Pastor Takes $22,000.00 From Church Funds To Pay For Adultery


Well, as I have said a very short time ago, pastors and adultery is not the surprise issue. We all get highly upset about it and treat it with disgust, but look deeper and you will see that porn and masturbation in a pastor’s life is the foundation of all adultery. There are two kinds of adultery.

  1. Sight Adultery. Matthew 5:27-28.
  2. Physical Adultery. Exodus 20:14 & 1 Corinthians 7:2.

To top it off, this pastor takes church funds ($22,000.00 over time) to pay for the high end of sexual addiction of acting out his fantasy.

Yes, married pastors that sin sexually will take things to the next level in the world of sexual sins.

According to Dr. Patrick Carnes’ this is the “cycle of sex addiction,”

1. Thoughts or fantasy.

2. Rituals.

3. Acting Out.

4. Remorse.

Level one sexual addiction involves porn, masturbation, prostitutes, and adultery with mistresses, and fornication should a professing believer or sinner isn’t married.

Not everyone is a sex addict, but when you are only controlling and managing your sexual appetites, you are determining the frequency, time, and preferences to act out sexually other than with your wife.

After the fantasy of masturbation gets old, the next line to cross is illegal sex with another man or woman.

As I have said before, the lines that people say they wouldn’t cross are crossed eventually.

There was one comment in the article that was interesting. Words to the effect…….“Aren’t there more important things for Charisma to report?”

When it comes to pastors and adultery in the church, the Lord is exposing the leaders that profess to know Him with their mouths but their hearts are far from the Lord (see Matthew 15:8). There is no question that this is a serious issue in the house of the Lord. It brings into question their relationship with the Lord and with their wives.

This is not the last report because we know that there are ongoing incidences even as we read this and other articles.

These are the last days and sadly, many will pay the price for walking away from the Lord. Then again, there are others that commit this sin who were never saved to begin with. We don’t know what’s in the heart of this pastor, but clearly Hebrews 13:4 and Revelation 21:8 is in play unless true repentance and faith toward God is made.

Another thing that the Lord told me was that satan hasn’t brought out his best.

IF you are a pastor and you are struggling with porn and masturbation, and you have been tempted to take things to the next level. Meaning that you haven’t crossed the line into prostitution and committing adultery with a mistress, this is the time to rein in your sexual appetite and get help from the Lord.

You are about to get exposed and the Lord loves you enough to reveal the dirt in your heart so that you can get things right with Him.

No man commits adultery, watches porn, or masturbates without first divorcing himself from his relationship with the Lord.

And let us not forget that another wife and family is destroyed. The wife will undergo many seasons of despair, anguish, embarrassment, and pain as this is publicly laid out. And the mistress who is in need of deliverance. She played a crucial role in the downfall of this pastor. While it is possible that she is unsaved, she too, is in need of the Savior.

The article about this pastor taking $22,000.00 to pay for his adultery could be read here.

The Dangers Of Sex With A Pastor

For the last few months, I’ve noticed some titles. I take note of these things because there is no question that when this topic is out there with increased frequency, it is possible that a woman or some women are about to engage in sex with a male pastor.

There is no question about the fact that there are more married pastors than there’s single pastors, but I find that just because the pastor is married, to a single or married wrong minded woman, to them, it doesn’t mean that he is “off limits.” The wrong woman mistakenly assumes that he is fair game.

Dissatisfaction within the marriage happens for a number of reasons, and it happens in every marriage. However, it is not a good reason to look over the other side of the pulpit or pew to engage in sexual immorality.

Another woman, whether a prostitute or a vulnerable church woman is not the solution to solve dissatisfaction in the marriage. To have the wrong pastor is not the answer.

All it takes is the right set of circumstances to set up sexual immorality, and the game is on.

Woman that attempt to engage in sex with a pastor may be filled with romance fantasies that lead to sin. Just as men engage in sexual fantasies, women engage in romance fantasies. 

Pastors are vulnerable due to being emotionally and physically drained after preaching. That’s why it’s always best for a pastor to retire to his study to escape these vulnerabilities. 

But he must escape other temptations on Sunday afternoon. Watching sports with cheerleaders. Watching movies with sex in it. Watching news with club dressy women. Watching shows with sex laced trailers and commercials. 
Checking the Internet and getting bombarded with provocative women and chatting with women in the chat rooms. 

When pastors go to the store or supermarket, the checkout counter is filled with salacious titles and sex pictures. 

