Tagged: pastors and porn

Porn, The Movies, & Avoiding Provocative Women In Church

Since covering the porn scene among professed believers and coming across mind numbing statistics, we see that nothing’s changed in terms of believers decreasing their exposure to sex filled movies, shows, and skin exposure in church services.

Porn watchers are enslaved to the images and enslaved to sexually manipulate him or herself in masturbation to satisfy themselves.

Porn is only an accelerant. More on this later.

The ability to be immodest is continuing in church service. The deliberate lack of discerning certain shows that what we expose ourselves to, is rampant.

In other words, we dethrone God to enthrone sin.

First, to address the modesty issue.

Men and women are exposing themselves to wearing certain articles to attract the opposite or same sex.

We all know that it’s summer time out there but it doesn’t give anyone the authorization and blatant excuse to wear things that we know are sexually provocative.

If you have to pull up your blouse to cover your cleavage, you know that this is a red flag. If you have to pull down your high skirt, you know it’s a red flag.

When you have to wear a cover to cover up your legs in church, it’s a red flag.

Now, this is not wrong to cover up in and of itself. At least you recognize that too much flesh is showing. It should be a very loud indication to you that perhaps your dress is a little too short.

Modern dressing doesn’t allow to look “old fashioned.”

It’s not fashionable these days. But holiness is the requirement when entering and participating in the holy worship of our Holy God.

As I was going street preaching one day, I walked by a “Seventh Day Adventist” Church and observed these red flags. I’m not an Adventist, so scratch that thought. I was walking by that church.

They appeared to be attending “church” but looked like they were going clubbing for men. Legs and cleavage.

A few years ago, I was listening to an interview of a believer interviewing a former prostitute. She said that in a well known mega church in California, female prostitutes would enter the service and sit in close proximity of their “client” while the client was sitting next to his wife.

She also said that there was no fear of God in the house of worship because the preacher would never preach on holiness.

Let me say this, that even if a preacher were preaching on holiness, for some, it will not make a difference.

If a person is bent on sinning sexually, only their death would stop them, unless they catch themselves and repent.

In the book of Numbers we see a story of Zimri and Cosbi.

Zimri was a leader and brought a Gentile woman into the camp against the commandment of the Lord. He and she walked by the Lord, the tabernacle of meeting, Moses, Aaron, and Phinehas.

At that time, the plague was moving throughout the camp because of sexual sin with the Moabites. Phinehas picked up a javelin, went into the tent where Zimri and Cosbi were, and killed them with one thrust of the javelin.

It stopped the plague and Phinehas was blessed by the Lord because the zeal of God within him judged the sin.

This was the “example” that Paul mentioned in 1 Corinthians 10.

In many of our regular Christian services, woman are wearing less and less. They are pushing the boundaries and men that aren’t disciplined will look at them lustfully.

Now we know that it is one thing to come to church sexually provocactive but when a man has lust in his heart, he doesn’t care what a woman is wearing. So there is two sides to this thing.

It’s not always one sided.

Intentional sexual dressing for church service to immorally tempt a man is more than provocative. It crosses the line of modesty where men, who are struggling to maintain their consecration to God are doing everything in their power to ignore them.

Feminine power to sexually influence a man immorally is demonic. It is passive manipulation. On the other hand, lust filled men is demonic and it is active manipulation. The collision course of the two brings death in their lives.

Most men do not know how to “bounce” their eyes to avoid looking at deliberate sexual provocation inside the service or outside as they are walking the streets.

But the sexually disciplined man will find a way to completely ignore these immoral women.

Not every woman that comes to church is immoral or deliberately intend to entice a man. There is holy women that come to church for the right reason and there are men that come to church, walking in wholehearted consecration and dedication to God.

But let’s face it.

Sexually immoral women will do everything to attract the attention of a foolish man.

Proverbs 7 speaks a such a man that went looking for sexual sin. The married, spiritually speaking adulteress found him and coerced him into her house.

It’s the same in today’s world of church service.

More and more, we are seeing an abandonment of morals and men diving into their house to commit adultery, homosexuality, bisexuality, and fornication.

But the door into sexual immorality has always been that the sexually suggestive tv ads, movies, and shows that introduce porn. The internet always have teaser ads next to the articles that you are reading. Reading the internet news is no different. The sexually suggestive ads draws a man’s attention. Photo shopped pictures increase the attractions in making pictures appear larger than normal.

Provers 27:20 says that “Hell and destruction are never full. So the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”

The Lord said to me as He was instructing me….”No sense in looking at someone that you can’t have. If I can’t have her, there is no sense in lustfully looking at her.”

Makes sense to me.

The basics of temptation are recorded in James 1:14-15.

A man is enticed when he is drawn away with his own lust-filled desires.

In other words, the moment he desires illegal sex, the enemy sends the enticement.

The enticement is a direct suggestion (temptation) to pursue that which is not lawful.

Sin is conceived in the desire to fulfill an evil fantasy. Sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.

That’s why in the church service, you have to be very careful not to allow your eyes to “travel” from the presence of the Lord.

Which brings me to emphasize again that the purpose of porn is no different than an accelerant for fire. When evil passion is in the heart of a man, he will go to places to fulfill that evil passion. Acting out sexually in adultery, fornication, bisexuality, homosexuality, and masturbation, or all of the above.

So be careful about the movies that you expose yourself to.

Radical amputation is the ability to cut off the right hand and pluck out the right eye to avoid sexual sins. If you are not willing to do without movies, you run the risk of being so overwhelmed with lust that you deliberately fall into sin.

This article on “Game of Thrones” is powerful.

Please click the link here.

Team Skeet Internet Porn Hacking Incident

th.jpeg

A few months ago, 400 names of pastors were revealed after someone hacked into the accounts of a porn website. So far, last year, one pastor committed suicide.

In this new hacking spree, over 200,000 accounts have been hacked into.

The security system on the internet is vulnerable. Even more so now and we haven’t closed the door on hackers sufficiently. When it comes to sin, however, there is no amount of security that can keep God out.

There is no question that pastors and professed believers are on this site.

It’s now a matter of who’s names come up in this new hacking of internet porn site accounts.

Anonymous, Accessible, Affordable.

The first word, “anonymous,” is part of Secret Sexual Sins.

No one wants anyone to know what a person is doing.

That’s why there’s Luke 12:2.

Even before Luke 12:2, the Lord knew you would watch pornography before the world began. Nothing escapes the eyes of the Lord in the present. And nothing escaped the eyes of the Lord before time began.

As I have said before, no one watches porn and not act out sexually in adultery, fornication, bisexuality, and masturbation.

The Lord told us to expose the activities of darkness (see Ephesians 5:8-11). That we are to do it ourselves before the Lord uses extraordinary means to get you to fall on your knees in repentance in embarrassment.

The Lord issued the warning to you in various ways.

The Lord tried to tell you Himself, but you refused. The Lord probably tried using a person close to you to talk to you. Or maybe the Lord spoke to you through a message by your pastor on sexual sins, but you refused to take heed.

Warning after warning came but you refused to take heed to cleanse your way.

These warning signs are like stop signs and red lights on a road.

When we ignore these signs, it’s a matter of time before we are caught by a police officer or state trooper. Worse, get hurt or killed in an avoidable traffic accident. And yes, others suffer for negligent moving violations too.

Such is the same with pornography.

Others suffer because of the sexual sins of others.

All of this is avoidable.

You are reading this and you are sitting there, wondering if the Lord would expose you.

Wonder no further.

If you are involved in any form of pornography to gratify yourself in masturbation, it’s just a matter of time before your exposure. It’s avoidable.

Porn and masturbation is avoidable.

To read about the hacking incident, click here.

Consecration, Anointing Power, Illicit Sex, And Moral Failure.

In almost every instance, powerful men of God, or, perhaps, seemingly powerful men of God in the pulpit, when they are not careful, they will engage in sexual immorality.

Sadly, because they have failed, they resume the ministry as broken cisterns that cannot hold water (see Jeremiah 2:13). They come back to the pulpit, thinking that they are whole.

Only to discover or known from the day they returned that they are broken, busted, and disqualified.

Many return to the pulpit like as if nothing ever happened. Fooling only themselves, their preaching is nothing less that a crash from garbage can tops.

Is it posible that the Lord could still use them?

Only the Lord can re-qualify the disqualified. 

