When you go to church, take a good look around you. You could be sitting next to an adulterer, an adulteress, a fornicator, a homosexual or sodomite, a lesbian, a bisexual, a transgender person. You could be sitting next to a person that watched porn and masturbated last night and came to church. On the outside, it looks like they are all right. But deep inside a struggle ensues. The battle rages within their minds and bodies.
Walking sexual time bombs. The chain gang of sexual bondage.
The church is to be a place where sinners come to be saved. Where sin is abandoned for freedom in Christ. Where sinners come to receive the power of God and be saved from a life of sin. The church is supposed to be a place where people come to get help.
That’s what the church is supposed to be about.
It doesn’t help when people are turned away because of a lack of sensitivity to their situation. On the other hand, sensitivity must never come with permission to remain in sin. The compassion of the Lord works to help people be free from sin, not to continue in sin as if God approved.
Watching people turn their lives over to the Lord is what the church is supposed to be about. To never let sin dominate them.
Sadly, in many of our churches today, many are walking into the church, they sing in our choirs, play instruments, preach, and assume other leadership roles while practicing sin.
Coming in and leaving the same way they came.
I find that to be in church requires that something in me changes to reflect that I am truly born again, that I would never be the same. We are finding that people come in and leave the same way.
Still bound in sin instead of gaining freedom and victory over their darkest secrets.
Perhaps they want to use the church to justify their sin.
More often, we are finding that people that come to church are not seeking to justify sin. We are finding that people are not just using church activity to give them a sense of God’s acceptance. It’s like taking a bath after you’ve sinned a sexual sin, looking for cleansing. Or you go into a cleansing fit, cleaning up the house.
We go to church to have a “cleansing fit.”
But we really never learn to overcome.
Hence, Paul’s statement in Ephesians 4:20,
“You have not so learned Christ.”
I know what this is like from the time of my grossly habitual hypocrisy in self gratification, commonly called masturbation and porn. You’ve sinned against the Lord and against your own body, and your conscience lets you know about it. The Holy Spirit within you is grieved or saddened.
Many days that after I’ve sexually gratified myself, that I felt hopeless. Wondering if I would ever be free. In many people that live in sexual bondage, the LGBT argument resounds. And even I, in what was my bondage, said the same thing.
” I am bound to this and it will never stop. So stop denying who you are sexually and accept it. It’s the way you were created by God, so give yourself to it. You know you need this. Stop trying to stop who you are and accept it. You will never change, just accept it!”
You look every where to get cleansed.
Cleaning something in the house.
Anything to escape the guilt that follows after sin is committed.
We even invoke 1 John 1:9.
Many of us have wore that verse of Scripture out. The blessing about that verse is that it cannot be wore out. It could be abused to appease the guilty feeling on the inside but that is remorse.
The difference with remorse is that you are only sorry that you got caught and that you are trying everything possible to reduce the shame associated with the guilt of sin.
That’s why repentance commands us to turn, not keep turning from sin and then return to sin again. That’s revolving door appeasement. I used to call it revolving door repentance but true repentance understands how to turn away forever from the very thing Jesus died for.
True repentance is establishing one fact.
That one turns from sin because God was offended and that you do not ever want to hurt God again.
This is where many believers caught in Secret Sexual Sins are.
The urges and impulses of our flesh and mind gets the best of us when we are not meditating on the Word day and night. As soon as we are exposed to something by the Internet, the newspaper, the activities on the street, our minds shifts from righteousness to unrighteousness.
Almost like clockwork, at the flip of a switch, we aggressively pursue sexual satisfaction.
Have you ever been to the place where you were thinking about the Lord and His Word. All of a sudden your are provoked by sexuality in women. I don’t know what SSA is in experience. But the struggle with SSA (same sex attraction) in men and with women in the church is there.
If you are not disciplined, you do what you have to do to answer the sexual satisfaction call of the flesh and the mind.
You “got off” and all of a sudden, as you are sitting on the edge of your bed, you cry tears of bondage. You’ve sinned again after you promised the Lord that you would never let Him down again.