More pastors open themselves to being exposed to material inadvertently and then they deliberately go after flesh. 

After the preaching of the Word of God, the anointing to preach lifts off of the man of God. The trek down the mountain top is full of booby traps, trip wires, ambushes, and IED’s (improvised explosive devices). I’ll get to IED’s for pastors in this blog.

Dr. Archibald D. Hart once said that sex is a great “pick me up.” In either case, whether the man of God feels like he’s conquered the world in his preaching, he wants a “reward.” When he feels that he didn’t nail his sermon, or he feels emotionally down, he wants a “pick me up.”

Women instinctively this pick up in understanding the emotional vulnerability of a man.

For instance in 1 Kings 21:1, Ahab wanted Naboth’s vineyard. Naboth told Ahab that it belonged to him, given to Naboth as an inheritance from his fathers.

Covetousness driven him to have Naboth’s vineyard and when Naboth said “no,” Ahab’s countenance changed. Ahab returned to his residence and Jezebel observed his countenance.

1 Kings 21:4-5 says, “So Ahab went into his house sullen and displeased because of the word which Naboth the Jezreelite had spoken to him; for he had said, “I will not give you the inheritance of my fathers.” And he lay down on his bed, and turned away his face, and would eat no food. But Jezebel his wife came to him, and said to him, “Why is your spirit so sullen that you eat no food?”

Jezebel, as with women in general, will pick up the mood of a man just by reading his body language and countenance.

When they ask “What’s wrong,” the wrong woman will steer a man.

The rest of the story ended in Naboth’s death.

The wrong woman is able to pick up dissatisfaction in a pastor’s marriage and will attempt to be a voice as well as become sexually available to connect with him.

Now ladies, it’s important for you to understand that you are not married to him and you have no business becoming an intermediary. What I have also come to realize is that there are many women that will not accept responsibility for their actions and place the blame on the pastor.

Both must be blamed.

The wrong pastor and the wrong women.

The pastor didn’t maintain his sexual integrity with his wife. Allowed personal issues to become blockades to reconciliation, and never sought help from other pastors to deal with his personal issues. There is also his personal life that must be dealt with.

Is he watching porn and masturbating?

Whether he is having marital issues or not, porn and masturbation is a clear sign of disconnection that the wife cannot ignore. Extracurricular sexual activity, without committing adultery with another body is always at the root of many issues in a marriage relationship.

The “wrong woman” will pick that disconnection up.

In Genesis chapter 3, the devil entered the serpent to deceive Eve. However, based on preponderance, the devil was watching the interaction between Adam and Eve and concluded that Eve was inquisitive. The disconnection between Adam and Eve was detected and that’s when the enemy made his move.

Because of the disconnection, the enemy was able to make his move and plunged all men into death.

Hence, when the wrong woman detects the disconnection between a pastor and his wife, and she makes her move.

On the other hand, the wrong pastor seek vulnerable, insecure, emotionally unstable women too. It is never one sided. Sometimes, “worlds” collide under the right/wrong set of circumstances. With the wrong pastor, he has now become a predator and seeks to take advantage. He has the ability to see who is wiling to engage in sexual immorality and deceive a woman.

This is where women have to learn to guard their emotions and be on guard. The wrong pastor will turn into a serpent right before your eyes. He will be subtle like the serpent in Genesis 3. At first, it appears innocent, harmless, and safe. Pastors will not make their move until he knows that he’s won your heart. You trust him. You feel safe around him.

You don’t see it coming.

He touches your hand. Strokes your shoulders. He kisses you on the cheek. He’s re-assuring you with words that you wanted to hear. Not realizing that the wrong pastor is playing with your affections. This goes on regularly and then he makes his move. He perverts the Word of God as you give token resistance. You believe him and the rest is history.

“…and sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.”

There are other women that know to stay away from them. They recognize the signs when he makes his move and they blow the whistle. They run from them quickly before trouble manifests.

Proverbs 14:15 says “The simple believes every word, but the prudent considers well his steps.”

Proverbs 22:3 says “A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, but the simple pass on and are punished.”

This is the improvised explosive device.

It happens on both sides.

The wrong women lay the explosives just as good as the wrong pastor.

When it explodes, it leaves body parts all over the place.

Carnal Christian Women Lust Too!

