kept themselves from this vile sin and have lives that are pure before God.

If we are going to take the fight to the streets, our lives must be blameless. We must learn to keep ourselves from the dark dungeons of sexual immorality if we are going to win this battle against the elite proponents of the sin of homosexuality and abortion. In California, according to Internet Filter Review, 1600 divorce attorneys say that half of all divorces is the direct or indirect result of pornography and adultery.

IF Black Conservatives are to be taken seriously, according to Ephesians 5, we must not have the hint of sexual immorality in our lives. Otherwise, we will not see the victory that we desperately need to glorify the Lord.

Secret Sexual Sins must be dealt with. Otherwise, the media will be used by the Lord to expose these things and destroy our efforts to wage war in purity.

The Real Truth & Intent Of Gay Marriage

We are at the Family Research Council Watchman On The Wall Conference. 

What is it that the elite proponents of the sin of homosexuality want?

Marriage Equality?

Looking at it from a Biblical perspective, we know that the elite will not be happy with just being able to be married.

As with all demonically inspired agendas, the question will always be “Where do we (homosexuality) go from here (marriage equality)?”

As we all know, civil unions opened the door. Accomplished, but they weren’t satisfied.

Creating “hate language” legislation was established. Accomplished, but they weren’t satisfied.

Getting state’s constitutional prohibition challenges annulled. Accomplished somewhat, but they weren’t satisfied.

Getting opponents of the sin of homosexuality silenced by court cases, loss of jobs due to “discrimination” policy, suing and shutting down business that hold on to true Biblical values without compromise. Accomplished, but they weren’t satisfied.


It’s not enough.

Where is the furthest that they can go?

To totally control society’s morals. To produce a government that will not allow anyone to question each and every decision about the sin of homosexuality. To engulf like fire every aspect of society. To incarcerate any voice that brings the convicting power of the Holy Spirit through the preaching of the Word of God. Not to infiltrate the church but to become the new church where immorality rules without opposition or question.

To use church property and rental facilities where churches hold exclusive services as a place where homosexuals can pervert the originally intended use. 

Many would like to believe that once SSM is accomplished, that would be the end of the line. Everyone walks away happy or disappointed. 

We all know that the push to conquer everything and everybody is the goal of the fight with the elite homosexuals in this nation. 

To force pastors and ministers to compromise the Bible and make them all perform the sacerdotal function of marriage under severe penalty. 

But this is not the end either.

In the book of Ephesians chapter 5, the marriage represents the relationship that Christ has with the church. To pervert marriage is to call Jesus a homosexual.

Far fetched?

We must understand that from the time that Lucifer was in heaven in opposition to God, this is what it’s been all about. 

Growing up as a young child the worst thing in the world is to be teased.

We are talking about the 60’s and 70’s.

For some of you, it could go back many more years.

The worst thing in the world for a straight man to be called is…………..I’m about to use a derogatory term, some of you will be offended and I know the comments are coming……..a faggot.

There is no other name that is worse to call a man than to be called a homo or a faggot.

Behind the scenes in the realm of the spirit, the devil is in opposition to God. The lie that has been perpetrated is that God created me this way. So since He created me this way, it makes God out to be a homosexual or a faggot Himself. Since we are created in His image. The Creator created an image.

What homosexuality and transgenderism is all about is “Identity” expressed in refusing to accept the image of God to be what He created you to be. Couple that with the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, and you have a serious identity issue. However, according to the Scriptures, lust transcends identity.

Homosexuality/transgenderism is the ultimate identity crisis and the final frontier of homosexuality. 


Lust is a matter of the heart. Identity or identifying yourself is out of what you declare yourself to be.

President Obama, in recent speeches regularly mentions transgenderism. Apparently acknowledging gender neutrality as an executive branch policy that is making its way around the country. 

As we all know, men don’t do women well and women don’t do men well. 

As long as you get to be what you envision yourself to be, you recreate yourself to be something that makes you happy. In complete defiance of God, you deliberately blame God for something that He is not responsible for.

