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At The End Of The Rope In Your Marriage

There was an elderly couple that were holding hands. The wife was lying on the couch and her husband was holding her hand.

It was her last moments in her life and all she wanted at that moment was the touch of her husband’s hand. She wanted to savor the moment of knowing that she was loved by her husband.

A few moments later, assured of her husband’s caring touch that she knew would be there, she closed her eyes for the final time.

The years of being together for decades, came to an end. She made her last moment with him to count.

As the saying goes when a minister performs the vows, ““Till death, do you part.”

We don’t realize the power of these words until they become a reality.

With a husband and wife, there will be times when you wished you had another mate, and it’s because of certain events that strain a relationship. For either the male or the female, there’s that one moment of contemplating adultery.

For men, all it takes is when the eyes start searching for flesh.

After a traumatic moment in the marriage, a man will look to “reward” himself in sex. Dr. Archibald Hart stated that “Sex is the best pick me up.” When a man wants to reward himself or make himself feel better, he intuitively look for sex because of the reward drug, “dopamine,” is excreted into the blood stream and gives man a pleasurable satisfaction.

He seldomly will look to the person that they may have had an argument with (the wife) for sex. He will usually start looking a sexually provocative women, either on the street, at work, on the Internet.

In secret, he lusts after the flesh of women. In secret, he will fantasize about having sex with her, engulfed in masturbation. But the demons are always there to suggest to you to take it to the next level.

To strip joints where prostitutes, who are porn stars, will be available.

But the completely obsessed man will take things too far.

On the level of a Ted Bundy.

He becomes a serial rapist, and will take it to the level of rape and murder.

This is the world of sexual immorality where men will go to extremes because of an event in a marriage.

For wives, they feel disconnected from the husband because of certain events, whether caused by either party. She will look for a man that would sit down and confide with. She finds a man.

Probably a professional like a marriage counselor, a pastor or minister, or a lawyer. She wants to be listened to. Reassured. Comforted. Protected. Loved.

Some of these “professionals” are either “predators, or wanderers.”

Perhaps, they too, are in a strained relationship and take things to the next level.

Looking to take advantage of a vulnerable woman. At the right moment, he incrementally secures her trust.

Then, he moves from behind the desk, to sit next to her. He puts his hand on her hand. Then rubbing his hand, to holding her, then to kissing her, then the bed room.

She realizes her mistake but it’s too late. She gives in to her vulnerabilities, and the rest is history.

All because your marriage was on the ropes.

Sinning against God is no excuse. Hebrews 13:4 is clear.

The husband and the wife need to reconcile their differences before their differences turn into an irreconcilable difference.

Many couples assume that they’re at the end of the rope, not realizing that they have more rope to go.

According to the Lord Jesus in Matthew 19:1-9, there’s only one reason for divorce.

Sexual immorality.

But what about verbal abuse?

Consistent and constant verbal abuse is an anger management situation. You have to get at the root of his or her verbal abuse. It may take competent professional counseling to dig deep into the beginning of where it all started.

The husband or the wife have to choose to expose themselves in counseling to get to the root of the problem. If they don’t, it’s not recommended that they remain in a relationship because things could go south real quick.

But what about physical abuse?

This is assault. And even though there’s no Scriptural support for this to be the reason together a divorce, make no mistake about it. It is battery.

It’s domestic violence.

This is where it gets dangerous, even for police officers that show up to keep the peace.

If you don’t leave a domestic violence dispute, you may end up dead.

The sad thing is when the emotions and adrenaline of the moment subsides, they come back under the roof. Then it starts all over again. They usually don’t learn from the last incident.

You deliberately or even unintentionally do something that you know or don’t know that this triggers the event or events.

In marriages, behavioral changes may be difficult for people because of several factors.

Your upbringing, certain acts and habits that may be pleasant to you, but offensive to others. When there’s a refusal to change for the mutual benefit of the relationship, this is where the fireworks may happen.

Now there may be a tolerance for a season, but after the season of silently putting up with the difference comes to an end, it’s like a slow fire.

You smell smoke and then a secondary explosion is the one that rocks the building.

At the beginning of the marriage, you’re learning each other’s habits, patterns, and cycles. Your likes and dislikes are like lions, marking their territory. You breach the boundary, the lion gives a warning roar. Then when you continue to breach the territory, after the warning, the fighting begins.

Winner takes all.

But that’s animals. We’re humans. We’re to communicate our likes, and dislikes in a civil manner.

It’s amazing how quickly couples forget that they’re in Christ.

When you have disputes, it’s not the time to declare that you’re at the end of the rope. It’s the time to go back to your vows and reach deep into loving each other as Christ loves the church, and for the wife, like the church, to submit to Christ.

Besides, if it’s another woman you want, you will be irreparably burned and shamed. For the wife, your harlotry will embarrass you.

Finally, the world does revolving door weddings. Remember the woman at Jacob’s well in Samaria? She was searching for a man to satisfy her, she had 5 husbands and the one that she was with, wasn’t her husband.

It took the Lord to reveal to her that continuous adultery is unsatisfying. The Lord revealed to her that only the water that Jesus had would satisfy the longing in her heart.

And this is where there’s more rope in your marriage than you think.

For only the Lord Jesus could satisfy us completely.

It’s also stunning that when we look elsewhere that we select what we had.

It underscores one thing.

What you had was God’s best.

So when you’re at the end of your rope in marriage, just know that there’s plenty of rope left.

Fight for your marriage.

When Your Husband Is Watching Porn Or Watching Other Women

Proverbs 27:20 (NKJV)

“Hell and Destruction are never full;
So the eyes of man are never satisfied.”

Job 31:1 (NKJV)

“I have made a covenant with my eyes;
Why then should I look upon a young woman?”

Some of you will blush, and that’s natural. But if we’re really serious about keeping our holiness before the Lord, we will address our flesh issues.

Men are sight stimulated. If men are attracted to women, it’s because of his ability to search to look at someone that caught his eyes. But a man is either looking to lust or admiring beauty.

This is a very fine line because in less than a nano second, the thoughts of his mind can easily cross the line into lusting with his heart.

Matthew 5:27-30 (NKJV)

“You have heard that it was said to those of old, You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.“

So how will a wife or girlfriend know that your husband or boyfriend is looking to lust after another woman?

