1 Timothy 4:12 (NKJV Strong’s)
“Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity.”
Ravi Zacharias was probably one of the most prolific apologists of our times. He would say some tremendous things that really made you pay attention to see if you know your Bible as you should.
We were sadden to hear that Ravi Zacharias had passed away on May 19, 2020.
He was loved and adored for his ability, by the Holy Spirit, to exegete the Word and expound on passages of Scripture that many believers had problems understanding.
In just few sentences with insight from the Holy Spirit, passages of Scripture would unfold and come alive like turning on a light switch. His wisdom over the years have help many believers understand their faith in the Lord, and how to present a vigorous defense of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
He is missed.
When I heard of the allegations of sexual immorality of Ravi, I discounted it when he accused his accusers of extortion. It’s instinct because of the accuser of the brethren. So like many believers we’ve taken what Ravi said as face value because of his impeccable integrity. When a man or woman has unquestioned integrity, Paul calls it “blameless.”
In fact, when the world can’t find or assign blame on you, it gives them a good indication that their life must measure up. Billy Graham had that kind of integrity to abstain from the minefield of sexual immorality.
There’s no question that the world tried to trip Billy Graham up but because he put safeguards in place, blame on sexual matters never found a place. Obviously, there’s other areas where Billy Graham was vulnerable and suffered for it, like his admission on the Nixon tapes about Jews, and other things.
But in this area of sexual immorality, Billy Graham is blameless.
After Ravi shared his defense, I thought that it settled the account. Then after he had passed away of cancer, it shocked the Christian world.
Later we’ve learned of a NDA, which is a Non Disclosure Agreement.
Much like what Harvey Weinstein made all his women he had sex with would do to protect Weinstein’s reputation and protect him from lawsuits.
It caught up with Harvey and he’s currently serving a prison sentence.
When ministers of the gospel engage in adultery or other sexually inappropriate behavior, even when it’s online solicitation, private chat rooms, and rendezvous at far or near hotels, because of their international reputation, such accusations is immediately challenged until the parties no longer agree to remain silent.
Since Ravi Zacharias died of cancer, the details are now coming out.
Luke 12:2-3 (NKJV Strong’s)
“For there is nothing covered that will not be revealed, nor hidden that will not be known. Therefore whatever you have spoken in the dark will be heard in the light, and what you have spoken in the ear in inner rooms will be proclaimed on the housetops.”
A man of God must remain above reproach because when the accusations start to come, your integrity is all that’s left. Once you lose integrity you lack credibility. Once you lose credibility, you’re disqualified.
1 Corinthians 9:25-27 (NKJV Strong’s)
“And everyone who competes for the prize is temperate in all things. Now they do it to obtain a perishable crown, but we for an imperishable crown. Therefore I run thus: not with uncertainty.
Thus I fight: not as one who beats the air. But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, when I have preached to others, I myself should become disqualified.”
Once you’re disqualified, there’s very little that one could do.
Many ministers, after they’ve sinned against the Lord and are exposed, they’ve lost their credibility and fight vigorously to regain it.
When I was in the world of pornography, the Lord warned me over and over again, until I exposed myself. I rationalized that if the Lord exposed me like He did David, I would be disqualified.
So I penned the book Secret Sexual Sins. It wasn’t as good as it could have been but I penned another book Secret Sexual Sins II, MOAB. It’s in this book that I reveal more about the sexual immorality infiltration of local churches.
One person put it powerfully, “If you expose yourself, you keep your job. If God exposes you, you lose your job.”
So in blogs, and podcasts, I began to put out my involvement in the vile sin of pornography and masturbation. Usually, and not with everyone, sexual addiction will take you to places that you thought you wouldn’t go. Keep you longer than you thought, and make you pay more than you’re willing to pay.
Millions of men and women are caught in porn and self gratification.
This isn’t to say that Ravi was a sexual addict. It’s highly unlikely. Paul admonished Timothy to remain pure, to be an example of purity before the people
You can’t tell people to be pure if you’re not pure.
As we reach the end of our journey, we want to be genuine and legit. We want to maintain our integrity and credibility. We want people to say at the conclusion of our lives that this man or woman of God maintained his or her integrity and is blameless.
In 1 Thessalonians 5:23 (NKJV Strong’s) Paul said….“Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify you completely; and may your whole spirit, soul, and body be preserved blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Ravi died of cancer.
Without much thought, I put two and two together.
Paul said “If we would judge ourselves we would not be judged.”
Many will say that Ravi wasn’t judged, but are you 100% sure?
It’s instinctive to push a narrative to save the personal reputation of people, especially when your ministry or business is involved in millions of dollars. And when you stand in front of people, they have a certain expectation of you.
When you lose your hard earned reputation, when people walk, money walks with them.
They look at your integrity, they believe you, and they put stock in your credibility. Once this is attacked, nothing but an ironclad defense will salvage it. The NDA provided that deniability that preserved some measure of his reputation.
As long as the parties remain silent, and pay a little money, the alleged incident remains hidden. And even if you violate that NDA, the other party may hold themselves to the agreement for fear of being that aggressor in the agreement.
The Lord loves us so much that exposure is the last straw. When we fail to listen, or refuse to listen to the warnings of the Lord, the Lord will uncover us. Not just to bring shame on us, but to ensure that we come back to Him in repentance.
Because the most important thing is not the salvaging of our reputation, but the saving of our souls.
You can conclude what you want from this, but Ravi left way too soon. But now, with these new reports, we can see why he may have left us too soon.
Not only. was he was involved with another woman online, he denied the allegations. According to the report, he became a predator.
In the book, “Betrayal Of Trust,” there’s two kinds of pastors that engage in sexual immorality.
“Wanderers and predators.”
A wanderer is one that engages a single time of adultery. A predator insists on repeating his or her offense. Their obsessed with the success of engaging in sin.
Ecclesiastes 8:11-13 (NKJV Strong’s)
“Because the sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily, therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil. Though a sinner does evil a hundred times, and his days are prolonged, yet I surely know that it will be well with those who fear God, who fear before Him. But it will not be well with the wicked; nor will he prolong his days, which are as a shadow, because he does not fear before God.”