You are plunged into utter despair, helplessness, and hopelessness.
So we see churches struggling to address the issue of sex, homosexuality, and bisexuality.
Sex is supposed to be a beautify act of physically love between one man and one woman in holy matrimony according to the precedent set by the Lord God in Genesis 2:24. A beautiful thing has been perverted and the depravity of men is now the new pursuit of the 21st Century.
This is not a psychological or mental situation.
Sin is a spiritual issue that requires a spiritual remedy.
Anytime a person tells you that there is more to it than sin being a spiritual issue, they must remember that sin is the cause of all things that happened badly in the world. The fall of Adam triggered a massive defection away from God.
Sin is responsible for death. Death is separation from life. So when we sin against God, we are cutting ourself off from God (see James 1:12-15).
Therefore, to assume any another explanation is avoiding the issue.
Listen to what Paul said in Ephesians 4:17-19,
“This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.”
Notice what Paul said, “given themselves over to lewdness…”
To give yourself over to something is a direct defection from discipline. In other words, you lose self control and you do everything in your power to achieve an objective.
Look at the word “over.”
When you give yourselves “over,” this is the Greek word “paradidomi,” and it means “to surrender, or yield up.”
And this is what every person that is struggling with Secret Sexual Sins face every moment of the day.
The struggle to keep yourself from sinning sexually, to give yourself over to “aselgeia.”
That’s the Greek word used to describe “unbridled lust, excess, outrageousness, lasciviousness, wantonness, shamelessness, insolence.”
You are coming to church to get it right but you haven’t found a way. You return the way you came.
Is there a way of escape? Is God going to help me? Will I ever find peace and satisfaction that God promised? Or am I forever lost to my urges and impulses?
The answer, when LGBT, Sodomites, Adulterers, Fornicators, And Bisexuals In Church; Getting Help (Part Two) comes.
Weddings is not about the groom. It’s all about the Bride. What is the bride wearing? She looks beautiful. No one really pays that much attention to the groom except when the vows are exchanged when he pledges his loyalty, faithfulness or fidelity, honor, commitment, and most of all, his love to his bride.
One of the most misunderstood and less read books of the Bible is the Song of Solomon.
When the scholars were compiling canon Scripture, some of them had a difficult time with understanding the purpose of the book because of it’s somewhat detailed exposure of a man’s true love for a woman.
Even now, people rarely read it because you do not expect to blush from reading about a story of true love, fidelity, and sensual desire, and discussions of sexual body parts in the Bible.
Not in the Bible?
The scholars (44 of them) saw that the same connotations were similar to the way the Lord loves His church. But it underscores the fact that God created male and female to be married and enjoy sex in an unadulterated, undefiled way, absent of perversion that becomes an abomination to God.
Genesis 2:25 says that both Adam and Eve were naked and they were not ashamed.
It was only when sin came about that shame was introduced. So much so that the exposure of their bodies demanded that they cover up, hence, the reason why we wear clothes to this very day.
When the difference between right a wrong is fully realized, that’s when the decisions we make will take us down paths of righteousness or unrighteousness.
Thank God that the Lord, in the Song of Solomon emphatically underscored His original intent of courtship, love, marriage, and “straight” sex by placing the Song of Solomon in the Bible. You will never see a book in the Bible as vivid about courtship, discipline in courtship, strength and beauty, love and marriage.
That’s where porn and erotica novels come up short.
Porn and erotic novels misunderstand true love.
Don’t misunderstand me because there are some (very few) writers that capture the true essence of romance but to place it in porn and erotica, the world is not that interested. The sex act is more interesting according to the world.
For the billions of men (in 24 hours, 2.1 billion) that do watch porn, they hate the story lines. I know because when I was trapped in the sin of porn and self gratification, commonly called masturbation, I cared less about the story line.
Just get to the sex.
Women want to be involved in the things that lead to the sex for connection purposes. The sex is engaging but not as intriguing as the communication that leads to connection, that leads to sex. In some cases, most women (1 in 6 women) that do watch porn agree that the story lines are very corny.
