The Dangers Of Sex With A Pastor

For the last few months, I’ve noticed some titles. I take note of these things because there is no question that when this topic is out there with increased frequency, it is possible that a woman or some women are about to engage in sex with a male pastor.

There is no question about the fact that there are more married pastors than there’s single pastors, but I find that just because the pastor is married, to a single or married wrong minded woman, to them, it doesn’t mean that he is “off limits.” The wrong woman mistakenly assumes that he is fair game.

Dissatisfaction within the marriage happens for a number of reasons, and it happens in every marriage. However, it is not a good reason to look over the other side of the pulpit or pew to engage in sexual immorality.

Another woman, whether a prostitute or a vulnerable church woman is not the solution to solve dissatisfaction in the marriage. To have the wrong pastor is not the answer.

All it takes is the right set of circumstances to set up sexual immorality, and the game is on.

Woman that attempt to engage in sex with a pastor may be filled with romance fantasies that lead to sin. Just as men engage in sexual fantasies, women engage in romance fantasies. 

Pastors are vulnerable due to being emotionally and physically drained after preaching. That’s why it’s always best for a pastor to retire to his study to escape these vulnerabilities. 

But he must escape other temptations on Sunday afternoon. Watching sports with cheerleaders. Watching movies with sex in it. Watching news with club dressy women. Watching shows with sex laced trailers and commercials. 
Checking the Internet and getting bombarded with provocative women and chatting with women in the chat rooms. 

When pastors go to the store or supermarket, the checkout counter is filled with salacious titles and sex pictures. 

More pastors open themselves to being exposed to material inadvertently and then they deliberately go after flesh. 

After the preaching of the Word of God, the anointing to preach lifts off of the man of God. The trek down the mountain top is full of booby traps, trip wires, ambushes, and IED’s (improvised explosive devices). I’ll get to IED’s for pastors in this blog.

Dr. Archibald D. Hart once said that sex is a great “pick me up.” In either case, whether the man of God feels like he’s conquered the world in his preaching, he wants a “reward.” When he feels that he didn’t nail his sermon, or he feels emotionally down, he wants a “pick me up.”

Women instinctively this pick up in understanding the emotional vulnerability of a man.

For instance in 1 Kings 21:1, Ahab wanted Naboth’s vineyard. Naboth told Ahab that it belonged to him, given to Naboth as an inheritance from his fathers.

Covetousness driven him to have Naboth’s vineyard and when Naboth said “no,” Ahab’s countenance changed. Ahab returned to his residence and Jezebel observed his countenance.

1 Kings 21:4-5 says, “So Ahab went into his house sullen and displeased because of the word which Naboth the Jezreelite had spoken to him; for he had said, “I will not give you the inheritance of my fathers.” And he lay down on his bed, and turned away his face, and would eat no food. But Jezebel his wife came to him, and said to him, “Why is your spirit so sullen that you eat no food?”

Jezebel, as with women in general, will pick up the mood of a man just by reading his body language and countenance.

When they ask “What’s wrong,” the wrong woman will steer a man.

The rest of the story ended in Naboth’s death.

The wrong woman is able to pick up dissatisfaction in a pastor’s marriage and will attempt to be a voice as well as become sexually available to connect with him.

Now ladies, it’s important for you to understand that you are not married to him and you have no business becoming an intermediary. What I have also come to realize is that there are many women that will not accept responsibility for their actions and place the blame on the pastor.

Both must be blamed.

The wrong pastor and the wrong women.

The pastor didn’t maintain his sexual integrity with his wife. Allowed personal issues to become blockades to reconciliation, and never sought help from other pastors to deal with his personal issues. There is also his personal life that must be dealt with.

Is he watching porn and masturbating?

Whether he is having marital issues or not, porn and masturbation is a clear sign of disconnection that the wife cannot ignore. Extracurricular sexual activity, without committing adultery with another body is always at the root of many issues in a marriage relationship.

The “wrong woman” will pick that disconnection up.