Sometimes, a man will look a long time to “soak” in the view. But if you’re truthful, it takes a man less than a second to store what his eyes have seen.

There’s essentially a combination of three places that a man will look to lust.

The eyes and hair.
The waist and the hips.
The cleavage, legs, crotch, and the gluteus Maximus.

I know that the blushing has started, but if you’re brutally honest with yourself, this is exactly what lust is about. But this is how a man is attracted to the beauty of another woman for the purpose of having an immoral sexual encounter.

Either he will fantasize about it, or take things to the next level and engage in adultery.

Disconnections are clear when he’s no longer sexually attracted to you. For whatever reason. But it’s about his heart relationship with God.

To commit adultery in the flesh, he must commit adultery against God.

It all boils down to what’s in the heart of man.

Matthew 15:18-20 (NKJV)

“But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. These are the things which defile a man, but to eat with unwashed hands does not defile a man.”

The eyes of a man is the door to his heart and mind.

Matthew 6:22-23 (NKJV)

“The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!“

So the intent of the heart drives him and his eyes betrays or justifies him.

It takes a while to train yourself to watch your husband’s eyes. But the moment that you catch him, you can’t blow up in his face on the spot because it’s not wise to create a scene.

If he’s showed violent tendencies, it’s best to wait until there’s a more appropriate time to confront him.

But eventually, when you see that he’s consistently looking at women, and doing it in front of your face, there comes a point where you need to say something.

As far as porn is concerned, he will not signal to you that he’s watching porn because he’s not just watching porn and then he turns it off.

He’s masturbating while being stimulated with his eyes. He’s pretending to have sex with that image. So as a wife, if you’re wondering why there’s no intimacy, this is where he is.

But he may have taken it to another level.

He may be paying for sex with prostitutes who are involved in porn, or are high end escorts, or adult club dancers.

This is fornication, adultery, idolatry, which is covetousness (see Colossians 3:5 and Exodus 20:14 & 17).

This is grounds for divorce (see Matthew 19:9).

A husband must not give in to his desires. He must crucify his flesh. When it comes to sex with another woman, the end will always be the same. There’s no real satisfaction achieved.

But let’s return to the heart and mind.

Ephesians 2:1-3 (NKJV)

“And you He made alive, who were dead in trespasses and sins, in which you once walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit who now works in the sons of disobedience,

among whom also we all once conducted ourselves in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, just as the others.“

James 1:14-15 (NKJV)

“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.“

So what’s a wife to do?

If you choose to confront him, you need to understand that this is a man’s high place. He may have claimed to be saved, claim to love God and His Word, but his flesh isn’t crucified. The husband will fight to keep this stronghold.

Sex is a very powerful tool. When immorality sets in, the dopamine that is secreted into the blood stream feels good and to suddenly go at him when he’s unrepentant, it will be a very volatile moment.

You must be prepared for the fact that he will be in complete denial because it’s just like when the light comes on, or taking a toy away from a child. The man will do everything in his power never to surrender.

And that’s where the Word and prayer must be your place of combating the forces of the will of man and demons. It’s difficult to do prayer and the Word because you’re emotionally distraught. You’re completely devastated. An act of deception and betrayal took place and your world fell apart.

Discovery hurts.

But you can’t remain hurt. It can’t go on forever. There comes a point where something has to be done.

And this is where God incrementally bring things into his life to break him.

When God breaks a man, either he will submit to the chastisement of the Lord, falling on the stone, or be grounded into powder.

Matthew 21:44 (NKJV)

“And whoever falls on this stone will be broken; but on whomever it falls, it will grind him to powder.”

God know just what will break a man, but also, it’s known for man to ignore that God is using every means necessary to save him. Because we must remember. His soul is at stake.

Yes, your marriage is at stake too, but should he remain unrepentant, his soul will be lost.

Hopefully, he will turn from his wicked ways and return to the Lord with a repentant heart, and eventually take serious steps to repair his relationship with you.

Hillsong. A Haven For Sexual Immorality Spirits?

The leader of Hillsong, Brian Houston, has been charged with child sex abuse.

What’s been happening, not just at Hillsong, but all around the world, is a strong spirit of lust is operating in many places that purport to be true houses of worship.

Try not to skip reading this entire chapter.

2 Peter 2 (NKJV)

But there were also false prophets among the people, even as there will be false teachers among you, who will secretly bring in destructive heresies, even denying the Lord who bought them, and bring on themselves swift destruction.

They’ll be among the people that will secretly bring in destructive heresies. They hold their cards to their chest and then put the cards on the table after they feel secure enough that they’ve won your trust.

How are they doing it now? They sing great Bible affirming songs. That’s how they lure the unsuspecting. After your emotions are high, you’re disarmed. Your guard is down, and that’s when you’re the most vulnerable.

And many will follow their destructive ways, because of whom the way of truth will be blasphemed. By covetousness they will exploit you with deceptive words; for a long time their judgment has not been idle, and their destruction does not slumber.

Many will follow their destructive ways. MANY. The mega church. Not all of them (2000+ is considered mega). We don’t throw out the baby with the bath water. But when you have a large audience, it’s ripe for false doctrine and its teachers. Then out of no where. They blaspheme the truth by establishing their own personal doctrine as the doctrine above the Bible.

Then by covetousness, they exploit you with deceptive words. You’re disarmed. You give beyond your means. You max out your credit card. Empty your bank account. You spend only to get robbed. God sends a word of rebuke and repentance (Revelation chapters 2 and 3), but they refuse to repent.

For if God did not spare the angels who sinned, but cast them down to hell and delivered them into chains of darkness, to be reserved for judgment; and did not spare the ancient world, but saved Noah, one of eight people, a preacher of righteousness, bringing in the flood on the world of the ungodly; and turning the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah into ashes, condemned them to destruction, making them an example to those who afterward would live ungodly;

Just like Sodom and Gomorrah, and Noah’s days. Noah preached for 100 years. Why? God was long-suffering, kind, merciful, and compassionate. Yet, they went their way of immorality. Tick Tock. Time’s up for them. With Sodom and Gomorrah, when the 2 angels came into the city, that should have been a big signal to repent or be destroyed.

and delivered righteous Lot, who was oppressed by the filthy conduct of the wicked (for that righteous man, dwelling among them, tormented his righteous soul from day to day by seeing and hearing their lawless deeds)— then the Lord knows how to deliver the godly out of temptations and to reserve the unjust under punishment for the day of judgment,

and especially those who walk according to the flesh in the lust of uncleanness and despise authority. They are presumptuous, self-willed. They are not afraid to speak evil of dignitaries, whereas angels, who are greater in power and might, do not bring a reviling accusation against them before the Lord.

