As I was listening to a radio broadcast of a “Bible answer man,” no it’s not Hanegraaff, it was someone else. A listener called in to get answers about how to stop watching porn.
Watching porn is still a problem among believers today.
The majority of men that teach the Bible may not have gone through a personal situation where in their own lives, they’ve watched porn.
Not every man watches porn, but it’s sure close.
You could tell when a person watches porn, the Lord sets them free, and they humbly learn how to help other men get the freedom they cry for.
Then there’s the Bible teachers that never get enough information to help men get free. As I’ve said, not every man watches porn, but I am aware that not every Bible teacher knows how to minister grace and truth.
It’s very easy to give off the cuff answers when you haven’t gone through the process. This isn’t to say that this Bible answer man on Talk Radio on Sirius Radio, never went through an encounter of porn.
The other danger is that there’s plenty of Bible answer teachers and preachers that develop an arrogant, prideful, and haughty spirit.
I was one of them.
Just a few weeks after being delivered from porn, an “I’ll teach them” spirit came and then my accountability partner from “Setting Captives Free” gave me a very humiliating lesson.
He said to me, in words like………“Don’t teach me Bible knowledge.”
You see, it’s very easy to come off like you know all the Bible answers. And sometimes, we truly think we do. And come to find out that what’s in our head never matches what’s in our hearts.
Over the course of time, I began to see that we try to think we could help people and find that we’re inadequate, ill-equipped, unteachable, and at times, very nasty and angry.
This Bible teacher didn’t come off like this at all.
In fact, he was very kind, very careful with his words, very humble. He wasn’t prideful, arrogant, or nasty. He was very good in sharing with that man the forgiveness of sins.
He is to be commended for calmly talking about the aspect of forgiveness.
It’s very difficult to minister to men trapped in porn so what we need to do is gather as much information as we can about porn, but also arm ourselves with Scripture. Then we need to learn from those that were trapped in porn that broke free. We also need to learn from those that were never trapped in porn and how they worked with the Lord to stay free.
Too often, we just get a one sided view of dealing with pornography. What I mean is that only those that’s been in porn know how to deal with it, and nothing could be further from the truth.
Just as the Lord told Elijah, “there’s 7000 that never bowed their knee to Baal.”
It’s very difficult to admit that you have a porn problem.
90% plus of men will never admit they have a sins of the flesh problem.
And roughly 10% either initiated or completely fulfilled their desire to be free and even less than that remain free to this day.
You may ask, “Where did I get this figure from?”
A couple of years ago, I looked on “Setting Captives Free” to see how many people, male and female, attempted to deal with porn addiction. At that time, around 2011 or so, over 2 million clicked the sight but only 200,000 attempted to go through and complete the course.
I am an alumnus.
As with any addiction, sexual addiction in particular, it’s a very dirty, filthy habit. It destroys the morals of man, chokes off his relationship with God, and if he’s married, with his wife, cuts off his ministry, takes all his money and his time.
His life evolves around porn. If he’s not in his house watching porn, there’s plenty of substitute porn in the streets with scantily clad women in stores, restaurants, malls, church, work, and other places.
His mind is consumed with watching flesh.
And even if women are dressed modestly, he knows how to use his imagination to sexually objectify her.
The core of all porn is the lust in the heart of man.
“Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust thereof, but he that does the will of God abides forever.”
James 1:14-15 (NKJV) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”
The desires within a man is what drives him to make provision to fulfill these lusts lurking within his mind and flesh.
Romans 13:14 (NKJV) “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”
As long as man never addresses the lust in his heart, it’s very difficult to fight the urges and impulses lurking in his flesh.
Granted, some women do not make it easy but they’re not the core of the problem.
How does a man get free of porn?
Sadly, the images are filed in the mind of a man. From time to time, if we don’t “bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ,” these thought or fantasies easily emerge. If we dwell on the thought instead of subdue these thoughts, sexual arousal will take place.
If we’re in the privacy of home, the job, in the car, it’s very easy to go from thoughts to actually stimulating ourselves. That is, to manipulate our sexual organs.
Sexual tension is on an avoidable collision course to be released.
The rest is history.
We go to John 5 with the man at the pool of Bethesda.
Jesus approached a man that was lame in his feet for 38 years, and asked him a very simple question. “Do you want to be made whole.”
To be whole means to be sound or to be restored to health.
While this is about the lame man’s physical condition, the same question could be asked about sexual addicts.
Those that are trapped in the clutches of porn.
Do you want to be sound? Restored to health?
Many men willingly acknowledge that porn is an issue but this question demands that you look at the condition, but few look beyond the condition to see that this will be a life long battle to maintain health after being made whole.
And if we were really honest, we will also admit that masturbation is inextricably connected to porn.
Men do not sit there, watch porn, and then shut off the show of flesh.
Men engage in make believe sex to satisfy the lust in his heart for that flesh.
It’s the one thing that keeps a man coming back for more porn.
And this is the core reason why many men, well over 90%, never be free.
The self satisfaction is of too greater value to walk away.
Romans 6:12-14 (NKJV Strong’s) “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”
If you’re not prepared to cut off, in a radical way, the “ritual” of making provision “to fulfill the lusts of the flesh,” this is what brings men into a place of self imposed hopelessness and helplessness.
They abandon themselves to live a life of sexual sins that usually takes them further than where they’ve intended to go.
Sexual predators, serial rapists, child molesters.
Finally, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.”
As long as men aren’t afraid of God and His commandments, sin is easy.
God gave Cain the answer he needed to conquer sin in his life….