You’re standing there and you know she gave you a quick glance. Then another one gives you eye contact. You are not seeing things. Too often, we think that it’s just the men that have this lust problem. Women do too. Only women look for companionship, love, acceptance, and connection. While women do think about sex, it is true that they think about sex less often than men. But there is no question that women love sex and romance.

And you know I’m preaching right.

However, when it comes to women, the majority of them are a little more discrete. The peripheral or quick glance. For the most part, most women do not have that intent but when it comes to going “out on the town,” they are in passive hunt mode.

What about passive hunting in church?

The play ground may be different, but sometimes the objective is the same.

It’s true.

Then there are the ones that will let you know that they are looking.

It’s the law of attraction but it is also the law of sin and death.

It is true that the church is a place where many women go. In fact, it is certain that men will be outnumbered in every church you attend. I must admit, that the majority of women that do go to church, go for the right reason. They are more aware of the presence of the Lord and honor God and His Word. However, every now and then, some of them slip up just like the men do.

Ladies, you are to be just as disciplined with your eyes.

Remember Potiphar’s wife?

It appears that she had an eye for Joseph.

In Genesis 39 and verse 6, the latter portion, the Word says,

“Now Joseph was handsome in form and appearance.”

The word “form” is the Hebrew word “to’ar,” and it means “shape, form, outline, figure, appearance.” 


The man was built.

It appears that Potiphar’s wife was neglected, for whatever reason. Leads me to believe that she was “burning.”

We all know that singles burn more than married women but here, when you see a married woman desiring sex from another man, sometimes, it’s because of sexual neglect. It is known that when married women feel that they need more sex to feel connected, to cross the line to engage in extra-marital affairs to satisfy those needs, may be an indication of an imbalance in the person.

This may be a form of sexual addiction to fulfill connection needs. As warped as it may seem, some women will offer their bodies to have that need met. In other words, exchange one (her body) for the other (connection).

In comes someone that looks younger and better than her husband.

Verse 7 says,

“And it came to pass after these things that his master’s wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, “ Lie with me.”

In desperation, she doesn’t wait for Joseph to make any move. No play from Joseph. The first move came from Potiphar’s wife.

Unusual, but not unusual.

It’s the same in some churches. There are some women that will make the first move on a married pastor. Sadly, there are some married pastors that will yield the first time someone gives an offer.


Notice what the New English Translation says,

“Now Joseph was well built and good-looking. Soon after these things, his masters wife took notice of Joseph and said, “Have sex with me.”

Joseph had the right idea and didn’t want to disrespect Potiphar.

She was persistent because every day, she pestered Joseph.

It leads me to believe, and I could be wrong, that she was sexually neglected by her husband. This is the case in many churches. For whatever reason, there are married women that are neglected by their husbands at home and they look to connect with the “mand of Gawd.”

This is not everywhere, happening with everybody.

Let’s be clear.

However, it does happen.

To deny that this doesn’t happen is not being truthful about a growing problem of Secret Sexual Sins in the church.

1 in 6 women watch porn. 1 in 3 women will act out. In other words, they will shift from the chat room to the bedroom to connect with these men.

I am reminded of a story of a woman that went on the Internet while her husband went to sleep. She engaged with this man in the chat room. She finally agreed to meet with this man in Texas. She flew down there and they got a hotel room, and had sex. Prior to this rendezvous, she was seeing a sex therapist. After the sex, she was beaten into a coma. Her husband put out a missing person report. When she came to, she called her therapist and said that she now admits to having problem.

I don’t know about you, but this is a worse case situation that could have ended up much worse.

Then it dawned on me. It appears that there was no connection with the husband and wife and she may have found someone in the chat room that “understood” her. Perhaps the man listened and gave the kind of caring, loving, and understanding responses that she didn’t get from her husband and the stranger was rewarded with the use of her body.

Is this making any kind of sense? No! It doesn’t make sense.

As I was watching a show, there was a lady that was married. She and her husband were unable to have a child and she hasn’t had an orgasm with her husband during the process. Somehow, this woman met another married man that was disgruntled in his relationship with his wife. They met each to her and entered an adulterous relationship. On the first night she was able to have an orgasm. Don’t concentrate so much on the sex and orgasm. What she really wanted was for a man to understand her and he provided that for her. As a result she was able to release all of the tension, including sexual tension once she felt that she was understood.

Sometimes when a husband fails to understand his wife, the woman will shut down completely until she is clear in her mind that she is understood.

