Seducing A Pastor; Pastor Seducing A Woman – Sound The Alarm

imagesThe reason why seduction takes place on both sides is because of lust according to Ephesians 5:8-14 and 1 John 2:15-17.

However, we see that the people of God see it coming and they are afraid to sound the alarm.

If you want the Head of the Church to remove the candlestick (put your light out) and the presence of the Lord is lifted, just say nothing.

If you want the church to be a shell, then go ahead, look the other way, and fail to sound the alarm.

Most churches have already died.

The “body” is attached to a respirator and the machine is pumping the blood, but the life or spirit in the body is already gone.

It’s just a shell.

You see people going into a building, singing the same songs, praying, preaching. But the Holy Spirit that inspires what we do has already departed.

If you see something, say and do something.

There are too many people that are in church that just sit by and say, “I’ll just pray about it.”


I didn’t say not to pray. Yes, pray about it, but tell somebody what you are seeing. More is at stake than you think.

Proverbs 23:26-28 says “My son, give me your heart, and let your eyes observe my ways. For a harlot is a deep pit, and a seductress is a narrow well. She also lies in wait as for a victim, and increases the unfaithful among men.”

One of many definitions of a seductress is that she is an outlandish, strange woman.

When it comes to sex, an immoral woman will take on the spirit of a seductress. It’s just not normal. They become something that they believe in the heart that a man desires. What they wear is a signal that it is strange but sometimes you do not have to wear certain things to signal your intention.

It all begins with attraction.

Attraction is defined as the action or power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something:”

On the other side of the table is the attractiveness of a man evoking great power, charisma, and personality.

Women are attracted to that and so they become like honey and smooth as oil to capture such a man.

Depending on the purpose of attracting this kind of man, the seductive woman will pull no punches until she scores.

The pastor must always be on guard for these traps.

Notice the verse above and you will see that “a harlot is a deep pit.”

She intends to trap you so that you cannot get out. That’s what the “deep pit” signifies.

Notice the New Living Translation.

“A prostitute is a dangerous trap; a promiscuous woman is as dangerous as falling into a narrow well. She hides and waits like a robber, eager to make more men unfaithful.”

Even the narrow well is designed in the same way. You are wedged and you cannot escape her. Notice the other description. That she is a robber. What is it that she robs? Your fidelity to God, your wife if you are married, and your sanctification, integrity, sanctity to the call of God to be holy, and she robs the fear of God from you.

She is also “eager to make more men unfaithful.”

She is not satisfied that she captured one man. She loves to run up the score so that she proves to herself that she is valuable.

For the pastor, the seductress will operate without any thought. She doesn’t care if you are married or holy. She sets out to accomplish one goal. To pull you away from the Lord. We must remember that seductresses are in league with satan.

“Smite the shepherd and the sheep will scatter” is still in play. The seductress will even gain the confidence of the pastor’s wife so that it is easier to “make contact.” As long as the pastor’s wife doesn’t suspect anything, she will eventually make her move. It takes planning and a lot of cunning. If the wife has children, the seductress will make sure that the children like her too.

Invaluable. Indispensable. Faithful.

She has many ideas to set the trap because it’s all trial and error. The bait that works is the one that kills.

Seduction rarely happens in the instant. It is over time that the seductress will initiate the plan. She is patient and will persevere until she accomplish her goal.

She is a worshipper. She knows her Bible well enough to quote Scripture. She knows how to agree with you. She sometimes says the most and loudest “amens.” 

Some honestly believe that this doesn’t happen. But it does.

Some seductresses are “sleeper cells.”

They awaken at the right moment. Before the pastor could see it coming, it is too late.

The seductress observes the interaction between the pastor and his wife and when they see a riff, they take advantage of a pastor’s weakness and vulnerability. She consoles and becomes the ear of support. The pastor confides in her and she gives him the nurturing that he needs, that she sees that the wife doesn’t give.

For the seductress, sex is a mind game first and then the end game. Intercourse.

Notice what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:16 from the NLT. “And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are united into one.”

The immoral pastor is a smooth talker. In the same way that a woman uses words, like a snake, he uses the same methods.

In Psalm 55:20-21, the psalmist gives us insight into a man’s words being as smooth as butter. This is when a man makes peace or a covenant with another man but his intentions all along was to make war. You drop your guard and then he pulls out the dagger.

“He has put forth his hands against those who were at peace with him;
He has broken his covenant.
The words of his mouth were smoother than butter,
But war was in his heart;
His words were softer than oil,
Yet they were drawn swords.”