For man sinned, not God (Romans 3:23, 5:12).

satan’s goal, all along, was to be God. When he was cast out of heaven (Revelation 13), he decided to make God out to be the bad Guy. Righteousness is wrong and wrong is righteous.

Since marriage came from God, if marriage could be perverted, annulling the Scriptures means that man could be without authority and moral standards, and live the way he wants to live with impunity. Therefore, he can create a picture of the kind of god he is while labeling God as a liar.

The discrediting of God is the bottom line. The discrediting of the Scriptures is the bottom line.

SSM is not going to stop if and when the SCOTUS rules either in favor or opposed.

The fire will burn until there is no more forest to burn.

So let us not get giddy should the SCOTUS rule conservatively. We should be smart enough to know that it’s never going to be finished until the Lord comes for His bride, the Great Tribulation of seven years is complete, the 1000 years of Christ’s earthly reign while satan falls in the bottomless pit, and the final disposition of satan in the lake that burns with fire and brimstone.

Lastly, four or more things to consider about the true intent of gay marriage.

1. Attack and destroy the image of God.

2. Blame God.

3. Destroy any Biblical standards.

4. Completely overrun the church, destroy pastoral or ministerial opposition, absorb compromised churches to toe the elite homosexual’s line, and establish immorality as the absolute rule of the entire world.

Homosexual Marriage Referendum In Ireland 


The world around us is definitely under what John said in his general epistle.

1 John 5:19 says, “We know that we are of God, and the whole world lies under the sway of the wicked one.”

Homosexuality is not just about perversion. It is about the overthrow of the image of God and the complete destruction of the reflection of marriage as it relates to Christ and the church (Genesis 2:24 and Ephesians 5:25-33).

These days were foretold in Matthew’s gospel and Luke’s regarding the signs of the last days.

The days of Noah and Lot.

On two fronts, we are seeing a serious convergence of powers surrounding the earth.

The purpose of ISIS is not just Islamic extremism. It is about surrounding Israel and killing any spiritual opposition, namely Christians. It’s the same with the elite of homosexuality. By illegal means or by seeking relief from the courts to marry the same sex, like ISIS, they are putting pressure on Christians to conform.

We all know that they will not stop with the constitution. While at first, Ireland is saying that they will not make churches perform wedding for homosexuals, but we are not deceived, in delusion, or fooled. We know that they will push to make a child of God cave in to their will.

I do not think that the believers in America is taking this seriously enough.

We have been warning about this for years.

The handwriting has been on the wall a long time. It’s not a dream that cannot be interpreted.

This is plain as day.

Persecution is soon to rise in another dimension in America.

At first it will look cordial in the legal system, but it will turn ugly.

There’s nothing about homosexuals deliberately using the law to impose their will on true believers that refuse to compromise to make point. It is pure persecution, and they know it.

Anytime you preach in the streets about the sin of homosexuality, you run the risk of being verbally and physically abused and assaulted. Even as the police will do nothing to rescue you, and will sit by and watch you get verbally and physically assaulted. You and I who live godly and preach in the streets stand a good chance that laws will permit executions of true believers. The laws and times has changed. It will change even further until the Great Tribulation where the times and laws will be under the full control of a system that will plunge the whole world into darkness until the Second Coming or Advent of Christ.

There are many believers and preachers that will say that it will never get to that level.

That’s exactly what the mentality was in WW2. They ignored the Holocaust.

So if you choose to ignore these times and the events that is playing before our eyes, Matthew 25:1-13 should be reviewed.

This is not the time to cave in and run to the hills. This is the time be be a witness for the Lord.

In most places of the NT, the word witness is the word that we call martyr. Street preacher, Jessie Morrell preached a powerful word and shared it on YouTube called Street Preacher Martyrs.”

It was in that message that he shared that we are witnesses or martyrs.

When your testimony and your living is on the level of the Word of God, you subject yourselves to being a martyr.

Notice what Paul said, in 1 Timothy 3:12 “Yes, and all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution.” 

As I have said, most believers do not have a clue as to what is about to take place around the world.

