There are many, men in particular, that give nonchalant responses to make it appear that they are not under porn’s power.
There is no humility, contriteness of heart, godly sorrow, and desire to please the Lord. They deflect intense questioning by avoiding the obvious issue of personal discipline. They run from accountability, prayer, obedience to the Word resulting in personal discipline. They believe it isn’t necessary. Their form of godliness is a ploy. They know how to give lip service as their heart is far from God. When they sit in front of their accountability partner, they play like they haven’t struggled.
They make believe that everything is fine and usually it’s a dead give away that you relapsed back into porn and masturbation.
Little do they know that those of us that have walked in this same deception can smell sin a mile a way. We don’t know everything like God but there are certain undeniable signals that indicate that you’ve been playing with yourself.
Since we’ve been delivered, we know what it looks like to keep a secret and play like we haven’t sinned. They always give the appearance that they are in control but we all know that they are raging on the inside of their flesh and mind. They can’t wait until the pressure to come clean is off so that they could resume the business of flesh. In fact, you’ve already planned out what you are going to do that evening when the lights go off and when your wife is asleep, or in another room.
Your wife still feels you are distant, cold and rarely engage in meaningful sex. In fact, she feels dirty when you have sex. It feels like you have brought what you were watching into the bedroom. Furthermore, you ask her to do certain things that you’ve watched porn stars do and she refused.
You get frustrated, and cut your wife off as you return to porn and masturbation to satisfy your perverted sexual fantasy.
Does any of this sound like you?
It’s because they are still mastered by masturbation and porn.
Listen to the words of Paul by the Spirit of God in 1 Corinthians 6:12 “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any.”
When it comes to porn an masturbation, we see that those that do not take the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ serious enough, they are under “its power.”
In Romans 6:14 Paul also said this.
“For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not under law but under grace.”
The reason why sin cannot have dominion over us is because the Lord Jesus broke the power of sin when the Father placed upon the Lord Jesus our sin. The power and guilt of sin was thoroughly destroyed and the devil who had power can no longer hold men in bondage.
Hebrews 2:14-15 says “Inasmuch then as the children have partaken of flesh and blood, He Himself likewise shared in the same, that through death He might destroy him who had the power of death, that is, the devil, and release those who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage.”
Jesus took on flesh and by living a sinless life, conquered the power and guilt of sin. It was at this point that on the cross, the Father was able to put on Jesus the sin of the whole world and did a threefold work.
- He lived sinless.
- He became an appeasing sacrifice.
- He put away the power of sin.
So what is holding you back from walking free from porn and masturbation?
The answer is found in your will to yield to the broken power of sin.
It’s no different than a cop putting handcuffs on you that can’t lock.
No different than a correction officer placing you in a jail cell and leaving the door open for you to walk out at anytime.
Hence, what Paul said is true.
You are not brought under the power of porn and masturbation.
However, because of your desire to fulfill the lust in your mind and flesh, you allow yourself to be ruled by it. You allow yourself to be governed by it. You allow it to be your god. You obey your god of lust.
At any time you can walk away from porn and masturbation. Because Jesus broke the power of sin, there is nothing that the devil could do to lock the handcuffs or close the prison door.
So being that the Lord Jesus did the hard work on the cross, paid our debt in full, and released us from this bondage, what are you willing to do to maintain your freedom?
When I was into masturbation, I looked for an accelerant. Porn became that accelerant which took me further than I wanted to go. When I was dealing with sexual sins, the demons behind the power were pulling me further into the dark world of sexual perversion.
In this dark world, I began to accept watching threesome sex where homosexuality is part of the package.
Then it pulls you into thinking about prostitution, fornication, and adultery where acting out what pleasure you are seeing becomes an insatiable desire. You cannot watch porn, masturbate, and not be tempted to take things to the next level.
When you are dealing with masturbation, it is pretend sex. You are imagining having sex with that person. There comes a point where you will be tempted, if you haven’t already, to move from pretend to reality. Men and women get frustrated in watching others perform because they want to participate in experiencing their pleasure.
Not realizing that you are being lured into the bottomless dark abyss of sexual immorality.
It is there that the bite is almost inescapable.
It’s like watching seals trying to evade the bite of the shark. Sooner or later, the shark will get it. It’s just a matter of time.