When you lose being afraid of God, it’s very easy to sin, but sin always come with a built in consequence. No one gets away with it. We’re given space to repent because the Lord is full of long-suffering, mercy, and truth. But when we insist, it’s a matter of time before the Lord see that He’s about to lose you.
Ravi may have repented and regained his rightful place in the Lord, but to ensure that the Lord doesn’t lose what He sent His Son to die for, sometimes, according to Isaiah 57:1-2, He takes the righteous.
He crossed the line and the woman sadly didn’t stop it soon enough.
The woman in question can share the blame because you don’t have to answer every email or go to the chat room. Silence is another way to declining further contact that opens up doors to sexual encounters.
When you’re engaging online, you have to have clear established boundaries. Failure to maintain those boundaries, leads only to consequences that damages the validity of the gospel, and brings shame to His name.
You could read of the account from Christian Post here
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Over the last few years, in watching Perry Stone, it’s clear that with certain messages that he was preaching, he was onto something. In particular with the end times.
However, in listening to some of his messages, my interest were perked when he would make some statements that were “extra Biblical.”
When you hear extra Biblical teaching, it’s also called sensationalism.
The whole purpose of sensationalizing the Scriptures is to get people interested to buy your material. You’re selling CD’s, Books, and other paraphernalia, and the Bible tells us the laborer is worthy of his hire.”
Paul said that “They that preach the gospel should live of the gospel.”
It was a command of the Lord but even Paul refused to take proceeds from the people so as not to discredit the gospel. We’re entitled but we can deny the entitlement for the sake of the gospel.
We don’t want to be PEDDLERS, or hucksters, or hirelings.
2 Corinthians 2:17 (NKJV Strong’s) “For we are not, as so many, peddling the word of God; but as of sincerity, but as from God, we speak in the sight of God in Christ.”
Also………….2 Corinthians 4:2 (NKJV Strong’s) “But we have renounced the hidden things of shame, not walking in craftiness nor handling the word of God deceitfully, but by manifestation of the truth commending ourselves to every man’s conscience in the sight of God.”
A ministry called by the Lord will be paid for where you don’t have to use any manipulative means to pay for it. But when you constantly hear about these sales and other things, it brings into question what you’re really doing this for.
Why am I mentioning these things?
When you’re working to make ministry work, it’s your labor. You will work tirelessly to produce results to appear successful. It’s a measurement. And you’re placing a demand that’s unreasonable and unrealistic.
It can’t be humanly sustained.
Dr. Ernest Cameron, my pastor, once told us, “What God calls for, He provides for.” This is to say that God does the work through us so we can rest.
So when I see questionable things, sometimes, not all of the time, it leads to stories like………
“Acting inappropriately” with female staffers.
These are precursor signs that a sexual immoral act is about to take place.
When you’re at your most vulnerable, these things will occur at the time of sexual temptation. HALT!!!!!
Of course there’s other emotional episodes that we go through.
Dr. Archibald Hart said that sex is used as a pick me up when you’re down, or to reward you.
Some of you may remember Fred Price Jr. had done the same thing but it wasn’t called “acting inappropriately.” It was called “indiscretion.”
Which means that something was done and the use of other words was deliberately designed to cover up the actual sin. Whenever there’s a requirement to step aside from ministry, while we don’t know what happened, when it deals with males and females, we don’t need to guess.
Adultery or sexual immorality of some sort took place. If not, why is there a need to step down for a season?
When I came out of porn and masturbation several years ago, I never imagined how deep Secret Sexual Sins would be. The Spirit of God told me that this is the most heavily defended demonic sin in the Body of Christ. Self gratification (masturbation) is the most difficult part to break because of the hidden life AND QUICK GRATIFICATION without relationship.
Also, no STD’s or pregnancies.
A song came out several years ago with words that describe exactly what the Lord meant.
But it’s been changed a bit to underscore the chains of sexual sins.
The words are paraphrased.
Sexual sin will keep you longer than you’re willing to stay. Cost you more than what you’re willing to pay, and take you further than you’re willing to go. I will add, “Will bury you if you don’t let go.”
With Perry Stone and all ministers, we have our work cut out for us. The lusts of the flesh within us is constantly raging. In a flash, a scantily clad woman will come before our eyes. And then again, they may not be wearing provocative clothing.
The imaginations of our hearts and minds can easily conjure up a vision within our minds and according to Dr. William Struthers, he said that men are wired for sex.
Just an image is enough to start our cycle of sexual addiction.
Dr. Patrick Carnes said this about the cycle.
It starts with thoughts/fantasy, ritual, acting out, and ends with remorse.
To break the cycle, you must stop where it begins.
With images coming at a man, it just take a snap of the finger, like a flash while taking a picture, and we’re done. Unless we “cast down imaginations and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God.”
Why am I explaining this?
If you’ve been reading the material that I’ve blogged, it’s consistent in terms of men being wired and the cycle of sexual addiction. These two things are connected to the lust within the hearts of men.
Remember James 1:14-15?
That’s another Scripture that I’ve used to underscore the place where lust in a man’s heart abides. The wire and the cycle is defeated with the help of the Holy Spirit (see 1 Corinthians 10:13) to abstain and subdue his desires.
This is tied to 1 Corinthians 9:27.
Jesus told us to “Watch and pray, lest you fall into temptation. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.”
With Perry Stone, a lapse of watching and praying may have taken place.
When you’re not consistently disciplined, when you’re around the opposite or even the same sex, you’ll act inappropriately when you don’t maintain your discipline.
Pastor Roger Jamison told this to me from, I believe, H.B. London that sexual sin will ask you again and again if you want to engage. All the way up to your last breath, to see if your “No” means “No.”
Lurking within our members is the desire to break free of restraints. Restraints are in place to protect us from the consequences of our actions. But when we deliberately disregard these restraints, we commit the violations of the “FOUR “E’s.”
Elitism, Empowerment, Entitlement, Expediency.
This may not be the case with Perry Stone but it’s common among professionals and clergy.