In Genesis chapter 3, the devil entered the serpent to deceive Eve. However, based on preponderance, the devil was watching the interaction between Adam and Eve and concluded that Eve was inquisitive. The disconnection between Adam and Eve was detected and that’s when the enemy made his move.

Because of the disconnection, the enemy was able to make his move and plunged all men into death.

Hence, when the wrong woman detects the disconnection between a pastor and his wife, and she makes her move.

On the other hand, the wrong pastor seek vulnerable, insecure, emotionally unstable women too. It is never one sided. Sometimes, “worlds” collide under the right/wrong set of circumstances. With the wrong pastor, he has now become a predator and seeks to take advantage. He has the ability to see who is wiling to engage in sexual immorality and deceive a woman.

This is where women have to learn to guard their emotions and be on guard. The wrong pastor will turn into a serpent right before your eyes. He will be subtle like the serpent in Genesis 3. At first, it appears innocent, harmless, and safe. Pastors will not make their move until he knows that he’s won your heart. You trust him. You feel safe around him.

You don’t see it coming.

He touches your hand. Strokes your shoulders. He kisses you on the cheek. He’s re-assuring you with words that you wanted to hear. Not realizing that the wrong pastor is playing with your affections. This goes on regularly and then he makes his move. He perverts the Word of God as you give token resistance. You believe him and the rest is history.

“…and sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.”

There are other women that know to stay away from them. They recognize the signs when he makes his move and they blow the whistle. They run from them quickly before trouble manifests.

Proverbs 14:15 says “The simple believes every word, but the prudent considers well his steps.”

Proverbs 22:3 says “A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”

This is the improvised explosive device.

It happens on both sides.

The wrong women lay the explosives just as good as the wrong pastor.

When it explodes, it leaves body parts all over the place.

A Pastor’s Mistress; How To Avoid Being One

imagesSome women lust for men just as much as some men lust for women.

However, it’s deeper than that.

Some women lust for the pastor as much as some pastors lust for women in the house of worship.

In the church, there are many women looking for “love.”

This is code for “sex.”

Many will not own up to it, nor admit it, but this is the bottom line.

Pun intended.

Few women know how to avoid a good looking single or married pastor. Even when the pastor is walking in the Word to maintain his sanctification, there’s some un-sanctified women that will cross the line.

Younger women should learn well from sanctified women of God how to avoid the pitfalls of pastoral sexual immorality with congregants.

I’ve seen it happen to a man of God. A seductress came in and wrecked his home and church. Because of unbridled lust in his heart, he succumbed to an evil woman, and the rest was history.

In almost every generation, we hear of horrid stories of pastoral sexual misconduct but few of us look at the other side.

The mistress covertly comes and goes. Nothing is hardly ever mentioned because sometimes the woman is made out to be the victim. As pure as heaven. However, if you look closely in the Scriptures, you will see that the book of Proverbs uncovers several kinds of wicked women.

Immoral,

seductress,

crafty harlot,

loud and rebellious,

boisterous,

evil/wicked woman,

adulteress,

religious or form of godliness,

whore.

Their house is the staircase to hell, the Bible says. See Proverbs 5:5, 7:27.

Here is some very helpful information in the Word of God to help women avoid this danger that lurks in the flesh.

As in previous blogs, we know that pastors take advantage of emotionally unstable women. However, we must remain focused on this issue because of sin. The Lord Jesus lovingly confronted sexual sins among women when He was at Jacob’s well, when the woman that was caught in adultery was brought to Him, when Jesus cast seven devils out of Mary Magdalene, and another sinful woman that cried tears on the feet of Jesus and she wiped them away with her hair, for her sins were many.

In each instance, it wasn’t condemnation but Jesus was ministering to them to deliver them.

We all know that it’s not just the woman but the men with lust in their hearts.

Part of the mystique of women is their ability to make it seem like it’s not the way it looks.

Hence, the need to “beautify.”

The need for “makeup and false eye lashes and eye brows.”

The need to “nip and tuck.”

The need to “smooth it over.”

The need to “flatten the tummy, push up the cleavage, and firm up the backside.”

These things cover a multitude of faults and sins.