For most people, they desire to break free but each time, the pleasure becomes overwhelming. You become hooked and you refuse to let it go. For some, no matter what incentive is given to be holy and pure before God, you find yourself touching yourself sexually. For some, the coming of the Lord could happen at any moment, yet, because of the desire to fulfill a sexual fantasy, who cares about the Lord’s coming?
Revelation 21:8 is incentive enough for me.
The sexually immoral will be cast into the lake which burns with fire and brimstone.
Sadly, this will not be enough incentive for they have “…no fear of God before their eyes.”
One of the beautiful things about the Lord is that He is “not willing than any should perish but that all should come to repentance.”
In other words, your hopelessness is not finite until you pass into eternity without repentance and faith towards God.
Billions by the end of the day will have clicked a porn site to masturbate off of it. You do not have to be one of them.
The same grace that was offered to me to set me free from sin to never sin porn and masturbation again is available to you.
Romans 10:17 says “So then faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God.”
You have to trust the Lord that He will satisfy that deep longing in your heart to where you do not need porn and masturbation any more. That’s what faith is about. The willingness to trust God for the rest of your life to do without porn and masturbation.
It’s up to you to refuse to yield to its power.
Here are some recommended steps.
- Prayer and fasting. Fasting food, television, Internet, magazines, social media, evil connections of friends, etc.
- Eyes on your life. It’s called accountability. Someone that you not only feel safe with, but someone that is willing to hold your feet to the fire to help you when you are tempted.
- Read your Bible every day. Recommended Scriptures….Psalm 119:9-11, Job 31:1, Proverbs 27:20, Matthew 5:27-30, Matthew 6:22-23; Romans 13:11-14, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18; 7:1; Ephesians 6:10-18; Romans 12:1-2, Hebrews 4:12-16; Romans chapter 6 and chapter 8. 1 Corinthians 9:27, Galatians 5:22. 1 Corinthians 10:13.
- Radical Amputation. The willingness to disconnect yourself from watching movies, shows, and other forms of entertainment known to have sex in any form that arouses the senses. Including removing or disconnecting televisions, satellite, cable, and internet connections at home. The willingness to avoid watching sports, morning, afternoon or evening news and weather channels known to have sexy women and shows that are known to have commercials with sex themes to sell items. Avoid books, magazines, fitness magazines, and other material that may bait or plant a seed to entice or incite the flesh and mind.
This is how you exercise your senses to discern both good and evil according to Hebrews 5:12-14.
It’s very easy to receive the initial deliverance. The work is in the maintenance of the deliverance. How bad do you want to keep your deliverance?
If you do these three things every day and don’t look back, if you put your full faith and trust on the grace of the Lord, you will not be brought under its power for the rest of your life.
This scenario is happening all across America.
There’s certain signals that sound off loud and clear that your husband, who happens to be a pastor, is watching porn. Your church is growing but there is something that isn’t right. Or your church is not growing and you can’t seem to put your finger on it.
In either case, church growth is not the goal of pastors. We plant, we water, God gives the increase.
But your marriage is suffering tremendous strain and you can’t seem to find a reason. Or you might know the reason but you refuse to address it to keep peace in the house.
Denial can be potentially deadly to a marriage.
Silence, to your husband, is considered permission. As long as he is not confronted, he has a false sense of security.
Are you a peacekeeper or a peacemaker?
As a wife, you are living right and you are maintaining your purity before God but lately, your husband has abandoned purity and holiness. His intensity to pray and to preach the Word has suffered, and you can tell the difference. The fire for God in his life is gone.
He “fakes” his way through each service. At the beginning of the ministry, he was all out and ready to do the work of the ministry. All of a sudden, it seems like water on wood. No fire.
Missing from his preaching are messages on holiness and purity. If he fails to preach against sin, there’s an excellent chance he is in Secret Sexual Sins.
What is happening?
89% of porn comes from the United States. In particular, Internet porn is the most widely used venue where anyone at any time can watch porn. No one watches porn and not act out sexually in masturbation, prostitutes, or a mistress.
A mistress is too late.
The root of the problem is found in porn and masturbation.
The secret sex life of any man is found in these two places.
As a wife, here are some signals that indicate a Secret Sexual Sins issue.
1. You’ve had no intimacy in more than a week.
He is home regularly. His hours hasn’t changed. The time that you go to bed hasn’t changed. There aren’t any known medical conditions. It’s time to ask the tough questions.
