There’s many professed believers, even in matrimony, that believe that oral sex is no big deal.
In this report from FOX News, even in monogamous relationships, you could acquire the Human papillomavirus (HPV) disease.
Which further emphasizes the fact that STDs is there for a reason.
Many will defend oral sex and that’s expected.
Sadly, to their own peril, but at least you know that you could have avoided it if you’ve exercised sexual discipline.
Whether you’ve watched porn, then introduce what you’ve seen into your bedroom, we should never sin against the Lord and against our own bodies in the fulfillment of the lusts of the flesh and mind.
Many will argue that what goes on in the bedroom is your business.
But when the Lord institutes STD as consequential judgment against sin, God was already in your bedroom judging your sin.
A man walked across the street while I was waiting at the light with a shirt that said….
ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME
I said, yup, He sure will judge you.
Shirts like this is just a spin on Matthew 7:1.
When a person is convicted of sin and attempts to make arguments to continue in sin, shirts like these is a clear attitude of deliberate intent to defy God and His Word.
For the record, there is no specific verse in the Bible that declared that oral sex is forbidden. There is no specific verse that declared that masturbation is forbidden.
The other argument is that if the Bible is silent on these areas, we should be silent too.
On the contrary, just because the Bible is silent, it doesn’t give you permission.
Because there is no specific verse giving you permission to engage.
God put within us the ability to discern right from wrong.
When we’re asking questions to obtain permission, it is a search to justify sin where the Bible is silent. The Bible’s silence demand you come to the conclusion that you do not have permission, and therefore, you do not have God’s authorization.
PLUS……since STDs are associated with oral sex, or sexual immorality as a whole, it is further evidence that it’s prohibited.
If we were smart, we would see that STDs are only associated with lawless sexual acts and do everything in our power, as true believers in the Lord to be obedient and abstain from the very “appearance of evil.”
In normal sexual relationships, within holy matrimony, you are practicing safe sex. Besides, if you truly love your wife or husband, you would never introduce things of the world to do harm to them.
But, like I said, people will disagree.
The reason for such disagreement is that they’re experiencing a world of pleasure that they’re unwilling to give up. And that, in and of itself, is a bondage which hurts you in the long run.
If I am legally married, will oral sex send me to hell?
Absolutely not, unless you’re presently engaged in fornication, adultery, homosexuality, bisexuality, zoophilia, and other forms of sexual immorality, those sins are hell bound sins.
SO if oral sex in a monogamous faithful husband and wife relationship will not send me to hell, then why bring this up in the first place?
We see that STDs is connected to oral sex.
IF you want the HPV disease that is associated with oral sex, by all means, continue to engage in the act. It’s a matter of time before the results manifest. Just trying to get people to see that there’s certain things that could be avoided. It’s a clear warning to you.
Now if you want to ignore this warning, then it’s on you. You were aware of the risks and decided to continue in this behavior.
Proverbs 14:18 says……“The simple inherit folly, but the prudent are crowned with knowledge.”
Proverbs 22:3 says…….“A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”
Oh, btw, this HPV disease isn’t one of those things that flare up until perhaps months or years after acquisition. That is, if you continue to engage in oral sex, the possibility of it flaring up is inevitable.
All the more incentive to abstain from this behavior that opened the door to the disease in the first place.
Psalm 107:17 says, “Fools! Because of your transgressions and because of your iniquities are afflicted.”
You do not have to be afflicted.
Meaning……you are a fool when you open yourself to sin and reap its rewards.
The FOX News report could be read here
You meet a hot looking single in church. She is just too sexy to resist. You ask her out for a date. But in the back of your mind, it will be more than a date. In her mind, it’s what she planned all along. To capture a male that’s been eyeing you for a little while. She accepts your proposal and you take her out to dinner.
As planned, you then go to your house.
One thing leads to another.
You end up in bed.
In most cases these days, skip dinner and just go straight to bed.
Premarital sex is a “so what” kind of thing these days.
Maintaining your virginity is no longer sacred to many professed believers.