I am not condoning porn.
I’ve been free of that sin since November 2008 and I’m not going back because of the “Seamless Fabric” connections to human trafficking, organized and disorganized crime, drugs, kidnapping, adult rape, child rape and molestation, the final frontier-child porn (over 100,000 child porn sites and rising), sinful threesomes, that include lesbianism and homosexuality, etc.
The Song of Solomon is a book suited for women but men could learn the etiquette of relationships, communication, dating, courtship, discipline, and love that must remain the center piece of a marital relationship after a couple becomes husband and wife.
And you will never see adultery, fornication, bisexuality, homosexuals and lesbians engaged in perverted sex in Song of Solomon either.
Solomon loved many women and it became the epitaph of his reign as the 3rd king of Israel.
In the end, Solomon failed God miserably but God still used Solomon’s poetic wisdom (like his father, in psalmist fashion) to let man know that your natural instincts is to admire, correctly court, and marry a woman, not a man. At the same time, we see the woman’s natural instinctive desire for a real man. These are natural instincts placed in male and female by God.
The fall into sin opened the door for these instincts to be perverted.
Never will you see in the Song of Solomon such perversion that leads to abomination.
With this being said. In part two, I used a Scripture in Ephesians 5:26-27 that depicts the current state of the church.
Paul begins to describe the comparison between the relationship between the husband and wife as that of Christ and the church. Then in verse 26, Paul goes spiritual. The Lord is the Head of the church and He loves the church that He shed His sinless blood for.
Notice what Jesus does. He sanctifies and cleanses her (the church), how? “…with the washing of water by the word.”
If the church wasn’t dirty, there would be no need for washing.
There is no question that the current condition of the church is filthy.
As a note, do not let the word “might” throw you off.
In the Greek, “sanctify” is the word you want to concentrate on.
You best to believe that He will sanctify and cleanse His church. However, people in the church must want to be sanctified and cleansed. For this to happen, a believer must come to the place to receive the cleansing power found only in the correct application of the Word of God.
If a believer doesn’t want to be cleansed then they remain dirty. And we all know that stained garments are not allowed in heaven. Sin stains the garment. To get the stain out, you need the cleansing power of the Word of God.
Here’s how it’s done. Notice these Scriptures.
Psalm 119:9-11 says,
“How can a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed according to Your word. With my whole heart I have sought You; Oh, let me not wander from Your commandments! Your word I have hidden in my heart, that I might not sin against You.”
2 Corinthians 7:1 says,
“Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.”
2 Timothy 2:19-22 says,
“Nevertheless the solid foundation of God stands, having this seal: “The Lord knows those who are His,” and, “Let everyone who names the name of Christ depart from iniquity.” But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and silver, but also of wood and clay, some for honor and some for dishonor. Therefore if anyone cleanses himself from the latter, he will be a vessel for honor, sanctified and useful for the Master, prepared for every good work. Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”
1 John 1:9 says,
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
(UNDERLINE ARE MINE)
The other cleansing “agent,” if you will, is the blood of Jesus.
Hebrews 9:14 says,
“…how much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered Himself without spot to God, cleanse your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?“
So if you are not cleansed, you cannot serve the living God.
The key to true cleansing is that after you have been cleansed, you no longer have a need for sin.
This is accomplished in Proverbs 28:13 that says,
“He who covers his sins will not prosper, but whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.”
You may be confessing that you’ve sinned, but when you sin again, you haven’t walked away from sin forever. You see, confessing sin is not for the purpose of returning to sin again. Confessing that you’ve sinned is the first step. The next step is to walk away from that sin forever.
True cleansing is evidenced in the fact that you no longer are held under the power of sin. Jesus freed us from the authority of the law of sin and death. We no longer are under the authority of sin and death because that law was superseded by the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus (see Romans 8:1-2).
So when we are in Christ we now have power to walk away from that which no longer has power over our lives.