But these, like natural brute beasts made to be caught and destroyed, speak evil of the things they do not understand, and will utterly perish in their own corruption, and will receive the wages of unrighteousness, as those who count it pleasure to carouse in the daytime. They are spots and blemishes, carousing in their own deceptions while they feast with you,

having eyes full of adultery and that cannot cease from sin, enticing unstable souls. They have a heart trained in covetous practices, and are accursed children. They have forsaken the right way and gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Beor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness;

When you see the video, married men, full of lust. They can’t keep their hands off of other women. In one instance, one man working for Hillsong, had eyes of adultery and cannot cease from sin, enticed a young woman that was unstable. How was she unstable when she was trapped behind a locked door?

An immoral man knows who to look for. Women that do not have their wits about them. Not every woman is like this. The women in this report didn’t appear to be unstable. Stable women can see that they’re being targeted and will NEVER put themselves in a vulnerable position.

but he was rebuked for his iniquity: a dumb donkey speaking with a man’s voice restrained the madness of the prophet. These are wells without water, clouds carried by a tempest, for whom is reserved the blackness of darkness forever.

For when they speak great swelling words of emptiness, they allure through the lusts of the flesh, through lewdness, the ones who have actually escaped from those who live in error. While they promise them liberty, they themselves are slaves of corruption; for by whom a person is overcome, by him also he is brought into bondage.

Did you see the doctrine in use? “You’re free.” “While they promise them liberty.”

And through this doctrine, many are deceived. Just as Peter said, they’re slaves of corruption to bring others into bondage.

For if, after they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the knowledge of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, they are again entangled in them and overcome, the latter end is worse for them than the beginning. For it would have been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than having known it, to turn from the holy commandment delivered to them.

People come out of one mess of sin and then end up in another. Not only those that were sadly targeted and abused, but the ones that promise to never be caught in bondage again, only to return to bondage to commit more corruption and sexual sins.

But it has happened to them according to the true proverb: “A dog returns to his own vomit,” and, “a sow, having washed, to her wallowing in the mire.”

Peter, by the Holy Spirit, accurately describes the condition of ANY house of worship that sing great songs and preach strange doctrines, and then in private, commit secret sexual sins.

It was hard to watch 60 Minutes Australia’s report on Hillsong Australia and New York.

There’s two sides to every story, but this story was compelling. But just because something is “compelling” (Christie B Ford/Kavanaugh), it’s doesn’t make it true. Even a compelling lie sounds true until fully examined and the truth emerges.

The leader of Hillsong, Australia, Brian Houston, has been charged with child sex abuse.

The leader of Hillsong New York, Carl Lentz, committed adultery.

So far, the end result isn’t repentance from dead works but perversion.

Years ago, the Lord told me that it wouldn’t be the last. And He’s been true to His word because immoral men and women are around.

I’m convinced that sexual immorality is the “high place” of satan’s dwelling.

Why?

in 2008, there were 298 million Internet porn sites. Today, there’s well over 302 million Internet porn sites and growing.

So between 2008 and 2021, 4 million NEW porn sites, or more, have been added to the World Wide Web in the United States.

Now Brian Houston was charged and if the charges are frivolous, then whoever falsely charged him, are liars, bearing false witness.

While there may be a good possibility that Brian never watched porn, it would be slanderous to conclude an assumption that porn fueled his alleged habits of child sexual abuse.

However, there’s a good chance that Carl Lentz and Brian Houston may have been watchers of porn, whether in the past, or current. Usually, they lead to fulfilling their sexual immoral fantasies. They move from fantasy to reality. Or perhaps they were involved in both.

Should Brian Houston be found guilty, God gave him space to repent and they refused.

You can see the report from 60 Minutes Austrailia here

Pornography In Public School Libraries

Your child is given an assignment by the teacher and to complete the assignment, your child goes to the school library. But a book catches the child’s attention. At first it looks innocent because there’s children on the cover, but inside the book is sexually explicit content.

By deliberate intent, your child has been exposed to the high place of demonic activity.

Sexual immorality.

Once these images are placed in the brain, the child’s inquisitiveness takes over.

Few children will tell their parents what they’ve seen because of the embarrassment, but it doesn’t matter. The images are evil seeds, planted within them, only to become a harvest for later.

It’s bad enough that we have a problem with SOME parents that see no harm but SOME of these parents are sexually immoral themselves.

The continued indoctrination should be alarming to most parents. When children become the target, all bets are off the table. To the devil and his children, children are NOT off limits. Children are the most vulnerable because they’re very impressionable. In this day and age, when something is seen, it takes less than a nano second for any image to do its damage.

Pornography, even in a world gone crazy over Covid, is, no doubt, affecting adults. With nothing to do, and with no work, pornography and masturbation is the place where most men and women go to access the dopamine in the brain to feel good.

But now, with the fear mongering of the media and pharmaceuticals, we see that it doesn’t stop sexual immorality.

For centuries, pedophilia has been the perversion of men and women. But the grooming process is in places where we thought were off limits to children.

Homosexuals can’t reproduce because scientifically (believe the science), men cannot reproduce. It takes a biological woman to be inseminated and after the course of time, give birth.

Even homosexuals admit that they have to go the surrogacy route in order to have children.

So indoctrination is happening several ways but there’s two primary ways.

Male and male or female and female in the home, under the guise of wanting a “family“, or in public schools.

Good parents will attend community school board meetings to demand answers and to demand the removal of all sexually explicit material. If they’re not removed, then the child gets pulled out of that school. Home schooling is a challenge because the parent has to remain home and become unable to work.

So what is a parent to do?

If you love your child, no sacrifice is off the table. The war against the child is ongoing and if a parent is to spare the child of the ungodly wicked world of sexual immorality, a good parent will lay everything on the line to protect the child.