Is he seeking God? Is he fasting and did he ask for this time to be with God? If the answer is no, then……what’s up.
One of the things about porn is the “adrenaline of secrecy.”
Even though a man readily admits to watching women and watching porn, the power of not being caught and the ability to deceive the mind into thinking that he could get away with it is part of the fuel of adrenaline. That’s why Secret Sexual Sins is a very powerful revelation. It’s the secret world of sex in the mind of a powerful mand of Gawd that believes he could get away with it.
But with the Lord, no one gets away with it.
Psalm 139:11-12 says “If I say, “Surely the darkness shall fall on me,”
Even the night shall be light about me; Indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You,
But the night shines as the day; The darkness and the light are both alike to You.”
Psalm 90:8 says, “You have set our iniquities before You, Our secret sins in the light of Your countenance.”
Just like David, what David did in secret, God will lay it bare for all to see in the noonday sun.
However, you need to get to the bottom of it.
Perhaps God will spare the humiliation because of a lack of humility.
2. You caught his eyes “wondering.”
The one place where you will know where a man’s heart is is in his eyes.
Proverbs 27:20 says, “Hell and destruction is never full, so the eyes of a man are never satisfied.”
Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
If he is watching women in the street and in the church where he is preaching, there is a serious lust problem. Sometimes a man does it deliberately because he is making a statement. He wants to have what he saw sexually. This sin of sight adultery is a problem too. Sometimes women deliberately wear certain eye catching items, showing cleavage and legs, as well as body hugging dresses like they are going to the club. Some of them are emotionally unstable women that is looking to make a move.
They attend church and strategically sit in proximity to be seen. Many people will say that this is just another attack on women. Well, my question to you is, have you looked at what they wore to church? And have you ever asked them whether or not they are attracted to a married pastor? If you haven’t asked them that question, I strongly urge you to.
Men and women come to church for the wrong reason. And it is true that not every man or woman has sex on their minds but take a good look at the door and you will see that the hunt is on.
3. Your husband stays up to watch TV well past bedtime.
This is the one thing that you need to pay attention to because it’s a dead giveaway.
He may not be watching porn but he may be watching shows that preview substitute porn.
The agenda of the late shows has been pushing porn on network television. NYPD Blue and other shows showcased soft porn at 10PM to take things to the next level. Outright porn on national TV. The FCC ordered ABC to cease and we were sort of spared the indecency. But now with Internet porn, your husband has his personal devices and he doesn’t need network TV.
Discretely, he could watch all the porn he wants.
4. For some reason, he hates you.
The object of porn is to despise and dispose the wife. Porn has been responsible for the destruction of 57 percent of marriages.
Everything that you do is ridiculed, despised, and his utter contempt for you is expressed in arguments that are completely irrational, baseless, and reconcilable. He picks on everything you do. He doesn’t say much to appreciate you. He depreciates you because porn is perfect and in his mind, you are not. Porn is perfect sex, perfect faces, perfect proportioned bodies. In that arena, no wife has a chance.
The low self esteem is intended to destroy you. That’s the way the devil works in the minds of men. To help destroy you. Especially if you are a praying, Word woman. If he constantly lashes out at you but you see him be nice to other women, it is a dead giveaway.
5. You catch him masturbating in bed when he thought you were asleep.
This is common. He loves to think that he could get a little extracurricular sexual play with himself while he thinks that you are asleep, but you caught him. But you do not say anything, you just know that he is doing something that he shouldn’t be doing. You play like you were still asleep, but you know what’s up. You must understand that this behavior is lusts of the flesh, lusts of the eyes, and the pride of life operating in him.
Jesus rose a great while before day to pray. I honestly believe that the Lord Jesus got up for a reason to pray. Men are tempted sexually late at night and early in the morning. A man is aroused the most during the set times. Because of his lack of discipline, he will engage in Secret Sexual Sins to relieve sexual tension. But why doesn’t he engage with his wife?
How do you resolve these issues with a man that seemingly has the call of God on his life but treats you like trash?
Prayer and much prayer.
God knows how to get to his hardened heart. But you have to be patient. Most men will not admit that they have a sex sin problem. The one thing that he counts on is his ability to think that he can’t get caught. But the Lord caught him before time began and it is a matter of time before he is exposed. His deception is on thin ice. The exposure is not just to humiliate him but to help him. Because he believes that he wasn’t caught, he continues on like as if nothing is going to go wrong.