If God does a work to restore them the proper way, no one is exempt. The thing that is upsetting is that they return when we know that they aren’t ready. The truth of the matter is that if they were genuinely honest with themselves, they would endure the process of restoration until the hint of immorality is shunned.

The shame cannot and will never be suppressed. However, in the restorative progress, God will work His Word into us until the job is complete. This is where the heart of a pastor receives that witness from God that the guilt and shame of sin must be avoided for the rest of their lives. This is also confirmed by inescapable accountability.

Run or be evasive about the secrets in a person’s life is a dead give away that tendency to sexually sin is still there.

They return to the place of ministry because they are territorial, they are still in search of being high and lifted up in front of the people in their pre fallen glory.

To save face and still be in sin is lamented. Usually they are not broken in contrition to God in humility.

In studying the story of Samson, we see that the pattern is clear.

Consecration.

Anointing Power.

Illicit Sex.

Moral Failure.

In Judges chapter 14, we see that although Samson was used by the Lord to destroy the Philistines, common traits are exposed.

1. Some of them start out Consecrated.

To be consecrated means that they were separated unto the Lord for a specific use.

When the call of God comes upon one’s life, we all promise (emotional hype) to do the will of God until what is in us that is not consecrated in full to God emerges.

With the NT, we see that the call or Personal invitation to the ministry given by the Lord could be misconstrued as an elite status.

There’s a lot of false power and prestige that comes with being a minister of the gospel. This is very misleading because the minister of the gospel is called to be a servant, not a pope or king to be served.

To be consecrated or separated involves personal sacrifice, dedication, and a willingness to do the will of God regardless of the cost to us personally. This includes that cost to our egos.

The nation of Israel fell into sin and the Lord used the Philistines to rule over Israel for 40 years. Whenever the nation of Israel fell into sin, this was God’s chastisement to get the children to return to the Lord.

In 40 years, a lot of people could die. At the same time, the Lord would send a judge to judge the nation of Israel to get them to conform to the ways of the Lord.

Samson’s parents were without children and then the pre-incarnate Jesus appeared to the mother of Samson to instruct her about Samson’s birth and her consecration.

Samson was to be a Nazarite from the “womb until death.”

As a side note, the devil, since Genesis 3:15, has been on the lookout for the Seed that would come to destroy him. So every chance the devil got, he looked to destroy the nation of Israel. The devil correctly assumed that the Seed would come from the nation of Israel but he didn’t know who and he didn’t know when.

With the combination of destroying the man God uses or destroying the nation in sin, he believed he stood a better chance at stopping the Seed before the Seed would stop him.

In the book of Numbers chapter 6, verses 1 through 21, the Lord gave Moses the law regarding his consecration. There is no instruction about not having a wife but we see that when he gives a vow to be consecrated, he is to be “holy.

You can’t be consecrated unto the Lord without holiness.

When you make up the rules of consecration, you can do anything you please.

When God establishes the rules of consecration, the only thing that is required is your compliance.

The purpose of consecration is very simple. You give all of yourself to the Lord for His exclusive service.

Easton’s Bible Dictionary gives an excellent read on the consecration of a Nazarite. At the conclusion of his commentary, he gave these words.

“This institution was a symbol of a life devoted to God and separated from all sin, a holy life.”

2. Some of them have unchecked or unbridled lust.

Samson failed to maintain his consecration when he asked his father and mother to get him a wife from the Philistines. The law is clear. The children of Israel are not marry foreign women.

One of the fascinating things about the Lord is that despite the instructions of the Lord, man is capable of doing things that is in violation of the known will of God. God uses this to instruct us of the importance of staying in the will of God.

When Samson’s father and mother honored their son’s request, the Lord was using this to destroy the Philistines. Rewind that back and we find that in Judges chapter 13, Israel sinned against God and placed them under the bondage of the Philistines. The price of sin is simple. Sin, and you will be placed under it’s law of bondage for a specified time as God sees fit.

From a wife, Samson went to Delilah, the harlot.

It’s the same with some of the NT believers and preachers today.

3. Some of them have pride and arrogance.

Samuel was full of pride because he knew that the power of God was upon his life. That is what gets to a lot of men and women of God in serious trouble.

We see that the Lord is working tremendous things in our lives and we deliberately cross lines.

For instance, there was a man of God, a Baptist minister, married with four children in Chicago that was involved in an unrelated investigation. It turned out that his sexual immorality was also investigated because a blackmail threat came to him. This happened in 2013. He sent salacious pictures to a woman that he wasn’t married to. She sent him salacious pictures to him and the rest was history.

The personal electronic devices, as much as it is a blessing, it is also the door to the “tree of the knowledge of good and evil.”

When you believe that you are the one making things happen, you begin to cross lines and do unthinkable, unimaginable, and unexpected things. Behind the anointed is a demonic anointing.

Notice this Scripture in Judges 14:14-16. 

“When he came to Lehi, the Philistines came shouting against him. Then the Spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him; and the ropes that were on his arms became like flax that is burned with fire, and his bonds broke loose from his hands. He found a fresh jawbone of a donkey, reached out his hand and took it, and killed a thousand men with it. Then Samson said:

“With the jawbone of a donkey,

Heaps upon heaps,

With the jawbone of a donkey

I have slain a thousand men!”

Samson failed to give God the glory.

Proverbs 8:13 says “The fear of the Lord is to hate evil; pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverse mouth I hate.”

Notice the word “fear.”

h3374. יִרְאָה iyr’â; feminine of 3373; fear (also used as infinitive); morally, reverence:— x dreadful, x exceedingly, fear (- fulness).

AV (45)- fear 41, exceedingly +h1419 2, dreadful 1, fearfulness 1;

 fear, terror, fearing fear, terror awesome or terrifying thing ( object causing fear) fear ( of God), respect, reverence, piety.”

For quite some time, we had used a partial definition of the fear of God.

We’ve taught only the reverential fear of God and rightfully so. But there are other definitions that must be shared in order to get a well rounded understanding of fearing God.

We’ve excluded dread, terror, exceedingly fear.

That’s why we easily sin against the Lord. We are not afraid with terror about what God would do to us if we fail to walk in His ways.

God gives us powerful victories and then we turn around, believe that we were responsible for every victory, and then we engage in conduct that is reprehensible and offensive to Him. And then we expect God to move like this all the time.

Another thing is that Samson began to treat God like an errand boy. After killing 1000 Philistines, Samson talked to God in a very abrasive way.

Notice how Samson treats the Lord.

Judges 15:18 “Then he became very thirsty; so he cried out to the Lord and said, “You have given this great deliverance by the hand of Your servant; and now shall I die of thirst and fall into the hand of the uncircumcised?” So God split the hollow place that is in Lehi, and water came out, and he drank; and his spirit returned, and he revived.”

While Samson here gives the credit for the victory, his tone reveals his heart.

I remember years ago as a young kid that I wanted water and my dad just came in from work late at night. He came into the room with the glass of water and I snatched it from him.

Looking back at it today, I remember seeing his eyes of anger. He popped me good and that reinforced the fact that he didn’t have to give me a cup of water, and that I was ungrateful.

So many of us treat God in the same way. We snatch the anointing from the Lord and it reveals that God doesn’t have to give us anything. It reveals that we are not grateful for all that the Lord does for us.

4. Some of them move from consecration to end ministry in destruction.

Because when the Lord has had enough of our childishness and disobedience, the anointing lifts and we become like mere men. Like Samson, there’s many a men and women of God that are tied to the posts without our eyes. And the whole camp of the Philistines come out to make sport of us.

The sexual immoral pastor will end the same way as with Samson.

 

Pastor’s Wives And Their Husband’s Porn Issue

This scenario is happening all across America.

There’s certain signals that sound off loud and clear that your husband, who happens to be a pastor, is watching porn. Your church is growing but there is something that isn’t right. Or your church is not growing and you can’t seem to put your finger on it.

In either case, church growth is not the goal of pastors. We plant, we water, God gives the increase.

But your marriage is suffering tremendous strain and you can’t seem to find a reason. Or you might know the reason but you refuse to address it to keep peace in the house.

Denial can be potentially deadly to a marriage.

Silence, to your husband, is considered permission. As long as he is not confronted, he has a false sense of security.

Are you a peacekeeper or a peacemaker?