- Elitism– the attitude or behavior of a person or group who regard themselves as belonging to an elite:
2. Empowerment– give (someone or themselves) the authority or power to do something:
3. Entitlement– the fact of having a right to something:
4. Expediency– the quality of being convenient and practical despite possibly being improper or immoral; convenience:
You could be in a place where you’re not supposed to be like being alone in certain places. This is the place predetermined to be a safe place where the chances of getting away with a premeditated or preconceived sexual encounter or inappropriate sexual behavior will take place.
Once a person feels safe, they engage in advances in hopes of gratifying themselves. But usually, it’s the hidden life (masturbation) of a person that leads to this.
Pornography, (just an accelerant) serves as the basis where you take things to the next level. When you’re dissatisfied with solo sex (masturbation) and you desire to take things to a physical experience, you will cross lines.
This is NOT to say that this is the case with Perry Stone.
Porn is connected to masturbation. That’s the reason why porn is so difficult to break because in this vile human trafficking, prostitution, strip club connected forum, you’re pretending to have a sexual encounter with that image on the screen or strip club.
The desires of a man is explained in Proverbs 27:20.
David took things to the next level. From the appearance of Scripture, David already observed Bathsheba for some time. The lust for her was building up until he had had enough and suppressed his relationship with God to sin.
To commit adultery with a woman or man, you must step out of the holy secret place. Secret Sexual Sins happen when you’re out of the secret place with God.
This time, he took it to the next level. After Bathsheba conceived, the plan of the cover up took it to murdering his trusted warrior. According to Levitcus 20:10, the adulterer and the adulteress were to be put to death. But the Lord put away the sin of David, but David wasn’t let off the hook.
David didn’t finish well as some would have you to believe. The Scriptures is clear that David finished poorly. The only crowning achievement attributed to the end of his reign was the material given to build Solomon’s Temple.
When we refuse to confess and lay bear our inappropriate action or indiscretion, usually it’s in hopes that time would lapse so we could make a return to the pulpit and make an attempt to regain what we’ve lost in sin.
We call it “restoration.”
The Scriptures allow for restoration.
Galatians 6:1-2 (NKJV Strong’s) “Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
However, just know that it doesn’t end there. Constant watching and praying must be maintained to stay free of Secret Sexual Sins.
You can read the report from the Chattanooga Times Free Press here
Just like the jet stream over North America travels from west to east, so does the winds of certain insane laws.
At this point, it’s in the California assembly as bill “ACR-99, Civil Rights: Lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender people.”
They claim that “conversion therapy” is harmful to those that practice the vile sin of homosexuality or those that surgically alter their gender.
But deep with every human being, even in dark hearted people, there’s a conscience. The ability to know right from wrong.
No one can escape what the Lord put in the conscience of man.
It’s also known as the age of accountability.
It’s when you’re fully aware of what’s right and what’s wrong.
“Conversion therapy” is just a side issue.
Even if you prohibit the preaching of the Word of God, what’s there to stop an individual from preaching?
You change the radio channel in your car and all of a sudden, you’re listening to preaching.
Or better yet, you’re at home watching TV, or you type something on Google, of all places, and the Bible shows up.
Or, you’re walking or driving somewhere and a billboard sign about the Bible or the Lord is on that sign.
But the best………the Lord happens to call your name, or you walk by a building where a service is going on, and you hear the Word of God, or the building reminds you of God.
There’s no escaping how the Lord will speak to sinners.
But here’s the worst thing.
You have people masquerading as “Christian leaders,” telling pastors to agree with something that God is against.
They claim that Jesus would approve if you do. Like former president Jimmy Carter saying that “It’s not in the Bible but Jesus would approve of gay marriage.”
But why would homosexuals want to agree with Jesus?
Wasn’t Jesus with the Father and the Holy Spirit when they met with Abraham in Genesis 18 and allowed the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah by the hands of two of God’s angels, and destroyed certain other cities in Genesis 19?
It’s debatable that the “men” that were present were The Lord God, and the two angels. Very plausible. The homosexuals in the city where Lot resided called the angels “men.”
Just thought I’d give this for good measure.
But also, 1 John 5:7 (KJV Strong’s) “For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost: and these three are one.”
God is definitely different than the angels.
You want to follow the Lord Jesus that was in on the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah?
You want the approval of Jesus that was in on the destruction of the whole world in the days of Noah?
IF I knew who was behind destroying homosexuals and wickedness in Noah and Lot’s days, do I really want to follow Him? Most people that have a beef with anyone would want to do everything in their power to destroy Him.
Or, homosexuals wouldn’t want anything to do with Jesus, the One responsible for the destruction of homosexuals in Sodom and Gomorrah.
But you can’t have it both ways.
You can’t say Jesus approves and then vilify the very One behind the judgment of vile homosexuals.
It’s a clear contradiction or paradox.
The 2016 election was more than what people think.
Even with Trump in the WH, the LGBT agenda is alive and kicking.
Like I’ve said before, LGBT isn’t just happy that they could get weddings performed for same sex participants.
The demonic agenda is clear.
To get all true believers to conform to their law of lawlessness or be dealt with harshly.
The three Hebrew boys were challenged in Daniel chapter 3, Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego.
Bow to this gold statue of Nebuchadnezzar or burn.
The boys chose to burn.
END RESULT: God delivered them.
Now we’re in the NT.
Persecution has already hit the United States in various forms.
It’s just a matter of time before lawful killing of believers will take place. It’s a matter of time before the lawful destruction of churches, rental facilities, or other designated places of worship be destroyed.
Man will devise laws but when they go against the Word of God, they’re immoral laws.
But be ready.
The persecution on the level of what we’ve read about on the continent of Africa is sure to pick up pace and occur in America.
You could read the article from Christian Post here
Holding men and pastors accountable for the abortion of a child conceived in fornication and or adultery.
We all know that it takes two to tango (have sex).
But when things heat up like fire, all of the prohibitions are deliberately bypassed.
From a nice kiss, to necking, to full body contact, & touching areas to sexually arouse a person, and then straight to full sex before marriage.
These days, social media is the meeting place to establish a rendezvous for fornication or adultery. They don’t go out on a first date to “test the waters.”
They simply say when and where, hook up, and then hook up (lips and hips).
Even ignoring STDs.
It’s very dangerous out there and generally, people don’t care.