Growing up as a young Christian, the challenges of sexuality were all around me.
Yes, I was even propositioned by a homosexual music minister in a Baptist church.
In school, peer pressure to look to have sex abounded and I would be teased for being a “virgin.”
That didn’t stop me from sexual experimentation or indulging in masturbation. Even while courting, the temptation was there to have sex but I would let off the sexual tension through masturbation.
Yes, I am being truthful about this because almost every young boy upon reaching puberty will experiment sexually. By the time most men are married, they will either have had sex with a girl or boy, both sexes, or with themselves, or all of the above.
In any case, males will have had some sexual experience before they are married.
Single women will more than likely marry a sexually experienced male. Even if he is a virgin, if he has masturbated, he is sexually active with himself. And the same could be said of women that are virgins that are sexually active with themselves.
As I read a Christian Post three part article on premarital sex in the church, I was startled by the number of single Christians engaging in fornication.
Most Christians or professed single believers cross the line more often than we thought.
According to this article, 11% of professed single believers abstain from fornication.
This means that in the approximately 320,000 American Christian churches, 89% of single professed believers engaged in fornication.
According to several educated Christian counselors and Christian sex therapists, as soon as they took note of the power of the Internet, they knew that a storm of epic proportions would be underway and would overwhelm the church.
Today, the winds of perversion are blowing away the people that once stood for righteousness, holiness, and this is a clear indication of where America is not headed, but is already there.
The bed of fornication.
In Revelation chapters 17 and 18, though it is symbolic, we must never forget that any Scripture that is symbolic is a revelation of actuality. Just take a look at the conditions of this world and the condition of the church and you will see that what is revealed in the Book of Revelation is a true depiction of today’s conditions.
This is not to say that we are in the tribulation period, but we are rapidly progressing towards it. I am well aware that there is much disagreement about the dispensation that we are in but put aside the differences and see the reality before your eyes that we are in the bed of fornication and that we are drinking from the wine of her fornication.
2 Timothy 3:1-9 from the Message Bible says this about the last days.
“Don’t be naive. There are difficult times ahead. As the end approaches, people are going to be self–absorbed, money–hungry, self–promoting, stuck–up, profane, contemptuous of parents, crude, coarse, dog–eat–dog, unbending, slanderers, impulsively wild, savage, cynical, treacherous, ruthless, bloated windbags, addicted to lust, and allergic to God.
They’ll make a show of religion, but behind the scenes they’re animals. Stay clear of these people. These are the kind of people who smooth–talk themselves into the homes of unstable and needy women and take advantage of them; women who, depressed by their sinfulness, take up with every new religious fad that calls itself “truth.”
They get exploited every time and never really learn. These men are like those old Egyptian frauds Jannes and Jambres, who challenged Moses. They were rejects from the faith, twisted in their thinking, defying truth itself. But nothing will come of these latest impostors. Everyone will see through them, just as people saw through that Egyptian hoax.”
The world is drunk with the wine of fornication.
This statistic above is a clear indication of the world’s perversion that has undeniably infiltrated the church and almost engulfing every known place where righteousness was thought to be lived and preached.
You see, it’s not just the pinnacle of sexual immorality called homosexuality that is a clear and present danger to the church. It is all forms of sexual immorality. What went under the radar is the ship and aircrafts of fornication and adultery. As you have noticed, we’ve spoken out against the winds of homosexuality, and rightfully so. But we have failed to rein in the tsunami of fornication. And when you look at the definition of fornication, the Greek word for fornication in some places in the NT is “pornea.”
Pornography is graphic illegal sex between two unmarried persons. This includes adultery. And yes, married couples foolishly engage in video taping their sex.
Because the pastors are engaged in porn and masturbation, we have very little, to nothing to stand on to curb this trend unless we repent before we are exposed by God. Some of us pastors are just as drunk with the wine of fornication as the world.
However, the Lord is plenteous in mercy and full of compassion. Slow to wrath and anger. When we turn from our wicked ways, He will abundantly pardon us and cleanse us with the precious blood of Jesus. His wrath will turn and His mercy will overwhelm us. Provided that we repent.