As a wife, you are living right and you are maintaining your purity before God but lately, your husband has abandoned purity and holiness. His intensity to pray and to preach the Word has suffered, and you can tell the difference. The fire for God in his life is gone.

He “fakes” his way through each service. At the beginning of the ministry, he was all out and ready to do the work of the ministry. All of a sudden, it seems like water on wood. No fire.

Missing from his preaching are messages on holiness and purity. If he fails to preach against sin, there’s an excellent chance he is in Secret Sexual Sins.

What is happening?

89% of porn comes from the United States. In particular, Internet porn is the most widely used venue where anyone at any time can watch porn. No one watches porn and not act out sexually in masturbation, prostitutes, or a mistress.

A mistress is too late.

The root of the problem is found in porn and masturbation.

The secret sex life of any man is found in these two places.

As a wife, here are some signals that indicate a Secret Sexual Sins issue.

1. You’ve had no intimacy in more than a week.

He is home regularly. His hours hasn’t changed. The time that you go to bed hasn’t changed. There aren’t any known medical conditions. It’s time to ask the tough questions.

Is he seeking God? Is he fasting and did he ask for this time to be with God? If the answer is no, then……what’s up.

One of the things about porn is the “adrenaline of secrecy.”

Even though a man readily admits to watching women and watching porn, the power of not being caught and the ability to deceive the mind into thinking that he could get away with it is part of the fuel of adrenaline. That’s why Secret Sexual Sins is a very powerful revelation. It’s the secret world of sex in the mind of a powerful mand of Gawd that believes he could get away with it.

But with the Lord, no one gets away with it.

Psalm 139:11-12 says “If I say, “Surely the darkness shall fall on me,”
Even the night shall be light about me; Indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You,
But the night shines as the day; The darkness and the light are both alike to You.”

Psalm 90:8 says, You have set our iniquities before You, Our secret sins in the light of Your countenance.”

Just like David, what David did in secret, God will lay it bare for all to see in the noonday sun.

However, you need to get to the bottom of it.

Perhaps God will spare the humiliation because of a lack of humility.

2. You caught his eyes “wondering.”

The one place where you will know where a man’s heart is is in his eyes.

Proverbs 27:20 says, “Hell and destruction is never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”

Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”

If he is watching women in the street and in the church where he is preaching, there is a serious lust problem. Sometimes a man does it deliberately because he is making a statement. He wants to have what he saw sexually. This sin of sight adultery is a problem too. Sometimes women deliberately wear certain eye catching items, showing cleavage and legs, as well as body hugging dresses like they are going to the club. Some of them are emotionally unstable women that is looking to make a move.

They attend church and strategically sit in proximity to be seen. Many people will say that this is just another attack on women. Well, my question to you is, have you looked at what they wore to church? And have you ever asked them whether or not they are attracted to a married pastor? If you haven’t asked them that question, I strongly urge you to.

Men and women come to church for the wrong reason. And it is true that not every man or woman has sex on their minds but take a good look at the door and you will see that the hunt is on.

3. Your husband stays up to watch TV well past bedtime.

This is the one thing that you need to pay attention to because it’s a dead giveaway.

He may not be watching porn but he may be watching shows that preview substitute porn.

The agenda of the late shows has been pushing porn on network television. NYPD Blue and other shows showcased soft porn at 10PM to take things to the next level. Outright porn on national TV. The FCC ordered ABC to cease and we were sort of spared the indecency. But now with Internet porn, your husband has his personal devices and he doesn’t need network TV.

Discretely, he could watch all the porn he wants.

4. For some reason, he hates you.

The object of porn is to despise and dispose the wife. Porn has been responsible for the destruction of 57 percent of marriages.

Everything that you do is ridiculed, despised, and his utter contempt for you is expressed in arguments that are completely irrational, baseless, and reconcilable. He picks on everything you do. He doesn’t say much to appreciate you. He depreciates you because porn is perfect and in his mind, you are not. Porn is perfect sex, perfect faces, perfect proportioned bodies. In that arena, no wife has a chance.

The low self esteem is intended to destroy you. That’s the way the devil works in the minds of men. To help destroy you. Especially if you are a praying, Word woman. If he constantly lashes out at you but you see him be nice to other women, it is a dead giveaway.

5. You catch him masturbating in bed when he thought you were asleep.

This is common. He loves to think that he could get a little extracurricular sexual play with himself while he thinks that you are asleep, but you caught him. But you do not say anything, you just know that he is doing something that he shouldn’t be doing. You play like you were still asleep, but you know what’s up. You must understand that this behavior is lusts of the flesh, lusts of the eyes, and the pride of life operating in him.

Jesus rose a great while before day to pray. I honestly believe that the Lord Jesus got up for a reason to pray. Men are tempted sexually late at night and early in the morning. A man is aroused the most during the set times. Because of his lack of discipline, he will engage in Secret Sexual Sins to relieve sexual tension. But why doesn’t he engage with his wife?

Lust.

How do you resolve these issues with a man that seemingly has the call of God on his life but treats you like trash?

Prayer and much prayer.

God knows how to get to his hardened heart. But you have to be patient. Most men will not admit that they have a sex sin problem. The one thing that he counts on is his ability to think that he can’t get caught. But the Lord caught him before time began and it is a matter of time before he is exposed. His deception is on thin ice. The exposure is not just to humiliate him but to help him. Because he believes that he wasn’t caught, he continues on like as if nothing is going to go wrong.

This is where sometimes, he gets caught.

Just be patient. God will not be mocked.

Active & Passive Hunters: Immoral Men & Women In The House Of Worship

As people praise and worship the Lord, the people are brought into the presence of God. But a lady walks in from the back, dressed in a hot dark blue, fitting dress. Most eyes are on the Lord but a few men can’t help but notice her.

As a pastor preaches his message, a young married lady wears something inappropriate. Every now and then, the pastor can’t help but notice her cleavage.

After service, a pastor tracks down a woman to make arrangements to meet.

Not for counseling……but for sex.

Has the church become a place where the dress of a harlot is acceptable? Has the house of worship become a den of sexual immorality when men actively hunt for women for sex?

It takes two to tango.

Sexual wear of women is done for one purpose.

To attract male attention.

With homosexuality heavily in holy and unholy the houses of worship, it’s not surprising to see women attract other women, or males attracting other males, or both.

Even when male pastors exhibit oratorical power in the pulpit, it is used as attraction.

Preach well, and you will have all eyes on you.

Words.

Powerful words to move people into an emotional frenzy is enough to lure unsuspecting emotional women into the bedroom.

But when a woman comes to church looking like they are going to the club, you know that something is going on. To be noticed is her goal.

Especially if the target is the pastor.

Notice what Proverbs 7:6-11 says….

“For at the window of my house
I looked through my lattice,
And saw among the simple,

I perceived among the youths,
A young man devoid of understanding,
Passing along the street near her corner;

And he took the path to her house
In the twilight, in the evening,
In the black and dark night.

And there a woman met him,
With the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.
She was loud and rebellious,
Her feet would not stay at home.”

Notice that the youthful man that is “devoid of understanding,” “took the path to her house.”

Just imaging a young man or a middle aged single or married man is smitten in their heart when a woman comes to church dressed like a harlot. Instead of keeping their minds on the Lord, they sneak a peek to check her out.

Somehow they find a way to “hook up.”

Now everyone will say that the woman shouldn’t be blamed, it’s the man’s fault for lusting after her to begin with.

First, blame is to be applied on both sides.

When a woman intend to dress a certain way that really is not holy, it tips the scale against a man.

Proverbs 27:20 says…..Hell and destruction are never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”

 A man must control his heart, mind, eyes, and hands.

At the same time, a woman must control the way she dresses. If what she is wearing is too “dangerous” it must be placed in the closet or exchanged for something more modest. If it is “dangerous” at all, it must not be worn.

The fashion styles of today may not reflect modesty, but ask the Lord if He likes what you are wearing to His house of worship.

In many of our cities, there are spots that are havens for prostitutes. On the magazine stands are scantily clad women. If a man is not careful, these things easily fills the mind of a man to pursue “strange flesh.”

The counter balance of the purpose of these immoral women pasted on magazines is to teach women what is attractive to a man and she will dress appropriately.

After the service is over, a man that lacks understanding will take a path to her house.

Notice the time that this takes place.

“In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night.”

This is indicative of the male’s evil heart.

So there are two things that can happen in the house of worship.

