Seducing A Pastor; Pastor Seducing A Woman – Sound The Alarm

imagesThe reason why seduction takes place on both sides is because of lust according to Ephesians 5:8-14 and 1 John 2:15-17.

However, we see that the people of God see it coming and they are afraid to sound the alarm.

If you want the Head of the Church to remove the candlestick (put your light out) and the presence of the Lord is lifted, just say nothing.

If you want the church to be a shell, then go ahead, look the other way, and fail to sound the alarm.

Most churches have already died.

The “body” is attached to a respirator and the machine is pumping the blood, but the life or spirit in the body is already gone.

It’s just a shell.

You see people going into a building, singing the same songs, praying, preaching. But the Holy Spirit that inspires what we do has already departed.

If you see something, say and do something.

There are too many people that are in church that just sit by and say, “I’ll just pray about it.”

No!!!!!!!

I didn’t say not to pray. Yes, pray about it, but tell somebody what you are seeing. More is at stake than you think.

Proverbs 23:26-28 says “My son, give me your heart, and let your eyes observe my ways. For a harlot is a deep pit, and a seductress is a narrow well. She also lies in wait as for a victim, and increases the unfaithful among men.”

One of many definitions of a seductress is that she is an outlandish, strange woman.

When it comes to sex, an immoral woman will take on the spirit of a seductress. It’s just not normal. They become something that they believe in the heart that a man desires. What they wear is a signal that it is strange but sometimes you do not have to wear certain things to signal your intention.

It all begins with attraction.

Attraction is defined as the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something:”

On the other side of the table is the attractiveness of a man evoking great power, charisma, and personality.

Women are attracted to that and so they become like honey and smooth as oil to capture such a man.

Depending on the purpose of attracting this kind of man, the seductive woman will pull no punches until she scores.

The pastor must always be on guard for these traps.

Notice the verse above and you will see that “a harlot is a deep pit.”

She intends to trap you so that you cannot get out. That’s what the “deep pit” signifies.

Notice the New Living Translation.

“A prostitute is a dangerous trap; a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well. She hides and waits like a robber, eager to make more men unfaithful.”

Even the narrow well is designed in the same way. You are wedged and you cannot escape her. Notice the other description. That she is a robber. What is it that she robs? Your fidelity to God, your wife if you are married, and your sanctification, integrity, sanctity to the call of God to be holy, and she robs the fear of God from you.

She is also “eager to make more men unfaithful.”

She is not satisfied that she captured one man. She loves to run up the score so that she proves to herself that she is valuable.

For the pastor, the seductress will operate without any thought. She doesn’t care if you are married or holy. She sets out to accomplish one goal. To pull you away from the Lord. We must remember that seductresses are in league with satan.

“Smite the shepherd and the sheep will scatter” is still in play. The seductress will even gain the confidence of the pastor’s wife so that it is easier to “make contact.” As long as the pastor’s wife doesn’t suspect anything, she will eventually make her move. It takes planning and a lot of cunning. If the wife has children, the seductress will make sure that the children like her too.

Invaluable. Indispensable. Faithful.

She has many ideas to set the trap because it’s all trial and error. The bait that works is the one that kills.

Seduction rarely happens in the instant. It is over time that the seductress will initiate the plan. She is patient and will persevere until she accomplish her goal.

She is a worshipper. She knows her Bible well enough to quote Scripture. She knows how to agree with you. She sometimes says the most and loudest “amens.” 

Some honestly believe that this doesn’t happen. But it does.

Some seductresses are “sleeper cells.”

They awaken at the right moment. Before the pastor could see it coming, it is too late.

The seductress observes the interaction between the pastor and his wife and when they see a riff, they take advantage of a pastor’s weakness and vulnerability. She consoles and becomes the ear of support. The pastor confides in her and she gives him the nurturing that he needs, that she sees that the wife doesn’t give.

For the seductress, sex is a mind game first and then the end game. Intercourse.

Notice what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:16 from the NLT. “And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”

The immoral pastor is a smooth talker. In the same way that a woman uses words, like a snake, he uses the same methods.

In Psalm 55:20-21, the psalmist gives us insight into a man’s words being as smooth as butter. This is when a man makes peace or a covenant with another man but his intentions all along was to make war. You drop your guard and then he pulls out the dagger.

“He has put forth his hands against those who were at peace with him;
He has broken his covenant.
The words of his mouth were smoother than butter,
But war was in his heart;
His words were softer than oil,
Yet they were drawn swords.”

The same thing happens when a man want to have a woman in the church.

He wins her over with great swelling words to deceive her and then he has illegal sex with her. It is just like a dagger. The sad thing is that after the romp, what makes you think that he is going to remain faithful to you?