Pastor, this verse is for you.

Proverbs 6:25 “Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.”

Attire of a harlot does happen in church services, every Sunday. Praise and worship, prayer, preaching. It doesn’t matter. There is no fear of God before their eyes. If people were afraid of God, people would not do the things they do. And “saved” folk wouldn’t wear what they wear; like as if they were going to the club.

Proverbs 7:6-10 says “For at the window of my house I looked through my lattice, And saw among the simple, I perceived among the youths, a young man devoid of understanding, passing along the street near her corner; and he took the path to her house In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night. And there a woman met him, with the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.”

The opposite is modest apparel.

1 Peter 3:3-4 says this about wives, but it is also applicable to women in general. “Do not let your adornment be merely outward — arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel — rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.”

1 Timothy 2:8-10 says “I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.”

Low cleavage body hugging dresses, tight pants, stilettos, sleeveless blouses, above the knee dresses is not “modest apparel.”

These things masks the reality and attracts the dogs in the house of worship.

You could always tell the kind of person they are by their conduct. No matter how pretty they look, their conduct is the reality. Look past the smooth words and you will see the real person emerge. Look past the beauty and you will never be deceived.

If some women would own up to it, the Lord could help them avoid the obvious. With single pastors it’s one thing. But a married pastor is a different story.

The ring on a pastor’s ring finger doesn’t mean much to the passive hunter looking to be a home and church wrecker. The shame is not too great. Let’s get past the shame and focus on what the Word says.

As a born again woman that loves the Lord, it is important that you grow in your love for the only Man that should be King in your heart.

The Lord Jesus Christ.

THE LOVE FOR GOD

In Luke 10:27, Jesus said “So he answered and said, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,’ and ‘your neighbor as yourself.’”

Jesus was quoting from Deuteronomy 6:4-6 that says “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one! You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.”

To abstain from lusting after being the pastor’s mistress, your love for God must be unadulterated.

Listen to what the Lord said about loving the Father.

John 14:15, 21 “If you love Me, keep My commandments.  He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me. And he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and manifest Myself to him.”

If you claim to love the Lord, a moment of lust throws your alleged love for God down the drain.

All sin is committed when person no longer loves the Lord. Doesn’t matter if you are saved or not. To cheat on God is the first step to all sin. It means that even though the Lord could satisfy the longing in your heart, you long for that which is forbidden. This is what happened to Eve in the Garden. Adam gave her what the Lord said but she looked for a way to have that which was forbidden.

It was a combination of the desire for power and the desire to have what you were told not to have.

For some women, even though they were told that they cannot have a married man, it isn’t enough. To accomplish the goal of having a married man you must stop loving the Lord.

To reverse this, you must get into the place of prayer and fasting to suppress the mind and body.

Then you must read some Scriptures to help you subdue the flesh.

MAKE NO PROVISIONS FOR THE FLESH

Romans 13:13-14 “Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

ABSTAIN FROM FLESHLY LUSTS

1 Peter 2:11 “Beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul,”

As a note, the word “abstain” means to “hold oneself out.” Or to hold out.

SUBDUE AND DOMINATE YOUR FLESH

1 Corinthians 9:26-27 “Therefore I run thus: not with uncertainty. Thus I fight: not as one who beats the air. But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”

FLEE FORNICATION

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

GUARD YOUR HEART

Proverbs 4:23 (AMP) “Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life.”

GUARD YOUR EYES (WATCHING TV)

Psalm 101:3 (AMP) “I will set no base or wicked thing before my eyes. I hate the work of them who turn aside [from the right path]; it shall not grasp hold of me.”

KEEP YOURSELF

1 John 5:18-19 “We know that whoever is born of God does not sin; but he who has been born of God keeps himself, and the wicked one does not touch him. We know that we are of God, and the whole world lies under the sway of the wicked one.”

WALK IN THE SPIRIT

Galatians 5:16-17 “I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish.”