Genesis 4:7 (NKJV Strong’s) “If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”
You can rule lust in your heart.
But you can’t do it alone.
You need the help of the Holy Spirit.
Cutting to the chase, once again, the Christian community, online newspapers, and other outlets identify that there’s a huge problem with Christians viewing pornography.
Pastors and believers all across the United States, and the world, are heavily involved with no apparent slowing or stoppage.
The Internet and our personal devices are great tools but they’ve been used consistently to view porn anywhere and at anytime.
But is porn the problem?
It’s only part of the problem.
It’s the bait on the hook. Or more so, the incremental increase to take things to the next step.
As one person puts it, it’s an accelerant.
When you want a bigger fire, you get more wood, gas, or other fuels to increase the fire.
Lines that pastors and believers says they would never crossed are easily crossed.
Look at James 1:14-15 (NKJV Strong’s) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.’
Within the heart of sinning people is the lustful desires lurking in the mind and flesh. It’s the desire to gratify themselves that takes them to places where such satisfaction could be achieved.
Paul told Timothy “Flee also YOUTHFUL lusts.”
Having said this, what lures men and women to watching porn?
Enhancing or accelerate the process to perform solo sex or masturbation.
When people watch porn, it’s not like sitting in a movie theater and eating popcorn. It’s about participating in sex without the physical partner there. In other words, it’s fantasy or pretend sex.
If you read these Christian articles about believers watching porn, you will notice that nothing or very little is said about masturbation or fantasy sex.
But this is what believers do that Christian Post, Charisma, or other Christian news outlets deliberately omit.
Perhaps, the reason why is when you talk about solo sex, fantasy sex, or the “M” word (masturbation), because the Bible is silent in its prohibition, it’s determined to be permitted.
It’s also possible that people that write about porn participate in masturbation.
They’re too ashamed to reveal the combination for fear of discovery of masturbation in their own lives.
Paul told us in Ephesians 5:11-14 (NKJV Strong’s) “And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret. But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light. Therefore He says:
“Awake, you who sleep,
Arise from the dead,
And Christ will give you light.”
Just because it’s a shame, it doesn’t prohibit one from discussing it.
Discussing just the fact that masturbation is the reason behind porn is shameful. What’s prohibited is the play by play description or instruction on how to masturbate. That’s beyond shame.
It’s sinful and incites a person to participate in Secret Sexual Sins when a person read sex stories out of Hustler or The Forum.
As I’ve said before, just because the Bible is silent on a subject, it’s not to be taken as permission to engage.
When the assumption is taken to masturbate, this subject will not be addressed.
Self discipline is one of the fruit of the Spirit (see Galatians 5:22-24).
IF you’re crucified with Christ, then you are dead to sin. In fact, as Paul said……“dead to sin but alive unto God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Dead people don’t respond.
Therefore, if you’re dead, as far as we know with certainty, dead people don’t respond to lust in their heart, mind, and flesh to masturbate.
So the lust in the flesh and mind places a demand to fulfill desire to achieve sexual satisfaction apart from marriage to the opposite sex.
There’s numerous reasons for this as I’ve written in the blog to explore the reasons why men and women masturbate, but as long as there’s a refusal to address the reason why believers watch porn, it’s no different than a dog chasing its tail.
You can read the article from Christian Post here
Many pastors and leaders face the fight of lust in the heart.
Paul tells us to “Flee also youthful lust.”
2 Timothy 2:22 (NKJV Strong’s) “Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”
See, it’s not enough just flee lust, but you must pursue “righteousness, faith (moral conviction or fidelity), love, peace……
Most young pastors more than likely are struggling in their marriages because of lust in the heart. More than likely, a “flame” came into the congregation, and he set his sights on her.
It happens all the time.
On the other hand, that “flame” came in to passively hunt for the pastor.
The combination of the two takes place.
One is hunting for the other and eventually, adultery is committed.
Usually, the male pastor is sexually dissatisfied with his wife and looks to spice things up with another woman.
Or the events in the marriage came to a tipping point where the male pastor had enough. Events in a marriage does have an affect.
As I was sharing with a couple, you should never allow events in a marriage divide the relationship. Usually the disconnect is intentional and it’s just a matter of time before adultery is committed.
As I read this article from CP (Christian Post), I began to see that this young pastor struggled with personal obedience to his Lord and Savior. Obedience to the Scriptures.
The Lord Jesus told us that “If any man desires to follow Me, let him deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.”
Lenard Ravenhill once said, that we “…came to His cross. Now get on yours.”
We must understand that lust must be kept crucified.
He shared that he couldn’t continue. Most stories like these end with the young pastor apologizing for not keeping the Scriptures he taught. For “faking it until he made it.” For living a hypocritical life. Then they depart, leaving a trail behind for the Lord to clean up.
Most people in these congregations that suffer in their marriages make for the exit. They were looking to their leader to hold fast to the Scriptures and then he makes an exit from his Lord.
Folks, the devil is not just after destroying marriages. He’s looking to make sure you spend eternity in hell with him.
We don’t seem to believe this anymore because we’re so detached from the fact that one day, we’ll stand either before the Judgment Seat of Christ as believers or stand before the Great White Throne Judgment before the Judge of all the earth as sinners.
The moment of self satisfaction in porn, masturbation, adultery, fornication, or homosexuality blinds us from the eternal consequences.
We ignore the dangers of judgment.
For this young pastor, it seems that he used means and traditional methods to address a situation in his marriage that many men and women experience.
Usually when we use counseling, books, and other tools to help us deal with a situation within our marriage, we seldom see their prayer lives, their obedience to the Scriptures, their love for Jesus excelling over their lust, problems, and marriage situations.