The heart of a harlot and their dress, and the lust in the heart of a man that will pursue strange flesh.

The Lord Jesus said in Matthew 15:18-20a….“But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man.

For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. These are the things which defile a man….”

So the heart of the man is the seat of lust in his heart. Before he touches a woman, he is already defiled in his heart because of the evil thoughts of adultery and fornication.

In Matthew 5:27-30, Jesus said…..“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery. ’But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

And then the Lord gives the remedy called “radical removal.”

If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”

Hebrews 12:4 says…..”You have not yet resisted to bloodshed, striving against sin.”

In other words, you did not get to the place of shedding your own blood to stop yourself from sinning.

Now do not go and pull your eye out or get a knife and cut off your hand.

What are you willing to do to cut yourself off from the things that you see everyday that triggers the lusts in your flesh?

Are you willing to close your Directv subscription to avoid the Playboy, Hustler, and other Adult Channels? Are you willing to give your wife the passcode to your laptop, inspect your cell phone, have a friend that you confide with ask you tough questions that demand truthful and honest answers?

Are you willing to ask your wife to stay with you or come with you will you go overseas or around the country to preach? Are you willing to have the TV removed from the hotel room to avoid the Adult Channels?

There are triggers that enliven lust in the heart of a man.

What a man sets before his eyes is the tale of the tape.

Psalm 101:3 says….“I will set nothing wicked before my eyes; I hate the work of those who fall away; It shall not cling to me. A perverse heart shall depart from me; I will not know wickedness.”

The Lord Jesus said in Matthew 6:22-23….“The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light.

But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!”

What a man watches determines whether he has light or darkness in him. What we set before us reveals the light or darkness in our hearts. When an immoral woman passively hunts, her dark heart is already revealed.

The eyes is connected to the heart. So when a man with lustful intent look at a woman, the mind goes into a ritual stage. The mind begins to plan out how to acquire strange flesh.

Paul said in Romans 13:12-14….“The night is far spent, the day is at hand. Therefore let us cast off the works of darkness, and let us put on the armor of light.

Let us walk properly, as in the day, not in revelry and drunkenness, not in lewdness and lust, not in strife and envy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

The ritual to fulfill illicit sexual pleasure is man and woman making “provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.”

The passive hunting for a man is part of the process.

This is the perversion of the natural laws of attraction that bring single males and single females together according to God’s design so that they would do the right thing. Get married and enjoy each other’s lives legally.

James 1:14-15 says…..“But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full- grown, brings forth death.”

One of the keys to understanding the crafty heart of an immoral woman is that they are loud and rebellious. They cannot be told anything. They talk over you to overpower you. The combination of her wardrobe and loud mouth can persuade a weak hearted lust filled man.

She controls everything.

It’s the strong hearted man that resists her every move.

What must be done to stop the madness in the house of worship?

We must preach and live holy. We must identify the sexually immoral woman when they come through the door. Not to turn them away, unless they fail to listen, but to minister to them where they are hurting.

Brothers need to turn to the Lord. If they are married, if they are having situations in the home, help them to deal with it and restore their relationship before they entertain crossing lines that they said they wouldn’t cross.

There is a high price for Secret Sexual Sins.

The judgment of the Lord. Both consequential judgment on earth, and eternal judgment.

Together, we can stop the madness of prostitution and harlotry in the house of worship.

The Surprise of 2014

As you all know, the beginning of the year always begin with resolutions. 

We get to the spring season and we say, “What resolution?”

The 2014 surprise?

Oh. That’s right.

Many will resolve to lose weight but how many of you are ready to lose sin?

Losing weight is probably at the top of most people’s list, but never do we hear about laying aside every weight and the sin that easily besets us.

Rarely do we hear about a resolution to be holy, righteous, sanctified, consecrated, dedicated, and on fire for God.

It seems like we look to do everything else but be more for God than last year.

Just like natural resolutions fizzle away into procrastination, postponement, or completely annulled, spiritual resolutions take a back seat as well. Perhaps, much worse, but don’t beat yourself up about it. As long as we are alive, we have a chance to rebound and forge ahead into new territory, so be encouraged.

As time progress, satan has found a way to devise schemes, methods, and strategies to lure us back into the bad habits of sexual sins that most of us climbed out of by God’s power and grace. We soon forget the tender mercies of the Lord relating to our bondage to Secret and Overt Sexual Sins.

However, there are those that remember how God delivered us and set us free.

This year.

2014.

Especially for you brothers.

Some of you are going to surprise God.

Some of you will walk away from SSA, same sex attraction, becoming ex-gays and ex-homosexuals.

Some of you will surprise God and walk away from adulterous relationships.

Some of you will turn from fornication.

Some of you will stop your bisexual ways.

Some of you will turn from porn and masturbation.

Some of you will say with your mouth in sincerity of heart that enough is enough and become a 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 person.

Some pastors, bishops, and preachers will stop being the hypocrite. Music ministers, praise and worship singers will walk out of gay affirming churches to be affirmed and loved by God.

Some will turn from perversion and walk in righteousness and true holiness.

When the Lord Jesus was approached by the centurion, something unusual happened. The centurion had a servant that was sick. This centurion so depended upon his servant that he couldn’t do without him.

The centurion sought Jesus out.

When he found Jesus, he stated a fact of faith. “Just speak the Word and my servant will be healed.”

The centurion understood the power of words and the power behind the Words of Jesus.

There is a difference.

Humans have limited power behind our words but the Lord has absolute power behind His Words. Our words attract power and on a limited basis, releases power. Remember, we have delegated power (see Matthew 28:18-19a).

If the centurion had absolute power behind his word like the Lord Jesus, he would have commanded his servant to be healed himself, but He went to the only One that had power behind His Word.

The Bible tells us that Jesus was marveled. The word “marveled” means “to wonder or admire.”

The Lord Jesus admired the centurion’s faith and said….“I have not found so great faith, no, not even in Israel.”

The Lord is always seeking for faith in the earth, however, when it came to the children of Israel, there was none to be found.

Reliance, belief, trust, complete confidence. 

When it comes to walking away forever from Secret Sexual Sins, you must rely, believe, trust, and have complete confidence in the keeping power of God. The key to this measure of great faith is unquestioned obedience to the Word of God. Remember, the centurion understood how faith worked.

The centurion understood that Jesus had absolute authority from the Father to act against the disease and He was anointed with Absolute Power to enforce His authority to act.

Just like a police office is sworn in to uphold the law and carries his or her authority from the county, state, or federal government to act, and when necessary, he or she possess natural power to enforce the law.

The centurion knew how Jesus operated when he heard or observed His ministry. That when the Lord speaks a Word, it must happen. Then behind the Word is the Holy Spirit who takes that Word and makes it good.

You see, it’s about how serious you are with your words that determines whether or not you want it to happen.

Many of us have said that we would never watch porn anymore.

That we would never masturbate anymore.

Millions of brothers and sisters.

Some of us have kept that promise, only to be overwhelmed with substitute porn.

Magazine stands, Internet icons of women in sexy swimsuits, the news on TV with club wearing clothing that weather women or women anchors wear, church women wearing the clothing of harlots, clothing fit for the red carpet. Tight, high thigh showing, low cleavage church women wear these club dresses, not for fashion, but to passively hunt for lust filled men.

Matthew 5:27-30 is still in effect. Just because you gave up porn, our eyes and minds still need to be guarded.

Many of us have said that we would not lustfully watch men and women, or both, whether it be TV, movies, Internet or out in the street. We’ve resolved not to do it again. All of a sudden, we find ourselves slipping.

What can we do to really attack these areas?

We must do what Job did, in Job 31:1. Make a “covenant with our eyes.”

We must “Renew our minds, and ‘…be renewed in the spirit of our minds.”

We must “Cast down imaginations (reasonings) and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God and bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.”

We must be “sober…vigilant…and resist him (the devil) steadfast in the faith.”

We must “…humble ourselves and pray, and seek His face, and turn from our wicked ways.”

Song of Solomon 2:15 says….

“Catch us the foxes, the little foxes that spoil the vines, for our vines have tender grapes.”

If we would surprise the Lord and catch the little foxes….

It’s always in the small ways that big things manifest.

The principle works for the good of the Word as well as the bad for the devil.

Jesus said in Mark 4:26-29….