Paul said to “Flee fornication.”
Men are aggressive, but the woman is equally aggressive, but more so passively like a Venus fly trap. But also, some women don’t want to appear “loose,” but when the man insists and smooth talks her, we’re taken back to the Garden of Eden (pleasure).
satan engaged in a smooth talking conversation with Eve, all based on her discussion about the tree of the knowledge of good and evil with Adam.
She had an interest in that tree and not the tree of life, planted by the Lord right next to each other.
satan knew that she had a conflict with her husband and wanted to have that tree. She was interested in its power called “good and evil.”
She insisted and needed a reason to partake of that specific tree, AFTER God told Adam that he could eat of all the trees in the Garden, EXCEPT that tree.
After being misled by satan, that she would be like God, knowing good and evil, the adversary lied to her and told her that she wouldn’t die and she believed it.
The lust in her mind had received another word that would counter the Word of God. She established in her mind enough reason to get to be like God, knowing good and evil, break the commandment, and not be held accountable for it.
When she was told that, in outright defiance, she walked right up to that tree with eyes of lust and lust in her mind, took of that tree, and ate.
But nothing consequential happened to her…yet.
It’s like you ran the stop sign but you didn’t get caught.
If something consequential didn’t happen to one person, it emboldens the others to do it.
Adam was right there with her, she gave him the fruit, and he ate.
That’s when their eyes were opened. They knew that they were naked, and in shame, made figs to cover themselves.
Sin brought forth death.
The same sequence in one way or another happens in the bed of fornicators and adulterers. They lie to each other that nothing will happen.
For men, condoms are a pain. You have to stop to put it on. For women, there’s so many contraceptives but each one has risks.
Even though abortion is known to be decreasing, and that’s because of other methods employed to “fix” what the world says is “the problem.”
But abortion still is, perhaps, the most common way to kill a life to pretend that it’s ending a pregnancy, deceiving ourselves into thinking that the abortion/murder affects only the body of the woman.
In fact, it’s clearly documented that when an abortionist/murderer goes into the womb to snuff out that child’s life, the child pushes itself up into the deepest part of the womb to avoid the pain.
Remarkably, doctors are able to operate on a child in the womb, and the child understands the difference.
This false narrative of “It’s MY Body!!!” is used to deceive people into thinking that the baby, conceived in sin, isn’t affected at all. Also by not calling what’s conceived, “a child,” and call it an unfounded word fetus, is a critical delusion, bought by most people.
The drum beat of “It’s my body” is another grave false narrative to get us detracted from the brutal murder of the body inside the mother’s body.
But the abortionist is pulling out a child, limb by limb. Heads are crushed by forceps, the back of their necks are cut open, their body parts are harvested, and the rest of this babies is placed in red biohazard bags, boxed up, and then sent to facilities to be cremated.
While in the Old Testament, babies were murdered outside the womb, burned at the altar of Molech as a sacrifice to this god. However, babies today, are murdered in the womb but pulled out, each part accounted for, and cremated.
That’s the only difference.
God knows each child’s name.
So what happens is that the male goes free, having enjoyed his sex, while the woman enjoyed the sex too, but is given the task to get rid of the child, and they call it “stopping the pregnancy.”
So the cowardly male gets to walk away. Some of them insist that the woman he impregnated get an abortion. He can’t afford child support but he could afford fornication.
A few years ago, 400 male pastors were found on a list soliciting sex from a site sponsoring adultery. They would anonymously enter these sites, use their credit card, establish a rendezvous, commit adultery, all without their wives not knowing what they were doing.
It’s common knowledge that porn stars are prostitutes. And it’s common knowledge that prostitutes, when they get pregnant, they arrive at the death house to end the life of a baby.
We all know that there’s more than 400 pastors that do this.
Their names were discovered in a hacking incident.
Pretty much, the Lord that they claimed to be living and preaching about, exposed them.
So far, we know of one pastor that committed suicide, leaving a wife and three children to fend for themselves because he couldn’t handle his exposure.
Even sadder is the fact that some of them were responsible for the deaths of children because of lust in their hearts.
Just as Adam failed to protect Eve from satan, males fail to protect the woman and their child conceived in sin.
This is not to be taken as advocating or giving license to commit sexual immorality. However, we all know that sexual immorality will continue because males and females refuse to sexually control themselves.
And make no mistake about it, they will be judged by God according to Hebrews 13:4 and Revelation 21:8.
If there were a law that would make the male responsible for impregnating the woman before she would get the abortion, I don’t know if it would make a dent in curbing sexual immorality, but one thing’s for sure.
Already, in the court of Almighty God, every sexually immoral man will give an account of his sin.
Both the male and the female are equally charged as a co-conspirators.
Complicit and guilty of fornication/adultery, and guilty of murder.
However, before their deaths, if they repent, the Lord promised to forgive them (see Isaiah 55:6-7).
But they have to be born again, never to sin sexually again.
You could read the article here
In my previous article, we know that sexually immoral women have lusting eyes for male pastors, but the opposite is just as true.
Sometimes it’s the combination of the two when sparks fly.
A number of things could be behind the motivation of a male pastor to commit adultery, or if he’s single, commit the sin of fornication.
But it always begins with lust in the heart.
All a male need is a firecracker to come into his mind. Or in his mind, he constantly fantasizes or sexually objecticize women, inside and outside the house of worship.
In the book, Betrayal of Trust, there’s two types of male pastors.
“Wanderers & Predators”
The wanderer strayed from his marriage and regrettably sinned against God, and violated his vows to his wife to remain faithful. He’s regretted the sin and returns to his wife, to remain faithful for the rest of the marriage.
Then there’s the predator. He searches for a vulnerable partner and usually he picks out vulnerable women that may be looking for male connections.
It’s not always the case though.
Some of them are emotionally unstable, and this, in and of itself, isn’t the only reason that they allow themselves to be duped by a male pastor, but it’s probably high on the list.
Like an animal predator that looks for the young or the weak, the male pastor does the same thing. He seeks out the immature women in the Word of God and smells the scent of hopelessness, unsure, insecure, always looking for support and direction, filled with despair, isn’t confident, is very dependent, and very unsuspecting.