The Hebrew Word for “forsake” is “azab” and it means to “…loosen- relinquish.
Brown’s Driver-Brigg’s Hebrew Lexicon says, “to depart, leave behind, to let alone, abandon.”
That’s the true essence of sanctification and cleansing; “to depart, leave behind, to let alone, abandon” sin.
So the “washing of water by the word” is the preparation necessary so Jesus could come again and receive us to Himself (see John 14:1-3) and to “present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.”
Now fast forward to the book of Revelation chapter 21.
John, the apostle of the Lamb saw, by the Spirit of God, the holy city called New Jerusalem coming down out of heaven from God, “…prepared as a bride adorn for her husband…”
Go further down into verse 9 and you will find these words…
“Come, I will show you the bride, the Lamb’s wife.”
As a note, the harmony of the Scriptures is powerful.
Take the time to compare Revelation 22:12-13 and Ezekiel 48:30-35.
When the wicked are judged and are cast into the lake of fire, the wedding ceremony will take place.
These powerful symbols in the 21 chapter of the book of Revelation indicates that only the true Bride of Christ will participate in the ceremony.
The goal of perversion and abomination is to attempt to undo or at the very least pervert God’s symbol of marriage because marriage represents the final act of God bringing the church to Himself.
Many homosexuals and lesbians think that this is not the case and that this doesn’t amount to anything. That all they want is just to be left alone to be married and be recognized as a legitimate “couple.”
But little do they realize that devil is using their preference for the sin of homosexuality and lesbianism to drag them to the pit of eternal separation from the presence of the Lord after they die.
What difference does it make?
It makes a big difference when you have to spend eternity away from God.
This gay marriage thing is more than just manifesting perversion on the earth.
It is an attempt to pervert the church so that it never becomes what God destined it to be.
A clean, holy, righteous church.
No earthly bride will wear a soiled gown. All brides look to be decked out.
Clean, Pure, White.
The true church must be so.
That’s why the devil fights the church so much. That’s why gay rights proponents fight so much because in sin there can be no purity. They are trying so desperately to clean sin up so that they look like the Bride of Christ but they can’t unless they are cleansed from sin by the blood of the Lamb.
They cannot enter into heaven to bum-rush heaven. Knowing that they can’t, they are trying to bogart marriage, hijack marriage, take marriage from the church because they want to legitimize homosexual sin. They want to be a part of the party. They want to be accepted. They want a seat at the table with a soiled gown.
And LGBTQ and all sympathetic people involved in the sin of adultery, fornication (porn), bisexuality, homosexuality, and lesbianism will never be cleansed on it’s own unless they Come Clean by coming out of that which God declared as an abomination.
They must be born again according to John 3:3. Otherwise, Jesus will declare to them that He never knew them (see Matthew 7:21-25).
Revelation 21:8 says,
“But the cowardly, unbeliever, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death,”
Unless they forsake homosexuality and lesbianism which is perversion that leads to abomination.
That’s why homosexuals and lesbians want marriage rights.
It is their own sinful version of the bride.
Here comes the soiled bride, not dressed in white.
Except that there is no husband to accept a bride soiled, unclean, and looking disheveled in sin.
Homosexuals and lesbians want to have sin while dressed in white.
When people willfully remain in opposition to the will of God and the truth is told, they feel hated, rejected, and feel worthless and hopeless but it doesn’t have to be this way. By your own choice, you’ve accepted sin, but by your choice, before you die, you can choose life in Christ.
You can choose freedom, and deliverance. God is not mad at you. God is not angry at you. God is angry that you have accepted the lie as the truth and He is doing everything in His power to help you understand the truth. If you love sin and try to bring sin in, it cannot happen.
That’s where you will either part ways or give up the life of sin.
It’s all up to you.
Therefore, marriage between one man and one woman is a symbol of Christ and the church, and Scripturally represents the Bride of Christ’s triumphant moment where the Lamb comes and receives her.
From Genesis 2:21-25 to Ephesians 5:25-33 to Revelation 21.