The pastor was first unfaithful to God.

Then he was unfaithful to his wife.

He uses his charm, charisma, and personality to have you sexually.

If you were really thinking, you would have blown his cover and exposed him. Because it is just a matter of time before he will walk out on you, if he hasn’t done so already.

When it comes to pastoral indiscretion, according to a book called “Betrayal Of Trust,” a pastor is either a predator or a wanderer.

A wanderer is more of a “one night stand” sexually immoral pastor.

Rarely do they divorce their wives and leave their families.

A predator is after many women.

The predator pastor is always looking for an opportunity to prey on more emotionally vulnerable women. Sadly, these emotionally unstable women are easy targets and they fall for the affection, attention, and smoother than butter words.

The only defense against a predator is that the alarm must be sounded. He must be exposed. Just like the seductress, she too, must be exposed. The alarm must be sounded. If you see these things on either side, the alarm must be sounded. Whether they hear it or not, when you see certain things that is not right, an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure.

It may cost you, and they may very well ignore the alarm, but to avoid the appearance of evil, and to spare a wife and family the grief of the most destructive act of betrayal, do not be sorry to sound the alarm.

A Pastor’s Mistress; How To Avoid Being One

imagesSome women lust for men just as much as some men lust for women.

However, it’s deeper than that.

Some women lust for the pastor as much as some pastors lust for women in the house of worship.

In the church, there are many women looking for “love.”

This is code for “sex.”

Many will not own up to it, nor admit it, but this is the bottom line.

Pun intended.

Few women know how to avoid a good looking single or married pastor. Even when the pastor is walking in the Word to maintain his sanctification, there’s some un-sanctified women that will cross the line.

Younger women should learn well from sanctified women of God how to avoid the pitfalls of pastoral sexual immorality with congregants.

I’ve seen it happen to a man of God. A seductress came in and wrecked his home and church. Because of unbridled lust in his heart, he succumbed to an evil woman, and the rest was history.

In almost every generation, we hear of horrid stories of pastoral sexual misconduct but few of us look at the other side.

The mistress covertly comes and goes. Nothing is hardly ever mentioned because sometimes the woman is made out to be the victim. As pure as heaven. However, if you look closely in the Scriptures, you will see that the book of Proverbs uncovers several kinds of wicked women.

Immoral,

seductress,

crafty harlot,

loud and rebellious,

boisterous,

evil/wicked woman,

adulteress,

religious or form of godliness,

whore.

Their house is the staircase to hell, the Bible says. See Proverbs 5:5, 7:27.

Here is some very helpful information in the Word of God to help women avoid this danger that lurks in the flesh.

As in previous blogs, we know that pastors take advantage of emotionally unstable women. However, we must remain focused on this issue because of sin. The Lord Jesus lovingly confronted sexual sins among women when He was at Jacob’s well, when the woman that was caught in adultery was brought to Him, when Jesus cast seven devils out of Mary Magdalene, and another sinful woman that cried tears on the feet of Jesus and she wiped them away with her hair, for her sins were many.

In each instance, it wasn’t condemnation but Jesus was ministering to them to deliver them.

We all know that it’s not just the woman but the men with lust in their hearts.

Part of the mystique of women is their ability to make it seem like it’s not the way it looks.

Hence, the need to “beautify.”

The need for “makeup and false eye lashes and eye brows.”

The need to “nip and tuck.”

The need to “smooth it over.”

The need to “flatten the tummy, push up the cleavage, and firm up the backside.”

These things cover a multitude of faults and sins.

Pastor, this verse is for you.

Proverbs 6:25 “Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.”

Attire of a harlot does happen in church services, every Sunday. Praise and worship, prayer, preaching. It doesn’t matter. There is no fear of God before their eyes. If people were afraid of God, people would not do the things they do. And “saved” folk wouldn’t wear what they wear; like as if they were going to the club.

Proverbs 7:6-10 says “For at the window of my house I looked through my lattice, And saw among the simple, I perceived among the youths, a young man devoid of understanding, passing along the street near her corner; and he took the path to her house In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night. And there a woman met him, with the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.”

The opposite is modest apparel.

1 Peter 3:3-4 says this about wives, but it is also applicable to women in general. “Do not let your adornment be merely outward — arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel — rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”

1 Timothy 2:8-10 says “I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”

Low cleavage body hugging dresses, tight pants, stilettos, sleeveless blouses, above the knee dresses is not “modest apparel.”

These things masks the reality and attracts the dogs in the house of worship.

You could always tell the kind of person they are by their conduct. No matter how pretty they look, their conduct is the reality. Look past the smooth words and you will see the real person emerge. Look past the beauty and you will never be deceived.