He avoids the strong in faith women in the house of worship.
He uses flattering words, give small gifts, and gains the confidence of his target. As soon as trust is built, he takes things to the next level.
At first, his target will appear apprehensive and very cautious. She instinctively gives signals that this isn’t appropriate. But he’s done it before. Male pastor predators are patient, looking for that one moment of a break in her defenses.
But words are seeds, gestures are seeds.
She ponders these kinds of actions and as soon as he determines a crack in the armor, he makes his move.
His eyes makes contact, he makes subtle touches of the hand, the shoulder, the waist, the kiss on the cheek.
ALL THESE ADVANCES IS A SET UP AND IF YOU’RE NOT CAREFUL……..
Many vulnerable women made the mistake and drop their guard.
After it’s all said and done, a regrettable sin is committed.
He used you and things are different now.
But it never stops. It feels like you’re obligated because it goes from a one night stand to an ongoing immoral relationship that goes on for days, weeks, and months.
That feeling of obligation is a sexual tie, only validated by holy matrimony.
That feeling of obligation is an immoral invalid tie to that male pastor.
Genesis 2:24 (NKJV Strong’s) “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Notice what Paul said in 1 Corinthians 6:16-17 (NKJV Strong’s) “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.”
So even if the pastor is married, the woman outside the marriage that engaged in sex with that pastor, established an illegal tie with that man.
When a woman expresses that they have “feelings” for that male pastor, when it’s solidified in the bedroom, the tie to him is immorally established.
This is where the woman must exercise caution and not be found in a place where a male pastor pursues an illegal immoral sexual relationship. Nothing good comes of this because sin is present.
Sin has consequences. And sin, in the end, leads to death.
If you’re about to be taken advantaged of by a male pastor, it’s best to seek the counsel of a wise, prayerful, seasoned in the Scriptures woman. Afterwards, it’s best to find another local assembly because if you remain there, he will make another advance.
It’s never a bad idea to SOUND THE ALARM.
Declare, in love and humility, what you know is the truth, and do that according to 1 Timothy 5:19-20.
If you seek to be slanderous, this is “sowing discord among the brethren.”
If you lie about it, all liars will have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone” (see Revelation 21:8).
Sometimes, he will not take “no” for an answer.
He will do everything in his power to close the deal.
The devil operating in that immoral pastor is a smooth talker.
Don’t even tell him that you’re leaving the house of worship for another.
Just abruptly leave. There’s nothing in the Word that tells you that you have to stay when that male pastor made a pass at you. You know what’s next and there’s no sense in remaining in a place where a lot of people will get hurt.
Even when you’ve established good relations with other members of that house of worship, when a male pastor, or any male is making unwanted sexual advances to you, leaving is an option on the table that should not be suppressed.
Hebrews 13:4 and Revelation 21:8 is clear.
There’s no beautiful sunset.
If you’re single and waiting for a man to pop the question of matrimony, it’s worth the wait. If you’re married and your marriage has lost its spark, adultery with a pastor is not the answer.
The Scriptures is clear about holiness and personal holiness must be maintained on both sides of the pulpit.
Beware of the wolf’s eyes behind the pulpit.
“Be sober. Be vigilant.”
Usually, it’s the other way around when a pastor has “eyes” for a female member or visitor.
But it’s just as prevalent when female members or visitors try to make contact for sexual “connection” in the house of worship.
It’s an issue that’s usually not addressed often because what’s more spoken of is the after action of adultery or fornication. In other words, the attention is fully placed on the male pastor, and not the female whom he was immorally involved with.
While women generally don’t look at immoral sexual encounters with male pastors as part of pursuing a conquest, yet, in the world of prostitution and porn, it’s a known fact that some immoral women look at it as having power over a man.
In other words, she deliberately intended to use the power of her femininity to seduce a male, overpowering him with her looks, and with sexual teasing attire, lure a male into the bedroom.
Proverbs 7:25-27 (NKJV Strong’s) “Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways,
Do not stray into her paths;
For she has cast down many wounded,
And all who were slain by her were strong men.
Her house is the way to hell,
Descending to the chambers of death.“
If they could get a male to look, she’s got him hooked.
Hence, the term “hooker.”
Proverbs 6:23-26 (NKJV Strong’s) “For the commandment is a lamp,
And the law a light;
Reproofs of instruction are the way of life,
To keep you from the evil woman,
From the flattering tongue of a seductress.
Do not lust after her beauty in your heart,
Nor let her allure you with her eyelids.
For by means of a harlot
A man is reduced to a crust of bread;
And an adulteress will prey upon his precious life.”
Before going any further, NOT EVERY female attending services are doing this. There’s just a very select few that live in the fantasy world of romance. But there is a clear difference between lust and romance. Each week, these select few immoral females take things to the next level to accomplish the goal of sexually connecting with a pastor.
Sometimes, the unsuspecting male pastor doesn’t even know that they’re being targeted for sexual conquest connections. But sadly, some do know they’re being targeted and oblige.
Sometimes it begins with an innocent conversation. A handshake. A warm smile. While he’s preaching, you noticeably pay attention. An “amen,” calling out his name. Sometimes being a bit talkative or asking questions in Bible Study as if you’re using this means of communications as another way of drawing his attention.
Some of these things seems innocent but if it goes further than this, it may be cause for alarm.
It goes without saying.
It’s always a set up to the next level.
Again, to those that are sensitive and assume that it’s an attack on all women, be advised, it’s not.
Just the select few that seek sexual conquest.
No matter how much prayer a male pastor does, and no matter how powerful they may be in the pulpit, women are attracted to powerful men.
The goal of the male pastor is to have the heart of Joseph.
The Lord entrusted you with a lot. Why give it up for one moment of immorality?
Genesis 39:6-12 (NKJV Strong’s)
“Thus he (Potiphar) left all that he had in Joseph’s hand, and he did not know what he (Joseph) had except for the bread which he ate. Now Joseph was handsome in form and appearance.
And it came to pass after these things that his master’s wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, “Lie with me.”
But he refused and said to his master’s wife, “Look, my master does not know what is with me in the house, and he has committed all that he has to my hand. There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back anything from me but you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?”
So it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her.