If you haven’t noticed, the events in the United States over the last few years has forced many believers to reassess who they are in Christ. In fact, some have come to the conclusion that the world is safer than being fully in Christ. Their preaching is convoluted. Their excuses about abortion and homosexuality is perverted. And they are willing to compromise than to risk their necks. Literally.

Many believers have been watching the events overseas as ISIS is beheading many believers in Christ. Martyrdom is a regular thing in the Middle East, Africa, China, North Korea, and other territories. Here in the United States, because of the constitution, some protections remain, but not for long.

Up to a point, we have enjoyed these protections but we have squandered the moment.

It is conceivable that we will soon reach a point where these protections will cease. When they do, because it is not a matter of if, but when, we will see a further erosion of the fabric we used to call church. The comfort zone is being aggressively attacked. Whoever is not prepared for what is to come will be given the option to stay in Christ or denounce Him.

As I have said, it is better to be in the temporary fire of sinners than to be in the eternal fire in hell.

Jesus said in Matthew 10:32-33 “Therefore whoever confesses Me before men, him I will also confess before My Father who is in heaven. But whoever denies Me before men, him I will also deny before My Father who is in heaven.”

Several countries have already capitulated to the elite homosexuals ruling in their countries. As we know, sin is never satisfied until it engulfs the entire world.

With this in mind, you need to make up your mind now because as soon as possible, the agenda will intensify. If you are not solid and steadfast in your faith in God, you will cave in to the pressures of persecution.

Don’t just read this article and think nothing of it.

Your eternal standing is what’s at stake.

The referendum of Ireland could be read here.

Porn & Masturbation & ALL Sexual Immorality’s Worst Nightmare……….A Daily Crucifixion


You cannot expect to maintain your freedom from porn and masturbation unless you go to the hill on a daily basis to crucify the flesh and die.

If we are not willing to crucify ourselves, we cannot expect the glory of God to return upon the people of God.

We must crucify ourselves afresh. Every day must be a walk up the hill with the cross on our back. Every day must be crucifixion day. Every day, we must lay ourselves on that wood and raise ourselves up. When I say “raise ourselves” I am not talking about a resurrection to sin again.

I am talking about after you lay on that wood, the cross is lifted into its place to display to the world that you are dead to sin. A resurrection to life cannot happen until there is a death. If you do not die, you are not eligible for a resurrection.

When Jesus said, “Die daily,” at the end of the day you are resurrected but it is to be in newness of life. But at the beginning of the day, it starts with a crucifixion.

Like Paul said, “Dead to sin but alive unto God.”

When you are not living the crucified life, you are alive to sin and dead unto God.

But, O when we are crucified with Christ, it is I that no longer lives. It is Christ in us that lives.

Every time we worship by the lifting of our hands is a crucifixion. Every day as we cry out for God is a cry of “Where are you God. I need You!!!!”

Luke 9:23-25  “Then He said to them all, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will save it. For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and is himself destroyed or lost? For whoever is ashamed of Me and My words, of him the Son of Man will be ashamed when He comes in His own glory, and in His Father’s, and of the holy angels.”

The Holy Spirit is moving but we all know that the few that is paying attention to the moving of the Holy Spirit is experiencing an increased measure of the Holy Spirit.

The glories experienced of God of the past is the past.

There are new experiences of the manifest presence of God to experience. There are new levels of obedience that is calling you and placing a demand upon you. When you’ve had enough of the carnal and hunger for God, the things of this world become a thing least desired.

Some of you have learned to desensitize yourselves from the appetites of the world. Your natural food habits and choices are changing. Your TV habits are changing. Your conversations with the people of your former life is changing. Your hunger for the flesh to fulfill the flesh and mind is changing.

The old way which you do church is leaving. You are prepared to do business with your flesh by mounting the cross. Your flesh no longer wins but loses to win all of God. You are learning to die in order to live for Christ. The old leaven is being removed. The thirst for God is increasing. The desire to please Him is increasing. You cry out for more and you’ve reached a point where you do not want to stop or be interrupted in the presence of God. Your prayers are intensifying and prevailing.