The same thing happens when a man want to have a woman in the church.

He wins her over with great swelling words to deceive her and then he has illegal sex with her. It is just like a dagger. The sad thing is that after the romp, what makes you think that he is going to remain faithful to you?

The pastor was first unfaithful to God.

Then he was unfaithful to his wife.

He uses his charm, charisma, and personality to have you sexually.

If you were really thinking, you would have blown his cover and exposed him. Because it is just a matter of time before he will walk out on you, if he hasn’t done so already.

When it comes to pastoral indiscretion, according to a book called “Betrayal Of Trust,” a pastor is either a predator or a wanderer.

A wanderer is more of a “one night stand” sexually immoral pastor.

Rarely do they divorce their wives and leave their families.

A predator is after many women.

The predator pastor is always looking for an opportunity to prey on more emotionally vulnerable women. Sadly, these emotionally unstable women are easy targets and they fall for the affection, attention, and smoother than butter words.

The only defense against a predator is that the alarm must be sounded. He must be exposed. Just like the seductress, she too, must be exposed. The alarm must be sounded. If you see these things on either side, the alarm must be sounded. Whether they hear it or not, when you see certain things that is not right, an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure.

It may cost you, and they may very well ignore the alarm, but to avoid the appearance of evil, and to spare a wife and family the grief of the most destructive act of betrayal, do not be sorry to sound the alarm.

Hot Looking Church Women: How Pastors Must Avoid Them.


Every Sunday, pastors are sexually challenged when a smoking hot looking woman comes to church.

Let me qualify something.

Not every woman is lurking to bring down a pastor.

So if you are a holy woman of God, this is not about you. Just like there are unholy pastors in the pulpits, there are unholy women in the pews.

Just as there is lust in the heart of the pastor, there is lust in the heart of certain women.

But there is the holy man of God that read certain unholy women and they deliberately avoid them.

There is really no avoiding or prohibiting certain women from entering the sanctuary. But as a pastor, you can exercise judgment and deploy specific safe guards so that even the slightest hint of sexual attraction is avoided.

Additionally, women do look for “counseling from male pastors.

Each pastor is left up to use their judgment, however, I do not counsel women alone. My wife or my daughter is with me at all times should a woman need counseling. Better yet, I let my wife counsel the women and that ends it. Men should counsel men and women should counsel women. It’s as simple as that.

I do not put myself in compromising situations.

It’s that simple.

Situations will occur when the pastor moves from behind his desk, touch hands, lock lips, then lock hips.

When Joseph was placed in the pit by his brothers, if only they knew what was ahead for Joseph. Obviously, when it comes to the plans and purposes of God that is placed in righteous men, the inevitable test to be faithful will come.

Potiphar’s wife had lust in her heart.

Perhaps her husband deliberately withheld himself sexually from her. Maybe Potiphar had erectile dysfunction, commonly called ED. Perhaps he didn’t like or love his wife any more and sex was avoided. Or, he had too much work to do to pay attention to her needs. Or Potiphar was playing with someone else in adultery.

It very well could be that Potiphar’s wife just had an overdose of demanding male attention.

Men are not the only ones that have a lust problem.

In the Garden of Eden, Eve was the first to develop lust in the heart. The tree of the knowledge of good and evil was a two pronged temptation.

The lust for power and the lust to have what is prohibited.

It probably frustrated Eve that Adam said “No.” That’s when the devil came, started with a half truth, then an outright lie, and Eve had all of the counter information that she needed to proceed.

Adam was given the Word and he remained faithful, up to a point. There is no question in my mind that Adam had a question about the tree but he remained true until Eve ate of the tree first and observed that nothing happened.

After Adam ate, the deal was sealed.

Sadly, there are women that make elaborate plans to snare a powerful man.

As Dr. Betty Price stated in her book, “A Warning To Ministers, Their Wives, And Their Mistresses,” after a mistress had a man of God sexually, the power that they thought they had seen in the pulpit is gone. That sense of “filth” birthed out of sinning against God and the shame floods your soul.

But you suppress this because now you want to continue in a false relationship.

To be rejected after you offered up yourself to a man of God would be too much to bear.

All the things she observed in that pastor while watching him in the pulpit. The “anointing.” The great words and personality, the eye contact. His baby faced looks. The charming attention he gave you after church was too much to bypass.

A soul tie took place that is reserved for married couples according to Genesis 2:24.

However, there is a perverted soul tie that takes place.