But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, that she caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside.”
Potiphar’s wife had lusting eyes for Joseph, to the point that she cornered Joseph, and attempted to grab him. Joseph had no choice but to jump out of his outer garment, and run for his life.
Clearly, this isn’t the last incident, as many immoral women were successful in achieving their conquest.
Male pastors give in to the seductive immoral woman without a fight.
It’s due to the lusts that’s in his heart as well. You can’t blame the bait for your mouth found on the hook. The bait is deceptive for a reason.
James 1:14-15 (NKJV Strong’s) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.”
There’s no question that Potiphar’s wife pulled out all the seductive stops to get Joseph to cast down his integrity. Having been in prison, he didn’t want to return, much more, be executed for romp time with another man’s wife.
Married pastors are on the playing field too. Many pastors that harbor lust in their hearts are prime for the picking. Especially when the married pastor is experiencing marital issues where normal sexuality isn’t happening at home.
Such issues are so strong that a seductive women could pretty much perceive that there may be an issue, and like clock work, take steps to advance like pieces on a chess board.
So how could this be avoided when they come in, deliberately dressed provocatively to attract your attention?
Sadly, it may not be avoided but for the male pastor, he need to pay attention, because it won’t be long before we read about another incident.
Cutting to the chase, once again, the Christian community, online newspapers, and other outlets identify that there’s a huge problem with Christians viewing pornography.
Pastors and believers all across the United States, and the world, are heavily involved with no apparent slowing or stoppage.
The Internet and our personal devices are great tools but they’ve been used consistently to view porn anywhere and at anytime.
But is porn the problem?
It’s only part of the problem.
It’s the bait on the hook. Or more so, the incremental increase to take things to the next step.
As one person puts it, it’s an accelerant.
When you want a bigger fire, you get more wood, gas, or other fuels to increase the fire.
Lines that pastors and believers says they would never crossed are easily crossed.
Look at James 1:14-15 (NKJV Strong’s) “But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.’
Within the heart of sinning people is the lustful desires lurking in the mind and flesh. It’s the desire to gratify themselves that takes them to places where such satisfaction could be achieved.
Paul told Timothy “Flee also YOUTHFUL lusts.”
Having said this, what lures men and women to watching porn?
Enhancing or accelerate the process to perform solo sex or masturbation.
When people watch porn, it’s not like sitting in a movie theater and eating popcorn. It’s about participating in sex without the physical partner there. In other words, it’s fantasy or pretend sex.
If you read these Christian articles about believers watching porn, you will notice that nothing or very little is said about masturbation or fantasy sex.
But this is what believers do that Christian Post, Charisma, or other Christian news outlets deliberately omit.
Perhaps, the reason why is when you talk about solo sex, fantasy sex, or the “M” word (masturbation), because the Bible is silent in its prohibition, it’s determined to be permitted.
It’s also possible that people that write about porn participate in masturbation.
They’re too ashamed to reveal the combination for fear of discovery of masturbation in their own lives.
Paul told us in Ephesians 5:11-14 (NKJV Strong’s) “And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret. But all things that are exposed are made manifest by the light, for whatever makes manifest is light. Therefore He says:
“Awake, you who sleep,
Arise from the dead,
And Christ will give you light.”
Just because it’s a shame, it doesn’t prohibit one from discussing it.
Discussing just the fact that masturbation is the reason behind porn is shameful. What’s prohibited is the play by play description or instruction on how to masturbate. That’s beyond shame.
It’s sinful and incites a person to participate in Secret Sexual Sins when a person read sex stories out of Hustler or The Forum.
As I’ve said before, just because the Bible is silent on a subject, it’s not to be taken as permission to engage.
When the assumption is taken to masturbate, this subject will not be addressed.
Self discipline is one of the fruit of the Spirit (see Galatians 5:22-24).
IF you’re crucified with Christ, then you are dead to sin. In fact, as Paul said……“dead to sin but alive unto God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Dead people don’t respond.
Therefore, if you’re dead, as far as we know with certainty, dead people don’t respond to lust in their heart, mind, and flesh to masturbate.
So the lust in the flesh and mind places a demand to fulfill desire to achieve sexual satisfaction apart from marriage to the opposite sex.
There’s numerous reasons for this as I’ve written in the blog to explore the reasons why men and women masturbate, but as long as there’s a refusal to address the reason why believers watch porn, it’s no different than a dog chasing its tail.
You can read the article from Christian Post here
It’s part of the evil menu of satanic temptation.
Women that look to lure a holy man of God into the bedroom or hotel room which ultimately leads both of them down the steps into hell.
Many women feel that they are the victim all of the time. It is true that lusting pastors look to take advantage of an emotionally damaged woman but when you look at the other side of the situation, in her vulnerability, she will fall into temptation just as easily as a lust filled pastor.
While many will argue about it, it is clear that satan always look to use someone to trip up a pastor.
Especially holy men of God that is disciplined in the Word and the Lord.
And satan will use a perverted pastor to trip up a holy woman of God. This is a two way street.
What’s also lurking in the house of worship are homosexual plants. They too are on the lookout for lust filled same sex with people in leadership.
Sexual immorality is a critical sign of the last days. As Secret and Overt Sexual Sins increase in the world, where there is no discipline in the pastor and in people in the church, we will watch these things intensify. That’s why the pastor must take heed before they find themselves overwhelmed with sin.
It’s not worth going to hell over.
Being that this is the most prevalent sexual sin in the church that gets immediate attention, that is, seductive women coming into the church to take out a pastor or a pastor luring unstable emotional women, we see that we must institute absolute disciple to escape the corruption.
A male pastor, whether married or single, must enforce a strict discipline upon himself. We cannot stop women from coming to church, dressed provocatively. In most cases, we can’t prevent them from sitting in certain high visible places where there is a clear line of sight. We can’t prevent most after service contact or interaction between pastors and women.
Every male pastor is different. Some pastors allow themselves to be available to females for counseling and other forms of interaction. Some pastors interact with females after service during “meet and greets.” These seemingly innocent interactions are also potential seed planting grounds where “attraction and enticement” unsuspectingly takes its course.