If the parent does nothing to protect the child, then the parent is complicit with the rulers of the darkness of this world. A parent must never give in or give up.

The moment that the parent gives in or gives up, it’s game over.

Giving In To Your Sexual Struggles?

Galatians 5:16-21 (NKJV)

“I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.“

Notice what Paul by the Holy Spirit shared about these things. In particular, adultery, fornication (porn), uncleanness (extravagant immorality-escort), lewdness (unbridled shameless lust).

Sexual immorality always takes you further than you’re willing to go. To levels never imagined. If we give into to one level of sexual immorality, we find ourselves going further, and further.

But every lustful desire have a genesis. It starts out with perceived innocence and then leads you into places of no shame.

Sexual struggles is common in many believers. The urges and impulses within the flesh and the desire of the mind to be sexually satisfied. We call it a struggle but what is it. It’s only a struggle IF we’re found fighting against it for a season and when the mind is convinced that it will give us unspeakable pleasure, the struggle ends.

Look at what Paul said.

“The flesh lusts (wars/is hostile) against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh.”

It’s a constant battle and either one must win. And yes, the man that willingly desires to fulfill the lusts of the flesh and mind will succeed against the Holy Spirit. The Spirit of God is battling with your mind and is bringing every one of His resources to get you to see that you’re heading to violate the covenant relationship with the Lord.

Sin violates the covenant relationship and it breaks your fellowship with God.

When you’re convinced that a moment of pleasure is worth it, the Holy Spirit didn’t accept defeat. Here’s why?

Unless God requires your soul, He will return and give you 1 John chapter 1 and chapter 2:1-6.

The Holy Spirit wants to teach you how to gain victory over sin so you struggle with sin no more.

The struggle happens even after you have learned how to escape when the Holy Spirit teaches you. but you’ve learned to quickly respond to the Holy Spirit, as opposed to ignoring Him.

1 Corinthians 10:12-13 is very clear.

“Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.”

In order to give in to sexual struggles, you have to convince yourself that the benefits outweigh the risks.

But what is the true risk?

Falling into sin. You see, Romans 6:23 is the payment.

“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

When we believe we could get away with it, we’re not thinking about the wages. That’s how the pleasures of sin blind our minds. We give in because we’ve convinced ourselves that our salvation sealed us in such a way, that we practice unrighteousness with impunity.

We guarantee that while a person sins, there’s a 100% certainty that everyone looks over their shoulder.

Can you say with 100% certainty, that you got away with it? That God will not bring a charge against you? That’s God will “wink” at it?

The 10 Commandments is the “knowledge of sin.”

The only way to get 100% certainty is trusting in the shed blood of Jesus and your repentance.

But there’s also the willingness to depart from iniquity. Not continue to participate in it after repentance from dead works and faith towards God. Then living a sanctified life for the rest of your days.

What makes a Christian a Christian?

A clear departure from sin. But you can’t do this on your own, according to Ephesians 2:8-10 and Titus 3:5.

The absolute truth that you’ve been born again is a clear departure from sin, and obedience to the commandments of Jesus according to Matthew 7:21-29 and James 1:22-27.

In 1 John 3, we see that believers need to walk in this.

1 John 3:4-9 (NKJV)

“Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness. And you know that He was manifested to take away our sins, and in Him there is no sin. Whoever abides in Him does not sin. Whoever sins has neither seen Him nor known Him.

Little children, let no one deceive you. He who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous. He who sins is of the devil, for the devil has sinned from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that He might destroy the works of the devil.

Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God.“

When we see difficult passages like this that require more of us, it’s because we allow our struggles to talk us out of obedience to difficult passages that require more of us.

We easily surrender to the impossibility of this passage. But how come we say regularly that “with God all things are possible,” but we put a disclaimer on 1 John 3?

Is it possible to be born of GOD, and not sin?

Look at Proverbs 4:23 and 1 John 5:18-19.

The problem is what we allow and meditate on. We never focus on what the Lord requires of us that would cost us.

The other side is that we focus too much on our ability to produce without the help of the Lord. We do it with our own strength and power and in moments of weakness, we give in to our struggles.

Jesus said in John 15:5, “….without Me you can do nothing.”

The Holy Spirit gives us the grace that we need to run to the Savior and to His Word to overcome and have victory over our minds and flesh.

Self discipline is the ability of the believer to rely on the help of the Holy Spirit to control the flesh and mind.

Galatians 5:22-26 (NKJV)

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.”

1 Corinthians 9:27 (NKJV)

“But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”

When we work together with the Holy Spirit, the Lord will show us what we need to look for, listen to the Holy Spirit’s warning, and obey the Holy Spirit every time. When we choose to listen to the Holy Spirit every time, it’s possible not to sin.

But you have to be willing to listen to the Holy Spirit EVERY TIME.

The Secret Life Of Sexual Sins

Romans 2:16 (NKJV) “… in the day when God will judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ, according to my gospel.”

We all assume that our secrets are safe. That no one will find out what we’ve done in secret. It’s in the hidden places that we find safety and security. That no one really knows who we are and what we’ve done.

The false sense of security that many professed believers have is that if we sin, we could quickly ask the Lord for forgiveness and it’s like we’ve achieved a free pass to cross into darkness, and then cross back into getting right with God in less than a second.

But if we really look at it, we’re abusing the grace of God.

What is it like before God?

Before the Lord, it looks like we could slap Him in the face and not get slapped back. We plea the blood of Jesus before His judgment gets a good head of steam to smack us.

Paul mentioned this about those that take communion.

1 Corinthians 11:27-32 (NKJV)

“Therefore whoever eats this bread or drinks this cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner will be guilty of the body and blood of the Lord. But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of the bread and drink of the cup.

For he who eats and drinks in an unworthy manner eats and drinks judgment to himself, not discerning the Lord’s body. For this reason many are weak and sick among you, and many sleep.

For if we would judge ourselves, we would not be judged. But when we are judged, we are chastened by the Lord, that we may not be condemned with the world.”

How many times have I taken communion in an unworthy manner?

Thousands of times.

I remember the instruction of the Lord that was given to the man healed at the pool of Bethesda. The Lord Jesus instructed him, “Go, and sin no more, lest a worse thing come upon you.”