They no longer fight for their relationship with the Lord and their wives but easily give in to lust.
The god in their lives commands that they walk away and not fight, and these young male pastors obey. Some obey quickly.
Years ago, I shared that many will fall. And it won’t be the last.
Fighting lust is very tough.
And all it takes for man to fulfill his lust is when a flaming hot young lady walks in the door of the congregation. Or he searches for a flaming hot young lady, willing to sexually satisfy his flesh.
One moment of pleasure isn’t worth an eternity in hell.
Behind every hot flame is a pack of demons of lust.
To destroy or frustrate the plans of a flaming hot sexually immoral woman is to avoid them at all costs. The moment you intend to create an opportunity of contact for connection, is the moment all bets are off.
You avoid them by returning to the Lord in prayer and fasting, seeking the face of the Lord every moment. By cutting off every angle of attack when they make the move to get close to you.
When they want to “see the pastor,” you send your wife or a trusted elderly saint to run interference. You put people in place to protect the zone.
You never put yourself in a position to be ambushed by their schemes.
You never counsel them alone.
Let them walk away frustrated.
If you’re looking to get into sexual trouble, we pray that the Lord would interfere with your plans to sin against Him. If you look to circumvent His intervention, it will be to your own peril.
It takes a solid prayer and Word life to recognize that the plans of the devil is to destroy you.
This young pastor made a reversible choice.
For now, he chose to depart but he can return in repentance.
But you fight to stay pure and holy before the Lord.
Fight to stay right with the help of the Holy Spirit.
You could read the story here
It’s been a long while since the last blog but it’s good to take a break and then resume as needed.
No, I never relapsed into porn. So now that’s kicked to the curb, we see that a lot has transpired in a while.
According to Fox News, by way of the CDC, STD’s in America and perhaps it could be said, around the world are on the increase.
The preaching of “safe sex” isn’t working because when you’re in the heat of passion, to stop to put a rubber on destroys the moment.
As far as Christians that are married, conception is expected.
But for the world, we know that it’s a set up.
In one of my past blogs, with first hand information, we know that the condom manufacturer is in bed with the abortion industry to ensure condom failure to increase the chance of a pregnancy, thus, increase the chance to perform an abortion to harvest body parts for money.
According to a Medical Research group that used hidden recording to discover this horrendous practice, we now see that sadly, nothing goes to waste…….except the life of that child, brutally murdered in the womb.
On another front, STD’s is also a lucrative business for the medical field.
In another one of my past blogs, we’ve discovered that in Puerto Rico, a strain of STD’s mutates to defeat the medicine.
Hence, the purpose of this blog.
One thing always leads to another.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases will continue because of the lust in the heart.
Porn or fantasy sex by way of masturbation, for some gets old and the need to “connect” with a body ensues. Then once you’ve had him or her, you look for others to increase the excitement.
The CDC has already put the warning out that multiple partners increase the risks of acquiring STDs, including AIDS.
But in England, there is news that flesh eating diseases are emerging. It won’t be long before it turns into an epidemic.
And chances are, so far, there’s no reports of it in the United States, but it’s a matter of time. Or worse, it’s already here and the media, like other STD reports, isn’t reporting it.
So if you insist on fornication, this consequential judgment is waiting for anyone willing to ignore self discipline.
Many males and female have said, “It’s never gonna happen to me.” And then you sense something wrong in your system, you go to the doctor to get checked, or worse, you don’t go at all. Suddenly, your statement comes to haunt you.
Self discipline can’t be done on your own.
You need the Lord Jesus in your life. You must be born again. It’s only by repentance of dead works, and faith towards God, through our Lord Jesus Christ can one exercise self control to avoid the consequences of sin on the earth.
But worse, is should you die before you make Jesus Lord over your life, it’s too late and the “Wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”
You can read about these things in the links below.
Obviously, there is sadness in the Playboy world.
But we have to put things into perspective.
It’s very easy to condemn people but we also must understand that the Lord Jesus said that they are condemned already.
Jesus said in John 3:18-21….“He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God. And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. But he who does the truth comes to the light, that his deeds may be clearly seen, that they have been done in God.”
You can’t condemn someone that is already condemned.
Today, many preachers live in hypocrisy like I did.
That one peek at a Playboy magazine aroused our flesh to view porn on scales unimagined.
I’ve read about a story of a pastor robbing banks to be able to by porn on the internet or PPV cable or satellite. Of pastors using their computers to finish their sermon in their pastor’s study, tell their secretaries to go home, and click on to site after site of porn in the house of worship.
No doubt, masturbating in their pastor’s study while watching porn.
That’s what sexual objectification does. It’s idolizing a woman’s body, pretending to have her sexually. Not realizing that you’ve worshipped her body as if her body was god. You bowed down in sexual worship, not realizing that behind every lustful eye, you are worshipping demons.
That’s why what Jesus said in Matthew 5:27-30 is there. The right eye lusts for her sexually, and the right hand engages in solo sex or outright touching another woman in adultery or fornication.
Many would love to think that Hugh Hefner is in heaven. Many will joke and say that he will be in Playboy heaven with angelic bunnies. Far from reality. You see, there is no sin in heaven. There’s God forgiven, sanctified, blood washed saints that were sinners in heaven.
But for certain, sinning in heaven is not happening there ever.
And there is no sinning in hell either.
Jesus said, “There will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”
You will be too involved seeking to get out and too involved seeking relief from the pain and misery associated with the condemned place of the abode of departed Christ-less spirits.
Meaning that the pain of torment will be beyond what a person will be able to bear.