Your desire to overcome obscures the desire to fail.

Relapse is replaced with rejoicing. You’ve arrived at a place in God where your success rate in overcoming and ruling your urges and impulses is increasing. Your flesh and your mind is getting used to living in purity before God. Your hopelessness and helplessness is turned into joy in holiness as you, by the Holy Spirit and obedience to the Word, declares emphatically His power over sin.

Not out of emotionalism and not out of show but God hears the cleanliness and hot pursuit of your heart.

Pure and unadulterated. You do not get tired pursuing God. You pause for no one and no thing.

There is much that we can learn from the elder saints that have gone home to be with the Lord. Yet, there remains a few that knew what price to pay to have the manifest glory of the presence of God.

What is the evidence of the crucified life?

It begins when we…….

1. Decide to follow Jesus and mean it.

2. Deny ourselves. (when you want to sin, you decide to refuse to sin).

3. Take up the cross. (when you refuse to sin, you kill your members).

4. And follow Him. (when you follow, you follow to die and not live).

You are not following Him unless you carry that cross as you walk with Him to the hill.

Judging sin in our own house.

Individually and corporately, people are emerging from the depths of sin and depravity. They realize how much God is hurt and grieved when we turn our backs on Him to enjoy a moment of pleasure in the flesh, conceived in the mind.

Dr. Michael Brown once said (paraphrasing) that we have to be tougher on ourselves about personal sin than we are on others. This is the true application of Matthew chapter 7:1-5. We can’t effectively deal with sin in the Body of Christ unless we start with you and I as individuals.

Preachers, if you can’t or refuse to talk about sin in the pulpit, it could be that sin is in your private life.

We can’t help men out of porn when we are watching porn ourselves. We can’t help adulterers if we are watching lustfully other women or men. We can’t help men stop masturbation if we are masturbating ourselves. We can’t help people out of the pit if we are in the same pit with them.

We can’t deal with sin when we excuse ourselves. The moment we “judge ourselves, we would not be judged.”

We must be ruthless with our flesh and mind.

We cannot watch flesh and expect to watch for God. We can’t expect the glory when expecting to gratify the flesh. If the flesh isn’t pierced, it was never a crucifixion. If blood isn’t shed, it wasn’t a crucifixion. If blood is not dripping and if your body of sin is not getting cold, it wasn’t a crucifixion. If your heart isn’t pounding after giving up what you loved above God, it wasn’t a crucifixion. If pain is never experienced, it was never a crucifixion. If you never cried out, it wasn’t a crucifixion. If you are not looking for a resurrection, it’s because you are not looking to be crucified. If a crucifixion doesn’t hurt, it wasn’t a crucifixion.

The crucifixion of Christ didn’t take place on the first day of the week, or the 16th of Nisan, but on the 14th day of Nisan of the Jewish calendar which is the Jewish Passover. Never mind the Gregorian calendar in trying to figure out why……..Anyway, my point is that some of us wait to be crucified on the 1st day of the week, every week when the Lord tells us that we need to crucify ourselves every day.

You’re waiting for Sunday when you come to church to be crucified only to pry the nails out of your hands and feet to sin again on Monday.

Any time after that initial crucifixion it becomes a crucifixion of habit. You keep your flesh dead so your spirit man stays alive unto God.

The greatest fear of man is death. Hence, the greatest fear of sin is the cross. For on the cross, everything dies. The life of sin is extinguished, expired, committed to the ground, dirt shoved into the hole in the ground.


The excuses are over.

Pick up that cross and prepare to die.

Every day!!!!!

International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia

The president further affirmed his commitment to push the elite’s homosexual agenda and vows to fight homophobia (no such etymological word) and transphobia (another made up word).

If you really look closely, the only fighters against the sin of homosexuality is the righteous, Christ-like believers in the world.

Yes, there’s secular nations that have instituted policy to jail and kill homosexuals, such as Muslims and a couple of African nations. But we do not see the president hop on Air Force One to go to the Middle East to change their ways. Although he tried to persuade a nation on the continent of Africa, they choose not to be bullied. Even when using high level diplomacy, the nations that are against the sin of homosexuality were not persuaded. Even when threatened to lose American funding.