This is where sometimes, he gets caught.
Just be patient. God will not be mocked.
Surprisingly, 63 percent of those who participated in this survey were female, and indicated that 20.4 percent of people masturbate at least three or more times per day. Among the other key findings: * 79.6% masturbate 0-2 times per day; 15.2% 3-5 times a day; 3.8% 6-10 times; and only 1.4% masturbate more than 10 times a day. * 48% believe that their masturbation frequency is below average; 45.4% said frequency is average; and 6% believe that their masturbation frequency is above average. * 45.4% either agreed that masturbating can cause problems in their relationships; while 29.3% neither agreed or disagreed and the rest of the participants disagreed. * 18.3% are either extremely or very ashamed of their masturbating habits; 23.8% are either slightly or somewhat ashamed and the 57.8% are not ashamed at all.
These statistics came from “Reuters.com,” and the link to this site is provided below.
It is clear that chronic masturbation is a serious problem in the Body of Christ. While these stats are not reflective of just professed believers, there is no doubt in my mind that this is a serious problem in believers today. There is no question about porn being a problem in the church among professed believers, however, the associated sexual activities are rarely discussed.
Pun not intended, porn and masturbation go “hand in hand.”
No one watches porn and doesn’t act out sexually.
As with most people, many men and women struggle with watching porn. Porn is accessible, available (free and PPV), and could be seen anonymously. Substitute porn, such as newspapers, the weather women, the early morning show of “club” dressing women,” movies and with soft porn, TV shows, and other venues where sex is readily seen can inflame lust in the hearts of people in an instant.
These trigger mechanisms are strategically designed to inflame the urges and impulses.
Listen to the Amplified Bible’s version of what Paul said in Colossians 3:5-7.
“So kill (deaden, deprive of power) the evil desire lurking in your members [those animal impulses and all that is earthly in you that is employed in sin] :sexual vice, impurity, sensual appetites, unholy desires, and all greed and covetousness, for that is idolatry (the deifying of self and other created things instead of God).
It is on account of these [very sins] that the [holy] anger of God is ever coming upon the sons of disobedience (those who are obstinately opposed to the divine will), among whom you also once walked, when you were living in and addicted to [such practices].
In looking at the statistics, these categories reveal how often a person masturbates in a 24 hour period.
If you note the last statistic, 57.8% are not ashamed at all of masturbation.
I know what that’s like.
The mind and the body made a very powerful statement to the human spirit.
It loves masturbation and we (mind and body) will do everything in its power to keep this going.
Have you ever thought about this?
The urges and impulses are so strong and dominating that the mind abandons any Word from God to be delivered. The mind also goes into a sense of hopelessness that it has subjected itself to accept the fact that this is the way that it’s going to be for the rest of your life on earth.
There are many men and women that deliberately made this declaration. At the same time, they also seek freedom. Regarding those in the 58.7 percentile, I could be wrong, but having been in this trap, it is clear that there might be a common form of abandonment denial that is evident in all man.
The pleasure is too strong to give up.
This is what helps the denial. The pleasure.
Sex was designed to be pleasurable. However, solo sex is more pleasurable because you make up the rules. You do not need another body. You can stop and start at anytime. Day or night. You do not have to wait for your wife to be sexually ready. You do not have to relate with another person. You do not have impregnate them. You do not open yourself to STDs.
Just before you think I am giving you the OK about masturbation, be very careful here.
This WAS the way I was thinking when I was in the cycle of sexual addiction level one.
When something has you in bondage, you are not free. Even if you are in the 79.6 percentile.
I built my whole day on watching women and filing their shape in my mind in complete violation of Matthew 5:27-30.
But all that was is just fuel for the engine of lust in my deceitfully, desperately wicked heart.
The cycle of satisfaction to climax is always the goal in masturbation. You see, you could do without the eye candy and go on muscle memory because masturbation is all about you. And you may disagree, but you are doing you and that is a form of homosexuality or lesbianism called solo sex. But this doesn’t deter anyone from masturbation. When the body seeks pleasure, reasoning yourself out of this past time is not an option.
Unless, you are serious about changing your ways.