There is no Playboy mansion in hell. There aren’t any bunnies there either.
The pain and misery of hell will pale in comparison to the lake which burns with fire and brimstone.
Just imaging being responsible for plunging many men and women into hell by way of sexual immorality. Hugh Hefner will bear his own sins but he will also bear the responsibility of facilitating sexual immorality to plunge man people into hell.
We all know that there is a slight chance for everyone to get saved but when you live an unrepentant lifestyle, the odds of heaven for the unrepentant are very very slim.
Remember, the thief on the cross next to Jesus got saved moments from his own death. That’s why there is a very slight chance. But how many sinners would seriously look to the Lord when they are moments away from death themselves?
The Playboy mansion and its wicked activities drove men and women into the abyss of sexual immorality, leading down the staircase into the chambers of death.
And if that isn’t enough, countless men and women, perhaps, were infected with STDs and some women got pregnant.
I dare say that many of them killed their babies in abortion.
But this activity wasn’t just in the mansion. All across the world, their connections is apparently obvious. PPV cable or satellite, Playboy magazines, iPhones, CD’s and DVD’s made it possible to participate and be connected to viewing fornication on demand, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
This, and his death, is nothing to celebrate but the world will do everything in its power to celebrate this man and applaud his sexual empire. That’s the way the world works because it is, as Paul said, “the course of this world.”
My exposure to this wickedness started with 42 Street in NYC. While going to see decent movies along the route, there would be movie theater after movie theater of sexual immorality. Porn shops by the dozen. It was a haven for all manner of crime, adultery, fornication, bisexuality, and homosexuality.
The newspaper stands would be filled with Playboy magazines that tempted the imaginations of man. Fantasy sex which leads to pornography, and leads even deeper to act out sex in masturbation, adultery, fornication, and other forms of sexual immorality.
Trapping millions into the slave trade of sexual immorality.
Entrapped in this sin were billions of men and women, searching for intimacy, or to get a quick pick me up. The pleasures of sin dominates the fantasy world of men and women around the world.
There’s no question that Playboy played a central part in opening up the way to further sexual immorality.
The pursuit of the pleasures of the lust of the flesh, the eyes, and the pride of life intensified.
Playboy wouldn’t be enough. You go further into hard core porn and tap into the area of criminal sexual predation. For most men, the insatiable desire takes a man further than he is willing to go. Takes a woman to do daring things too. Some women are just as trapped as men.
There is nothing to celebrate here.
But Jesus can free any man or woman, but they must desire to leave their thirst for the flesh behind. They must cry out to God for His true love that will never be found in flesh. The Son can make a person free if they want to.
You can’t make people be free. They have to want to be free, and then there is the fight to stay free from every contaminating influence and every enslaving yoke of sexual immorality.
This happens when you find in the Savior all the love you will ever need for the rest of your life.
So what will it be?
Continue in sin, or to be free from it?
It’s not worth going to hell over.
The choice is up to you.
The death of Hugh Hefner could be read here
There’s many professed believers, even in matrimony, that believe that oral sex is no big deal.
In this report from FOX News, even in monogamous relationships, you could acquire the Human papillomavirus (HPV) disease.
Which further emphasizes the fact that STDs is there for a reason.
Many will defend oral sex and that’s expected.
Sadly, to their own peril, but at least you know that you could have avoided it if you’ve exercised sexual discipline.
Whether you’ve watched porn, then introduce what you’ve seen into your bedroom, we should never sin against the Lord and against our own bodies in the fulfillment of the lusts of the flesh and mind.
Many will argue that what goes on in the bedroom is your business.
But when the Lord institutes STD as consequential judgment against sin, God was already in your bedroom judging your sin.
A man walked across the street while I was waiting at the light with a shirt that said….
ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME
I said, yup, He sure will judge you.
Shirts like this is just a spin on Matthew 7:1.
When a person is convicted of sin and attempts to make arguments to continue in sin, shirts like these is a clear attitude of deliberate intent to defy God and His Word.
For the record, there is no specific verse in the Bible that declared that oral sex is forbidden. There is no specific verse that declared that masturbation is forbidden.
The other argument is that if the Bible is silent on these areas, we should be silent too.
On the contrary, just because the Bible is silent, it doesn’t give you permission.
Because there is no specific verse giving you permission to engage.
God put within us the ability to discern right from wrong.
When we’re asking questions to obtain permission, it is a search to justify sin where the Bible is silent. The Bible’s silence demand you come to the conclusion that you do not have permission, and therefore, you do not have God’s authorization.
PLUS……since STDs are associated with oral sex, or sexual immorality as a whole, it is further evidence that it’s prohibited.
If we were smart, we would see that STDs are only associated with lawless sexual acts and do everything in our power, as true believers in the Lord to be obedient and abstain from the very “appearance of evil.”
In normal sexual relationships, within holy matrimony, you are practicing safe sex. Besides, if you truly love your wife or husband, you would never introduce things of the world to do harm to them.
But, like I said, people will disagree.
The reason for such disagreement is that they’re experiencing a world of pleasure that they’re unwilling to give up. And that, in and of itself, is a bondage which hurts you in the long run.
If I am legally married, will oral sex send me to hell?
Absolutely not, unless you’re presently engaged in fornication, adultery, homosexuality, bisexuality, zoophilia, and other forms of sexual immorality, those sins are hell bound sins.
SO if oral sex in a monogamous faithful husband and wife relationship will not send me to hell, then why bring this up in the first place?
We see that STDs is connected to oral sex.