In 1 Corinthians 6:16, Paul said “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.”

Even when a man and a harlot engage in sexual intercourse, the principle is still the same. They become one flesh.

Is it no wonder that a holy man of God avoids the church harlot?

A very spiritual man of God that prays, and seeks the face of God will see, in an instant, what kind of woman approaches him. A holy man of God will hear the Holy Spirit and be on the lookout for anyone that is not of God.

A married man of God that loves his wife but loves God more than he loves his wife will know what to look for. That’s because the moment he departs from his consecration, he knows that it is over.

The Scriptures reveal the kind of woman to avoid. The book of Proverbs is the Book of Wisdom. Predominantly, it’s a Men’s Meeting Book. Women could learn from the book of Proverbs. However, it was written to men. The first 7 to eight chapters reveal the kinds of women a holy man of God must avoid.

To refuse this wisdom is foolishness to him and he will never escape the shame.

Proverbs 1:7 says “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”

A man of God is afraid to sin against God. It is there that you begin to have knowledge. Men that deliberately sin against God is not afraid of God.

If you wonder why a man is avoiding you it’s because he is afraid of God. He has developed a healthy fear of God where he would not endanger his relationship with God. Any man could preach in sin. Any man could even pray and be in sin. But you can’t be in the light as He is in the light if you fellowship with sin.

1 John 1:5-7 says “This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 

But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.”

For a man of God to be attracted to you, cross lines to get to your hot flesh, is just a fast way to the hottest place created for the devil and his angels.

The door step to hell is the bedroom of a harlot.

If you are wondering why a man of God is avoiding you is because he could smell the smoke of hell ascend from the pit of hell. The sulfuric smell that you are trying to mask with all your perfumes isn’t working.

Hell in his heart and hell in your bedroom. Yes, that’s what he is avoiding.

Revelation 21:8 says “But the cowardly, unbelieving, abominable, murderers, sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death.”

He is avoiding……

The immoral and seductive woman.

Proverbs 2:15-19

“And who are devious in their paths; To deliver you from the immoral woman, From the seductress who flatters with her words, Who forsakes the companion of her youth, And forgets the covenant of her God.

For her house leads down to death, And her paths to the dead; None who go to her return, Nor do they regain the paths of life —“

Proverbs 5:3-6 

“For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, And her mouth is smoother than oil; But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a two- edged sword. Her feet go down to death, Her steps lay hold of hell. Lest you ponder her path of life —

Her ways are unstable; You do not know them.”

The only remedy is verse 8. 

“Remove your way far from her, And do not go near the door of her house,”

That’s how you avoid the immoral seductress.

When she invites you to her house, remove your way far from her and do not go near the door of her house.

Proverbs 5:20-23 says

“For why should you, my son, be enraptured by an immoral woman, And be embraced in the arms of a seductress? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, And He ponders all his paths.

His own iniquities entrap the wicked man, And he is caught in the cords of his sin. He shall die for lack of instruction, And in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.”

The pastor is avoiding you because he doesn’t want to go to hell with you.

If there is some other reason why he is avoiding you, if you are a woman, if the pastor is married, approach his wife. If the pastor is single, approach an elderly lady. In times like these, it is best to use wisdom so that the hint of sin is avoided.

However, if you are a church harlot or temple prostitute, wonder no more about why a pastor is deliberately avoiding you.

10 Deadly Sins Of Leaders Involved In Secret Sexual Sins. #5 Pride And Arrogance

Proverbs 8:13 says, “The fear of the Lord is to hate evil; pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverse mouth I hate.”

Pride and arrogance is always at the root of a fallen leader. In most cases, a sense of invincibility comes into the mind of a man and you begin to have a false sense of security. Security in the sense that you believe nothing is going to happen to you, or that you would not get caught.

There was once a king in Africa that was married. He had sex with a prostitute that was HIV/AIDS positive. While there is no such thing as unprotected sex because you either have sex or you don’t. Any way my point is that he wore no condom. Even condoms fail but the failure is not the point. Where your hands travel and where your penis goes, penetration is not necessary for infection.

That’s my point.

However, this king decided to have sex without a condom. A few years ago, on the continent of Africa, many people were ignorant of the transmission of diseases (STD). So, they would engage in sex and today, the pandemic of AIDS is an international crisis. This king of a nation thought that by taking a shower and washing his genitals, he would not get infected.