“And He said, “The kingdom of God is as if a man should scatter seed on the ground, and should sleep by night and rise by day, and the seed should sprout and grow, he himself does not know how.

For the earth yields crops by itself: first the blade, then the head, after that the full grain in the head. But when the grain ripens, immediately he puts in the sickle, because the harvest has come.”

Paul said in Galatians 6:7-8….

“Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.”

If we would surprise the Lord and catch the demonic seed before it is planted in our hearts, we can save ourselves this year, and the year after, and forever more.

Proverbs 4:23 says……

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”

This is the year where you will catch the little foxes that spoil the vine, for your vines have tender grapes. This is the year where you will keep your heart with all diligence, for out of your heart springs the issues or flowing(s) of life.

The surprise is not looking for God to do something because He did His part by sending the Lord Jesus to die for our sins so that we could be free from the power and guilt of sin.

The surprise is for God.

Let’s surpass and exceed His expectations.

He is waiting to be surprised.

Let’s surprise Him that we choose to do the Word and overcoming every single time.

LADY GAGA, PORN, & THE SPIRIT OF HARLOTRY

Hosea 4:11-13 says

“Harlotry, wine, and new wine enslave the heart.
My people ask counsel from their wooden idols,

And their staff informs them.
For the spirit of harlotry has caused them to stray,

And they have played the harlot against their God.
They offer sacrifices on the mountaintops,

And burn incense on the hills,
Under oaks, poplars, and terebinths,

Because their shade is good.

Therefore your daughters commit harlotry,
And your brides commit adultery.

On FB, a few Christian brothers mistakenly posted a concert photo of Lady Gaga and a man.

I know that some of you may have seen the photo but it is nothing more than soft core porn of a grotesque sexual position seen in millions of porn shots and hard or soft core porn around the world.

Without a thought, believers thought nothing of that photo and I know that many of them had to click a porn site to masturbate, or worse.

That’s why if you are a professed believer in the Lord, you must “abstain from every appearance of evil.”

You are not strong enough to look at this photo.

QUIT PLAYING!

Strength is not found when you are face to face with any demonic end time seductress with lust in your heart. Strength is found in abstaining by the grace of God. Instead of walking into the minefield, you need to find a way around it or avoid it altogether. All you need to do is look in the natural at what mines could do. The countless individuals, soldiers and civilians know the power of a minefield after the fact.

There’s no doubt in my mind what I would have done. When the temptation is always there, you need to obey the Holy Spirit, let Him take you by the hand, and find a way out. Thanks be to God, the Lord is a deliverer.

There is power in the name of Jesus to break every chain.

There is power in the blood of Jesus that broke every chain.

There is no question in my mind that after seeing that photo, many men, and perhaps women, were aroused and pursued even more salacious pictures to gratify themselves or act out in sexually immoral ways.

This is what happens when we expose ourselves to the world’s mindset.

The smart believer, if exposed to this level of porn would employ 1 Corinthians 10:13 and 2 Corinthians 10:4-5.

Remember, this is darkness attacking the light within you. This is the devil making a move to immediately snatch the seed from your heart. This is the devil taking advantage of your unwillingness to move to the good ground. To keep you trapped in temptation, cares, riches, and pleasures of this life.

If your intent is lust, when your eyes behold this, darkness enters your body and your whole body is dark. If you resist this picture, and any other sexually explicit picture you are keeping the darkness from entering into the body.

You are walking in the light as He is in the light.

Pornography is a multi billion dollar industry and even in a bad economy, it is increasing every year.

Few understand that sexual immorality deadens the heart and mind to God. Porn adds to the deadness because it is the enticing pictures that lure suspecting men from one level of sin to the next. Perversion knows no boundaries. Again, porn is just an accelerant. Sooner or later, a person dealing with porn and masturbation will stop playing with fire and take fire to his bosom and be burned.

The whole point of sexual immorality is to keep you from God. You drown in it. In most cases, men refuse the rescue efforts of the Life-Savior.

There are many men that refuse to escape. I’ve been there. I know what it is like to look outside an open prison door and refuse to walk out because the pleasures of this life, deceptively, was better than freedom. I was fooled into thinking that porn and masturbation was good. That it was ok for me to engage in self sex, getting off at every chance I get, just to feel good.

It was a dopamine drug addiction that my mind couldn’t do or live without. My life revolved around when I would get to bed to do it all over again, and again, and again.

Pornography is false sex. A fantasy world that has a mind of its own. It’s destructive forces reaches into homes and in most cases, irreparable harm is done to the wife.

Pornography is a direct assault upon the institution of a marriage.

Marriage between one man and one woman is a mirror reflection of the relationship we are to have with the Lord. So ultimately, porn is a direct assault of a man’s relationship with God. As long as a man relates to himself sexually, he deceives himself into believing that he no longer need to be close or intimate in prayer to God. Or he will fool himself in prayer and think that he is close to God while he is closer to sin.

Pretend sex and pretend worship, simultaneously, can make a man pretend he is close to God, not realizing that he is closer to the devil.

Paul said this about marriage in Ephesians 5:25-33.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.

So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

So anything opposite of this God ordained intent of marriage is obviously perversion.

Sexual immorality is an act of selfishness.

When a man loses his intimate relationship with God, the place where you may find the man is in the bed of sexual immorality.

This is the spirit of harlotry that is prevalent throughout the world and in the house of worship.

Harlotry, wine and new wine enslave the heart.

Harlotry will lead a person stray.

The Amplified Bible of verse 12, latter portion says

“…and they have played the harlot, withdrawing themselves from subjection to their God.”

That’s the whole point of a man that is not willing to come from the prison house. For freedom from sin demands that you be subject to God. The absolute dominion of God. Freedom from Secret Sexual Sins, demands nothing short of having God over your life.

The pleasures of this world and the demons that facilitate sin will deceive you into thinking that God doesn’t want you to have any pleasure.

When God created Adam and Eve, He placed them in the Garden of Eden (Pleasure). The word “Eden” means “Pleasure.”

The Bible tells us in Psalm 16:11, “You will show me the path of life, In Your presence is fulness of joy; at Your right hand are pleasures evermore.”

When the Lord Jesus was resurrected from the dead, He was seated at the right hand of the throne of God. As long as we stay in His presence, the world’s satisfaction can never come close to the satisfying presence of the Lord. As long as we look to please ourselves, we will never be satisfied. Psalm 23:1 says, “The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want.”

As long as we go to Jesus and trust Him, we will never enter into want. As long as we do not trust Him and trust the devil more, we will always be in want. The devil will never allow you to be satisfied. Even after false sex with porn, you are robbed because you didn’t have that woman or man, or both in your bedroom. So what does the devil do? He offers you to take it to the next level.

This is where the risks will always be greater than the rewards of sin.

Paul said in Romans 6:23, “For the wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

When you work for satan and sin, you will get paid.

There is always the possibility of acquiring STDs including HIV/AIDS. There is always the risk of getting a person pregnant or because you are a woman, you risk getting pregnant. Sin’s wages always pay death. Even if you were able to escape, by God’s loving grace, the consequences of sin, your heart was convicted by the Holy Spirit that you’ve violated the Word of God.

Consequences happens as a matter of time. Eventually, your “fortunes” will run out. The bolder you get, the more risks you take. The spirit of harlotry will take you from one wine to new wines. You increase in debauchery because you assume that you are invincible. That you are immune from consequences. The last test came back negative or clean. There is no sense in changing your wicked ways.

The spirit of harlotry takes you from one room to the next. Like spinning a revolver with a bullet in one chamber. You put the weapon to your head and pull the trigger.

CLICK!!

Nothing happened.

You spin it. Pull the trigger.

CLICK!!

Nothing happened, again. I must be on a string of good fortune.

You spin it. Pull the trigger.

CLICK!!

Nothing happened. This is the bomb. I must be good.

You spin it. Pull the trigger.

CLICK!!

Nothing happened. I know that I need to stop, but why. This feels sooooo good!!!

You spin it. Pull the trigger.

POW!!!!

You thought the condom worked. You thought that he or she, or both were clean. They lied or you took a chance.

It became one chance too many because the pleasure overruled wisdom and your worst fear becomes your deadly fate.

The spirit of harlotry looks down at his victim and says…

“Alas, my prey. Let me see. You are the billionth soul on my list that didn’t listen to God. Sooner or later you would die in my hands.”