Is it possible to sin no more?

Absolutely. We can stop sinning anytime we want. Well, look at it like this. To sin, you have to stop being righteous.

Porn and self gratification, commonly called masturbation is a stronghold that need to be completely demolished.

Many people struggle with porn and masturbation because it’s an intense pleasure with instant gratification without involving yourself with a person. But look carefully at what the Lord Jesus said about the thoughts of adultery in the hearts of people.

Matthew 5:27-28 (NKJV)

Matthew 15:18-20 (NKJV)

You see, what the heart does is that we look to do things in secret and then it manifests outwardly.

Remember what James 1:14-15 (NKJV) says?

“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”

The place where we can’t see is where desire and enticement is conceived. It then takes us to the next level. It gives birth to sin. And deep inside, where it’s not seen, death takes place. A severance from life. But even worse.

The trap door of departure of this life. Go back to communion. One of the things that Paul said is that those that take communion. “Fall asleep.” This is the physical judgment of a sin not crucified or brought to the place of mortification.

Our secret lives will be brought out by Jesus and judged.

At the time of committing the sin, we’re not concerned about the Lord Jesus judging us. We’re concerned about fulfilling the desires of the flesh and mind. The pleasure it brings. But it’s a false pleasure. What we’ve done is that we’ve suppressed any sense of judgment because we’re looking forward to that pleasure of secret sexual sin.

But this happens all of the time.

After the climax, a sense of guilt hits us like a ton of bricks.

It’s our conscience informing us that we’ve sinned. No one escapes the conscience because the Lord placed this in us to let us know that we’ve sinned against Him. Just because you ignore it or even suppress it, doesn’t mean that it won’t tell on you.

1 John 3:20-22 (NKJV)

“For if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart, and knows all things. Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God. And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we keep His commandments and do those things that are pleasing in His sight.”

“If our heart condemns us” is your conscience. The word science means knowledge.

Look at the etymological origin of the word.

“Middle English (also in the sense ‘inner thoughts or knowledge’): via Old French from Latin conscientia, from conscient- ‘being privy to’, from the verb conscire, from con- ‘with’ + scire ‘know’.”

So con (with) science (knowledge).

God placed this in you because you are with knowledge about right and wrong. As soon as you do something, your conscience will let you know whether it’s right or wrong.

So with porn and masturbation, you can argue to pursue it with some of the best arguments in the world, but your conscience will not agree with an argument that is wrong. Why? Because God created you with a conscience. Even if you didn’t know the Scriptures, the conscience will immediately inform you of what’s right or wrong.

Now Romans 3:20 we see that “…by the law is the knowledge of sin.”

But you already know that lying is wrong. You already know that murder is wrong. You already know that stealing is wrong. You already know that when you look at a man or woman with lust in your heart, it is wrong. You already know that when you’re hostile towards your father and mother, you’re wrong. You already know that when you’re on the witness stand and you bear false witness, you’re wrong. You know that when you use the name of the Lord in vain, you’re wrong. You already know that when you want what a person has and you’re willing to do anything wrong to take it, it’s wrong.

So it is with porn and masturbation.

The only reason why people watch porn is to pretend to have sex with that person or persons, to release sexual tension through masturbation.

You’re struggling with this because it’s so much apart of your life that everything revolves around it.

Everything suffers in order for you to achieve the pleasure with a false sense of impunity. You don’t think it will harm anyone because you’re doing it in secret to release sexual tension. But deep within you, your conscience is telling you that you’re wrong.

“Beloved, if our heart does not condemn us, we have confidence toward God.“

Could you honestly say that you have complete 100% confidence towards God?

To masturbate, you don’t need an image of another person. All you need is the ability to pretend to have sex.

2 Timothy 3:4-5 (NKJV)

“…lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power.”

The world of fantasy is the world of being selfish.

It takes a complete willingness to do without this pleasure.

The Lord Jesus gives the solution. Radical amputation. Plucking out the eye(s), cutting off the hand(s) (see Matthew 5:29-30 and Hebrews 12:4). What are we willing to do to stop sinning sexually? To what lengths are we willing to avoid being cast into hell, soul and body?

When you have reached this place, porn and masturbation becomes a thing of the past because you don’t want to harbor secrets that the Lord will judge us for. We don’t want to assume that we’re saved and be found in hell because we were in sin all of the time.

Those that have a form of godliness are pretenders. Masquerading around as believers when all the time, we faked our way. Fooling others but never fooling the Lord.

Pretending ended for me when the Lord showed me the trap door. At anytime, I could have slipped through into hell because I loved sinning sexual sins in secret. Pretending to ask God for forgiveness but returning to sin again.

My request for forgiveness was a figment of my imagination. Pretending to be godly, but it was without power.

The trap door would have opened, I would have descended into hell, and I would have deserved it.

“The soul that sins it shall die.”

God doesn’t lie and He is deadly serious.

Sin & The Father’s Business

As Jesus was a young man, a few years before He reached the age of 30, Joseph and Mary took Jesus to Jerusalem for the Feast. After the feast concluded, Jesus remained in the Temple with the scholars and scribes asking questions and also giving profound answers to difficult aspects about the Law.

Joseph and Mary determined that Jesus was missing and searched. Then they went back to Jerusalem.

They found Jesus in the Temple and no doubt wondered why Jesus had done what He did.

His profound answer.

“Can’t you see that I must be about My Father’s business.”

Mary kept this in her heart. Regarding Mary, she probably went back in time to remember what the angel Gabriel said.

For us in the NT, what would the business of the Father be to us?

The book of Matthew is the answer.

Matthew 28:18-20

“All power has been given to Me in heaven and in earth. Go and make disciples of all nations. Baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Teaching them to observe all things I commanded you, and lo, I am with you, even to the end of the ages.”

This is the business of the Father. Make disciples and teaching them to observe all things He commanded them.

Evangelizing is a big part of the Father’s business but notice also that we are to teach them to observe all things that Jesus commanded His disciples. Therefore, Biblical discipleship is just as important so true disciples bring forth good fruit.

The entire NT is what Jesus wants us to observe because Jesus is the Word of God as stated in John 1:1.

Does this include the OT?

Absolutely because in the 4 gospels, we see Jesus refer to the Law, the Psalms, and the Prophets.