As a side note, it’s amazing that we can give out money to foster the sin of homosexuality to nations that celebrate homosexuality, even when we have 18 trillion dollars of debt. 

The president, as an alleged fellow Muslim, will not go to his own and demand that Arabs change their mind.

So this proclamation is addressed to believers in Christ in America and abroad that hold the Biblical position that homosexuality is “an abomination.”

So they celebrate this International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia on the 1st day of the week when believers in Christ worship the Lord.

With an “us against the righteous attitude,” it underscores the unrelenting pursuit to defy the Lord and His righteous saints.

I must underscore this with the fact that the Bible tells us, “Fear not! For I, the Lord your God, am with you.”

Christians are not afraid of the world, the president, or the elite leaders of homosexuality. Their statement or labels of Homophobia and Transphobia is a clear indication that practicing homosexuals fear God and His holiness. When they begin to tell believers that we are homophobic, it is a blatant attempt to get us to back off. It is also a clear sign of their fears. But they can cross over from fear to faith in Christ to be free of the sin of homosexuality.

When it comes to the truth, we do speak the truth in love because we know that homosexuals suffer the consequences of sin. Sexually transmitted diseases is the price that comes when they participate in the sin of homosexuality.

Here is what the president said.

Michelle and I join our fellow Americans and others around the world in commemorating the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia tomorrow, May 17.  We take this opportunity to reaffirm that lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) rights are human rights, to celebrate the dignity of every person, and to underscore that all people deserve to live free from fear, violence, and discrimination, regardless of who they are or whom they love.

We work toward this goal every day. Here at home, we are working to end bias-motivated violence, combat discrimination in the workplace, and address the specific needs of transgender persons.  Overseas, I am proud of the steps that the United States has taken to prioritize the protection and promotion of LGBT rights in our diplomacy and global outreach.

There is much more to do, and this fight for equality will not be won in a day.  But we will keep working, at home and abroad, and we will keep fighting, for however long it takes until we are all able to live free and equal in dignity and rights.”

Note the phrase “combat discrimination In the work place.”

The work place is any place where you have a job. Including working in the church. 

It’s a deliberate attempt to put Christian opponents on notice that everything is on the table to aggressively attack, persecute, and, at their choosing, prosecute anyone that resists bowing down to the LGBT agenda statue when the music plays. 

After reading this address from the president, it underscores a deliberate continuation of a perilous course for this nation.

It underscores the unrepentant attitude that invites the inevitable judgment of God upon this nation.

The president is articulating the heart and message of a small group of people. Practicing homosexuals only make up 3% or 4% of this nation. This message infected the nation. As Paul said in 1 Corinthians 5:6, “a little leaven leavens the whole lump.” 

Professed believers became wishy washy and indifferent. Some professed believers were already heavily involved in sexual sins so it was easy to further the agenda because resistance would be minimal.


We are seeing real believers resisting the agenda aggressively. And the resistance is increasing. We are beginning to see resistance and steadfastness against this agenda from preachers with no titles and no names. Fearlessly standing for the gospel of Jesus Christ. So the “fight” is not towards the world but it is against the righteous in America.

We are getting backbone, and we are standing together. Our numbers is increasing and the word is getting out.

LGBT is seeing that it’s not going to be easy the rest of the way.

From here on out, they will fight and they will not shake us. Our God is bigger and stronger, and He will not be defeated.

We must also be mindful that all across the United States, true believers are interceding for this president and nation to turn from their wicked ways. To repent. To seek the Lord while He may be found because the day is coming when He will not be found. When a person dies without Christ, they will not find the Lord in the grave. They will not find the Lord in hell. The only time where they will see the Lord is the Great White Throne Judgment.

We must also not be fooled.

There are clear pockets of resistance that insist on the sin of homosexuality in the houses of worship.