The amount of masturbation is not really the pursuit. It’s the lust in a man’s heart that craves physical intimacy.
You see, it is always lust in the mind and flesh. All the other needs of man are secondary.
Affirmation……..secondary. Love……….secondary. For females……connection needs……..secondary.
Notice again what Paul said.
“…sexual vice, impurity, sensual appetites, unholy desires, and all greed and covetousness, for that is idolatry (the deifying of self and other created things instead of God).”
Masturbation is about all of the above.
It is the idolizing of the genitals.
I know that this is graphic but that’s what it’s about. Even with homosexuality, it is about the idolizing and deifying of self.
One of the signs of the last days is that men would be “lovers of themselves.”
This is the deification of man. This deification of man is the worship of himself. The highest way that this is done is in sex. Particularly solo sex.
When you workout in the gym, there are mirrors. There are posters. In the supermarkets, there are sexually explicit magazines. Even innocent pictures give that hidden suggestion of sex. The words is just the story line but when you see what you want, your mind goes on the hunt to fulfill the lusts of the flesh. Especially when you look at someone that you want sexually. You take that back to your bedroom or whatever room you do self solo sex and the rest is history.
What is the solution?
How do we deprive of power the evil desires lurking in our members?
The Bible gives us the sexual purity of Jesus.
He regularly went to the mountain to pray.
That’s lesson one.
Jesus got up and changed His venue.
He regularly applied the Word.
That’s lesson two.
In the temptation of Jesus, He regularly said, “It is written.”
Establishing personal holiness and discipline is not easy. Anyone that told you that this is easy is a liar. Jesus was tempted in all points like us, yet, He didn’t sin. That means He was tempted to masturbate and Jesus was tempted to be a homosexual. Hebrews 4 said, “All points.”
But the way that the Lord Jesus handled business with His flesh was by prayer and applying the Word of God.
Finally, notice that the Lord Jesus mentioned in Matthew 5:27-30 the eyes and hands. Pluck the right eye out and cut the right hand. There is no question in my mind that Jesus also meant masturbation because we use our eyes to seek out a sexual object and we use our hands to masturbate. Although there are ways to stimulate yourself without the use of hands, it is still a form of masturbation because you are not involved sexually with your wife.
But you have to begin doing something about disciplining your eyes and hands.
Get up from that place where fantasy, ritual, acting out takes place and find a place to pray and put your hand on the Bible. Open the Scriptures and begin to meditate on God. Everyone has a starting point. Start there and be consistent.
Victory was already achieved on the cross. Now it is time to follow Him, deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Him.
What’s really at stake here?
For now, allegedly, we have seen one man use a strong arm tactic (threat of a lawsuit) to obtain the right to wear an insignia of the Joint College of Bishops of the African American Pentecostal Bishops.
From Bishop J Delano Ellis, on the Joint College FB page, in response, he called O. C. Allen, a practicing homosexual, “Bishop Allen.”
There is no implication or guess work here.
It is clear by his own words that O. C. Allen is a “Brother Bishop.”
The danger that is presented is that many will now flock to the Joint College, knowing that because one person, in known sin, can obtain credentials, a legitimacy pursuit and acquisition will be easy to obtain.
And they won’t have to use a threatening lawsuit.
All they have to say is that…..
“You let O.C. Allen in? We know you will do the same for us.”
How do you think this will end?
John 15:1a and verse 6 says….
“I am the true Vine, and My Father is the Vinedresser. Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit He takes away;…If anyone does not abide in Me, he is cast out as a branch and is withered; and they gather them and throw them into the fire, and they are burned.”
Jesus said in Matthew 7:17-20…
“Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits you will know them.”
Regardless, if you are a non producing dead branch or a bad tree, the fate is the same.
You will burn in fire.
In both cases, the Father cuts off the branch or He cuts down the tree.
The fate is the same.
Into the fire you go to burn.
Sadly, this will not be incentive enough to change a person’s wicked ways.
Proverbs 14:12 and 16:25 says
“There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.”
After viewing the Joint College’s 2013 FB site, several comments were made about the quest for truth and the “rebuttal” sent by Bishop Ellis.
Which you can read here…..
What gets me is that many of the comments fail to underscore any Biblical foundation as to why they agreed with the Bishop’s statement. And it is alarming because when you have people following you, the first thing that you have to do is discern the rightly divided Word of God, and discern whether or not the leader submits to Christ’s truth in the Word, Christ’s rule and Christ’s authority.
