In my previous article, we know that sexually immoral women have lusting eyes for male pastors, but the opposite is just as true.
Sometimes it’s the combination of the two when sparks fly.
A number of things could be behind the motivation of a male pastor to commit adultery, or if he’s single, commit the sin of fornication.
But it always begins with lust in the heart.
All a male need is a firecracker to come into his mind. Or in his mind, he constantly fantasizes or sexually objecticize women, inside and outside the house of worship.
In the book, Betrayal of Trust, there’s two types of male pastors.
“Wanderers & Predators”
The wanderer strayed from his marriage and regrettably sinned against God, and violated his vows to his wife to remain faithful. He’s regretted the sin and returns to his wife, to remain faithful for the rest of the marriage.
Then there’s the predator. He searches for a vulnerable partner and usually he picks out vulnerable women that may be looking for male connections.
It’s not always the case though.
Some of them are emotionally unstable, and this, in and of itself, isn’t the only reason that they allow themselves to be duped by a male pastor, but it’s probably high on the list.
Like an animal predator that looks for the young or the weak, the male pastor does the same thing. He seeks out the immature women in the Word of God and smells the scent of hopelessness, unsure, insecure, always looking for support and direction, filled with despair, isn’t confident, is very dependent, and very unsuspecting.
He avoids the strong in faith women in the house of worship.
He uses flattering words, give small gifts, and gains the confidence of his target. As soon as trust is built, he takes things to the next level.
At first, his target will appear apprehensive and very cautious. She instinctively gives signals that this isn’t appropriate. But he’s done it before. Male pastor predators are patient, looking for that one moment of a break in her defenses.
But words are seeds, gestures are seeds.
She ponders these kinds of actions and as soon as he determines a crack in the armor, he makes his move.
His eyes makes contact, he makes subtle touches of the hand, the shoulder, the waist, the kiss on the cheek.
ALL THESE ADVANCES IS A SET UP AND IF YOU’RE NOT CAREFUL……..
Many vulnerable women made the mistake and drop their guard.
After it’s all said and done, a regrettable sin is committed.
He used you and things are different now.
But it never stops. It feels like you’re obligated because it goes from a one night stand to an ongoing immoral relationship that goes on for days, weeks, and months.
That feeling of obligation is a sexual tie, only validated by holy matrimony.
That feeling of obligation is an immoral invalid tie to that male pastor.
Genesis 2:24 (NKJV Strong’s) “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Notice what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:16-17 (NKJV Strong’s) “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.”
So even if the pastor is married, the woman outside the marriage that engaged in sex with that pastor, established an illegal tie with that man.
When a woman expresses that they have “feelings” for that male pastor, when it’s solidified in the bedroom, the tie to him is immorally established.
This is where the woman must exercise caution and not be found in a place where a male pastor pursues an illegal immoral sexual relationship. Nothing good comes of this because sin is present.
Sin has consequences. And sin, in the end, leads to death.
If you’re about to be taken advantaged of by a male pastor, it’s best to seek the counsel of a wise, prayerful, seasoned in the Scriptures woman. Afterwards, it’s best to find another local assembly because if you remain there, he will make another advance.
It’s never a bad idea to SOUND THE ALARM.
Declare, in love and humility, what you know is the truth, and do that according to 1 Timothy 5:19-20.
If you seek to be slanderous, this is “sowing discord among the brethren.”
If you lie about it, all liars will have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone” (see Revelation 21:8).
Sometimes, he will not take “no” for an answer.
He will do everything in his power to close the deal.
The devil operating in that immoral pastor is a smooth talker.
Don’t even tell him that you’re leaving the house of worship for another.
Just abruptly leave. There’s nothing in the Word that tells you that you have to stay when that male pastor made a pass at you. You know what’s next and there’s no sense in remaining in a place where a lot of people will get hurt.
Even when you’ve established good relations with other members of that house of worship, when a male pastor, or any male is making unwanted sexual advances to you, leaving is an option on the table that should not be suppressed.
Hebrews 13:4 and Revelation 21:8 is clear.
There’s no beautiful sunset.
If you’re single and waiting for a man to pop the question of matrimony, it’s worth the wait. If you’re married and your marriage has lost its spark, adultery with a pastor is not the answer.
The Scriptures is clear about holiness and personal holiness must be maintained on both sides of the pulpit.
Beware of the wolf’s eyes behind the pulpit.
“Be sober. Be vigilant.”