IF you want the HPV disease that is associated with oral sex, by all means, continue to engage in the act. It’s a matter of time before the results manifest. Just trying to get people to see that there’s certain things that could be avoided. It’s a clear warning to you.
Now if you want to ignore this warning, then it’s on you. You were aware of the risks and decided to continue in this behavior.
Proverbs 14:18 says……“The simple inherit folly, but the prudent are crowned with knowledge.”
Proverbs 22:3 says…….“A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”
Oh, btw, this HPV disease isn’t one of those things that flare up until perhaps months or years after acquisition. That is, if you continue to engage in oral sex, the possibility of it flaring up is inevitable.
All the more incentive to abstain from this behavior that opened the door to the disease in the first place.
Psalm 107:17 says, “Fools! Because of your transgressions and because of your iniquities are afflicted.”
You do not have to be afflicted.
Meaning……you are a fool when you open yourself to sin and reap its rewards.
The FOX News report could be read here
Since covering the porn scene among professed believers and coming across mind numbing statistics, we see that nothing’s changed in terms of believers decreasing their exposure to sex filled movies, shows, and skin exposure in church services.
Porn watchers are enslaved to the images and enslaved to sexually manipulate him or herself in masturbation to satisfy themselves.
Porn is only an accelerant. More on this later.
The ability to be immodest is continuing in church service. The deliberate lack of discerning certain shows that what we expose ourselves to, is rampant.
In other words, we dethrone God to enthrone sin.
First, to address the modesty issue.
Men and women are exposing themselves to wearing certain articles to attract the opposite or same sex.
We all know that it’s summer time out there but it doesn’t give anyone the authorization and blatant excuse to wear things that we know are sexually provocative.
If you have to pull up your blouse to cover your cleavage, you know that this is a red flag. If you have to pull down your high skirt, you know it’s a red flag.
When you have to wear a cover to cover up your legs in church, it’s a red flag.
Now, this is not wrong to cover up in and of itself. At least you recognize that too much flesh is showing. It should be a very loud indication to you that perhaps your dress is a little too short.
Modern dressing doesn’t allow to look “old fashioned.”
It’s not fashionable these days. But holiness is the requirement when entering and participating in the holy worship of our Holy God.
As I was going street preaching one day, I walked by a “Seventh Day Adventist” Church and observed these red flags. I’m not an Adventist, so scratch that thought. I was walking by that church.
They appeared to be attending “church” but looked like they were going clubbing for men. Legs and cleavage.
A few years ago, I was listening to an interview of a believer interviewing a former prostitute. She said that in a well known mega church in California, female prostitutes would enter the service and sit in close proximity of their “client” while the client was sitting next to his wife.
She also said that there was no fear of God in the house of worship because the preacher would never preach on holiness.
Let me say this, that even if a preacher were preaching on holiness, for some, it will not make a difference.
If a person is bent on sinning sexually, only their death would stop them, unless they catch themselves and repent.
In the book of Numbers we see a story of Zimri and Cosbi.
Zimri was a leader and brought a Gentile woman into the camp against the commandment of the Lord. He and she walked by the Lord, the tabernacle of meeting, Moses, Aaron, and Phinehas.
At that time, the plague was moving throughout the camp because of sexual sin with the Moabites. Phinehas picked up a javelin, went into the tent where Zimri and Cosbi were, and killed them with one thrust of the javelin.
It stopped the plague and Phinehas was blessed by the Lord because the zeal of God within him judged the sin.
This was the “example” that Paul mentioned in 1 Corinthians 10.
In many of our regular Christian services, woman are wearing less and less. They are pushing the boundaries and men that aren’t disciplined will look at them lustfully.
Now we know that it is one thing to come to church sexually provocactive but when a man has lust in his heart, he doesn’t care what a woman is wearing. So there is two sides to this thing.
It’s not always one sided.
Intentional sexual dressing for church service to immorally tempt a man is more than provocative. It crosses the line of modesty where men, who are struggling to maintain their consecration to God are doing everything in their power to ignore them.
Feminine power to sexually influence a man immorally is demonic. It is passive manipulation. On the other hand, lust filled men is demonic and it is active manipulation. The collision course of the two brings death in their lives.
Most men do not know how to “bounce” their eyes to avoid looking at deliberate sexual provocation inside the service or outside as they are walking the streets.
But the sexually disciplined man will find a way to completely ignore these immoral women.
Not every woman that comes to church is immoral or deliberately intend to entice a man. There is holy women that come to church for the right reason and there are men that come to church, walking in wholehearted consecration and dedication to God.
But let’s face it.
Sexually immoral women will do everything to attract the attention of a foolish man.
Proverbs 7 speaks a such a man that went looking for sexual sin. The married, spiritually speaking adulteress found him and coerced him into her house.
It’s the same in today’s world of church service.
More and more, we are seeing an abandonment of morals and men diving into their house to commit adultery, homosexuality, bisexuality, and fornication.
But the door into sexual immorality has always been that the sexually suggestive tv ads, movies, and shows that introduce porn. The internet always have teaser ads next to the articles that you are reading. Reading the internet news is no different. The sexually suggestive ads draws a man’s attention. Photo shopped pictures increase the attractions in making pictures appear larger than normal.
Provers 27:20 says that “Hell and destruction are never full. So the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”
The Lord said to me as He was instructing me….”No sense in looking at someone that you can’t have. If I can’t have her, there is no sense in lustfully looking at her.”
Makes sense to me.
The basics of temptation are recorded in James 1:14-15.
A man is enticed when he is drawn away with his own lust-filled desires.
In other words, the moment he desires illegal sex, the enemy sends the enticement.