While watching Pastor Keith Moore ministering under a strong anointing. He used to teach at Rhema Bible Training Center in Tulsa OK under the late Dr. Kenneth Hagin and pastors a church in Branson MO, and Sarasota FL.
He shared about repentance.
A lost message these days.
He said that the worst place for anyone to be in is in a refusal to repent.
He said that the problem is not with God forgiving us. The problem is with people that refuse to repent. He shared that God will give us space to repent. But when you deliberately refuse to repent to continue in sin, the only thing left is the judgment of God. Paul shared that if we would judge ourselves we would not be judged so we would not be condemned with the world (see 1 Corinthians 11:31).
While it is never good to sin, we must never reach a place in our lives where we refuse to repent. The moment we deliberately refuse to repent, there is no hope. Judgment must fall. It doesn’t have to fall upon you. At any time before death, we can turn from fornication and live victorious lives in Jesus.
Here is the link to the articles found in the Christian Post.
As people praise and worship the Lord, the people are brought into the presence of God. But a lady walks in from the back, dressed in a hot dark blue, fitting dress. Most eyes are on the Lord but a few men can’t help but notice her.
As a pastor preaches his message, a young married lady wears something inappropriate. Every now and then, the pastor can’t help but notice her cleavage.
After service, a pastor tracks down a woman to make arrangements to meet.
Not for counseling……but for sex.
Has the church become a place where the dress of a harlot is acceptable? Has the house of worship become a den of sexual immorality when men actively hunt for women for sex?
It takes two to tango.
Sexual wear of women is done for one purpose.
To attract male attention.
With homosexuality heavily in holy and unholy the houses of worship, it’s not surprising to see women attract other women, or males attracting other males, or both.
Even when male pastors exhibit oratorical power in the pulpit, it is used as attraction.
Preach well, and you will have all eyes on you.
Powerful words to move people into an emotional frenzy is enough to lure unsuspecting emotional women into the bedroom.
But when a woman comes to church looking like they are going to the club, you know that something is going on. To be noticed is her goal.
Especially if the target is the pastor.
Notice what Proverbs 7:6-11 says….
“For at the window of my house
I looked through my lattice,
And saw among the simple,
I perceived among the youths,
A young man devoid of understanding,
Passing along the street near her corner;
And he took the path to her house
In the twilight, in the evening,
In the black and dark night.
And there a woman met him,
With the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.
She was loud and rebellious,
Her feet would not stay at home.”
Notice that the youthful man that is “devoid of understanding,” “took the path to her house.”
Just imaging a young man or a middle aged single or married man is smitten in their heart when a woman comes to church dressed like a harlot. Instead of keeping their minds on the Lord, they sneak a peek to check her out.
Somehow they find a way to “hook up.”
Now everyone will say that the woman shouldn’t be blamed, it’s the man’s fault for lusting after her to begin with.
First, blame is to be applied on both sides.
When a woman intend to dress a certain way that really is not holy, it tips the scale against a man.
Proverbs 27:20 says…..Hell and destruction are never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”
A man must control his heart, mind, eyes, and hands.
At the same time, a woman must control the way she dresses. If what she is wearing is too “dangerous” it must be placed in the closet or exchanged for something more modest. If it is “dangerous” at all, it must not be worn.
The fashion styles of today may not reflect modesty, but ask the Lord if He likes what you are wearing to His house of worship.
In many of our cities, there are spots that are havens for prostitutes. On the magazine stands are scantily clad women. If a man is not careful, these things easily fills the mind of a man to pursue “strange flesh.”
The counter balance of the purpose of these immoral women pasted on magazines is to teach women what is attractive to a man and she will dress appropriately.
After the service is over, a man that lacks understanding will take a path to her house.
Notice the time that this takes place.
“In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night.”
This is indicative of the male’s evil heart.
So there are two things that can happen in the house of worship.
The heart of a harlot and their dress, and the lust in the heart of a man that will pursue strange flesh.