Pride and arrogance, when not removed by humility and wisdom is part of a male’s inability to guard against urges and impulses, which, in turn, dictates choices. When you got your flesh and mind set to engage in sex with a person, wisdom is thrown to the wind.

Psalm 107:17 says “Fools! Because of their transgressions and because of their iniquities are afflicted.”

The word “fools” means “to be perverse,” and it also means “one who despises wisdom.”

When it comes to sex, males will bypass every alarm just to engage in sex. When pride and arrogance kicks in, there is nothing that may stop him except if something happens by way of divine intervention.

Asa, king of Israel comes to mind when it comes to pride and arrogance.

However, let me share this. No matter the denomination or non denomination, when a leader becomes full of himself or herself, it is very easy to make a series of decisions that lacks basic judgment. When you see that a leader fails to operate in good judgment, it is a matter of time before they will make the ultimate decision that will cost him or her the pulpit.

We leaders sometimes forget that we operate under delegated authority. Leaders are not absolute authority. The measure or rule of authority is defined by the boundaries of the Word of God. To exceed the boundaries established by the Lord in His Word is extremely costly, and deadly.

Asa became king over Judah and Benjamin. In the 14th chapter of 2 Chronicles, Asa made a series of reformations that virtually destroyed idol worship and sexual immorality in the region. However, Asa left one thing undone. The high place remained. Anytime you leave something undone, it is indicative of not fully walking in obedience to the known will of God. If you are going to clear the deck, make every effort to clear the deck. Otherwise, it will come back at you in a very bad way.

Asa was tested. The Army of Asa was only 580,000 men. Then the Ethiopians came against Asa. 1 million men and 300 hundred chariots. Asa cried to the Lord and Judah prevailed. The Spirit of the Lord came upon Azariah the son of Oded and gave Asa the Word of the Lord (see 2 Chronicles 15). When you get to the 16th chapter, that’s when Asa lost it. He made a treaty with Syria to prevent Israel from from boxing in Judah. Israel was defeated by the Syrians but the Lord rebuked Asa for trusting in his own wisdom to get out of a situation.

The prophet Hanani gave Asa these words from the Lord.

“And at that time Hanani the seer came to Asa king of Judah, and said to him: Because you have relied on the king of Syria, and have not relied on the Lord your God, therefore the army of the king of Syria has escaped from your hand. Were the Ethiopians and the Lubim not a huge army with very many chariots and horsemen? Yet, because you relied on the Lord, He delivered them into your hand. For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him. In this you have done foolishly; therefore from now on you shall have wars.”

Asa was so furious and so full of himself that he put the prophet in jail.

Note also that the prophet said that “In this you have done foolishly…”

Do you recall Psalm 107:17?

The opposite of foolishness is wisdom.

Asa failed to call upon the Lord and called upon Syria. In the same manner, the deliverance would have been assured. God came through against 1 million men and 300 hundred chariots. To come against the Syrians would have been the same results. The end for Asa was tragic. Asa was diseased in his feet. To me, that signified Asa will walk the earth no more. Asa sought relief from the doctors and never thought to look to the Lord, first to repent, and second to get healed. Mind you that at any time, Asa could have repented and cried to the Lord to be healed, but pride and arrogance led him to his grave.

Asa sought his own means and look where it led him.

To his grave.

So it is with Secret Sexual Sins.

There are four things that is associated with pride and arrogance.

1. Elitism. 2. Empowerment. 3. Entitlement. 4. Expediency.

When you believe that you are elite, you will feel empowered to do anything. When you believe within yourself that you are empowered, you will deceive yourself into thinking that you are entitled to any man or woman to have them sexually. When you believe you are entitled, because of a lack of wisdom, you will do anything, including break the Word of God and the laws of man to achieve your prize of orgasm, hence expediency.

Sadly, many men (including myself) have fallen for this. In various ways, we have sinned before God because we thought that we were invincible. That nothing would happen. That we would get away with it.

There are no winners with pride and arrogance. The devil is the biggest loser of them all. Sadly, many men and women that were to be of God will lose with the devil. It doesn’t have to be this way.

“Humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God…”

The pulpit is the second most powerful place in the world. The place of personal prayer in the life of leaders and believers is the first most powerful place on earth. The grace of God is there that permits us to speak the Word of God. The oracles and ability comes from the Father. We somehow, deceived ourselves into thinking that it’s all about us and the next thing that happens is a series of deliberate decisions to satisfy ourselves sexually.

The only way out of this is humility.

I’ll leave you with this.

Humbleness of mind and humility, once acted upon, will prevent humiliation.