The enticement is a direct suggestion (temptation) to pursue that which is not lawful.
Sin is conceived in the desire to fulfill an evil fantasy. Sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.
That’s why in the church service, you have to be very careful not to allow your eyes to “travel” from the presence of the Lord.
Which brings me to emphasize again that the purpose of porn is no different than an accelerant for fire. When evil passion is in the heart of a man, he will go to places to fulfill that evil passion. Acting out sexually in adultery, fornication, bisexuality, homosexuality, and masturbation, or all of the above.
So be careful about the movies that you expose yourself to.
Radical amputation is the ability to cut off the right hand and pluck out the right eye to avoid sexual sins. If you are not willing to do without movies, you run the risk of being so overwhelmed with lust that you deliberately fall into sin.
This article on “Game of Thrones” is powerful.
Please click the link here.
A man of God on many occasions have asked his audience “Are you fighting against sin?”
In this age where sexual immorality is abounding in many believers, it is no different than asking the question “Do you love the Lord more than your sex sins?”
You can’t love or have both. Just like we can’t love God and money at the same time (see Matthew 6:24).
From the time that you’ve experienced a “wet dream,” or you’ve fondled yourself to orgasm, this fight continues until you gain control over your urges, your thoughts that drive your urges, and your flesh from desiring to fulfill those urges.
It is evident in men and woman that sexuality was a placed in us by God as a gift to be shared in marriage between one man and one woman. Sin changed this. An insatiable desire to have it more and more. And in some cases, many believers desire to have sex with more than one person.
This perversion is not from God.
We all know that it comes from the desires to participate in sexual sin, lurking in our members.
Proverbs 27:20 says “Hell and destruction are never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”
When Jesus came to Jacob’s well and spoke with the Samaritan woman (John chapter 4), she had five husbands and the one she was with wasn’t her husband.
It is clear in these Scriptures that when a man or woman is out of control, they will “…suppress the truth in unrighteousness” to deceitfully justify masturbation. (see Romans 1:18)
Yes, believers will move from the place of self control to out of control. To engage in sin, a believer must suppress the truth of God’s Word. Take off the armor of light. Leave the Name of the Lord outside the door of darkness, and engage in sin. For the devil demands that you leave righteousness at the door of the den of evil.
The only way a believer can sin is when he takes his armor of light off. You can’t sin with your armor of light on. When a military person wears the uniform, their whole demeanor changes. The mentality changes. When a military person is in conflict, life or death, his or her whole mentality changes. When orders are given, their whole mentality changes.
When we have the armor of light on, our whole mentality changes. We are not the same. Just like the transition from civilian to soldier, sailor, marine, airman takes place after training, so it is in the Spirit.
Everything about us changes.
How much more the believers in the Body of Christ.
In Romans 13:14, Paul said, “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”
When you put on Christ you are putting on the armor.
Romans 13:11-12 “And do this, knowing the time, that now it is high time to awake out of sleep; for now our salvation is nearer than when we first believed. The night is far spent, the day is at hand. Therefore let us cast off the works of darkness, and let us put on the armor of light.”
In 1 Corinthians 9:27 “But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”
Many of us desire God and His righteousness. But the desire to withstand and withhold ourselves from displeasing God is easily suppressed because the mind is made up to have that which is forbidden.
When a person asks a question about whether masturbation is permitted or prohibited, they already know the answer. If God permitted it, there would be no need to ask if it is permitted. Just like marriage and sex. It is natural for a man and a woman that is married to have sex. There is no need to ask the question.
Just get married and the rest is…………natural.
It’s the areas where there is no Scripture or there seems to be no Scripture where we look for permission.
I believe that Jesus addressed masturbation by not using the word. Just like Jesus, as the Word gave the Word on homosexuality in Leviticus 18 and only mentioned marriage between one man and one woman in Matthew 19:4-5 as the answer regarding prohibiting same sex unions.
Of course homosexuals will argue that Jesus didn’t mention one word about homosexuality. But He did. Remember in John 1, the apostle of the Lamb said that “In the beginning was the Word, the Word was with God, and the Word was God. The same was in the beginning with God….”
So because Jesus is the Word of God, and He was in the beginning with God, Jesus gave the Word regarding homosexuality in Leviticus 18. Matthew 19:4-5 further gives evidence that Jesus never changed His mind. Jesus cannot be One with the Father if Jesus disagreed with the Father.
So to say that Jesus never said anything about homosexuality, you have to come up with evidence that Jesus never existed before He became flesh. You would have to come up with irrefutable evidence that the pre-incarnate Jesus didn’t happen.
With masturbation, you have to come up with irrefutable evidence that Jesus permits a man or a woman to masturbate.
The book of Leviticus also speaks of “discharge” or seminal discharge and a man is unclean for 7 days. It never spoke of a man manually stimulating himself to ejaculate. According to Scripture, this gives the appearance of a normal sexual activity between husband and wife, or “wet dreams.”
Now here is the Scripture.
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”
Notice that the Lord mentioned two members that are involved with solo sex.
When you are watching porn, you do not have to be with that person to commit adultery.
Just looking to lust after her flesh is enough to declare that you have committed adultery. But you take things to the next level. You look to “….fulfill the desires of the flesh and the mind.”
You begin to make “….provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”
Then James 1:15 manifests “…Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”
Everyone knows that a man and a woman must use their hands and eyes, or images that appear before us to arouse sexuality.
How does one fight these urges?
Paul said in Romans 6:11-14 “Likewise you also, reckon yourselves to be dead indeed to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus our Lord. Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lusts. And do not present your members as instruments of unrighteousness to sin, but present yourselves to God as being alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God. For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”
Hebrews 12:4 says “You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”
Look back up in Matthew 5:27-30. This is exactly what Jesus meant.
