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Mastering The Urge Like Jesus, To Never Masturbate

Setting Captives Free by Mike Cleveland has a very intense and challenging course called “Way To Purity.”

I’ve taken and completed this course and received a certificate. I can say that this course challenged me in more ways than I could ever imagine. But it gave me the fortitude and determination to forever kill, deaden, and deprive of power the animal impulses that were lurking in my members. The porn part was killed in November 2008, but the masturbation lingered until 2009. Since that time, I’ve had some relapses until I needed to stop the hypocrisy and live a life the way Jesus did in His sexual discipline.

Since the last relapse early this year, 2014, I’ve been able to finally put to rest the urge to masturbate. Because Jesus did, I can because it is by His grace. I’ve learned to set a watch over my life the way that Jesus did and I catch every little move I make. The fastest way to lose the anointing over your life is when you do not catch yourself in an instant and remind yourself that you are a dead man. Dead men do not respond to sin. I am alive unto God and that’s the only way to live. Dead to sin, alive to God. Obeying His Word and denying the flesh any chance to run amuck.

Also I am back on the street preaching beat.  You can’t talk about deliverance, full and complete if you are a hypocrite in front of sinners. You can’t preach with unction if you commit sin like sinners. As Lenard Ravenhill once said, “A praying man will never sin, and a sinning man will never pray.”

Setting Captives Free deals with porn and masturbation in the lives of men.

The last time I checked the site, there were over 3 million hits.

But I’ve also noticed the amount of men and women that actually either started the course or have completed this 60 day course.

Yes.

Sixty Days.

The amount of men and women that started or completed the course was approximately 300,000 persons. 

Unless I am wrong, that’s 10 percent that dared to break free of porn and masturbation. The course is designed with an accountability partner that will not let you off the hook should you fail to maintain your pursuit to holiness and purity according to the Scriptures.

Not everyone will appreciate an accountability partner because depending on who you get, it will not be pleasant. I believe in accountability because when we attempt to do accountability on our own, we will do a “mulligan.” We will make up the rules and should we feel the need to cheat, we will do so unhesitatingly.

I do not believe that because of an accountability partner watching your answers at the end of each course, whether you’ve watched porn or masturbated in 24 hours is the reason why many would not do the course.

I believe that it may be part of the reason but it is not to be blamed. The accountability part is there as a very serious integrity factor because in the end, you have to answer to the Lord. You can lie about it but you will be guilty of two things.

1. Sexual immorality.

2. Lying.

Both of these are listed as persons who will be cast into the lake that burns with fire and brimstone forever according to Revelation 21:8.

Pornography, for most men is just fuel to the fire. So a man could masturbate without watching porn.

If you are really honest with yourself, you will note that masturbation is the most difficult part to break because solo sex is muscle memorized. The mind and body expect you to release sexual tension anytime. To have to answer the question about whether you’ve masturbated or not is a very embarrassing question because it shows that you are either in control or not.

One of the fruit of the Spirit is “self control.”

As a born again believer, you have within you the Spirit of God. Paul also calls this the Spirit of Christ. There is a reason. You have Jesus in you by the Spirit. The same self control that Jesus exhibited when He walked the earth is in you. This means that at anytime, you can obey the Word of God every time.

This doesn’t mean that you are perfect. This means that you can stop masturbating any time you want to.

When you are driving a car, and you approach an intersection. The light turned red. What do you do? You come to a stop.

At every intersection, the same thing happens. The urge to run that red light is tempered by the fact that you will hurt or kill yourself and others. That’s the top of your worries. The secondary worry is a ticket, a fine, or a suspension, or revocation of your driver’s license.

These things reinforces this one fact that it is in your best interest to stop.

When it comes to masturbation, we do not think about stopping.

We invent ways to get it done and we deceive our minds into thinking that the Lord would forgive us.

1 John 1:5-10 serves as a reminder that when we deceive ourselves, we are not fooling God. 1 John 3 declares to us that when it comes to sin, we either have the seed of God or we are of the offspring of the devil. We cannot practice sin or lawlessness and practice righteousness at the same time.

So mastering the urge to masturbate must be a way of life until death.

Jesus was a man subject to the same passions as we, yet, He didn’t sin (see Hebrews 4:14-16). Jesus sympathizes with our weakness and He identifies with them. What we need to do is identify with His obedience and His desire to please the Father at all times. Mastering masturbation begins by learning how Jesus obeyed the Father.