EX PORN: How Pastors Can Break Free Of Pornography

You can walk out of that prison door and drop those loosed chains any time you are ready, pastor.

Jesus said, “He whom the Son sets free is free indeed.” “You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.”

There are many pastors, ministers, music ministers, and musicians that are needlessly and unnecessarily caught in the world of porn. Some of them are on the verge of going deeper into acting out their sex fantasies. When I mean going deeper, there are levels and lines to cross. For the world of fantasy is not enough. There comes a point when a person desires to be what they see. The devil will accommodate.

You do not have to take things to the next level.

A man decided he wanted to take things to the next level after being bored with the world of fantasy sex. He called an underage teen for a meeting to have sex. She told him where to meet. At a diner. A friend called and told him about meeting an underage teen for sex in the same diner. So he said to himself that he wanted to sit in his car and watch his friend meet up with this girl. His friend came and the girl came to the vehicle. As soon as words and money were exchanged, the police lights flashed and cop cars surrounded his friend’s vehicle.

The man that observed this realized that it could have been him. He drove off very slowly as his friend was apprehended for soliciting a minor.

The Lord understands what you need and He will deliver, you just need to give Him a chance.

After watching a former homosexual tell her story, she ended the testimony by saying, “I gave drugs a chance, I gave alcohol a chance, I gave sex a chance. When will we give Jesus a chance?”

After sharing the Word of God at Prevailing Word Ministries, the Lord showed me something that He was doing in me. Many of us want that explosive deliverance. Others are in search for a quiet deliverance where no one knows what happened in our past. Regardless of the kind of end result we are seeking, the Lord said this to me.

“When you called for deliverance, I delivered you and when the temptation came, I was there. Except that when you called, it felt like no one was there.” I almost said, “WHY!!!” Then the Lord said, “I was waiting for your obedience.”

The silence hurt but the Lord was teaching me that my obedience must be for real and not a game. That once I felt that I have His approval, He would say yes. But He knows me.

“The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. Who can know it?” Jeremiah 17:9

Yes, even for a preacher that knows the Word of God, the mind can easily suppress the Word to engage in sin. Yes, the mind can still operate as an unregenerate, un-renewed mind. Yes, the heart can still be deceitful and desperately wicked. And, no, we do not have two natures. The Holy Spirit, by way of the new birth, delivered us from the old demonic nature. The mind still need to be renewed and the body, our mortal or death doomed flesh still need to be disciplined.

Just read 1 John chapters 1, 2, 3, and 4.

When you make the initial decision to walk away from pornography, the grace of God to do so is there. However, the Lord knows when you are serious.

For instance, when I had finished viewing porn and masturbated, I felt the remorse set in that I’ve have sinned against God but I wasn’t really serious about repentance. For some of us, and I’m speaking for myself out of experience, I would resume the same night to watch and masturbate over and over again.

I wasn’t serious about repentance from sin.

I quickly recovered” and started the lust process all over again.

You see, it’s always the same. We get to a point where the remorse overwhelms us and then we recover after the guilt. We quickly suppress the conviction of the Holy Spirit and we suppress the Word of God to engage in more false satisfaction.

This is what keeps us in the game of false intimacy.

Once a person get to a place where they want out of this vicious cycles, patterns, and habits, it will take a while to retrain the mind, thoughts, hand and sexual organs to discipline ourselves to recover to live God ordained, naturally healthy sex lives.

Do not misunderstand me. The moment you make a quality irreversible decision to lean on the grace of God to break habits, patterns, and cycles, the Lord will work with you to get you into walking, long term, in the sexual discipline of Jesus. With married men, it is different because Jesus was never married. However, the discipline is the same. After sex we just wait to have sex with our wives.

Proverbs 5:15-19 says,

Drink water from your own cistern,
And running water from your own well.
Should your fountains be dispersed abroad,
Streams of water in the streets?
Let them be only your own,
And not for strangers with you.
Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love.

Sexually active singles will have a tough go at it because they have to endure no sex until they are married. Which is all the more reason to “find a wife.” As a single man, with more choices than to shake a stick at, all you have to do is re-establish holiness in the fear of God, walk in the Word of God, abstain from all forms of evil and commit to no sex until you are married.

For husbands, it’s more of a challenge because the images embedded in the mind obscures the beauty that a wife has. Porn has a way of deceiving you into thinking that your wife is not as perfect in bed or in looks. The mind has to be renewed to understand that beauty is a fleeting thing.

Therefore, you need to “cut off” certain things that impede your mind from thinking straight.

You have to be willing to turn off the television, ipad, iphone and other devices that give you access to viewing things that should not be viewed. You will have to avoid newspapers, magazines, books, and other material that definitely possess sexually explicit material. This includes the supermarket magazine stands and counters.

As Dr. Mark Laaser notes, you have to regain sexual sobriety.

It is difficult these days because of what is out there as far as scantily clad women and women wearing exercise clothing. However, the more you desire to please the Lord, obey His Word, and make a covenant with your eyes, sexual sobriety is achievable in a sexualized world.

To break free and to remain free is all about the decisions you make. It’s about obedience to the Word of God in not so convenient moments.

So here is what you need to do.

1. Cut Off Things That You Know That Will Drive You To Self Sex.

It is always the objectification of women that is trained in the mind of a man. The majority of commercials cannot sell items on straight themed commercials. So a pretty face and a body to go with it will sell the item, but behind all this is the spirit of lust. Because you know that you do not have the money to buy that item, so the devil leaves something for you to remember. A hot woman.

It’s the same with newscasters. Women doing weather as they strut themselves with feminine power. The movie theaters where the trailer shows their power and captures the unsuspecting male in a moment of heated passion. TV shows and DVD’s. No matter what, if you are not careful, you are going to take things to the next level. You will go to soft porn and then hard porn. You have to cut it off and pluck your eye out.”

As Mike Cleveland said, of Setting Captives Free, Radical Amputation.”

Paul said that we are to put to “death the deeds of the flesh.”

The writer of Hebrews said that “We have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin.”

The writer is telling us that we have not reached the point where we deliberately shed our own blood to keep ourselves from sinning.

This is equivalent to what the Lord Jesus said when we need to “cut off the right hand and cast it away from us…or pluck out our right eye if it causes us to sin and cast it away from us.”

This radical amputation requires that we look at what has been tripping us up and cut it off. It goes beyond saying “NO!!!!”

It means that we are willing to do whatever it takes to keep ourselves from sinning.

From removing the TV from our homes, to cutting off satellite and cable service. From throwing away our laptops, iPads, and phones, to spending more time in the Word of God. From discontinuing buying and reading magazines and newspapers, to going to different grocery stores where the magazine rack is not the place to hang out.

From having an accountability partner to sitting in a group of men to hold you accountable.

What are you willing to do to break free, pastor?

Battling Sexual Thoughts: The Real Spiritual Warfare, Part 1

Sex, under the scope, rule, and law of God is not bad, in and of itself. As you know, God created male and female to be joined together in holy matrimony according to Genesis 2:24. That they shall be one flesh.

These are dark days and we need to understand that when it comes to the depravity of men’s minds, there is no depth or limits where man will go to fulfill a mental fantasy just to get the right emotion to release sexual tension. What happens is that we cross over into the area of sin and we begin to entertain the dark side of sex.

A few Scriptures come to mind.

But before we tap into the Word, we must remember that God knows the make up of man.

God reveals in the Bible the reason why the hearts of men are dark and uncovers why they do what they do.

When Adam sinned (Genesis chapter 3), the devil knew and took full advantage of his sin and fill Adam’s heart and mind with all sorts of wicked imaginations. The devil knew that these wicked imaginations would run its course throughout all of creation (see Genesis 6:1-8).

Notice verse 5 of Genesis chapter 6.

“Then the Lord saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every intent of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.”

Wickedness is the nature or characteristic of the devil that was spiritually transferred into the very heart and mind of man (see Romans 5:12). The core of man’s being became corrupt and the flesh craves to obey and express the “perverted, depraved urges and impulses” of the heart and mind.

The dark heart and a dark mind, when acted upon, brings man to produce and perform dark things of perverseness and wickedness.

Recently, we’ve read in the news of a husband chaining his wife for 10 years or more. In the human trafficking business, the sex trade equals sex slaves. According to the US State Department, 600,000 women are trafficked throughout the world for various reasons, but predominantly for the sex trade.