It is a metaphor.
How far are you willing to go to stop yourself from obeying the urge for solo sex?
One moment of pleasure can plunge you straight to hell.
Is it worth it? Is one moment of touching yourself sexually worth going to hell over?
If you do not believe that you can go to hell over this, are you willing to take that chance?
Is the risk worth it?
Some of you believe that the risks outweigh the penalty because “…suppressing the truth in unrighteousness” is deceptive. Remember what Jeremiah 17:9 says.
“The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. Who can know it?”
In light of all this information, the ball is in your court.
You have a decision to make.
Sexual immorality is MOAB, the Mother Of All Battles. Sexual immorality is the Goliath of our times. We will either continue in solo sex bondage, or fight the urge to be and remain free.
A few years ago, I received an alert from the Holy Spirit. He told me not to watch the Super Bowl. I sensed this same urgency this year. Since that first warning, I’ve never watched the Super Bowl again.
I’ve sequestered my heart from sports events because of their association with abrasive sexual immorality in the media world. I am not imposing this upon others that watch sports.
I’m trying not to be legalistic with you but UNGODLY TV is just waiting on your need to be entertained and deliberately plant several sensual seeds into your mind. Jesus said in Matthew 6:22-23…
“The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light.
But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!”
Your eye represent the portal by which evil or good enters.
If what you’re desiring is good or evil, you will look at good or evil.
Then we try to cleanse our minds of the filth and sometimes it’s not as successful. That’s because we try to pray and we can’t get through to God. Like clogged drains, our hearts are muddied with the world.
I know the dangers of pictures well enough to know that it’s a set up to get my heart polluted with the world. The gains that I’ve achieved in the Lord were hard fought gains. I cannot give the devil ground. Ephesians 4:27 says, “Neither give place to the devil.”
Jesus said in John 14:30, “the ruler of this world is coming and he has nothing in me.”
It’s called the zero factor.
If the Bible is true, and I believe it is, we can put a halt to everything that the devil use to do in us. We close off the areas where he was once lord.
2 Corinthians 10:4-5 says, “The weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. Casting down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God. Bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ…..”
Temptation is just a suggestion and the Lord will not allow satan “to tempt us beyond that which we are able to resist, but will with the temptation also make a way of escape that we may be able to bear it” according to 1 Corinthians 10:13.
As with all men, football is a right of passage for men and since they’ve really increased the visibility and entertainment aspect of professional football, unbeknownst to us, the other not so well seen activities have increased.
Any city that gets the Super Bowl opens up the door to sexual predators and addicts on every level. With these sports venue, the amount of sexual immorality increases.
Normally, it would be about female prostitutes, but there is no question that male prostitutes are available for homosexuals. Let’s not forget bisexual activity is part of the game.
High end escorts, and other activities and kidnapping, drugs, alcohol, gambling. It’s all interconnected.
For professed believers, they will watch the Super Bowl too.
And of course the Halftime show.
Once again a seductress will be on display.
And professed Christian men will once again be slain at her altar.
Proverbs 7:24-27 “Now therefore, listen to me, my children;
Pay attention to the words of my mouth: Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, Do not stray into her paths; For she has cast down many wounded, And all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, Descending to the chambers of death.”
You may not be with her in bed, but your heart and mind is there, and you join with the spirit of the harlot as you masturbate.
Remember what the Lord said about cutting off your hands and plucking out your eyes.
Are we men to abstain from the Super Bowl?
If you love God more than anything, you know what you have to do.
Am I imposing legalism? Am I a “Pharisee?”
In your mind, I know that you are thinking about these things. But let’s look at pleasing the Lord for a moment.
In fact, why don’t you turn on the halftime show and ask the Lord to watch it approvingly with you. Sarcastically, I’m sure the Lord Jesus will give you the thumbs up.
You know good and well that the world is not going to spare your eyes with feminine power. Ladies, we are not berating you. We are opposed to sexual immoral women and men. Everything that is of the world, we must hate it as God hates it.
If you do not hate what God hates and love what God loves, James 4:4 abides on you.
Romans 8 tells us that they that are in the flesh cannot please God. There is no life and peace in the things of the flesh.
Remember what the Lord Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
You do not have to have her physically to be slain by her and descend into hell.
1 John 2:15-17 says “Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world —the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life — is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever.”
But these men will watch anyway.
No true love for God and His Word.
They will ignore the warning from the Holy Spirit and be engulfed in lust. They will file these vile images in their minds to masturbate off of later.
Then there will be those that will heed the warning from the Holy Spirit according to Matthew 5:27-28, Romans 13:11-14, 1 Corinthians 10:13, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18, 7:1, James 1:21, Hebrews 12:14, and Job 31:1.
God in heaven, in Jesus’ name, we pray that each man will take heed and cleanse himself from the evil that will be displayed on network TV. That they would abstain from the appearance of evil.
That they would not entertain the temptation of the enemy. But that they would fill their mind with You and Your Word. That each man would learn how to sanctify they hearts.
That they would fight the urge to watch perversion and evil. That they would keep their eyes on You, Lord. That they would not set any wicked thing before their eyes according to Psalm 101:3.
The story regarding the announcement of this seductress could be read here.
Picture from flicker.com
Great article by Rick Warren of Saddleback Church on “How To Have A Fresh Start After Committing Sexual Sin”…..except…..as always, the majority of these articles never bring up the reason for watching pornography.
Masturbation is the Most Unholy Place.