For decades, homosexuals, adulterers, fornicators, and bisexuals have knowingly and unknowingly infiltrated into almost every house of worship. Pastors knowingly gave a free pass on sin to have good music flowing out of a perverted heart. We’ve deceived ourselves into thinking that God is in the house, but He wasn’t. 

Just as in heaven, sin cannot dwell with the Almighty, Holy God, so it must also be in the house of worship. 

There’s people that is bound to Secret and Overt Sexual Sins.

While it is today, it is not too late. All it takes is a willingness to break away from sin and allowing the power of the Holy Spirit to break free.

It is clear that this is a precursor to the SCOTUS’s decision regarding SSM.

If this is true, we need to be ready.

God will either postpone judgment as a result of a decision not to permit SSM, or this nation will be shaken to its core.

According to the FBI director, they are actively pursuing terrorist leads in all 50 states. For quite some time, terrorists have been in the United States. They are waking up and at the appointed time, they will spring into action. Quite possibly in a coordinated attack all across the United States.

When you turn from the Lord, terror is appointed by the Lord. Again, I want to remind you that the president hasn’t really been tested. There is a reason. We were given space to repent. Time is winding down. And the statement the president made indicates to me that we are about to be judged again.

No one wants terrorism. Anyone that gets giddy about this is missing the point.

Sin will find you out. No sin goes unpunished.

Also, we must remember that this administration hates the prime minister of Israel, Benjamin Netanyahu. This administration wants a treaty with Iran to have nuclear weapons. This administration insists on a 2 state solution to establish peace in the Middle East.

Untenable in all points.

Be in prayer. Be ready. And watch.

Internet Porn: Regaining Sexual Self Control


Ephesians 5:18 says, “And do not be drunk with wine [porn], in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit…”

Several years ago, I was just starting my journey to the depths of sexual depravity. When computers came out, the Internet became the highway to information. But it also became the most powerful way to engage in sexual depravity under these conditions.




When it comes to Secret Sexual Sins, you do not want people to know what you are doing.

Especially your wife.

You do not want to be denied, so easy access is to your benefit.

You do not want to spend more than you could afford, BUT you will spend what you have and neglect any bills that have priority.

While on the job, on my personal laptop, I accessed sites anonymously, or so I thought.

I never used the company computer because it was against company policy for which you could be fired.

Why can’t we apply that policy from God on our personal TV’s and computers?

Just a thought.

But we all know that your identity is already known because every computer has a code that easily identifies you. So anonymity is out the window when you get on the Internet. For instance, when you visit certain sites and never make a purchase, today, when you surf the Internet, that site that you were on comes up without your help.

It’s so advanced that your iPhone knows what time of the day you go home and tells you, without you asking, how much time it would take to get home.

So forget about anonymity.

In fact, because I blog regularly about sexual immorality, salacious sites, texts, and emails are sent to lure me back into the dark world of pornography. At one time, because I talked so much about homosexuality, a site meant for another person was sent. It was a cruise ship proposal where homosexuals from all over the United States book a cruise to engage in lewd conduct.

Getting back to computers. While I was surfing the net for porn, site after site came up. It ganged up on me and overloaded my computer. Several times it froze to where I had to do a reset to get the laptop to work. When I went back on the site, it acted up again because it was big business. If they gained access to your credit card or debit card, the charges would clear out your account.

I had enough presence of mind not to give them access to my cards because it would be a money trail that destroys any sense of control.

The lure would be that they would show you enough free porn and if you want more, you had to use your card.

Also, a sudden fear came upon me that, if by accident, I clicked a site for child porn, it’s an instant invitation to the FBI. The last thing that I needed was for the FBI to come to my job and arrest me for child porn. It doesn’t matter if you click with intent or by accident. You will be arrested. So that’s when viewing porn on my laptop was a thing of the past.

Internet pornography is a trap for men that are not under control.

That’s why if you do not regain sexual self control, you will not stop.

Dr. Mark Laaser told a story in his book about a pastor doing armed robbery to pay for his porn and prostitution addiction.

If you do not control your sexual appetite, you will do things that will not make sense.