SANCTIFICATION

1 Thessalonians 4:1-5 “Finally then, brethren, we urge and exhort in the Lord Jesus that you should abound more and more, just as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God; for you know what commandments we gave you through the Lord Jesus.
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God;”

SUBMIT TO GOD & RESIST THE DEVIL

James 4:7-8 “Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you. Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” 

 

 

Pastoral Sex Scandals; Understanding The Failure To Resist Adulterous Booty Call

On FB (Facebook), by way of the news, a pastor’s wife attacked her husband’s mistress in church during a Sunday communion service. The year isn’t out and another sex scandal is making the news. There is a predictable pattern that follows every situation. Some variations are different but the end is the same.

The destruction of a marriage and the destruction of a viable ministry.

For this church, 40 years of ministry down the tubes.

H. B. London, a noted pastor of pastors, paraphrasing, once said, “The devil will wait for you to destroy your ministry. If you turned the devil down before, he will wait for you.”

Pastor Roger Jamison said to me paraphrasing, “After you’ve overcome the devil in the area of sexual immorality, the devils assigned to you are doing “roadwork” for the next bout. You’ve stopped him the last time. Can you do it again? The champion usually feels that his title is secure but loses his hunger to do solid road work on the level of a contender. The contender is hungry because he wants to win. So the contender is doing more pushup. More sit-ups. More road work. All in an effort to take from you your crown. Are you just as hungry to keep the title?”

Pastor, if you are not prepared to fight for your life to be victorious in battle in the plains of Moab (The Mother of All Battles called sexual immorality), it is just a matter of time before you will succumb to the urges and impulses of the flesh and mind, and destroy it all.

Sadly, this will not be the last sex scandal. Sadly, many pastors and vulnerable women will not take heed to the Word of God. Burning in lust, their desires take them from the pinnacles of power to the dog house of destruction.

Many young preachers and older ones are not looking to destroy what the Lord is doing but somewhere along the line, they lose it for the pleasure.

Booty call becomes the expedient pattern for desperate pastors and their mistresses. As I have said before, the scandal before the scandal is always in play. The affair is only a manifestation of something that happened long ago that wasn’t uncovered.

When 50% of pastors report a problem with porn in their lives, the other secret is masturbation.

No man watches porn and never masturbates or act out sexually.

Until we address this predictable pattern, more scandals will manifest without understanding the root cause of Secret Sexual Sins http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Sexual-Sins-Understanding-Pornography/dp/1432741292.

But because of unbridled lust in the mind and flesh of the pastor, it is just a matter of time before he will destroy everything the Lord built.

In this particular church, after reading their “church history,” they were experiencing meaningful church growth.

Numerical growth.

But when you begin to look at the kind of positive affect you are having, you will think that you are responsible for your own success, and you become vulnerable to pride and arrogance.

While it is not the intention of God, it makes me thank God that we are a small church. In a way, it is like the Lord is saving some of us from the destructive forces that have taken down the mighty in record pace.

Whenever God is moving, it is the devil’s job to stop it. That’s what “adversary” means.

There are predator pastors in the pulpit that is unable to remain disciplined according to Job 31:1, Proverb 27:20, and Matthew 5:28. The other side of the isle is the passive predatory skills of a seductive sexually immoral woman.

Too often, the women are victimized by a predatory pastor that take advantage of emotionally vulnerable women. There is no question about the personality predatory skills of a pastor. Smooth talking pastors will use Scripture to justify his evil desires and gullible women will fall for it every time.

In their flesh and mind, the women will look at a preacher and be obsessed as they look at what was before them. They are mesmerized by his oratory skills. They begin to formulate ways to get close. Pastors do the same. They get mesmerized by a woman and will do everything to get close.

After reading Dr. Betty Price’s book, “A Warning To Ministers, Their Wives, And Mistresses,” http://www.amazon.com/Warning-Ministers-Their-Wives-Destruction/dp/1599797747 I begin to assess why women fall for these smooth talking sinful preachers. But I also took stock of the kinds of immoral women that are in the church. Too often, the women is victimized as the one that was taken advantaged of.

There is no question about this.

The victimization of women is too numeral to ignore.