It is The Taboo of Taboo.
Like you have in the temple in the OT patterned after the temple in heaven.
The holy place and then the Most Holy Place
Porn is the unholy place and masturbation is the Most Unholy Place.
Very few address masturbation for a number of reasons. And it is usually because the author and other authors, based on preponderance, MIGHT have been involved.
It is PROBABLE that they are still involved with masturbation.
I could be wrong because I don’t know everything as God does.
It is embarrassing but when you really want to come clean, transparency in this area prevents God from exposing this secret.
Hebrews 4:13 “And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.”
So, when I talk about my involvement with porn and masturbation, humbly, I remove the exposing power of God from His hands. I take away His opportunity to tell everyone what I did in secret. God has no story to tell.
When it comes to sexual immorality, this is Psalm 90:8.
Masturbation is the high place that most men and women refuse to destroy.
And they can’t destroy it on their own. It takes the redemptive power of God and the help of others that have either maintained their walk before God, who never fell, or were once involved in masturbation that broke free and maintained their freedom for more than 3 years, and for the rest of their lives.
If you read the books of 1 and 2 Kings, and Chronicles, whenever reform was made, very few would destroy the high place. The reason behind it was that it would be reserved for the exclusive worship of God. Then after the reform ended, they resumed to business as usual.
While Rick Warren’s article has very meaningful steps to address the issue of SECRET SEXUAL SINS, the very thing that keeps a person returning to the high place of masturbation is “no fear of God before their eyes” (see Romans 3:18).
Thank God that the grace of God is there for us when we repent, but what is missing is that when we resume a habit, cycle, or pattern that is not condoned in Scripture, there is no question that what is absent is the “fear of the Lord.”
Ecclesiastes 8:11-13 “Because the sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil. Though a sinner does evil a hundred times, and his days are prolonged, yet I surely know that it will be well with those who fear God, who fear before Him. But it will not be well with the wicked; nor will he prolong his days, which are as a shadow, because he does not fear before God.”
We are afraid when we see flashing lights behind us when we are caught speeding or caught with a traffic violation. We are afraid when we lie in court because of perjury and its penalty. We are afraid when we do some crime and the police officer arrests us.
But why is it that we are not afraid when we sin against the Lord?
God gives us space to repent based on His graciousness to reconsider what we are doing and make things right with God.
If we fail to conclude that sex was designed by God between one male and one female in holy matrimony, and that sex outside of this sacred institution is a violation, then it is very easy to take what we’ve declared as God being silent and give ourselves permission.
The Bible is silent on permission and prohibition of masturbation, but because sex is designed by God to be shared between one man and one woman in marriage to become one flesh, the clear conclusion is that masturbation is a sin.
You cannot become one flesh with solo sex.
Your conscience testifies that it is a sin because every person senses in their heart that what they’ve done in secret pierced the heart.
Romans 2:14-16 says “…for when Gentiles, who do not have the law, by nature do the things in the law, these, although not having the law, are a law to themselves, who show the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and between themselves their thoughts accusing or else excusing them) in the day when God will judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ, according to my gospel.”
Did you get this?
“God will judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ…”
Tie that with Psalm 90:8 and you have no where to hide, and no reasoning to justify the continuation of masturbation.
So even if you do not have anything written on paper, you show the works of the law written in your hearts, your conscience also bearing witness, and between yourselves your thoughts accusing or else excusing you.
Further proof is when you are looking for a way to continue in masturbation. Just like atheists proves the existence of God, the fact that you’ve asked that this is a sin or not is proof that it is a sin. You are looking for a way to sin just like Adam and Eve. Abiding by God’s established order of sex in marriage between one male and one female ends the reasoning to sin and the argument.
I’ll keep saying it.
NO ONE WATCHES PORN AND DOESN’T ACT OUT SEXUALLY IN ADULTERY, FORNICATION, BISEXUALITY, HOMOSEXUALITY, AND MASTURBATION.
So if we want to please the Lord as Jesus did according to what He said in John 8:29, like Enoch in Hebrews 11:5-6, and like what Paul said in Romans 8:8, that they that are in the flesh cannot please God. So how can we please God? By walking in the Spirit, living by the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus.
Therefore masturbation is a work of the flesh that disqualifies us from pleasing God in the Spirit.
So to stop the revolving door of masturbation, Rick Warren’s article outlines critical steps, BUT to permanently stop masturbation, the fear of the Lord must be evident.
An accountability partner brings that fear especially when they ask you if you’ve watched porn and masturbated. This is also another thing that is missing in his article.
You cannot watch yourself.
YOU call the shots and make the rules when you declare self accountability.
Many preachers that end up committing adultery hate having the heat on them in personal accountability. It’s right at the point, which is a few weeks after the excitement dies down, that they want to be released from accountability. Their masturbation habits, patterns, and cycles according to Romans 13:11-14 is still “fresh in their flesh.”
The inner discipline was never established to begin with and they are back to touching themselves sexually. They haven’t learned, over time, the disciplines required to forever abstain from masturbation, so it is easy to resume very early after adultery.
That’s why it’s a secret.
Masturbation is the MOST UNHOLY PLACE that men and women do not want to destroy.
As David Wilkerson once said, you have to break covenant with sin.
This stronghold must be dismantled and then removed for good. Then the inner discipline must be established to forever forsake it according to Proverbs 28:13.
So, once again, great article by Rick Warren, however, it is time to be for real about pulling the covers off on what men and women do secretly and expose it according Ephesians 5:8-14.
Otherwise, SECRET SEXUAL SINS will continue.
The Rick Warren article could be read here.