Sadly one person that agreed with Bishop Ellis’s statement is a pastor of a church called “Pursuit Of Truth.”
When you have people calling you “Excellency,” there is a problem.
And yes, it is worship. Sadly, people still worship everything and everybody else but God.
Psalm 8:1 says…
“O Lord, our Lord, how excellent is Your name in all the earth.”
It underscores the fact that Jeremiah 17:5-10 is in play here when people agree with the ill-fated position of admitting homosexuals into the ranks of the Joint College. I doubt if there is going to be a course change. Anything is possible though, because the Lord loves people and He wants His people to repent and remember Him as the only One that will bring legitimacy, provided, they turn from their wicked ways.
Just reading verse 5…
“Cursed is the man who trusts in man and makes flesh his strength, whose heart departs from the Lord.”
According to Vine’s Expository Dictionary of OT Words, the word “curse” in his commentary said, “God alone truly “curses.” It is a revelation of His justice, in support of His claim to absolute obedience. Men may claim God’s “curses” by committing their grievances to God and trusting in His righteous judgment (cf. Psalm 109:26-31).”
Why is this reference so important?
Because anytime you trust in a man to bring you legitimacy, you distrust God.
When you have a group of people “agreeing” with sin, there is the problem.
It’s an “eyes wide shut” moment.
Jesus said, “…Seeing they may see and not perceive…”
Like a fish looking at the worm, not seeing the hook. Bait is designed to catch fish for dinner, and these people do not realize that they are on the menu.
The question again is simple.
What’s at stake here?
If a course change never happens, we are witnessing another institution fall to the demonic agenda of LGBT. It is their desire to destabilize and delegitimize Christ and His true church.
For me and others that follow the Word of God, this is an easy one.
The rebuke is issued.
I condemn and vehemently rebuke those that exalt man above Jesus. I condemn and vehemently rebuke all who claim to be in Christ, yet openly practice the sin of homosexuality or any Secret Sexual Sins.
Many would like for those that say something to go away and just pray for them. Believe me, since coming out of the sins of sexual immorality myself (watching porn and masturbation), it’s been my prayer from jump street. But every so often, we read about more perverseness and silliness. How church leaders continue to openly violate the Word of God and live in deep hypocrisy.
The worse kind of preacher is a hypocritical preacher. Especially when they planned it all along. In that case, it’s not hypocritical. It’s plain deception with apostasy written on the wall.
Many will say, we should just walk in love about it and let Jesus handle it.
Another tactic to silence the truth.
It’s like knowing that the bomb is coming and we let it go when we could have done something.
Romans 13:12-14 tells us that “The night is far spent, the day is at hand…”
More foolishness is coming and the Joint College is just a start of things to come.
The strings of the LGBT puppet masters are firmly in place in the leadership of the Joint College, unless they revoke the credentials issued to O.C. Allen, and reinstate their unequivocal support and pledge their full unadulterated compliance to the Joint College’s statement against allowing people captured by the sin of homosexuality to seek any office therein.
Until then, no longer legitimate and without credibility, the Joint College is another casualty of war, and this time, it’s a very big prize in the trophy case of church institutions captured by the devil.
And that, without any fight. The Joint College just took a dive.
You wonder if a “Gamaliel” would rise up and speak some sense into the minds of these people. Someone that has a little wisdom to offer a Biblical course change before it is too late.
Alas. More ministers, their ministries, churches, and whatever denominations that are left, may capsize when the storm of sinful pressure from the now spiritually acceptable church leaders of the brand name LGBT puppet masters.
My only question is that since O. C. Allen is already an ordained bishop, why don’t he make up his own insignia and start his own sin-filled denomination? Or, was it his intention all along to do it and he needed some form of legitimacy so that when he is ready, he will make his move. Just imagine a whole denomination of homosexual churches under his leadership?
Could this be part of the sexual immorality that may swallow the deceived, the very elect?
The infiltration by way of compromise is over.
Perhaps a new tactic will emerge. Only a matter of time. It may be time for a massive frontal assault and those that are not prepared to fight may not make it.
But the Bible says…
“Upon this rock I will build my church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.”
As the late John Osteen once said…
“The devil’s best is not enough!”
I might add….Because we serve a God that is more than enough!