That’s why we have 66 Books. 39 Old, 27 New.

The Bible is the Book we must choose to live by because Jesus said, “Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of God.”

What separates the false believers from the true believers is in how well we live by the Word of God.

James 1:22 tells us, “But be doers of the word and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.”

Many professed believers just hear the Word but never do the Word.

The number one reason why some carnal believers struggle with doing the things the Lord Jesus commanded is because of a love for sin our lives.

The Lord Jesus said in Matthew 7:21, “Not everyone that says to Me ‘Lord Lord’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven. In that day they shall say to Me, ‘Have we not prophesied in your Name, cast out devils in your Name, and did many wonders in Your Name. Then I will say to them ‘Depart from Me, you that practice lawlessness.”

Doing the Father’s business is not doing works in His name to get saved, or to appease some godless feeling while practicing lawlessness. When it comes to living a carnal life, it’s about being so self deceived that we indulge in sin and righteousness at the same time.

2 Corinthians 6:14-16 (NKJV)

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?

And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God.”

Carnal believers want to participate in both worlds and this can’t be. The world and being in Christ is not the Father’s business.

My life wanted to indulge in sexual immorality and righteousness at the same time, but it’s inconsistent and incompatible with true Biblical Christian living.

I couldn’t be clean and dirty at the same time.

I had to be one or the other. Then I had to look at what was getting into my life that would start the process of searching for sin.

Then get “clean enough” to preach to sinners and true believers.

Then start the habit, pattern, and cycle all over again.

The parable of the sower is a locator. It will tell you where you’re standing with God.

Those on the wayside are the ones that hear the Word and the devil comes immediately and takes the seed.

Those on stony ground are the ones that hear the Word, receive the Word with joy, and the Word doesn’t penetrate, it has no root, and they stay with the Word for a little while, then temptation comes, and they fall away.

Then there’s the ones on thorny ground that are choking the Word with cares, riches, and pleasures of this life, and become unfruitful.

Then there’s those that are on good ground that hear the Word, and receive the Word, and produce fruit. Some thirty, sixty, and a hundredfold with patience and persecution.

This parable will reveal where you are and who you represent.

Are you tares among wheat? Are you false among the true? Are you serious or are you playing? Genuine or fake. True or false. Real or a hypocrite?

This reveals whether you’re about your Heavenly Father’s business, or the devil’s business.

At any time before the casket closes, you can transition from the pretender to the actual true believer, observing all things the Lord commanded.

IF you’re playing, you’re one decision away from making the greatest decision of your life.

To be a true believer.

The Lord Jesus told the man that He healed at the pool of Bethesda and the woman caught in adultery in John chapter 5, and 8.

“Sin no more. Lest a worst thing come upon you.”

“Neither do I condemn you. Go. And sin no more.”

Do Christians sin? Make no mistake about it. But it brings into question whether you’ve been born of God. Because 1 John 3:9 said “Whoever is born of God cannot sin.”

In 1 John 2:1-6 (NKJV) “My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world.

Now by this we know that we know Him, if we keep His commandments. He who says, “I know Him,” and does not keep His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him. By this we know that we are in Him. He who says he abides in Him ought himself also to walk just as He walked.”

What are signs of the abuse of this Scripture?

When you deliberately intend to sin against God, knowing full well that sin is lawlessness.

The practice of lawlessness is the lifestyle of a sinner. Are we allowed to indulge in what we used to practice?

2 Corinthians 5:17 says, “Therefore if any man be in Christ he is a new creature, old things are passed away, behold, all things become new.”

Romans 6:1-2 says, “Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not! How shall we that are dead to sin live any longer in it?”

In other words, you’ve reached a point in your relationship with the Lord that you want to please Him more than yourself. Paul said in Ephesians 4:27, “…give no place to the devil.”

This means that 1 John 3:8 is a reality.

“For this purpose the Son of God was manifest that He destroy the works of the devil.”

It’s when we’ve learned that sin only leads to one place. Death.

If we believe that the Word is the absolute Word of God and is final authority, we employ everything to fight the very thing that God hates. Sin.

We do what Hebrews 12:4 says. “You have not resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”

What does this mean?

What RADICAL THING (“radical amputation”), are you willing to do to stop yourself from sinning? Please do not commit suicide. That’s self murder.

You have not cut the part of you that commits sin, to stop sinning.

This ties in with Matthew 5:27-30.

This isn’t accomplished without God’s grace, and you can’t do it alone. The work of grace helps you to “abstain from all forms of evil.“

Cutting off the TV, discontinuing subscriptions like HBO, Showtime, Netflix, Directv Playboy Hustler Channels, Sex Chat Rooms on FB, Instagram, or other social media entry points. What radical thing are you willing to do to abstain from all forms of evil?

Ephesians 2:8-10 (NKJV) “For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.”

We’re saved by grace through faith. Doing the Father’s business or His works comes as a result of being born again, not to get born again.

The Holy Spirit will give you help to escape the temptation (see 1 Corinthians 10:13).

And when you enter trials and testings, count it all joy (see James 1:2-7), and go to the throne of grace to obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need (see Hebrews 4:16).

Every believer struggles in their flesh to subdue the passions, sinful desires, and cravings of sexual wickedness. However, if we play with this, one day, we’ll give an account of it before the Lord.

When the fear of the Lord is absent, it’s very easy to sin, but sin always comes with a penalty.

“Everyone is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires, and enticed. And when lust is conceived, it brings forth sin, and sin when it is finished, brings forth death.”

Raphael Warnock: FALSE PASTOR OF THE YEAR AWARD.

For standing against the Lord and the Bible, the award goes to………drum roll………Raphael Warnock, 2020 false pastor of the year.

It’s clear that many that stand in pulpits today have betrayed the Lord. We all get on Peter for denying the Lord during His trial before the leaders of Israel, but the Lord prayed for Peter that his faith fails not.

Peter stood out because he was an aggressive disciple of the Lord. Peter walked on water for a little while. Declared that Jesus is the Son of the living God, with the help of the Father, and was a part of the inner circle with John and his brother James, the sons of thunder.

After the resurrection of Jesus, Peter was a main figure. James was beheaded, John stuck around and gave us 5 books, the gospel, 3 general epistles, and the book of the Revelation of Jesus Christ. Peter wrote 2.