The Lord Jesus said in Matthew 15:18-20a….“But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man.
For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. These are the things which defile a man….”
So the heart of the man is the seat of lust in his heart. Before he touches a woman, he is already defiled in his heart because of the evil thoughts of adultery and fornication.
In Matthew 5:27-30, Jesus said…..“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery. ’But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
And then the Lord gives the remedy called “radical removal.”
If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.
And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”
Hebrews 12:4 says…..”You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”
In other words, you did not get to the place of shedding your own blood to stop yourself from sinning.
Now do not go and pull your eye out or get a knife and cut off your hand.
What are you willing to do to cut yourself off from the things that you see everyday that triggers the lusts in your flesh?
Are you willing to close your Directv subscription to avoid the Playboy, Hustler, and other Adult Channels? Are you willing to give your wife the passcode to your laptop, inspect your cell phone, have a friend that you confide with ask you tough questions that demand truthful and honest answers?
Are you willing to ask your wife to stay with you or come with you will you go overseas or around the country to preach? Are you willing to have the TV removed from the hotel room to avoid the Adult Channels?
There are triggers that enliven lust in the heart of a man.
What a man sets before his eyes is the tale of the tape.
Psalm 101:3 says….“I will set nothing wicked before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; It shall not cling to me. A perverse heart shall depart from me; I will not know wickedness.”
The Lord Jesus said in Matthew 6:22-23….“The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light.
But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!”
What a man watches determines whether he has light or darkness in him. What we set before us reveals the light or darkness in our hearts. When an immoral woman passively hunts, her dark heart is already revealed.
The eyes is connected to the heart. So when a man with lustful intent look at a woman, the mind goes into a ritual stage. The mind begins to plan out how to acquire strange flesh.
Paul said in Romans 13:12-14….“The night is far spent, the day is at hand. Therefore let us cast off the works of darkness, and let us put on the armor of light.
Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”
The ritual to fulfill illicit sexual pleasure is man and woman making “provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”
The passive hunting for a man is part of the process.
This is the perversion of the natural laws of attraction that bring single males and single females together according to God’s design so that they would do the right thing. Get married and enjoy each other’s lives legally.
James 1:14-15 says…..“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”
One of the keys to understanding the crafty heart of an immoral woman is that they are loud and rebellious. They cannot be told anything. They talk over you to overpower you. The combination of her wardrobe and loud mouth can persuade a weak hearted lust filled man.
She controls everything.
It’s the strong hearted man that resists her every move.
What must be done to stop the madness in the house of worship?
We must preach and live holy. We must identify the sexually immoral woman when they come through the door. Not to turn them away, unless they fail to listen, but to minister to them where they are hurting.
Brothers need to turn to the Lord. If they are married, if they are having situations in the home, help them to deal with it and restore their relationship before they entertain crossing lines that they said they wouldn’t cross.
There is a high price for Secret Sexual Sins.
The judgment of the Lord. Both consequential judgment on earth, and eternal judgment.
Together, we can stop the madness of prostitution and harlotry in the house of worship.
By Fred C. Rochester, Pastor. Copyright 2011. All Rights Reserved.
Attraction of the opposite sex. Compatibility. Relationship, Romance, Marriage. Kissing. Necking. Petting. Fondling. Intercourse. Orgasm!
Yes! Yes! YES! AND OH YES!!!
Then comes children, child rearing, and the cycle of life starts all over again.
The seemingly insatiable desire for more sex between married Christian couples.
These are the common words associated with sex. Don’t blush because you see this everyday on satellite, DVDs, cable, or the Internet. But only of the sexually immoral kind. Like Adultery, fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, and bestiality. Very few of us ever wonder if Christians that are married have enjoyable, meaningful, red hot sex. The answer depends on who you ask.
Now that the economy and measurable STDs are forcing couples to reconsider severing relationships, we still see that marriage between a male and female is God’s best plan for the safest sex. One thing is clear, many people, Christians and pastors or ministers, engage in unsafe sexual immorality almost on equal footing as the world.