It’s probably the same with Potiphar’s wife. She may have had sex with her husband but she wasn’t understood as a person. When Joseph came on the scene, a couple of things could have taken place if the adultery took place.

Disrespect the husband by having another man to get her husband to be jealous so that she could final get him to understand her. Lust in the heart to fulfill a sexual fantasy.

It doesn’t matter if a man of God is married or not. If she is intent on stealing a married man or try to get “noticed” by a single pastor, it is a clear recipe for disaster.

Ladies, you have no business attempting to steal a married man, pastor or not.

You do not have to be a home wrecker.

That same man that yielded to you in the bedroom, it could happen to you according to Galatians 6:7-8. Another woman could come and steal him away from your heart, no matter what you offered.

The sin of adultery is not a game. It is for keeps. The devil will use your loneliness, bitterness, emotional imbalance, and other issues to destroy you and bring shame to you.

For the most part, women are a little more disciplined than men because they do not want the shame and stigma that goes with being a home wrecker.

But just in case, here is four recommended things that you might want to consider doing to maintain sexual purity in your walk before the Lord.

1. Submit and Resist

The only safety you have is the Word of God and strict obedience.

James 4:7 says,

“Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”

The Amplified Bible says,

“So be subject to God. Resist the devil [stand firm against him], and he will flee from you.”

We all know that it is tough out there for women. The competition is very, very steep. Single women are victimized daily. Males are not stepping up to the plate and committing to relationship and marriage. That’s why in some places, there is some form of desperation, and male pastors take advantage of the emotion state of women.

While this is a whole new ballgame, single males make it very difficult for single women.

Males are not preparing themselves for marriage. They are ready for the bedroom but they are not ready for the relationship. That’s why women need to just shut it down and not give a man sex. They have to be forced into realizing that the currency of sex is relationship.

That means males have to learn how to properly relate with the opposite sex. Males have to learn how to treat women with love, affection, romance, and respect. At the same time, women need not lead a man on by offering body parts. You do not have to walk into church and look like the menu of KFC.

Seduction drives a man to do crazy things. Seduction will draw his attention but after the window dressing and he has his way with you in bed, what is there left? No relationship.

They way you dress and act may be the wrong signal and message you are sending.

Don’t get me wrong. There are some women that do dress provocatively and you know it. However, a woman could be wearing something discreet and men will still perceive it as provocative. So the blame is not to be placed squarely in the women, and rightfully so.

2. Draw Wisdom From Seasoned Elderly Ladies

You need to sit and talk, not with a male pastor, but with a seasoned elder lady. There are many seasoned elderly ladies to talk to about life issues. It is important to maintain charity in the hour we are living in.

Sometimes, there is more to issues than just sex and love. While these things is important because that’s life in marriage, there may be other interconnected issues that need to be brought out. Perhaps there is a reason why your husband isn’t responding to you. There may be some things that you may be doing that may be actual reasons why you are experiencing disconnection with your husband.

3. Keep You Mind Holy

It’s the same with men. Dr. Archibald Hart, author of The Sexual Man once said that if you could preoccupy the mind for 15 minutes on other topics other than sex, you could disengage sexual thoughts. Meditating on the Word according to Joshua 1:8 is the key.

Find something to do other than the chat room. Get up and go outside for a walk. Go shopping. Go for a drive. Disengage your lonely feelings and get into the presence of the Lord. Fast, pray, find a partner to talk about the Word of God.

Do everything that you can to disengage sexual thoughts by keeping your mind stayed on Him (see Isaiah 26:3-4).

4. Stay Away From Disgruntled Women

There are a lot of women that is bitter against married women. It is important to point this out because there is more anger and frustration against married women than ever before. To sit around and simmer about what married women have is only making the situation worse.

This further brings the forces of darkness against you to keep you from your man. Besides, the Lord honors faith, not foolishness. The one thing that you do not need to do is keep the bitterness of the devil alive in your heart and mind. When the Hannah’s of the church show up, they will go to the place of prayer and voice their request to the Lord and God will respond. He will remember. As long as you sit around with bitterness and sit with other women that are equally as bitter as you, you are building a stronghold for the devil to keep the blessing of the Lord out of your life.

Freedom comes when you walk away from that group and seek the face of the Lord in faith. God will always honor His Word and not your bitterness.

Some will say, “But pastor, you don’t know!” Yes I do, to a certain extent. 