If there is no caution, prevention, or discipline, it’s just a matter of time before innocent contact turns into deliberate sexual immorality.
But interaction and professional contact could be maintained.
Two elements must be discussed.
- Attraction to power.
- Attraction to beauty.
In many church services, the preacher is the main event. Sadly, his personality and emotional energy is an attraction to women. At the same time, some, not all women, preconceive in their minds what to wear to attract a pastor with her beauty.
A few years ago, I was attending a service and after the service, a young woman in a tight fitting, low cleavage, knee high dark blue dress walked up to a married elder in his church. He and I drove to his church that morning. I knew what this was. It was a set up. It doesn’t take much to see a trap walking.
How he handles his emotions after the service is the tale of the tape.
It is during these times that he is emotionally vulnerable. This is where he can forget that he just handled the Word of God. If he fails to maintain his holiness in the Lord, it is very easy to cross the line and engage in inappropriate behavior that leads to sexual sin.
The moments after the service is over is where he feels powerful. This is where the four “E’s” of ministry come into play.
It’s very easy to operate in the soul and transfer all that “power” into sexuality.
Male sexuality and male sexual drive is at its peak and if a man is not careful, it is not long before he will engage.
Let’s explain the four “E’s.”
When you have preached a message that is powerful, you feel that you are in an elite class or status. Top of the world, so to speak. This place of elitism is also called pride. It is there that women will applaud you or give you encouragement. Whether it is innocent or deliberate, you must guard your heart. This is not to put women down but it is meant to be on guard for the intent.
After receiving that “compliment” you feel empowered.
Like you are the most powerful man on earth.
Then you deceive your heart into thinking that you’re entitled to anything.
Then you operate in expediency – “(of an action) convenient and practical, although possibly improper or immoral:”
So when James 1:14-15 is in operation, it spells doom.
How do you avoid this?
It all depends upon you.
To what lengths are you willing to go to protect what God gave you?
Will you be Joseph or will you be Job? Will you be Ahab or will you be Samson? Or will you be like Jesus?
Joseph escaped but he was in the right place taking care of Pharaoh’s business but in close proximity to Pharaoh’s wife at the wrong time. Job said that he never lusted with his eyes in the 31st chapter. Ahab gave himself over to Jezebel, even though he was married to her. Samson had lust in his heart. Jesus had sexual disciple among women.
So how do you avoid deliberate feminine seduction?
If you are a single pastor and women approach you, if you have a trusted elderly woman in the house, ask her to deal with the younger women in church.
Notice Paul’s instruction to Titus in the second chapter of this epistle.
Titus 2:1-5 “But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience;
the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things — that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.”
If the younger women insist that they see the male pastor, it is a signal that must not be ignored. Not every young woman is looking to “score” like men are looking to “score,” but it is best to err on the side of good judgment and as a male pastor, insist that she see an older woman for counseling.
Most pastors have female secretaries. This is where the most interaction gets very personal and close. And this is where the most trip ups occur. Depending upon the size of the church, the need for a secretary will vary but this is also the very place where more attention must be paid in terms of sexual discipline. Not every female secretary is looking to score. But when a lust filled pastor or secretary is vulnerable, they will attempt to take advantage.
It’s not always during church service that interaction is occurring. Seduction can happen during the week with staff people.
In closing, we need to pay more attention to our marriages if you are a married pastor. The enemy is looking to devour you and your family. It’s not just the pastor that the devil wants to destroy. The devil will destroy the mistress, the wife, and the kids. The devil is not satisfied until there is complete destruction. So be on your guard at all times.
If you are single, you need to pay attention to your surroundings and maintain your sanctification.
Otherwise, you are another sad story for others to read about.
1 Peter 5:8-9a “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith…”
We understand the impact of this incident that potentially over 400 pastor’s would be revealed. However, sometimes we do not count on a pastor to commit suicide. Sadly, it may not be the last pastoral suicide for pastors with their names caught on the list.
We grieve for the family he left behind. They somehow have to pick up the pieces to understand the magnitude of his Secret Sexual Sins and his suicide. Grace and healing is available from the throne of God. It will take time and we should understand that. No family speedily recovers from this tragedy. However, recovery and healing is possible. No one can ever fathom the loss, let alone the reason behind this tragic loss.
It is not safe to say that there would be no more pastoral suicides. Pastoral suicides has become all too common. We really do not know how many pastors commit suicide after such a discovery, but it is beginning to seem like there is no other reason. We know that the work load of a pastor, depending upon demographics, attendance, and counseling of people will take its toll.
Few know how to get away and get with God to recover.
Being a pastor places a strain on marriages.
While we do not know the inner details of their marriage, it is enough to say that every marriage is different. Dynamics are different and how to gauge the health of a marriage can only be done by the couple going through the marriage and what steps ministers and wives take to navigate the difficulties associated with marriage and ministry.
Sadly, the other end of the spectrum is that most pastors believe that they are indispensable. Or that they are super heroes and can save everybody while refusing to look after themselves. We are not saying that this is the reason, but it could be a vital part of the equation.
The other thing that is of grave importance is the pastor’s secret lives and their sexual activities outside of their marriages.
Secret lives include porn and masturbation, combined with acting out sexually with persons other than your wife, to be very specific. It underscores the importance to get before God to keep your heart clean, and to have “other eyes” on your life that you feel safe to let your hair down.
No pastor and his wife can do no wrong than to have someone to talk to and be transparent with to ensure that the devil has no place in their lives. Men are more vulnerable and too, they are more frightened to expose the secrets lurking in the hearts. It makes them feel less of a man and out of control.
But we should already know that God see us (see Psalm 90:8), and our secret sins are before the countenance of God.
The devil takes no prisoners according to John 10:10 and 1 Peter 5:8-9a. Therefore we should do everything in our power to keep our heart from traveling into the dark places. For in the dark places, no pastor can fellowship with God while walking with devils.
We pray God’s comfort on the family.
The story about this sad tragedy could be read here.
James 1:14-15 from the Amplified Bible says, But every person is tempted when he is drawn away, enticed and baited by his own evil desire (lust, passions). Then the evil desire, when it has conceived, gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is fully matured, brings forth death.”
There were many times I felt that I would never break free.