The reasons range from a mistress such as work, business, or other non sexual activities to an actual affair with a body.
My late Aunt once told me that sex is enjoyable for unmarried couples too, or words to that affect. As a young preacher, I was taken aback by her statement. She didn’t care that God’s ordained plan for safe sex is within the confines of marriage.
Most professed born again believers desire sex. We are human. It is a natural God given desire. However, the best way to enjoy sex is in a monogamous relationship between two distinctly opposite and sexually compatible individuals that love each other. Disagree if you wish but the penalty is still there to remind you of what God originally intended.
Contrary to many beliefs and current trends of thinking, sex is a very much in demand subject but least talked about in the Christian church. Sometimes the only time that sex is talked about is when sexual immorality takes place. We hear nothing but the negative.
There must be a presentation of a balanced approach if the church is to stem the tide of sexual immorality in the church. The objective of consequential judgment is to remind us of what the Holy Lord said in His Word.
Hebrews 13:4 says,
“Marriage is honorable among all and the bed undefiled (unsoiled); but adulterers and fornicators (porn) God will judge.”
As long as you are married, your sex romps is according to God’s original intent and the bed is free of human defecation or contamination. Sin contaminates the bed like having sex in a bed full of human feces. I know gross and graphic but how else could God’s word describe adultery and fornication?
There is a positive side to great sex within the confines of holy matrimony. We must remember that before we were Christians, we were sinners in the world. When we accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior, our sexuality came with us. The only thing that should have happened is that the perversion of sex should have ceased.
UNDERSTANDING THE LORD’S RULES
The first instance of NT teaching along these lines came from the Lord Jesus. In actuality, the NT started when Pentecost came. Nonetheless, Jesus came with a word that startled many men.
In Matthew 5:27, the Lord Jesus sat on the mount and talked about…sex.
Well, sex of an adulterous nature.
We must understand that whoever creates any thing has a right to make up the rules.
Just like certain games. Whoever created the game must create the rules so that the game could be played correctly. When there is a violation of the rules in the game, there must be a penalty or a reset to start the game over. That’s the games of this world. But when it comes to life’s rules, the stakes are much higher. The penalties are stiffer. And in most cases, irreversible.
What man has decided to do is change the rules apart from the Creator expressed in the Word of God.
The Word of God is the rule of law.
When we violate the Word of God, we are subject to its penalty and consequences.
“In the beginning God created…”
Our names cannot be found anywhere in Genesis chapter one so that excludes and exempts us from changing the rules.
We are powerless to create.
We are only allowed or empowered to procreate or REPRODUCE.
God created man from the dust. We do not have that power to take dust and make a human. When you have figured out a way to take dust and create a container and then blow into man the breath of life to become a living soul, please let us know.
God produced male and female. Male and female are to reproduce more males and females.
To do this, man must have sex. However, before he could have sex, he must have a wife.
THE SEXUAL CIRCUITRY OF MEN
There are many distractions that inhibit both the husband and the wife from sexual performance.
Jobs, kids, timing, emotions, financial security, and energy.
These are some of the obstacles that couples face everyday. According to Dr. William M. Struthers, who wrote the book, “Wired For Intimacy,” men are “wired for sex.” While this is a book about how pornography affects the brain, it is a clear indication that men, on sight and thought, can get his engines ready and revved up for sex.
The circuitry or influence of sexual behavior is different for both male and female. The problem for married couples is making the necessary adjustments and mutual compromises to make sex enjoyable. Sex could be work but under the right circumstances and situations, sex could be taken to places that would make a marriage last for life.
There are many people, inside and outside the church that shut down the kind of sex that would keep marriages from falling apart. Married women are inhibited and sometimes insecure of their bodies. This can definitely put a strain on the kind of sex she would love to give her husband.
The idea is not to make changes that a person is not comfortable or capable of making unless the desire is there. In making changes, an opposite effect could take place as well. What kind of reaction will other men have when your wife comes in after making certain changes?