1 Corinthians 6:12-13 says “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Foods for the stomach and the stomach for foods, but God will destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.”

When it comes to sexual immorality, you will not be under control.

You might think that you are controlling the circumstances but you are deceiving yourself.

There was a story in Dr. Patrick Carnes book about a man that went on the Internet to chat with an underaged girl. He contacted a friend on the Internet and they were chatting with the same “girl.” His friend decided to take things to the next step and made arrangements at a restaurant to meet with this girl. So this person that broke off the relationship decided to spy them out. As his friend got out of the car to meet this “girl,” police cars surrounded him and his friend was arrested for soliciting a minor for sex.

The MSNBC show “To Catch A Predator” with Chris Hansen, aired between 2004 and 2007, was an incredible show where men would solicit minors for sex. They would chat on line to set up the meet. Some predators would drive or ride their motorcycles for hours just to have sex with minors. As lawyers, doctors, mechanics, priests, and pastors from all walks of life, would come into a house, Chris Hansen would meet with them as the minor walked out.

As soon as they arrive at the house, hidden cameras were on and recording everything. A transcript would be made and Chris Hansen would read the predator’s real intent as the cameras would come out. These predators try to deny that they were after under aged girls and under aged homosexuals. After the conversation, the police would be waiting for them outside.

Pastor Roger Jamison of Sword of the Spirit Tabernacle in Brooklyn, NY once told me that one person put it like this. Sexual sin will take you further than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay, cost you more than what you are willing to pay.”

Sadly, many men will not listen. Even sinners with a dark heart towards God have a conscience. They hear that they should not do what they intend to do but they suppress it for the pleasure.

“The lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the PRIDE OF LIFE.”

The pleasure causes a man to throw away wise counsel.

On that show, “To Catch A Predator,” a couple of men said that they heard something on the inside of them telling them not to go. A few persons told Chris Hansen that they watched the show before. Another predator was a repeat offender. Caught twice on the same show. This dude had already appeared before a judge for the same crime………………the week before showing up at this house.

There are many wives that are suspecting that something is going on.

That inward intuition is usually right. In most cases, she already knows. It’s just that she is processing the information because any act of betrayal is too hurtful for most women to confront. It’s when the full disclosure after discovery occurs that she is able to start the process of confrontation.

Most selfish men will apply blame on the wife and try to act more hurt than the wife.

Granted, both are in pain. The discovery was painful for the man because he was exposed and the betrayal was painful for the wife because she thought that her husband wasn’t keeping secrets.

How does a man bring himself under control?

1. Repentance.

Nothing will be right until he settles the debt with God.

2. Accountability.

No man can win the battle of sexual immorality without other eyes watching your life.

3. Catching Your Moments.

If you are not willing to submit to God every moment of your life, all it takes is one look, and you are back to square one.

4. Guard What You Are Feeding On.

“Neither give place to the devil.” Ephesians 4:27

Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23

If you are not willing to guard your heart and close the door, the thief will come with his best to bring you back into bondage.

5. Fill Your Heart With Good Things.

“Who satisfies your mouth with good things,
So that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.” Psalm 103:5

You must be willing to do what it takes to replace what you were feeding on to be filled with God and His Word.

Freedom is not free. Neither is self control. You have to pay a price for freedom. You have to fight until Jesus comes or until you breathe your last breath.

You might be saying that you are not a predator.

That’s debatable because if you haven’t stopped, you may be a predator to yourself.

Every line you say you wouldn’t cross is a line you intend to cross. It’s just a matter of time.

As time progresses, the devil hasn’t brought out his best for you just yet. There’s always that one hot looking male or female that he has in reserves just in case you stay longer than you supposed to. And when you break free, the devil has a long list of his best that he will bring to tempt you. He knows that you are not in control.

But you can out smart the devil by living as a dead man.

Romans 6:11-14 says,

“Likewise you also, reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”

Yes, it takes time to get to this stage but the more you yield to God, the fruit of the Spirit called “self control” will govern you as you obey the Hoy Spirit and the Word of God according to 1 Corinthians 10:13.