If some women would own up to it, the Lord could help them avoid the obvious. With single pastors it’s one thing. But a married pastor is a different story.

The ring on a pastor’s ring finger doesn’t mean much to the passive hunter looking to be a home and church wrecker. The shame is not too great. Let’s get past the shame and focus on what the Word says.

As a born again woman that loves the Lord, it is important that you grow in your love for the only Man that should be King in your heart.

The Lord Jesus Christ.

THE LOVE FOR GOD

In Luke 10:27, Jesus said “So he answered and said, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,’ and ‘your neighbor as yourself.’”

Jesus was quoting from Deuteronomy 6:4-6 that says “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one! You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.”

To abstain from lusting after being the pastor’s mistress, your love for God must be unadulterated.

Listen to what the Lord said about loving the Father.

John 14:15, 21 “If you love Me, keep My commandments.  He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him.”

If you claim to love the Lord, a moment of lust throws your alleged love for God down the drain.

All sin is committed when person no longer loves the Lord. Doesn’t matter if you are saved or not. To cheat on God is the first step to all sin. It means that even though the Lord could satisfy the longing in your heart, you long for that which is forbidden. This is what happened to Eve in the Garden. Adam gave her what the Lord said but she looked for a way to have that which was forbidden.

It was a combination of the desire for power and the desire to have what you were told not to have.

For some women, even though they were told that they cannot have a married man, it isn’t enough. To accomplish the goal of having a married man you must stop loving the Lord.

To reverse this, you must get into the place of prayer and fasting to suppress the mind and body.

Then you must read some Scriptures to help you subdue the flesh.

MAKE NO PROVISIONS FOR THE FLESH

Romans 13:13-14 “Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

ABSTAIN FROM FLESHLY LUSTS

1 Peter 2:11 “Beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul,”

As a note, the word “abstain” means to “hold oneself out.” Or to hold out.

SUBDUE AND DOMINATE YOUR FLESH

1 Corinthians 9:26-27 “Therefore I run thus: not with uncertainty. Thus I fight: not as one who beats the air. But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”

FLEE FORNICATION

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

GUARD YOUR HEART

Proverbs 4:23 (AMP) “Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life.”

GUARD YOUR EYES (WATCHING TV)

Psalm 101:3 (AMP) “I will set no base or wicked thing before my eyes. I hate the work of them who turn aside [from the right path]; it shall not grasp hold of me.”

KEEP YOURSELF

1 John 5:18-19 “We know that whoever is born of God does not sin; but he who has been born of God keeps himself, and the wicked one does not touch him. We know that we are of God, and the whole world lies under the sway of the wicked one.”

WALK IN THE SPIRIT

Galatians 5:16-17 “I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish.”

SANCTIFICATION

1 Thessalonians 4:1-5 “Finally then, brethren, we urge and exhort in the Lord Jesus that you should abound more and more, just as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God; for you know what commandments we gave you through the Lord Jesus.
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God;”

SUBMIT TO GOD & RESIST THE DEVIL

James 4:7-8 “Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” 

 

 

Identifying Harlots That Come To Church – Pastoral Introspection

Pastors? Are you examining your mental and spiritual walk before God? Are you having difficulty in your marriage? If your marriage is fine, are you still lusting for Suzy sitting in the front row of the service? Are you in prayer on a regular daily basis for you and not for sermons? Are you avoiding the easy pitfalls of sight lust? Are you falling for women in the house of prayer instead of falling on your knees in love of and for God? Are you avoiding your accountability partner to have that regular meeting to inspect your heart and mind?

IF any of these questions have bothered you, then it is time for introspection.

Introspection means “the examination or observation of one’s own mental and emotional processes:”

For the women, it’s not always the ones in the red dresses that are the harlots.

I am firmly aware that there are pastors that take advantage of emotionally unstable women, but just because women are vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they have a right to cross the line into sexual sins. Being human is not a good excuse to sin. You just do not throw away God’s righteousness by grace and your personal discipline for immoral sex with any man or woman, let alone, a pastor.

Eternity in hell is too long to think about why you couldn’t discipline yourself.

Note well what Paul said, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”

Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:15-20 “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.

Flee sexual immorality.

Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

Since the Pastor Juan McFarland debacle, it is safe to say that what Pastor Paul Washer said is true.

There are unregenerate people in the pews and the pulpit.

Jude 4 says “For certain men have crept in unnoticed, who long ago were marked out for this condemnation, ungodly men, who turn the grace of our God into lewdness and deny the only Lord God and our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Instead of repenting of sexual sins, sexual sins is permitted. This is lewdness. And while doing so, they deny the Lord God and our Lord Jesus Christ. In other words, they deem their Lordship null and void. Sin is permissible and God is happy with it because that’s who you are. You teach this to the people and they are happy with it too.