I got married in 1982 while I was in the Navy. Later that year, a 6 month MED-IO (Mediterranean/Indian Ocean) cruise was coming up where I had to be detached from my wife for 6 months. My wife was telling me of the things she had to do to keep her mind off of sex until I got home.

I may not understand it from a man’s perspective, but when my wife told me her side, I understand that the struggle is extremely intense.

Looking to connect with another man in adultery is not the answer.

And for God’s sake, stop lusting after your married or single pastor. He will not help you but harm you in the bedroom.

Like most married people, there is always something to struggle about but you do not have to walk in the flesh and jeopardize the work of the Lord just to have sex. The church already has a bad reputation. We need not further damage the church, your life, and the wife of a pastor.

Lust or desiring for that which is forbidden is only a trait of the devil.

As a child of the Most High God, and as a woman, you were created by God to be His habitation.

Please listen to our groundbreaking series, Secret Sexual Sins by clicking this link

When Your Pastor Makes A Pass At You

The last few weeks, your pastor has been making not so subtle passes at you. He’s married too. But you keep pushing him off. What are you to? The last time you crossed paths with him was in the hallway that led to his study. With his smooth words, you almost fell for his charm. With his persistent persuasiveness, it is not getting easier for you to resist. As a divorcee for 2 years, the pressure to yield to his advances increases every time you see him. She had a problem that she needed counseling about and she had no other recourse but to see him.

The young lady scheduled her appointment through the church secretary. She told the church secretary about the pastor’s sexual advances towards her and requested that she stay. Earlier in the day, the pastor told the secretary that she could leave and pick up the children after the young lady arrived for counseling. Unbeknownst to the pastor, the young lady had a hidden tape recorder.

These days, these gadgets are great for surveillance and hidden recording. She didn’t want to ruin a wife’s marriage and be looked upon as a marriage/church wrecking mistress. She was more sanctified and dignified, and only wanted to please the Lord than herself. Though she was flattered by his attention and charm, she knew that what this pastor was doing was dead wrong.

The pastor concluded the counseling session by coming out from his desk to sit next to her. Like clock work, the charm came. The pastor made a move that she didn’t count on. He put his hand on her where it wasn’t supposed to be. She screamed and begged him not to proceed. Upon hearing her scream, the church secretary opened the door. Just in time.

By the way, the church secretary was also the pastor’s wife.

Not many stories end this way.

Sometimes, it does end in rape. There are many women that yield to these predators and expect nothing to happen. Many of them end up pregnant with their children. Many women that give these pastors what they want sometimes expects these men to walk away from their wives and marry them.

The sexual scandals that happen is a two way street.

In one local church, the pastor, somehow was able to persuade his associate pastor’s wife to the bedroom. And yes, she got pregnant and is seeking child support from this pastor. It is safe (and I could be wrong because stranger things have happened) to say that the associate pastor is no longer an associate pastor there.

What really stinks is the fact that this pastor followed the footsteps of David except that he didn’t kill his associate pastor and the child didn’t die.

Ladies, I know that it is the most difficult thing in the world to do.

Resist the smooth talking preacher.

Especially if he is having difficulty in his own marriage. Like I said, it is a two way street. You cannot give yourself as a sacrifice to a “mand of Gawd” that made up his mind to sin against God, you, his wife (kids), and himself (see 1 Corinthians 6:18-20). Hebrews 13:4 is still in the Bible.

Read Ecclesiastes 8:11-13, too.

In the story, I gave some very basic tips.

Tip #1
Resist Temptation.

James 1:12 says, “Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.”

If you love Him, you will not sin against Him. If you want to be blessed, endure temptation according to 1 Corinthians 10:13. Temptation is only an offer. You can refuse to accept the offer no matter how good it is.

How do you refuse the offer?

James 4:7 says,

“Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.”

Your resistance comes out of a place of submission to God. You cannot resist if you do not submit to God. You have to fight every temptation from the place of honoring your Lord and the Word of God.

1 Peter 5:8-9a says,

“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith.”

According to Vine’s Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words, “sober” means, “to be free from the influence of intoxicants.”

The sinning pastor is already intoxicated with porn and self sex. This sinning pastor has moved up the ladder of level one sexual addiction and is lusting for further sexual satisfaction. He stalked you out as prey and you are next on his menu.

To be sober requires that you refuse to be intoxicated with the smooth, persuasive words of false preachers. It also requires that you “watch and pray that you fall not into temptation (see Matthew 26:41a). That’s what vigilance requires. That you pay attention to everything around you when you are around smooth talking false preachers.