John 8:29 tells us that Jesus always did those things that please the Father. Jesus went to the place of prayer and He was found customarily in the temple or synagogue reading the Word or the law. As long as He found Himself doing these things, temptation would come, but He would master these temptations by obeying the Word.

Jesus learned obedience according to Hebrews 5:8 through the things He suffered.

Jesus said in Matthew 25:41 that the “spirit indeed is willing but the flesh is weak.”

In our weak moments, the grace of God is at its strongest. But we have to find grace.”

In other words, we have to exert the effort to get before God to prevent ourselves from falling into temptation. The urge to masturbate usually occurs in the morning or late at night. But anyone could masturbate at any time. The male system is designed to be sexual at any time. However, it is during these times that a man is aroused the most. His mind is not engaged at work and is at rest so when a thought or image of sex comes, it is very easy to engage the hand in sexual self foreplay.

It is in these moments I believe that Jesus was challenged the most. But the Lord had developed a way out every time. He got up to pray. He changed His venue. Many times I thought about the fact that the Lord Jesus got up to pray but my only reason was because He wanted to be more anointed to minister.

Luke 4:18 tells us that Jesus was anointed.

Not only did Jesus wanted to fellowship with the Father, He got up to pray before He fell into sin after temptation.

The Bible says that Jesus sympathizes with us and that we do not have a High Priest who cannot be touched with the feelings of our weaknesses. In other words, Jesus never would tell us to deal with it because He dealt with temptation Himself. Jesus knows what we go through so He can help us defeat the urge to masturbate provided we change our venue, get up and pray.

It is too late to pray for strength after sinning.

I used to think that if I just go through the process of masturbation without ejaculation that I didn’t masturbate.

That was a lie and I deceived myself. Any form of sexual self contact that arouses the flesh is a violation. To prevent myself from doing this, I had to change my venue like Jesus. Additionally, I had to tell myself that it is hypocritical. The hands had to stop traveling and the mind had to stop self deception. The urges are strong but they are never stronger than the grace of God given in times of weakness and weak moments.

Any laps of the mind and hands and you will find yourself where you shouldn’t be.

So learn to change your venue. Get up and pray. Get up and read the Word. Change what you are meditating on. Refuse to look for ways to get around the sin of masturbation. Learn to discipline yourself before you wreck yourself. The Holy Spirit will give you a way out to overcome temptation. He is the same Holy Spirit that worked with Jesus during His time of temptations according to 1 Corinthians 10:13.

You can master the urge to masturbate just like Jesus did.

Persecution Over Sexual Immorality: Silver Bracelets, Steel Bars, And A Stainless Steel Toilet Bowl

The early church was confronted, and persecuted for its beliefs in Jesus. In comparison, the church today is Club Med. We are riding to the Caribbean on a cruise ship. We are dancing the night away and having a good time. The more you become salt and light in the earth for the Lord Jesus, the more you become a target to be persecuted.

Your finest hour of faith is not going to be your car, house, boat, or money from book royalties. Your finest hour will be your testimony for the sufferings of Christ. Can you fellowship with the sufferings of Christ?

We’ve been reading our Bibles wrong and we have misquoted so many “stand in faith” Scriptures.

Paul imprisoned many and consented to the deaths of Christians. Yet, Jesus personally enlisted him and Paul ended up being a martyr for the Lord.

Hear what the Lord Jesus said in Mark 10:28-31,

“Then Peter began to say to Him, “See, we have left all and followed You.” So Jesus answered and said, “ Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My sake and the gospel’s, who shall not receive a hundredfold now in this time—houses and brothers and sisters and mothers and children and lands, with persecutions—and in the age to come, eternal life. But many who are first will be last, and the last first.”

The thing that we are ready for is the abundance when we leave all for the cause of Christ but we are not really ready for the persecution that is incrementally rising in the United States. We are conveniently comfortable. But all this is about to change whether you are ready for it or not.

Sexual immorality is the most divisive issue of our day.

When you talk to someone about their sins, sexual sins, Secret Sexual Sins, their participation in sex sins is worth more than money, drugs, alcohol, cars, house, or any other thing.

When you tell someone that they have to give up sexual immorality, you are taking a great risk because they will fight to the death to keep sexual immorality.

It’s not just homosexuality, it’s all sexual sins across the board.

The life of sin is so difficult to break from because of the promise of complete fulfillment.