Even after the betrayal of Jesus, Peter did exactly what the Lord prayed for. “And when you are converted, strengthen your brothers.” Peter warned about false teachers and prophets in 2 Peter chapter 2.

What’s in the making of false prophets and teachers?

First, some of them are not called of the Lord and entered the ministry through the back door. It turns out to be a vocation to appease the desire to change the social conditions surrounding them. To make a difference in society.

They get goose bumps and attend schools, gain a reputation, and then after a few breaks, doors opens for them. Just because you can talk, and have a great personality, it doesn’t mean that God called you.

Then there’s these false teachers and prophets that were saved, called by God, go through some ministerial training, get the breaks, and then they break away from the Lord, and end up where they are today.

On the “junk heap of ministry.”

After a while, they get discouraged, start listening or watching other strange preachers and they start believing their own mouths. They exalt themselves. They promote themselves, and next thing you know, they get on stage and people are mesmerized by their ability to connect to people.

Then some of them get suggestions.

You need to run for political office.

It sinks in. But in politics, you have to compromise. You can’t bring this Jesus you preach with you. Jesus must be left at the door. That Bible too.

They begin to change their message in the pulpit. It gets political in tone. Even to the point of betraying their Lord and the Bible.

And the people in the pews don’t know any better.

That’s why they’re called sheep.

Sheep don’t lead. Sheep are led.

You would expect that mature sheep would at least sound the alarm that the shepherd had a mental illness and had gone crazy.

Not in Ebenezer Baptist Church.

Their pastor is about to be “famous.”

The stage is set.

For Warnock, he’s the very kind of person the world wants.

The God of all creation, and the Bible is only a secondary or last resort. Or no resort at all.

The title of Reverend Dr., is only a get into the door with respect card.

A pastor must abandon Jesus and His Word to be accepted. Once you’ve shown that you’re willing to gain the whole world, you MUST lose your own soul.

False teachers and prophets have a pattern. They get into a complete rejection of the truth for personal expediency. Not realizing that death ends all pursuits. Fearless of death, they accept their assignment to infect many humans.

That sin doesn’t carry a penalty. If there’s no penalty, then with impunity, sin is committed. This is a false sense of security.

Ecclesiastes 8:11-13

“Because the sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil. Though a sinner does evil a hundred times, and his days are prolonged, yet I surely know that it will be well with those who fear God, who fear before Him. But it will not be well with the wicked; nor will he prolong his days, which are as a shadow, because he does not fear before God.”

Some of you are already thinking. “Why are you picking on this dude?”

No matter what, people will say that you’re doing this to “smear” him.

To smear a person means that you’re bringing false accusations to make a person look bad.

His own record isn’t a smear, nor is it false accusation.

His own record tells the story. The only thing that’s happening is that his own record is uncovered for all to see.

Warnock agrees with Jeremiah Wright. Fact. Not a false accusation.

Warnock said that his belief about abortion doesn’t conflict with his ministry. Fact. Not a false accusation.

Warnock agrees with “sexual orientation theory.” Fact. Not a false accusation.

These three indisputable things disqualifies him as a “reverend dr.” Because when you preach the Bible, you’re acknowledging that God is the Lord and what HE says is His commands.

You have every right to call it a political smear campaign if you believe that this is what you think it is.

But when you’re on the record, it can’t be called a smear campaign.

It’s called a truth campaign.

You can’t stop people from doing what they do, but when you’re called to sound the alarm, we have no choice but to sound the alarm.

Once the alarm is sounded, you either run, or you stay and get destroyed.

Proverbs 27:12

“A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself;
The simple pass on and are punished.”

Is Warnock beyond help? Peter wasn’t. Even Judas could have said to himself, “I can’t do this.” But Judas betrayed Jesus anyway. Peter recovered. Remember also that the Lord hardened Pharaoh’s heart. And Pharaoh perished.

Even as Peter wrote in 2 Peter 2, that false teachers and prophets were made to be caught. As with many that even in the face of truth, will not turn from the wicked ways.

Understanding The Habits And Behaviors Of Porn Watchers

The recent and current laptop scandal of our times uncovered pornography on the hard drive of a specific laptop.

Proverbs 27:20 (NKJV Strong’s)

“Hell and Destruction are never full;
So the eyes of man are never satisfied.”

Proverbs 27:20 (AMPC)

“Sheol (the place of the dead) and Abaddon (the place of destruction) are never satisfied; so [the lust of] the eyes of man is never satisfied.”

When I was in the deep dark world of pornography, males have many habits and behaviors that are perverted.

When it comes to flesh on the screen, it’s more than objectifying the body.

It’s idolatry.

Exodus 20:14-17 (NKJV Strong’s)

“You shall not commit adultery.
“You shall not steal.
“You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.”

Colossians 3:5 (NKJV Strong’s)

“Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.”

Covetousness, which is idolatry.

An idol is something that is WORSHIPPED.

So when a male watches porn, it’s idolatry.

In sex acts, you are worshipping their bodies, but in all actuality, you’re worshipping demons.

Several years ago, part of my ritual was to copy on video what I’ve paid for on PPV. There was no need to go to the smut store.

You were able to capture the idol on tape to refer to it later to masturbate off of.

You’re essentially replaying an act of worship.

In my previous blog, I’ve shared how I was caught in the world of pornography.

In this blog, this is the way that male capture an image because the mind tends to forget the image and need a way to recapture what aroused them. Multiple images would come on my laptop for free, but I had a little sense not to store them on the hard drive.

But your computer signature is imprinted on every site you’ve visited, and that signature remains forever. Even after you’ve destroyed the hard drive and the laptop, you can still be traced to those sites.

My greatest fear came up that with all of these adult sites would appear on my laptop, what if a child porn site appeared? I wasn’t into child porn but what if you clicked on that site by ACCIDENT?

There’s over 150,000 child porn sites. It’s very easy for the FBI to trace who’s watching these sites. Even if you clicked it by ACCIDENT, they will investigate. SO just imagine Hunter Biden and other men and women clicking these sites deliberately or BY ACCIDENT.

You would have to prove that you didn’t do it by accident. Yes, the prosecution has the burden of proof and the defendant has the presumption of innocence, but when your name is attached to sexual crimes, the damage is already done.