Remember, women are deceived with words (see Genesis chapter 3.

Tip #2
Bring Company

When you schedule a time for counseling, go the extra mile. Invite another lady to go with you. This may eliminate clergy parishioner privilege unless a form is made and signed by any parties present to keep the subject under confidence. Demand that the door to his office remain open during the session. The pastor can excuse anyone in the area to leave so that confidence is maintained.

There must be a change of policy with pastors.

No male pastor should counsel a female alone, any where in the church. He should exercise due diligence and have qualified, competent staff female pastors available to handle the counseling of other females in the church. Request that you be counseled by a female staff pastor. If the pastor (because of bullheadedness) refuse to assign a female staff pastor, the next line of defense is preferred.

A hidden tape recorder.

Tip #3
Tell His Wife

If the pastor consistently press you for sex, or attempts to use words to suggest sex, it is sexual harassment. You must gain the courage to tell his wife, if he is married. You should also tell the elder ladies in the church that you trust. Women that are not busybodies and gossips. Women that is not a part of the problem of sexual situations in the church. If you are married, tell your husband. If you do not, the devil knows how to set you up and you will regret it.

Let me address “a part of the problem of sexual situations.” There are many women that will “protect” their pastor. The more I see women “protect” their pastor, if that pastor is genuine, there is nothing wrong with it, up to a point. It is when they see something but they do not say something that they are a part of the problem. And it is possible that they have crossed the line with that pastor and they, themselves, were victims of his sinful ways.

Tip #4

While this was not a part of the story, this is one tip that you must strongly consider.

Leave that local church and pastor. It is a matter of time before you will yield if you stay. The devil is only out to “steal, kill, and destroy” your life.

It is not worth it.

There are many women that became mistresses in the church and are marked for destruction by many former church members. While this is wrong (the hunting down of mistresses) we do not need to add drama to the situation. Just leave that local church and warn others.


There are many mistresses that will lie about genuine pastors to discredit them and their ministry.

It’s been done before.

However, if you are a legitimate pastor, if you have the proper safeguards in place, if you keep yourself and your marriage strong, no matter what the devil does, you will win. All liars will have their part in the lake of fire (see Revelation 21:8).

We can stop this madness in the church.

It takes addressing the full spectrum of the subtle traps of sexual immorality if we are to defeat the Goliath (sexual immorality in the church) of our times. Sexual immorality was a major problem in two of seven churches in the book of Revelation. As a result of their failure to deal a death blow to sexual immorality, their candlestick was removed. It was the will of God for those churches to remain in the earth.

However, they no longer exist.

Will the same be said of your local church?

I Want To Sleep With My Pastor

All across America, there are many women, (Moabite or Jezebel) that seek to sleep with their pastors. We have covered, extensively, the male pastors that “fall from grace” into Secret Sexual Sins in the bedroom without really tapping into the world of sexual immorality on the women’s side.

The issues that face the church today are serious. We do not think that sexual immorality is that big a deal.

If this is what you are thinking, listen to these statistics.

50% of pastors struggle with porn. 49% of evangelical Christians struggle with porn.

Yes, these statistics is directly connected to this subject because if pastors are having a problem with Internet porn (by the way 89% of Internet porn comes from the United States- over 244 million sites with 300 sites added each day). You know pastors and Christians are struggling with self sex, commonly called masturbation. And if the pastors are married, and their marriages isn’t rock solid, a scandal is only a matter of time.

It is important to point out that the situation with the late Dr. Zachary Tims, his sex scandal was a clear violation of the Word of God. There is no question in my mind that when you are having an affair with a stripper, that the idea (based on preponderance) came from the Internet.

For extra measure, this stripper was in Spain. So for a year or more, he would fly to Spain. Perfect cover almost. Eventually, it was exposed and another marriage was destroyed by lust in the heart of a pastor at the hands of a seducing spirit operating in a stripper.

Some of you are already saying “Why are you bringing this up again?”

Because there is no question in my mind that another scandal is about to be brought to light. You do not have to be a prophet to figure it out. The percentages never disappoint. Perhaps you are in a local church and you are watching your pastor being seduced or is seduced already.

This example of a scandal, to date, is what takes place in many of our churches because we are too afraid to deal with exposing and uncovering Secret Sexual Sins. Especially when people and pastors are supposed to be upholding the standard of God’s Word. Not just in the preaching department, but in the “working out your soul salvation with fear and trembling.”