However, it is equally important to point out that women do not have to go to bed with these evil passioned pastors. It is the fault of the preacher and the woman, unless it is rape.

The mistresses are passive hunters.

IF she willfully gets in bed with a pastor, she is equally culpable.

Then it is more devastating when a child is produced out of adultery.

The end result is always devastating.

God loses a man of God. The wife loses her husband (in most cases). The church loses a pastor. The mistress is labeled a whore and receives the brunt for breaking up a family and a church. If the mistress is carrying his love child, she hides for the rest of her life, never to be seen again except in court for child support. Left alone to raise a “mistake.” The children, if any, are confused about marriage. Some of the pastor’s children are even confused about gender and sexual orientation. Some will not get married for fear of revisiting the same damaging episodes observed at home.

Then again, some will get married and follow the same patterns if they are not caught in time.

We all know that there is a difference between consensual sex and rape.

In Dr. Betty Price’s interview, she pointed out that some of these women are demonic plants. In other words, they are knowingly on assignment to take down a pastor and his church.

I agree.

When God is using a man of God in a powerful way. Souls are being saved. People are experiencing the presence of the Lord. People are being helped to grow in Christ. These activities invite a visitation of lustful spirits.

The pattern is simple.

There is Biblical precedence.

Go to Numbers 25 and you will see that according to the Lord Jesus, in Revelation 2:14, the doctrine of Balaam is clear.

Because Balaam, the double agent prophet was unable to get God to curse Israel, he found a way to defeat Israel before they stepped one foot onto the battlefield.

The mistresses are passive hunters. All they need to do is show up. If they get into visual range of the pastor, they have him. If the pastor doesn’t have discipline, solid Biblical principles that he lives by, and a very satisfying marriage, both in and outside the bedroom, his heart will be taken.

As strong as Brad Pitt looks on the screen, a seductress took him away at his most vulnerable point.

IF she willfully gets in bed with a pastor, she is equally culpable.

THE PATTERN OF PASTORAL SEX SCANDALS

Numbers 19, Purity.

Numbers 20, Leadership Error/Prohibition of Passage/Change Of Leadership.

Numbers 21, Supernatural Utter Defeat of Israel’s Enemy.

Numbers 22-24, The Balaam and Balak Show.

Numbers 25, The Moabite Mistresses.

The pastors follow the same pattern.

The pastors get pure before God. At some point early in their ministry, the pastors do get into trouble with the Lord and become disobedient. The pastors repent and get it right before God. The pastors experience phenomenal moves of the Spirit of God such as church growth, church building projects, and other miraculous events.

Then they lose it when they enter the plains of Moab.

Moab is the acronym for Mother Of All Battles.

Sexual immorality is the Mother of All Battles.

There are two kinds of mistresses that come to church.

1. Demonic plants.

2. Connection Seekers.

Jezebels are not mistresses per se`, because they are in a class by themselves. They sacrifice the sexual use of their bodies to get access to a pastor’s weak heart to exploit her power in the church.

There is only one objective of a Jezebel.

Ruling the church he pastors.

It’s very rare that they succeed. Most churches are too through and leave a compromised pastor for other places. Whatever power these Jezebels thought they would wield is gone before they could set up shop.

1. DEMONIC PLANTS

For the mistress, some are planted by the devil. They are on assignment because they believe that their sexuality is power over a man. They are able to make a man do almost anything. They believe that they are irresistible.

With this irresistibility, they gain access to a male pastor and the rest is history. Eventually, that church is destroyed and the sheep are scattered.

Demonic plants use their sexuality and femininity to get a pastor to misappropriate church funds, take them on lavish trips, sleep in hotels, and spend enormous amounts of money on expensive dinners and gifts, in an evil way, they are manipulating the pastor’s heart.

For a very few that operate as a demonic plant, it is their way of getting back at the way men may have treated them in the past. To exercise this kind of power, serves a purpose. And that is to help her develop self esteem and confidence that she may not have had if she were to pursue a normal relationship.

2. CONNECTION SEEKERS

Then there are the mistresses that are vulnerable. Their emotional state is taken advantaged of where she lays down all rules to fight against any relationships with a married man of God. What matters is that her “needs” are met.