Masturbation. It is the least discussed aspect in men’s meeting in the church and men’s conferences across the country and around the world. However, the trend is changing. More and more, we are seeing men open up to courageously discuss sexual issues like never before. We are seeing men that were trapped, with no hope in sight, find hope and freedom from Secret Sexual Sins. And we are also finding men that are in the sin of homosexuality and young boys, considering the down low lifestyle, coming to an understanding about true sexuality before they are enveloped by deep darkness.
You may or may not know that masturbation is about satisfying intimacy needs. When a man desires to be intimate, he must first find God.
The late Dr. Ed Cole once said that “Prayer is intimacy with God.”
Therefore, if you are searching for true intimacy and true fulfillment, it will only be found in God. Women serves as a companion on earth to help men but eternal fulfillment is only found in God.
Masturbation is a poor substitute for true intimacy because you are trying to achieve some semblance of intimacy on your own. This is called sin, which is defiance of God, autonomy, rebellion, and anarchy.
True fellowship and intimacy begins and ends with knowing the Father, through His Son, the Lord Jesus.
Back in December 5, 2009, we held our first Come Clean Stay Clean Conference. I was still involved in masturbation until December 3, 2009.
Of course in my recent blogs on Relapse, I did masturbate afterwards.
For 3.5 years, I stayed clean until I failed.
For further information, just read my last blogs on relapse.
The reason why I am sharing my personal story is so you can understand that I am not trying to cover myself or run from the issue. I am not trying to exalt myself either. This is not reverse humility. Neither am I making any excuses or trying to save face. I am still early in my recovery and there are some things that are coming to the surface now that I now know how to deal with.
Knowledge puffs up.
Knowledge, humbly applied in wisdom, is the goal so that only One Person is glorified.
Before I fell, I lived in the fear of falling after declaring my freedom in Christ.
It was a desperate struggle on my own power and strength. Coupled with pride and arrogance.
Now that falling is behind me, what is there left?
My testimony is now a questionable testimony. How can I teach others how to be free when I’m still struggling?
Is there any hope? Can recovery be lasting? Or will there be another moment where my urges and impulses overwhelm me to sin against the Lord and my body?
It is out of my failure that I teach you what to look for so that you wouldn’t fail.
All your hope is to be placed in Jesus, not in man.
Man will fail but the Lord and His Word will never fail.
Recognizing at the earliest stages of lusts of the flesh and the mind and how to beat back the urges and impulses is where I am in the Lord. I’m learning how to relying on the Holy Spirit and the Word of God to stay focused, and fight to subdue and have dominion over what my mind and body craves.
Secret Sexual Sins must be fully exposed under the light of the Word and completely rooted out in order for me, and every man and woman to experience lasting peace through the Lord Jesus Christ. There are or were many believers that are or were trapped like me in the maze of masturbation.
As I have stated before, it was during this Come Clean Conference that I first heard through my good friend, Pastor Roger Jamison, pastor of Sword of the Spirit Tabernacle in Brooklyn, NY, that “masturbation is the early stages of homosexuality.”
Then, in another recent men’s meeting held at New Life Christian Center in Hempstead, LI that a Reverend Loring Pasmore stated that “masturbation is homosexuality.”
Here is the reason.
It’s your hand man. It’s your penis, man. You are doing you.
Too often, we tend not to think that masturbation is homosexuality because we try not to declare what we are or were doing is just sexually acting out with an opposite sex image. While we all know that MSM (Men having Sex with Men) is the normal definition of homosexuality, when it comes to masturbation, you are acting out sexually with yourself.
Even with an opposite sex image in your mind, you are still doing you.
You’ve also heard the term “men masturbating men.” No need for details. The term speaks for itself. It is still unnatural sex. Yes, it is a sex act but it is a perverted same sex act.
The justification of a sex act that involves only you and your image, has no legs of justification to stand on.
You are a man or a male, aren’t you?
Then, as a man, you are doing you.
While the book of Genesis is the book of beginnings, it is there that true sex is established as the First Mentioned Principle in Biblical Hermeneutics. Biblical Hermeneutics is the science of interpreting the Scriptures.
In Genesis 2:18, it’s the first time that the Lord said that it wasn’t good… “And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
So for all intents and purposes, the Lord makes a woman for Adam. Don’t you just love the Lord how He knew that it was going to be a sexual problem for man and provides a sexual solution? Women is not just for sexual purposes alone but for companionship, compatibility, sharing, loving, caring, and nurturing.