These pastors are posing as if they know the Lord but they practice lawlessness.

There are harlots and perverted pastors that say that they love God, claim to even know the Lord, yet, they practice the very sin that Jesus died on the cross for. True conversion takes place when repentance and obedience to the teachings of the commandments of Jesus is employed.

The harlots are in the house of the Lord.

Proverbs 6:26 says, “For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread; and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.”

Strong’s Concordance defines a harlot as “(highly- fed and therefore wanton); to commit adultery (usually of the female, and less often of simple fornication, rarely of involuntary ravishment); figuratively, to commit idolatry.”

In essence, by a prostitute, because the verse above notes, that “a man is reduced to a piece of bread…”

Why?

A foolish man will spend all he has to have sex with a harlot and will only have enough money left to buy a piece of bread.

The older brother of the prodigal son stated plainly that when the younger son went out, he spent his inheritance on prostitutes.

The local churches across the nation has the doors open for the harlots and the pulpits have some perverted pastors.

So it is not all one sided.

They do not represent the church. They represent sinners that never made a deliberate commitment to the Lord. They are servants of the house of satan. When they come to church, their plan is to find a target and trip them up.

Sanctified pastors must quickly identify the harlots. Married pastors must pay attention. Wives of pastors must doubly pay attention. Everything is not as innocent as one thinks. Every subtle, innocent move is designed to get you to drop your guard. Once your guard is down, they will make their move. By the time you feel the blade, it’s too late.

Then there is the porn and masturbating pastor that never entered into deliverance, perfecting holiness in the fear of God. These are the ones that get into trouble and entertain the next step of acting out.

A female or male body.

1. The dress of a harlot.

Proverbs 6:10 “And there a woman met him, with the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.”

There is nothing that is left to the imagination. She could be wearing a simple, but overtly curvaceous dress. Or tight hugging pants. It could be the blouse that is just a bit too revealing or worldly that may cause the eyes to explore the cleavage. It could be the hair. It could be the jewelry. It could be the crossed legs in stilettos on the front pew. It could be a high skirt.

In the OT, the harlots wore items so that they are distinguished.

Harlots are crafty in the heart and plan well in advance what to wear so that it instantaneously catches the prey’s attention. Like mice sniffing for cheese, a man’s eyes will travel to “investigate” because according to Dr. William Struthers, a man is wired for sex. His mind and his eyes are connected. Once he sees what he likes, the mind will further investigate.

How?

Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

The next thing that happens is that the preacher is no longer concentrating on God, but as planned, the bait is too much to ignore. As like with all mice that sniffs out its meal, the next step is to eat. Not all women plan to do this but just watch what the unregenerate women wear each week. If you see a serious pattern, it’s an attempt on your life.

2. A crafty heart.

The craftiness of a harlot is found in Proverbs 6:24-25 “To keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress. Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.”

A pastor must know that for a house harlot, every move is planned.

Their beauty is the bait. The flattery is to disarm you. Her eyelids are accenting her and like Morse Code, they signal sex.

Many pastors, especially married pastors will not see it coming, but the wife does.

That’s why the pastor must learn to run like Joseph and leave his coat in the hand of the harlot.

If Joseph didn’t run when he did, the fate of the nation of Israel would have been jeopardized.

Pastor, if you are having marital problems, solve them quickly. Because it is at this point that the enemy strategically sends the harlot right into the house of worship. The devil sends the harlots even when the marriage is tight.

Pastors, do your “due diligence.”

Do a thorough check up on you walk before God. But you need a set of objective eyes on you that could see if you are not up to par spiritually. It is very easy to mask our lack of personal passion for the Lord. In the pulpit, it is very easy to assume that you have it all together. If you are really honest, you would say that you don’t.

Preaching on fire for God is different than living on fire for God.

3. Learn the art of running.

Genesis 39:11-13 says “But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, that she caught him by his garment, saying, “ Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside. And so it was, when she saw that he had left his garment in her hand and fled outside,”

The real lesson begins with never find yourself in compromising positions.

Had he known not to be left alone, it would not have been necessary for Joseph to run. However, he did the next best thing.

He ran.

The dream God gave you is much bigger than an immoral woman.

Learn well Proverbs 11:22.

“As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout,
So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion.”

When an immoral woman is after you for one thing, just remember this Proverb.

When multiple women are willing to fornicate or commit adultery with their pastor, whether he made sexual advances or you are a temple prostitute, you have been reduced to the gold ring in the snout of a pig and you lack discretion.

So pastor?

Are you in Christ or are you a son of Belial?