Even at the expense of his wife, some mistresses believe that the pastor they are involved sexually with will eventually divorce their wives, leave his family, and start a family with the mistresses. Sadly, wayward pastors think that it will get better. Only to find out down the road that they were wrong.

Mistresses know that what they are doing is wrong and against the Word of God but they are unable to resist the snake’s charm and are bitten.

For the mistress that only seeks to have connection needs fulfilled, it’s John chapter 4 all over again. They never take into consideration what the wife of the pastor is feeling. Mistresses never take into consideration that their “new” sex mate would eventually cheat on them. Especially after a great series of sex romps. He’s through with her and is looking for new conquests. Or chances are, he’s still watching other women, porn, and gratifying himself.

These conquests of his may even lead to bisexuality.

Galatians 6:7-8 and Hebrews 13:4 has never failed.

NEVER!

The mistresses’ need for connection, sexual release, and to have what married women are allowed to enjoy is determined to enjoy it WITHOUT BEING MARRIED.

The sex is all they want but deep down, they are looking for relationship as well. Men confide in strong women. However, he will run into a vulnerable woman that is strong willed or strong headed, and they are headed towards trouble.

Why does a married pastor want to get out of his marriage?

Sometimes things come to a head at home. They choose not to reconcile a difference or differences. All differences are reconcilable. People choose to act like immature little kids and not mutually compromise and sensibly negotiate for the mutual success of the relationship.

But before they do, the origin of all Secret Sexual Sins is sin. 1 John 2:15-17 is the base or foundation for all Secret Sexual Sins.

It’s the same with mistresses. 1 John 2:15-17 applies across the board. Secondly, the pastor is a married man. He is spoken for. There is no reason to be a home-wrecker but sadly, mistresses feel justified.

Sin will never be justified. Jesus died for our sins so that we would be freed from sin. Not to return to sin again. Otherwise, the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus means nothing.

Other mistresses become the “other woman” because of the vulnerable state of the pastor’s wife. They look for places where the pastor is vulnerable. They watch their wives to see if the wife is too passive to put up a fight. Usually, the wife had had enough of fighting at home with the husband but the pastor’s wife will fight for her marriage.

But when it comes to cheating and the pastor has had sexual intercourse, STDs are in play and the wife must exercise extreme caution because her life is at stake.

When porn and self gratification is a common occurrence with pastors, there is no question that doors are open. He will have already entertained thoughts of crossing the line into prostitutions and affairs. Self sex gets old and the thought of acting out sexually as a level one sex addict gets even more intriguing.

It’s not long before he is ready to move from fantasy to reality.

Then comes the mistress. Not all mistresses are plants. Some of them are looking for love and companionship. The attention from a man of God is too much to pass up. These mistresses know that it is wrong but to pass up having her “needs” met is sometimes too tempting to pass up.

The mistress does consider the fact that he is a married man but that soon dissipates after the smooth talker wins her confidence to sin.

What is the remedy?

All marriages must have a strong bond. It begins with an honest assessment of their own marriage by having people ask them the tough questions about the true state of their marriages. Then they must be willing to work together to fix the weak areas while keeping their strong areas strong.

Pastors must put aside every weight and the sin that does easily beset them. Including putting aside the mistress called “too busy with ministry.”

More families suffer from neglect of the “pastor/husband/father” at home and the wife, and children needlessly suffer for it. In some cases, the wife is vulnerable and will seek attention elsewhere, cross lines, and commit adultery herself. She will seek it on FB or the secret chat rooms that may lead from the chat room to the bedroom in a hotel.

Pastors must have a good relationship with the Lord through prayer, the personal Word of the Lord or a strong obedience to the Word for their own life, and strong accountability partners that hold his feet to the fire in strong confrontational, but measurable accountability in a loving, non condemning manner.

He must have careful principles as well as strong guards (male) around him that will not pull any punches when a moment of vulnerability is observed. He must be quick to implement the safeguards in order for him to keep his job.