All sexual sins, or any sins for that matter, gives this promise but it’s just a carrot on a stick that teases.

As the Lord told us, “…and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.”

The gospel of Jesus Christ is the power of God unto salvation.

The child of God today need to be aware that persecution is part of the price for being a child of God. You are salt and light in the earth and the devil is looking to render you ineffective in your walk before the Lord. If the devil cannot render you ineffective, he will intimidate you.

Fear for your life is one of the many tools that they enemy will use to get you to back away from preaching the truth of the Word of God. That’s why we need to shift our message. Not to confront as radical extremists but to preach the Word of God in season.

You are not liked. You are hated because of Jesus.

Therefore, you are a target. We had it good for a while. Nobody bothered us because we weren’t living lives of conviction. We didn’t have to tell anyone that we were a Christian. We kept things to ourselves but with GPS capabilities attached to your phone. With every credit or debit card purchase. With swiping a card to gain access to your job. When you log on a computer. Whether it is yours or the company you work for, you are being tracked to the maximum.

Your whereabouts is crucial because if they can determine what you believe, all they have to do is see what you’ve been up to and what your habits are.

Yes, big brother is watching you almost to the nano second, everything that you do.

Your habits are telling everyone what you are really about.

Why is this important?

Persecution is about to move from passive annoyance to chasing you.

You don’t think so?

The way that things are set up, do you honestly believe that the world is not going to bother you for your allegiance to Jesus? Do you think that by not carrying a Bible except by electronic devices that no one will discern who you really are?

I am not trying to scare you to live right. I am just warning you that our nice Christianity is about to experience a jolt that will require that you stay vigilant in Jesus. To not be moved away from the hope of the gospel.

If you study the writings of Paul, you will see that they were living in perilous times.

So perilous that if you knew Paul, your life was in danger. Every where Paul went, he started trouble and that’s the kind of Christianity the church is not aware of. We are not packaging a stand to be hated. We are already hated because they hate Jesus. We are not making a “confront the persecutors” package.

But when you know persecution is about to hit this nation for its stand against same sex unions, the sin of homosexuality is becoming the one thing that the world dares the church to unapologetically stand against.

The goal of persecution is to silence the voice of righteousness. To stop the defection from darkness to light (see Acts 26:18). Hence, NO H8’s duct tape over the mouths to silence people that speak the truth about the sin of homosexuality.

Soon, we may see duct tape over the mouths of saints as full blown persecution takes place. At this point, murder is against the law but we may see the day where the murder of a child of God that speaks the truth, and is not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, is welcomed news.

It is interesting that the Book of Romans starts off talking about not being ashamed of the gospel of Christ and then in that same chapter, ends up preaching against same sex relations, the sin of homosexuality.

It really fascinates me to know that God was preparing His people for the hour we are now living in.

People of God, we are in the end times and this is not the time to be ashamed of Jesus.

This is the time to be firmly planted in the faith of Christ.

If you read the writings of Paul, you will see that many people that were once in the church left because of the persecution. But it wasn’t the only reason. Sadly, some people loved sin more than they loved the Lord.

Many were turned away to listen to other false teachers and prophets that had major connections to sexual immorality. If that is not enough, the persecution comes directly from members of the Body of Christ; people that supposed to “know God and their Bibles.”

You won’t know what a person believes until the moment of truth.

Just look at your family members.

How many of them are caught up in situations of the world of sexual immorality or substance abuse? You know that they know that you are into the Lord and His Word. The moment a conversation goes into Jesus, they are quick to shout you down because of their love for sin.

When you go to church, you didn’t expect so and so to be a practicing homosexual. You didn’t expect your pastor to come out of the closet and admit to his or her homosexuality and then persecute the righteous for not being tolerant. You didn’t expect that so many people would be for the president when he announced his support for gay marriages.

All of a sudden, the local church is seeing the demarcation. There is a deep divide on a simple sin/righteousness issue (see 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). And the divide in most local churches is not surprising.

In some cases, there’s no divide at all. The whole local church is for sexual immorality or the whole local church is for righteousness.

The hour we are living in is late and dark. We must make up our minds to stand in the face of persecution and dig deeper into Him like never before.

The hearts of men are failing everywhere and the world is proceeding on a perilous course that will separate the weak from the strong. The desperate for sin from the desperate for God. If you haven’t experienced the hatred, and the false prophets of our times to deceive many, you will.