Profoundly sorrowful for my participation in porn, there was one porn episode that comes to mind that featured two white men and an Asian woman. It appears that she might have been a person caught in the sex trade, but I wasn’t sure due to lack of evidence. Enough said. As I looked back, all I can remember is the pain she experienced of being gang raped. The porn industry tries to put a smile to its evil brand of lust, but there is no smile on the countless women that experience sexual slavery.

In some of my episodes on BlogTalkRadio, I shared about the drug and alcohol connections on the set of most porn productions. They were there to help the women cope with the dramatic and painful sex acts that men demanded. In between shoots that would last, I’m told, up to 16 hours, the women would drug up and booze up to cope with the abuse and prepare for the next scene.

For quite some time, I, like many other males thought that they were enjoying the sex. And I found out, after hearing testimony after testimony, that they were not enjoying it for one moment. It was all part of their brand of sex to sell it. If there is the appearance of pleasure, that’s what will count in the mind of a perverted man because it’s all about fantasizing and getting off.

In the minds of men and women, a battle is raging. For single women, it is the battle to feel loved and connected. For men, it is the battle to “act out” sexually, but deep within both sexes is the longing to worship and be intimate with God. When it comes to the sex trade, there are many persons looking to live a better life but for a price.

Sex is a very powerful act.

God created male and female to have sex in holy matrimony. Sex serves as the place where loving, caring, and bonding takes place, as well as procreation.

But being husband and wife also serves as spiritual connection that is deeper than physical intimacy. Besides, we know what the Lord said…

“What God had joined together, let no man put asunder.”

Whether we want to accept it or not, God is intimately involved in our marriage vows and we are spiritually connect, since He was the one that brought us (my current and only partner) together.

Look at what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:16-17….

“Do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For ‘the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.”

By design, man is to be one spirit with the Lord. When it comes to watching multiple porn movies, a man wants to be joined with every woman that he sees sexually (see Proverbs 27:20). But underneath, it is only a revelation of the heart crying out for spiritual intimacy with God. The only thing that man has done is look to himself for sensual pleasure as a poor substitute for spiritual intimacy with God.

There are many people that will write this off because of the perverseness of the hearts but for those that are willing to recover from the snare of the enemy and reverse the curse of the heart and mind of man, sex in marriage can be brought back to levels of godly passion that glorifies God.

Notice what the Lord Jesus said in Matthew 15:18-19.

“But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts- murder, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.”

Notice the Amplified Bibles rendition of verse 18…

“For out of the heart come evil thoughts (reasonings and disputings and designs)  SUCH AS murder, adultery, sexual vice, theft, false witnessing, slander, and irreverent speech.”

Jesus has taught us something very powerful. OUT OF THE HEART. 

Proverbs 4:23 says,

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it (the heart) spring the issues of life.”

The New Living Bible says….

“Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything that you do.”

So in the heart or core of man, six things defile a man.

1.) Murders, 2.) adulteries, 3.) fornications, 4.) thefts, 5.) false witness, 6.) blasphemies.

According to Revelation 13:18, the number of the beast is the number of a man…666.

Man was created on the…..6th day (Genesis 1:24-31).

So that means there is only one way to change what comes out of the core of man.

Jesus said in John 3:3…

“You must be born again…”

This means that you must be changed from within again.

Man was created in the image of God. God “spiritually birthed” Adam, and gave him mental and physical faculties. But when Adam sinned, he became a child, “spiritually birthed” of the devil. So in order for man to come back to God, he must be born or “spiritually birthed” again by the Holy Spirit of God.

You can never wage war successfully against the depraved thoughts of the mind until you are born or “spiritually birthed” again. Anyone can change behaviors but it’s not just about changing behaviors. It’s about changing who your spiritual Father is. It’s about changing the core of your nature so that depraved thoughts can be arrested thus living out the nature of God through the Holy Spirit in obedience to the Word of God.

This is only accomplished by repentance and the Holy Spirit coming on the inside of your spirit and making you a new creature or creation in Christ (see 2 Corinthians 5:17 and Titus 3:5).

When God created Adam, He blew within Adam the breath of life and Adam became a living being. All of his spiritual and mental faculties were placed in a physical container for earthly expression.

As long as Adam obeyed the command not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, he remained alive unto God and he remains made in the image or spiritual resemblance of God. The moment that he disobeyed God, darkness would control his heart, mind, and when prompted, his or her flesh.

Again, man wants sexual connection, women want sexual connection that leads to emotional connections.

With battling the thoughts of sex, these are the “animal impulses” that rage within to attempt to satisfy spiritual intimacy needs. That’s what worship and praise of God is about. Paul said in 1 Thessalonians 5:23 that “I pray God your whole spirit, and soul, and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of the Lord.” 

Notice the order of the tri-part man. Spirit, Soul, Body.

When battling the thoughts, everything operates out of the core of your being. Your spirit man is the center of all spiritual things. If you are not born again, you are under the control of the prince of the power of the air, the spirit of disobedience. All it takes is a small suggestion based on your preference of the kinds of sins your mind gets a false sense of pleasure from.

The devils have watched you enough to know that certain things sets you off on a course to pursue satisfaction. All of these things are designed to keep you in bondage to the sin or sins. The mind has a way of filing the places where you’ve been and the experiences you had so that you can go back to the place to enjoy more.

For instance, if there is a certain place where a good piece of chicken is sold, you will remember that place so you can return for some more. It’s the same with sex. You know exactly where to go and who would be there. It’s the same in the Internet. You know exactly the kind of sex you want to watch so you could fantasize. Then there are those that get tired of the fantasy and desire to act out sexually with someone based on the experiential preferences of the past.

The real warfare is understanding these traps and accepting the freedom already purchased by the blood of Jesus to never be in bondage again.

Born again believers need not be in bondage, but sadly, there are those, like myself, that was in this cyclical kind of self imposed bondage, that never took advantage of the power of God embedded in the new birth. I used to take for granted that I was saved and tried to be satisfied from both places.

Looking for satisfaction from the house of God and the house of darkness. A man cannot live in two houses at the same time (see John 8:34-36).

As James said, in chapter 1 and verse 8, A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.”

The Amplified Bible says,

“[For being as he is] a man of two minds (hesitating, dubious, irresolute), [he is] unstable and unreliable and uncertain about everything [he thinks, feels, decides].

He cannot be resolute about being saved or being a sinner. Therefore, he must make a decision that if he is going to live like a child of God to not entertain thoughts of sexual sin and perverseness and make a stand to think about God, His Word, and walk in the power of His salvation, in thought and actions or deeds.

Relapse Into Porn and Self Gratification: How To Prevent It, Part 1

I want to take the time to share my own story of victory and relapse because many of you will be able to identify with it. If you have read or heard my story on BlogTalkRadio about porn and self gratification, commonly called masturbation, you are aware that relapse could happen at any time.

Stephen Arterburn’s book, “Every Man’s Battle” accurately portrays on fact.

This is a battle.

This is a deadly fight for your purity unlike any other. If you are to stand in the victor’s circle, it must be done one moment at a time. Do not wait till the end of the day to tally the score because your flesh and mind is too weak to withstand. The armor of God is spiritual and must be donned until it’s time to go home to be with the Lord.

Briefly, in 2008, the Lord gave my wife and I a tremendous financial victory. The only problem was, I was still involved in porn and masturbation. When we left Brooklyn, the Lord blessed us with a home. My wife and daughter went to New York to spend time with my mother in law and I saw it as another “opportunity” to do my thing.

Dr. Patrick Carnes, a noted authority on sexual addiction points to the sexual addiction cycle that is common among all sex addicts.

1. Thoughts or Fantasies.

2. Rituals.

3. Acting Out.

4. Remorse.

This cycle depicts precisely what I was experiencing every single day and on more than one occasion, a few times a day.

Prior to understanding this cycle, I realized afterwards that I was going through a series of emotions that drove me to run to sexual addiction. These emotions were, what I, by the Holy Spirit termed as “trigger mechanisms” or things that would happen to me that would affect my emotions to start the ball rolling to fulfill a need.

If I was lonely, I would uses images in my mind that I would file. It didn’t matter what the image was or where it came from, I would file them for use later.

If I was angry, mad or upset, I would act out sexually to change my mood. Dr. Archibald Hart, author of “The Sexual Man” said that if you want to change the mood you are in, sex is the game changer.

