Q: Upon reading one of your blogs, you specifically said that masturbation is the “door” to homosexuality. My question to you is, what is the basis for this seemingly absurd statement?
A: During a “Come Clean” men’s meeting, I invited Pastor Roger Jamison, pastor of Sword of the Spirit Tabernacle in Brooklyn NY, as a guest speaker. This was in 2009, if I remember correctly. The statement was profound. He said that “…masturbation is the door to homosexuality.”
Now, there is nothing specifically stated in the Bible that “masturbation is homosexuality.”
The inference based on preponderance of incidences and evidence is being used to make an arguable point. I am well aware that people will reject this argument. This is not to say that those that are into masturbation are homosexuals, but for argument’s sake, assume that if this is right, where do you want to go? Do you want to continue masturbating or do you want to be free?
I struggled with that statement because when it comes to normal sex, it takes two. A man and a woman, or in the case of homosexuality, two of the same sex acting out as if they are the opposite sex. So we all agree that normal sex is between one man and one woman in holy matrimony.
But when it comes to masturbation, it’s only you, whether male or female.
As I thought about it, you are a male pretending to have sex with a male or female, but you are touching yourself sexually.
With homosexuals, and this is about to get a little graphic, they masturbate each other.
How do I know?
While I was searching for porn, as always, they advertise all sorts of sex. There was a man on a couch, doing solo sex. I haven’t delved into “how to’s” of masturbation, but I know they exist.
While watching an interview of Ted Haggard, the former pastor of New Life Church in Colorado, he was asked a question about his homosexual affair and meth use. He stated that this man that he was with “masturbated him.”
So this is indisputably common.
Let’s look at this from the perspective of the fact that as a male, you are giving sexual stimulation to yourself. We know that there is more to masturbation when it comes to homosexuality. No need for the details, but foreplay is part of the sex act that leads to climax or ejaculation.
There will be many that will not accept this, and that is understandable. However, look at it just for a moment of you putting your hands sexually on you.
You are a male, or a female………right?
You are giving yourself sex……right?
So how can it not be homosexuality? Homosexuality is same sex activity. It takes two persons. This is a valid point and question. But you can also look at it that at the very least, these are the beginning stages of homosexuality.
When it comes to acting out sexually, and doing sex within the authorization of marriage according to the Bible, this is legal sex.
Illegal sex is when you are having sex with another man or another woman that is not your wife or husband. Illegal sex is when you are acting out sexually with the same sex. Sex was designed by God for two persons to become one flesh and to procreate, therefore any other sexual activity is not the intended design of sex authorized by God.
Can a wife stimulate (masturbate) her husband? Perfectly legal.
Can a husband stimulate (masturbate) his wife? Perfectly legal.
If acting out sexually by yourself is authorized for man or woman by God, then there wouldn’t be an issue with your conscience. Again, I want to remind you that after masturbation, the conscience is offended because of acting out sexually apart from God’s design of sexual activity between married persons, one male and one female.
Just ask yourself another question. Is someone masturbating you or are you masturbating you?
The one thing that we have to understand is that when it comes to Secret Sexual Sins, solo sex masturbation is very embarrassing. We do not want to discuss something that is highly taboo. And yes, people have made jokes about it, and use hand gestures to mean certain things, but we all know that masturbation is common solo sex.
Then the Holy Spirit reminded me of 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 that “….homosexuals (catamites) and……sodomites….will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Then in Revelation 21:8 that the “sexually immoral…will be cast into the lake which burns with fire and brimstone.”
I either had to be in denial and suppress the truth, or admit that I may be on the door of practicing homosexuality on myself.
What we have done with taboo subjects is avoid the issue and place our own permission on committing acts that are not permitted by God outside of the intended design. We’ve stretched the imagination and disqualify the conscience. But are we imposing our own law on others? What would be the governing factor here where there is no Scripture approving or disapproving masturbation?
Your conscience doesn’t condemn or shame you, and the fact that if Jesus masturbated. Then you have all the permission you need.
Then we act like some (not all) preachers and lawyers, and try our best to twist or deny the Word in hopes of continuing in sin that grace may abound (see Romans 6:1). We’ve yielded our members (penis or clitoris) as instruments of unrighteousness, slaves of sin, (see Romans 6:12-13) to continue in committing acts that violate your conscience and the heart of God.
Finally, when it comes to pleasing God, when you are masturbating, are you having sex in accordance with God’s design or are you circumventing and countermanding His design to fulfill selfish sexual needs?