According to Shelley Lubben of The Pink Cross Foundation, “porn stars are prostitutes.”

In fact, according to Shelley Lubben, a former porn star that testified before a Senate Sub-Committee on Pornography, unless you are on the “A” list of porn stars, prostitutes get paid more than low end porn performers because for 16 hours of work, depending upon the kind of production they are doing, the porn stars get paid according to what they are told to do. If they do not do what the producers want them to do, the porn stars do not get paid.

And porn stars are forced to go into prostitution to make more money. It is known that they make much more money for less time “working.”

For 16 hours of work on a porn set, they may walk away with between $350.00 to $500.00, whereas a prostitute may walk away with $1,600.00 or more for only 2 hours of work.

The trade off is disgusting because of STDs, sexual assault or rape, pregnancies, if they occur, usually end in abortion, (allegedly a prostitute aborted Tiger Woods’ baby) and possibly being murdered, let alone get arrested for prostitution.

According to one article called “The Seamless Fabric,” between porn stars, prostitutes, and strippers, and women and teen girls that are human trafficked, predominantly for the sex trade, it is a “seamless fabric.”

In other words, there is no separation or distinction.

This is what I first thought after 10 years of bondage to porn. In ignorance, I thought that these “issues” were separate and that porn was a completely isolated thing.


It lessened the guilt and shame factor.

Quite the contrary.

For any sexually addicted pastor, the transition from fantasy to reality is just one decision and one female body away.

Women are attracted to powerful men in the pulpit. There is no question about it. However, there must be a call to holiness, discipline, and sanctification from both the women that come to church and the pastors. At the very least, the male pastor must be on guard.

However, this is somewhat discouraging because the male pastor will not see seduction coming. It takes the wife of a male pastor to see the seduction.

When a male pastor is conversing with a female, it may look innocent, and sometimes, it’s about nothing. However, when you see something that is more to it than meets the eye, it is better to play it safe, and talk to your husband about it. If he brushes you and your admonition off, then he is not paying attention. In the back of his mind, he is already looking forward to the next time he will have a conversation with that hot looking parishioner.

Sometimes, the mistress is not that hot looking. Sometimes, it’s the kind of sex they give that hooks a male pastor.

These issues must be addressed because we are seeing pastors fall into sexual sins more rapidly than before. Because of the Internet and because male pastors and women are loose in their living, it is very easy to fall prey to the slick preachers that promise them the world.

There are predators and wanderers in the pulpit but there are, what I call, “passive predators.”

They are called Moabite women or Jezebels, depending upon their objective. Their beauty is their weapon of choice. If you are married to a pastor, wife, you must be on the lookout for these women that desire your husband.

In the world, there’s the Beyonce’s, the Angelina’s, and the Rihanna’s.

They all have one thing in common.

Intentional Sexual Seduction.

Seductive women of the world are influencing the women in the church that play both sides of the fence. Carnal women always fight righteousness to fulfill “connection” needs.

How are these “professional” seductresses influencing carnal Christian women?

Television shows, movies, listening to and watching worldly music and music videos, and the company seductive women in the church keep Monday through Saturday.

What is it that they are learning?

How to tug on a man’s heart to get them to do almost anything when you give them your body.

Sadly, there are many women that knowingly scheme to “trap” men because of a male’s one track mind; thinking with what is below their belt line.

There’s a constant struggle in the church for the minds of God’s people. When people get saved, the Lord gave Paul the answer to why people struggle and can’t get to the next level.

The failure to renew their minds with the Word of God.

When a woman wants to sleep with their pastor, it is a revelation of the fact that they are searching for “connection” by intimacy with “power.” According to the book of Genesis, we see that women are influenced by words. However, it’s not just the words but the way that words are used.

The devil used the serpent for cover and the devil had a way with words to depict God as Someone that was withholding something. Made God out to be the bad Guy. You can’t be against somebody for nothing. The devil gave Eve a reason to be against God. Words and the way the devil used those words gave Eve enough reason to defect.

Now mind you that seduction happens on both sides of the fence. It’s not all women and it is not all men. It is a combination of the two meeting at precisely the right or wrong moment.

An unguarded pastor will drop his guard when beauty approaches him.

The most vulnerable moment of a pastor is after he preaches. It is there that he needs to be guarded by his wife. He is weak physically and emotionally. If the marriage isn’t rock solid, this is the place where the devil will attack.

More later, in part two.

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