Servant of the Most High God.

Wives must never assume that the husband is spiritually strong enough to withstand the immoral woman. It doesn’t take much for a man to be smitten. The wife must also look to protect herself. The smooth talking man could come at any moment and sweep her off her feet. She too, the pastor’s wife, is vulnerable to be a victim.

The story about “The Preacher’s Wife” with Denzel Washington and Whitney Houston, is just as real for pastor’s wives. If the home is not secure, yes, an “angel” will come and almost cross the line. Not that a real angel would cross the line but a smooth talking preacher will be like an angel and the rest may be history.

For more on this, go to www.blogtalkradio.com/prevailing1 for our ground breaking series called Secret Sexual Sins.

The Immoral Women Versus The Jezebels

Very few pastors and their wives are aware of the immoral woman that comes to church for seductive reasons. Then there is the Jezebel that has a motive behind her seduction. In any case, both come to church every Sunday, waiting for the right moment.

The moment of a pastor’s lust problem.

THE ASSIGNMENT

Sadly, immoral women are agents of the devil on assignment. Wherever there is a church that is moving powerfully in the Lord, the devil sends a “Moabite” woman to destroy a minister, a wife, and a church.

All in one shot.

The mistress is prepared to do what is necessary to get what she wants. Unbeknownst to her, she is an agent of sin. The devil uses the lusts in her heart to pull on the unsuspecting male in the pulpit.

Sometimes, she has a systematic plan to achieve her ultimate objective. Commit to marry men in the church and then divorce them. Then get to the male pastor. Getting to the male pastor is the goal. Sometimes all it takes is a direct hit. At other times, it may require an end around or flanking maneuver to get the job done.

This is usually done when the woman has gifts and talents. She is very outspoken or has strong leadership “skills.”

The immoral woman just wants the connection. Her mode of operation is similar to a Jezebel but not quite. The immoral woman just want a man and his company. It’s all about connection for the immoral woman. The immoral woman will exchange sex for companionship and connection. She has no thirst for power.

The Jezebel level is all about power. She is willing to sacrifice her body to get power in the church. She will work in the church to get close to the pastor to be noticed. She will be faithful for a season. She will prove to be a valuable asset. Indispensable. Dependable. Reliable.

When it appears that she has the confidence of both the pastor and his wife, she will make her move to assassinate the character of the pastor’s wife every chance she gets. She is also jealous of the pastor’s wife and will look at her with contempt.

Her contempt of the pastor’s wife is the fuel of her anger and resentment. She will hide behind the cover of “associate Jezebels” to run interference as she sets in motion to “steal” the husband.

The wife of a pastor must be more diligent in these last days for the immoral woman on assignment to assassinate her, her marriage, her children (if any), and the local church.

She would do well to post faithful women at the gates and be on the lookout herself for the immoral woman that comes to destroy at the first opportunity. Sadly, the male pastor will not see her coming. He is already mesmerized by her charm, perfection, charisma, ‘can do’ attitude, and beauty.

The immoral woman and Jezebel needs help to but she must be discovered.

Usually she has an unmistakable personality. Hidden behind the spirituality is a professional seductress. She knows how to catch a man at the right moment. She may not dress like Beyonce` but she will be close as dress codes allow.

Then again, she will abandon the dress code and be a devil in a red dress.

The wife must be ever vigilant for the one woman that always look for the pastor’s attention. This is when she must be checked. The wife must know where her husband is at all times. The men in the church that are trustworthy must know where the pastor is at all times.

The faithful men and women in the church must put up, not only a prayer barrier but a physical barrier. No mistress is successful where these two methods are deployed and employed regularly, and consistently.

We must also remember that the mistress needs help to, but the kind of help that she need begins at the altar of the Lord. In prayer and the Word of God.

Then she needs to be mentored by seasoned church mothers that know how to read a loose woman, steer her away from the male pastor, and steer her towards God.

If churches do not employ an effective strategy that evolves as the immoral and Jezebel woman becomes sophisticated with her methods, it’s a matter of time before another scandal will stain the church of Jesus Christ.

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