We all know what men fantasize about. Men are sight wired and thought wired.
Proverbs 27:20 says,
“Hell and destruction are never full; so the eyes of man are never satisfied.”
The eyes of man is always in search for beauty to stimulate his mind. Just because a man’s eyes are never satisfied does it mean that he has permission to seek other women in an attempt to satisfy something that could never be satisfied.
When a man gets married, he picked the one woman that he wants to look at for the rest of his life. Married man, your eyes cannot google and your mouth cannot dribble at another woman. Once you are married, no other woman is to be desirable for you. No other woman is more beautiful. The search switch must be turned off after the marriage is solemnized and consummated in the bedroom.
As devastating it is to a woman you are engaged to, during that “feeling out” not “shacking up” process, you can break off the engagement. Reneging on the promise to marry is a very hurtful and coldblooded way to get out of a relationship unless you’ve observed something in yourself that reveal that you are not ready to take on the responsibility of relationship. Cold feet is also just a man getting scared of the fact that his commitment to a wife prohibits extramarital sins.
Once he is married, he can no longer play the field. To do so would risk and compromise his health for the rest of his life.
This is the most difficult part for man because other women that aren’t married are always in passive search mode. So unmarried and even some married women will wear things that range from provocative to conservative to attract the attention of a man.
In some cases, they’ll attract the roving eyes of a married man.
It is left to the man to enforce the discipline of his eyes during marriage on one woman only. His wife. No matter how desirable another woman may be.
Job 31:1 says,
“I have made a covenant with my eyes; why then should I look upon young woman?”
Job was married and the sin of sight adultery never entered his mind. His statement was a statement of fact that sexually looking and lusting after a young woman was not the door for calamity to enter his life. Not too many men, including me, could say that.
THE SEXUAL CIRCUITRY OF WOMEN
Now the opposite of a wired man is a wired woman. The circuitry for her is clearly different. We know that in the fantasy of women, it’s the romance. It’s all about how she feels about herself that makes her feel attracted to her husband. Her sexuality is tied to her emotions and the way she feels about herself. She must be coaxed or gradually persuaded to engage in sex.
Coaxed or persuaded not in the abusive sense.
It’s all about treating her right.
She has to feel secure, safe, loved, connected, affirmed, and esteemed for her real value.
While she is also sight minded in the sense that she sees something in a man that she feels attracted to, the attraction is partly about how will that man treat her. When a woman has many things going on in the mind or within her emotions, the way she feels determines whether or not she will sexually engage with her husband.
The bedroom value increases exponentially when these things are firmly established. Brothers, great sex will always come when you value her for who she is and not only what she could do in the bedroom. Hot, steamy sex for married couples is achievable when a man does the right thing with her wife.
Telling her truthfully honest and meaningful things in a loving way will start her engine.
Dis-arming your wife with kindness will help her unwind.
When you are uptight and she is uptight, it only leads to no romps. When you take the time to resolve the issue and hear her out, when she believes in her heart that you have “connected” with her, the physical connection will happen.
She wants to know that you understand her for her.
If her mind isn’t resting or rested but preoccupied with the events of her life, she must be given time to resolve these issues.
Men love beauty.
That’s what a man desires. But outer beauty is only an introduction to the inner beauty of his queen. Therefore, inner beauty makes the outer beauty that much more enticing. That’s what intimacy is about. A husband wants to get into his wife but the true door to her is her heart.
The external is just the introduction.
The natural expression of sex is the culmination of what you have found deep inside her heart.
Her love for you.
When she knows that her heart has been penetrated, a natural penetration takes place.
When orgasm takes place, oh my!
In Ephesians 5:32, Paul said that, “This is a profound mystery.”
When a man treats his wife the way Christ treats the church, my goodness.
The marriage bedroom of a man and his wife can be too hot to handle. And there would be no shame.
So yes, Christians can have steamy, hot sex. It’s all a matter of understanding how to appreciate and esteem each other in ways that lead to a series of hot bedroom romps that the world wish they could have.
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