When I felt rejected, I would run to touch myself to make myself feel good.

When I needed to be loved on my terms without the relational pain associated with being loved, self sex would be the first choice. With having sex with the opposite sex, you want that orgasm to be just right without any relational interference. Sex is meant to be shared to please your spouse as your spouse pleases you.

Now do not get me wrong.

Self sex is sin because sin is always at the root of all sexual immorality. There is no escaping this. Just because you use porn and self gratification as “medicinal properties” it doesn’t mean that you just need sex therapy or sexual counseling like a 12 step program to “fix it.”

On the other hand, if things went well or I felt good, I would “reward” myself for a job well done by acting out sexually with myself.

You must understand that your emotions will fool you every time and coax you to get satisfaction from other places and persons without God. That’s anarchy. Making the rules as you go that excludes the rule of God and His Word.

Back to the story. I went into another room where I set up Directv and paid for my porn. As I was masturbating, the Lord spoke to me and said….“Is this what you do to Me after all the good I’ve done for you?”

This was November, 2008. My time of porn ended on that day but the masturbation continued until December, 2009. I purposely etched that date in my soul because I would never return to self gratification again.

Or so I thought.

I took a 60 day course on the recommendation of my accountability friend, Pastor Roger Jamison. The site is called Setting Captives Free and the course was called “The Way To Purity” by Mike Cleveland.

This course challenged me unlike any other. You had an accountability person assigned and at the end of each lesson, two questions were asked among many.

1. Did you watch porn?

2. Did you masturbate?

To avoid hearing about it, I refrained from both. After each lesson, I proudly answered “No.” And I didn’t relapse during that time.

Lying is against the Word of God so I didn’t want to be judged for porn, masturbation, and lying.

As a side note, you do not need porn to masturbate.

All you need is the files of the un-renewed combative soul. Thousands of images are captured until you dethrone each image. You can create images too. Perverted images for pretend sex. But to be free, each image must be captured, dethroned, and burned by the Word of God, and drowned, and dissolved in the blood of Jesus.

Afterwards, I felt I had this thing licked but I knew in the back of my mind that relapse was a possibility. I tried to ignore it but the eventuality kept presenting itself to me. Little did I know that my flesh and mind was planning a sexual immorality comeback.

You see, there are some things that it’s the devil. More often than not, it’s you.

So, in my strength, I attempted to be very bold about it by establishing a date and making myself stick to the fact that this date would be the date that I would never do it again.

A couple of years passed. The porn was never a relapse problem because I did an extensive study as to why I did what I did.

I took courses from Light University on Healthy Sexuality. I receive numerous insight from many of the professors. I also took courses on Sexual Addiction. One noted teacher, Dr. Mark Laaser, who studied under Dr. Patrick Carnes really asked a point question.

It was the toughest question that I had ever faced.

“Could you do without sex and masturbation?”

If you can’t you are probably addicted. I also learned that just because you watch porn or masturbate, you may or may not be addicted because addiction is the inability to stop or manage sex.

With all this knowledge, I was “puffed up” (see 1 Corinthians 8:1).

If you acknowledge that you are puffed up, at least you could probably do something to deflate it because all puffiness comes from pride and arrogance. Paul had to be deflated and the way that God did it was with the trials and persecution called “The Thorn In The Flesh.” 

When you get an abundance of revelation, you actually feel special, unique, and privileged. Paul evidently may not have listened. He wasn’t supposed to be martyred. He was told by the Holy Spirit not to go to Jerusalem (see Acts 21:4).

Then the relapse. The mind and flesh of man can be very creative to satisfy itself. I will not discuss the various ways to accomplish sexual tension release because I do not want to fill your minds with ways to accomplish self gratification.

I will declare that when your reasoning remains defiant and filled with self accumulated knowledge, it is very easy to reason how you call relapse and not really call it relapse.

Your mind could easily say, “You didn’t really masturbate. You just let off some tension. Don’t call it relapse because it won’t look good in front of the thousands of people you told that you would never do it again.”

There came a point where the masquerade and disguise had to come off.

Hypocrisy is a foolish game that only God is forced to expose. Every form of hypocrisy is a form of pride that satan lost his place over. He thought he could be like God and came up way too short. Just because you think you can kick a field goal, shoot a basketball, or swing a baseball bat, it doesn’t mean that you are in the big leagues.

In pride, I once said, “You are looking at the first black CNO (Chief of Naval Operations).” Mind you, I never was an officer. I was enlisted, E4. I was recommended for OCS by my last CO, but I was not to exceed 4 years enlisted.

Besides the competition for command and flag ranks makes even the smartest officers retire.

Self gratification is the ability to sexually satisfy yourself. That’s the only rule to masturbation.

Do it yourself!

There is no sense in deflecting responsibility and try to avoid what took place. True deliverance is about being honest with yourself before the Lord. Saving face is a mute point and quoting Scripture to show that I have recovered is sometimes a self effort to keep your armor shining when there is obvious soil on it.

It was a combination of not getting into the presence of the Lord, reading the Word at the time of temptation, and telling my accountability partner about my real struggles.

Did I ever relapsed into porn?

No! Never!

What lead to my relapse into self gratification?

Pride and arrogance, disappointments, and frustrations. Not necessarily sexual frustrations because my wife was never the issue or problem. When it came to pride and arrogance, it was about the fact that I thought that I had all this “knowledge.” I thought I would be able to tell brothers how to kick this thing to the curb and ended up on the curb, licking up my own vomit like a dog myself.

I made this thing about me and not about God’s loving grace.

Through this relapse, I learned that it is all the grace of God and all obedience without fluff, fanfare, puffiness, head knowledge, aptitude, arrogance, and stupidity. On the other hand, humility became a more pronounced attitude because you begin to see others struggle and desire to extend grace to them instead of being hard nosed and repulsive.

You cannot show the world how to be delivered from the position of looking down on the many brothers that never come out of dark places. We can never deal with sexual immorality from a judgmental position. Meaning that when you think you have it all together, you now feel competent and qualified to help others while you, yourself still need help.

When you read about other men and women trapped in their false intimacy world and you look at them with disdain, you are probably just as sick as them. Sin sick. That’s why you have to have compassion as Jesus. Without compassion, you will only rise in pride to condemn others just to make yourself feel superior.

Like that Pharisee that broadcast about his self righteous living. The publican wouldn’t ever look to heaven but cried out for mercy and declared that he was a sinner. Now what we have done is that sometimes, we parade our sinner status around and that is another form of pride and arrogance.

Such was the case with me. I took pride in that and that’s not what we are to do.

God is not pleased when we proudly display our dirt.

With living wells of love, we must look at them. With confrontational love and compassion, we extend grace. We look to help and not to hurt. We pity, like God, every groan.

I told my wife about my relapse and she looked at me like I always thought she would. With tender love and forgiveness. She knew my struggles a long time ago and she continues to pray for me every day. Of course, we are still healing because any wife that has experienced the assault of sexual immorality in the home prays that it would never darken our doorstep again.

It’s a clear threat to the stability of the marital relationship in the house.

Each day though she does her best to keep me centered on our relationship. The hurt that I caused her is slowly dissipating but she knows that I have to keep fighting. For the sake of our love for each other, it is my job to come clean and stay clean.

How long ago was the relapse?

July, August, and the first week of September of 2011. More recently, February 2012. No matter how you do it, when you make love with yourself, it is called masturbation. No trivial reasoning. Sin is sin.

What must I do from here on out?

Recognize that this is all about God, His compassion, His love, His grace, obedience to His Word without pride or arrogance. Never let the moment of being on top of the world deceive you into thinking that you finally got this thing licked.

Paul said, “Be careful lest you be tempted…”

Realize that grace works in such a way that a time of testing comes and you must not pass the test for passing the test’s sake. You look to the Lord and He supplies everything that you need to stand true to Him. You learn to hide in Him, in the secret of His tabernacle, in the pavilion of His presence. You learn to take His yoke and learn of Him, for His yoke is easy, and His burden in light.

You never pen things on FB or anywhere, for that matter, to show how you did it.

The destruction comes where pride is and the fall is certain to happen where haughtiness is.

I hope that this has been helpful to you. Please pass this to those that are in this thing called MOAB, the Mother Of All Battles.

Is it possible to win? Is it possible to stay free? Is it possible to defeat porn and masturbation?

The answer is, “With God, all things are possible.”