Now, a man is able to download, chat room, live stream, and other means of performing sexual immorality, not just on the laptop, but on any device.

How does a person solve the problem of downloading porn on any device?

Matthew 5:27-30 (NKJV Strong’s)

If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.“

One man of God called it “radical amputation.”

No matter what hotel room he went to, he demanded that the TV be removed. Why? Because the Lord trained him to remove the temptation.

But laptops and other devices are a very different thing. These devices are critical devices for some men. But if you could discipline yourself then it could be done.

Now, I didn’t say for you to go to the kitchen and get a real knife.

If your laptop is an impediment, perhaps you need ways to implement safeguards of accountability.

Giving your wife the passcode to your laptop and cell phone. Daily investigations to see where you’ve been. But sadly, temptations are still everywhere.

Women still dress provocatively and in most places they may be dressing normal, but the mind drifts. Women can’t be and should never be blamed for everything. Some women however, are deliberate provocateurs, but you have to catch yourself and not allow yourself to fall into temptation.

The laptop is a very necessary tool. But we need to be accountability. Someone that can ask the tough questions every day.

Very few have the inner discipline to abstain from porn.

In Galatians 5:22 we see that the fruit of the Spirit is “self discipline.”

It takes a willingness to keep yourself. But it may require additional accountability measures to help you keep yourself.

If you’re willing to take the next step, it will be tough, but it can be done.

Pastor. How Did YOU Get Into Porn?

Matthew 5:27-30 (NKJV Strong’s)

If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

Matthew 6:22-23 (NKJV Strong’s)

James 1:14-15 (NKJV Strong’s)

“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”

Romans 6:12-13 (NKJV Strong’s)

“Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.”

I want to start off with these Scriptures because it’s there that you will find that if I had exercised discretion, I wouldn’t have to explain this sin in my life.

In my book Secret Sexual Sins, in the intro part, I’ve shared my introduction to pornography. But I won’t get into that.

What I want to get into is the resurgence of porn.

I was already inflamed with sexual immorality with the imaginations of my heart and fulfilling them in self gratification, commonly called masturbation.

When lust controls you, the fruit of the Spirit called “self control” wasn’t matured in me. As a young teenager, everyone experiences puberty and when these sexual aspects become aroused in you, all you need is accelerants and the rest is history.

As a born again believer, with these hormones raging “youthful lusts” were well underway. I was shy and an introvert so approaching girls wasn’t my thing. I was able to bridal this until marriage.

But most boys do explore sexuality.

Fast forward to 1996. While watching Directv, I noticed channels that provided PPV. I vowed never to explore those channels. It worked for a season until 1996.

In 1994, we’ve restarted our work in the ministry. After serving under my pastor, it was time to resume my pursuit of planting a local church. In following my pastor, we would attend ministerial conferences. These conferences fed us information to solidify the ministry.

We would buy books and tapes. I came across a tape for music ministers.

So to help our team to be proficient in our praise and worship in our local church, I had passed a tape to our music minister. Our music minister promptly returned the tape to me. On my job, I had a way to watch videos and I wanted to watch the video again. It was that powerful.

But my music minister called me on my cell phone and warned me not to look at the video.

Instantly, my interest aroused because he never tipped me off to what happened. Evidently, he put the wrong tape in the sleeve. I removed the video and played it.

It was soft porn.

I won’t elaborate the difference between soft and hard core porn.

But it would be there that my Secret Sexual Sins would reemerge and be established.

From 1996 to 2008, I would be a regular visitor on Directv at home.

On the job, when laptops became affordable, I would engage in viewing pornography. So much so that finally it got to the point where it affected my wife and she noticed a significant change in our relationship.

What was I supposed to do?

First, I never should have looked at the tape. Second, I should have given it back to the music minister and ask him what was on it. Third, if he refused to inform me what was on the tape, to let him go (relieve him of his duties).

I didn’t do any of the above. I swept it under the rug.

The music minister never should have been blamed for MY DECISION to watch the tape.

Decisions Determines Destiny.

He can’t be blamed for the lusts that was in my heart. And even if he were in possession of porn, I would not have known if he had put the right tape in the right sleeve. It would have remained a secret.

And perhaps, it may have never been known.

But this is a major problem in the houses of worship that we sweep these things under the rug and God isn’t pleased. We hide what we do in secret and destroy our lives. We play church in the presence of God in hypocrisy.

One of the last major messages of the Lord Jesus before He was crucified was Matthew 23 where He preached on hypocrisy. It was a stinging message to spiritual leadership.

What we do in secret is what we offer before the Lord when we worship Him in service.

It would be one day in November 2008 that when my wife drove to go to the store. We were in a brand new house that the Lord gave us. It was a miracle that the Lord gave us.

As soon as she left, I turned on porn. Right there, the Lord spoke to me and said, “Is this how you treat Me after all the good I’ve done for you?”

It would be then that the Lord called me out.

As I was watching CNN before it became a bad network, there would be a pastor in Texas that was interviewed about his involvement in porn. He confessed his sin on international TV and I was compelled to tell my story.

Instead of the Lord exposing my sin, I put my sin out there during a Sunday morning service.

Without getting into details about who was involved and what was done, I passed out a newsletter to all of the men.

And I gave a copy to my music minister. The one that gave me the tape by accident.

A leader in my church was in the middle of adultery while he was a deacon. Sexual immorality was heavily ingrained in the house of worship.

But it wasn’t just a male thing. Women in other houses of worship were involved in other areas but not on the level of the men.

This area of sexual immorality is connected to abortion and when you start dealing with abortion, you’re addressing the sexual issues of women in how you consent to sex but also consent to the murder of a baby to cover the shame of the sin.

If you take away the man made legal but immoral by God, sin of abortion, you’re hitting the third rail.

Adultery and fornication is the fuel for abortion.

Women will cover their sexual sins just as men do.

When contraceptives aren’t used, whether by force or choice, should a woman choose to go full term, it’s a chance to entrap a man to monetarily support her.

This is all happening in SOME of our houses of worship.

So when we deal with porn, there’s a serious underworld in the houses of worship, that if we fail to address it, we’re a night club, and not the holy house of God that we’re supposed to be.

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