Day after day, and night after night, the urges and impulses kept resurfacing as if my body and mind required it without thought. Breaking free was as hopeless as a sinner forever gives up on becoming righteous.
Hopeless is defined as “a feeling or causing despair or the complete loss or absence of hope.” In other words, a persons has self determined that there is absolutely no chance. He or she has abandoned all hope.
These tendencies usually lead to suicidal thoughts because the person wants to end it all. The pressure to quit by suicide increases and is then carried out. That’s because a person tearfully desires to be free of the feeling of hopelessness. That person is seeking relief from feeling bad about the things they do, or may have done.
Remorse and guilt, if not dealt with from the Word of God will lead a person to the cliff or the end of the rope……..around their neck.
This is the way the devil pushes people into eternity without Christ.
This is the way the mind of the individual works because they believe that they are not worthy of the love of God.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
As long as you are alive, there is a chance to break free of porn and masturbation.
Your case is not the only case out there. You and I are in a group that isn’t exclusive. Secret Sexual Sins is not exclusive.
Billions of men and women around the world struggle with porn and masturbation every moment of every day. The media pushes these bondages everyday because of the money.
Paul said, “The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil.” 1 Timothy 6:10a
It doesn’t take money to watch porn and masturbate because we have figured out a way to do it for free. The magazine stand, when men and women are walking outside going to work, lunch time. We look at television shows or movie theaters.
But when we want visual stimulation, then it is taken to another level with PPV, strip clubs, sports arenas, and other means of viewing. And do not think that church services are exempt. Certain women and men come with the deliberate intent to be seen. Or they quickly text for a romp.
Paul said in the book of Galatians 5:22, “But the fruit of the Spirit is……..self discipline.”
Discipline is about the heart attitude towards God.
Jesus said in John 14:15 “If you love Me, keep My commandments.”
All sin begins with the heart attitude towards God.
Proverbs 1:7 says, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, But fools despise wisdom and instruction.”
Before you can make a decision to stop using your hands and eyes, the heart and mind must come into alignment with God and His Word. The love of and for God must be paramount, principle, and tops above everything.
Jesus said in Matthew 22:37-38 “Jesus said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment.”
The heart of man has made up it’s mind to have no other lovers, including loving yourself in porn and masturbation. You have sold yourself out to love God above anything and everything else.
The moment you sell everything that you have to have God is the moment that you set the course to be faithful to God. Then the mind follows. Your spirit instructs your mind to not think about illicit sex and your spirit man refuses to “…make provision for the flesh to fulfill its lusts.” (See Romans 13:14).
If you do not sell out completely to love God above your urges and impulses, above your hands and sexual organs to satisfy your sexual needs apart from marriage, to completely abandon yourself to the grace of God, you will watch flesh to masturbate. You must reach a place in this life where you love God more than porn and masturbation. When you do, you will find complete love in the Lord. Everything that you’ve ever wanted was in Him and not in solo sex or in a warm body of the opposite, or same sex in illegal sex.
The chain to sin sexually was broken on the cross. The death nature of the devil has no power over you because of the life, burial, and resurrection of Jesus. All you need to do is make a decision to stop, then enter into that place of loving the Lord, your God above porn and masturbation. When you fall back in love with Jesus and fall out of love with sin, the Lord will replace the loss with abundant grace, love, and power to overcome.
It takes courage and fortitude to walk out of the open prison door to freedom.
Courage to turn your back on a very close friend is treason. Up till now, porn and masturbation was your friend.
I’ve heard of a few stories of betrayal between homosexuals. They’ve had enough of the sinful lifestyle and returned to normal lives. Some even got saved by the Lord. They’ve betrayed their lover because they found out that what they were in was a lie. The satisfaction they were seeking was no where to be found. Each day, they fooled or deceived themselves into thinking that this is what they were missing in life.
Only to find out that the misery increased.
It’s a very difficult thing to turn your back on something that you forced yourself to believe in.
But you needed to be true and you made a break from Secret and Overt Sexual Sins.
For those of you that depend upon porn and masturbation, you thought that they were your best friends. Only to conclude that after it was over, you are feeling so bad about yourself that you needed a way out.
That’s the way sin is. It never leaves a person free. It always leads to bondage. And it always look to increase the madness. It doesn’t get better but it gets worse every day.
Romans 14:17 says “…for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.”
There’s never a bad feeling after spending time in the presence of the Lord. There’s never a hangover or residual negative affects after feeding on the Word of His grace. The love for and of the Lord, when experienced, can keep the hands off of the sex organs, and the eyes from straying into the objectification of flesh.
The price Jesus paid to free us was a price no one is able to pay. But He paid the price and we can walk away free forever. This is a promise fulfilled when Jesus was raised from the dead. He lives forever as our Heavenly Intercessor. For He ever lives to make intercession for us. Jesus can step in and work within you to keep your hands and your eyes.
But you have to “present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God which is your reasonable service.”
You have to “cleanse yourself from the filthiness of the flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.”
You have to “Lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word that is able to your souls.”
When your heart and mind makes the quality decision to love the Lord with ALL YOUR HEART, SOUL, MIND AND STRENGTH, your hands and eyes will be completely devoted to serve God according to Romans chapter 6. You will yield your members to righteousness.
This include your sexual organs.
Relapse will be a thing of the past when your love for God increases on a moment by moment basis. Living the crucified life demands that you “Deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Jesus.”
You do not take up the cross just carry it around. You take up the cross to die on it.
As Paul said in Colossians 3:5, “Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: fornication, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry. Because of these things the wrath of God is coming upon the sons of disobedience, in which you yourselves once walked when you lived in them.”
Are you willing to die to be free? And I do not mean that you go out and commit suicide. I am spiritually speaking here. But wait a minute. You said, “Crucify yourself.” Now I’m confused!!!!!”
To be in Christ means that you do not pay attention to temptation and sin anymore like a dead man can’t pay attention to the living. Dead to sin means that you do not respond to the call to sin. This is what Jesus and Paul meant. We ignore the urges and impulses while we respond to the Lord in obedience to His Word.
“Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? Certainly not. How shall we that are dead to sin live any longer in it?” Romans 6:1-2.