But let’s discuss one of the highest reasons.
Get married to one woman first. Then…..
A woman was made to be married and loved. She was also made for a man to “get into.”
Your penis was made for the vagina.
That’s the way it is. Man is looking for sexual connection, not conquest, with someone they could live with for the rest of his life. Someone that is compatible, suitable for his needs.
Sex was designed by the Lord God to be shared between two opposite sex married persons. Sharing sexual pleasure is part of the soul tie or bonding process between husband and wife. You cannot become one flesh with the same sex. It is incompatible. Meaning that the anus was never designed for entry or male penetration by his penis. The anus was designed for exit of human excretion.
Oral sex doesn’t count either.
You cannot be “one flesh” with yourself. That’s part of the empty feeling inside after self sex. Sex wasn’t shared with a wife. It was an isolated attempt to satisfy a selfish need.
Therefore, selflessness must overcome selfishness.
For sex to be sex, the entire process is to be shared.
“Two shall become one flesh.” One plus one equal one.
With masturbation, one plus none equal none.
When it comes to masturbation, it is about a man getting himself off the way he wants to get off sexual tension. And it’s about the fantasy, the arousal, the pretending to have one or many. It is also about escaping relational situations associated with marriage.
For the most part, it is about acting out sexually in uninhibited or lascivious imagination in full swing. He is pretending to have sex with whomever he wants. Porn and still images fill the mind with sexual seduction and the only way to let off tension is to masturbate or by having a live body. Or both.
This is the degrading form of sex where the woman is cheapened to be a sex toy. An object of lust and conquest. This is where her life is not valued except for what is achieved in the bedroom. Such degradation is demonic and depraved.
When it comes to having sex by yourself, there is no question that you are bringing yourself to orgasm.
Homosexuality also include vile acts, either with a person of the same sex or by yourself by using various means and grotesque methods to achieve orgasm. Each accomplished self sex leaves an empty feeling and it also helps drive you to attempt new ways to achieve orgasm. The escalation in the ritual process increases sometimes the adrenaline, testosterone aspect of self sex.
Heightening the process to achieve orgasm is a high within itself.
Masturbation is a ritual that very few escape, but more and more men and women desire to be free. They just haven’t reached a place where the need for it is no longer desirable.
The desire to stop is there but the will to stop fails them because the mind reminds them of the supposed pleasure that would be lost, should you, once and for all, abandon self sex, and truly trust the Lord for complete fulfillment and satisfaction.
Chronic or habitual masturbation is not a mental issue. Masturbation is not necessarily a sign of sexual addiction but it is part of the sexual addiction ritual.
Sexual addiction is defined as one that cannot stop, control, or manage the need for sex.
Therefore, masturbation is an “urges and impulses” issue that lead to experiencing the reward drug dopamine.
Masturbation is coupled at times to satisfy a need for self love, affirmation, and appreciation. Men desire to be touched. Otherwise, they wouldn’t touch themselves.
There is one issue that I will bring up and that is the condemnation issue. After a person releases sexual tension through masturbation, a person feels the euphoria of the moment, but it is short lived. Then the feeling of guilt or remorse sets in. This is a clear indication that you’ve violated the “one flesh” principle in Genesis 2:21-25.
This “empty” feeling that you experience after you have masturbated is an indication to you that you were alone, and it is not good. You sulk, feel down, and that’s a feeling you get every time. This feeling is suppressed because after you get through the remorse process of self sex, you are ready to fantasize, ritualize, and act out sexually all over again.
The looking forward to the next time overwhelms any guilt or condemnation because you can’t wait to experience that feeling. In this is the hopes for true satisfaction but when it comes to false intimacy, there can never be complete satisfaction.
No matter how many times you masturbate, you will never escape completely the fact that you violated the “one flesh” principle.
To understand masturbation, there is a wealth of books that cover this subject in-depth.
While there is a lot of pro masturbation books, I would be very careful not to try to justify it because someone else engages in the practice.
Just go to my Sexual Addiction Recovery Page and click the links.
For further discussions on masturbation, please go to our groundbreaking series Secret Sexual Sins on www.BlogTalkRadio.com/prevailingword1